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1. Gentle & easy going, I don't need to worry about anger management.
2. Financial Integrity, you can hand her 10M to keep & still meet the money intact in 1 year.

folake4u:
This is a very shallow way of thinking though.

Nigerian men complain that women don't like them without money and here you are tying your self worth to money and materialistic things. No iota of high self-esteem here.

And again, Mr Eazi was never poor.

Also he is the only Nigerian man with no cheating scandal on this profile.

TheOldGods:

Since you rejected UK, I know my advice won't be for you, but I'll just say it anyways for others coming up here. Why would you want to leave a country where your dollar you earn is higher and you can sustain perfectly instead of moving to a country you spend same dollar. If you earn 3000$ a month, bro house rent and bills will render you a pauper. You're better off in Nigeria, but Nigeria is bleeped so I will recommend another African country. Rwanda is the best bet. Not only is the dollar you're earning really high there, it's way better than Nigeria. To be honest, you may earn more than me in dollars or I may earn more than you, cause I'm a motion designer. But when I travelled to UK with my meagre $$$$ salary a month, I knew I was going to be a very poor human. I came back. I live in a 4 bedroom duplex on the island paying 4.5m a year, that should have been over 15m a year if I was in uk.

Nice one bro, I like positive stories like this & your head is in the right place. In truth most people will not be rich by moving to the UK, but it gives access to travel across the EU, access to foreign passport for kids, access to opportunities that you may not have gotten from Nigeria. Remote jobs which were not available to you will now be available because you relocated. So it depends on what is important to you as a whole.

In all of these positives, It is tough to live above average life in the UK because of income brackets, extremely tough I tell you. Saving money in the UK is also extremely hard. You spend all of it on bills bills bills.

So every thing has positives & negatives.

NaijaVietnamese:
Now you’re sounding absolutely ignorant. Before you speak in public places, try and get your facts right!

Vietnam is currently industrializing and growing rapidly. Its economic prospects is among the best in Asia. They’ve lifted millions out of poverty within a very short time and their GDP per capita and GNP keeps soaring.

No country in Africa is currently doing better than Vietnam in terms of economic output and production. They’ve surpassed South Africa, not to talk of Nigeria.

Even villages in Vietnam have good roads, sidewalks and covered drains while your cities in Nigeria are still battling with open gutters & terribly bad roads.

What some Nigerians earn in Vietnam as English teachers, per month, many school principals in Nigeria don’t earn it in a year😆.

Lastly, you might see yourself as economic migrants but another person will see himself as expatriate, big difference!

I sincerely do not understand why you are comparing yourselves to the lowest of low in Nigeria in terms of salaries. Why not compare yourself to Bank Managers, MD, ED of banks.

My point is, there are better countries to relocate to, nobody should be relocating to Vietnam to earn peanuts please unless you were totally jobless in Nigeria.

NaijaVietnamese:
If you present yourself as rags, your employers will also use you as rags. However, if you have something of value to offer and you have the right mindset, nobody will abuse you.

So, you should rather work on your personality and mindset.

There is absolutely nothing to work my dear, I was earning (times * 2) of what I was being offered in Vietnam in 2018, Two years later I started earning (times * 10) of the same amount in Lagos Nigeria.

My company even hired in Vietnam & I was earning over 50% of my colleagues who are in Vietnam. There is nothing in Vietnam apart from teaching jobs as you say & no teaching Job in Vietnam can pay me $7k per month, so why will change my mindset over peanuts.

My childhood friend who lives in Vietnam earns $500 per month, that is peanut salary for someone who is hustling abroad.

tensazangetsu20:
For me the only way I can live in these poor asian countries or the middle east is if they are paying me so much money. By so much money, I mean excess of 30000 usd a month. Anything else it's not worth it. I am giving you the best years of my life with no hope of citizenship or passport and coming back to a shithole country which only God knows how worst it will be when I am ready to return so why should I work for pennies

Yes but we all know they won't pay such, never. Poor asian countries are solely for cheap labor, even when you find them on freelance websites, they charge the lowest.

tensazangetsu20:
This is true even the interview process I had then was too hard and for pennies. Lol, my boss then even increased my salary and I was like after all this suffering see Wetin these fools dey offer as salary. Very heartless beings. Even a Nigerian startup will pay you better then.

Yes, I pity anyone who travels to Vietnam for work. They will be used like rags. God forbid bad thing.

No matter what anyone says, I will never encourage anyone to go to Vietnam. Economically the place is dead, we are suppose to be economic migrants, If a place is not doing better than Nigeria economically, then why go there.

tensazangetsu20:
A developer job with Gameloft. The money they wanted to pay was the same I was earning in Nigeria and the money no even do me for Naija so automatic rejection of the offer.

Ooo anything I read Vietnam, I used to get traumatised. I had an interview with a company there in 2018, that was the meanest and worst interview ever. After 6 rounds of interviews, they made me an offer, and the money was so bad that I started crying. There were 6 difficult interview stages.

I did:

1st Interview - Codility
2nd - Engineering manager interview
3rd - Take home test
4th - Whiteboard Live Coding - pair to pair interview
5th - Design challenge & Refactoring a code within specified time
6th - Live Interview with 6 Developers throwing questions at me.

I could have asked them upfront about the pay range but because I was desperate, I just believed the offer will be good as an International company. I also did not research very well about Vietnam because that country's economic value is in shambles even though they have great social amenities, 24/7 power & good roads.

A friend of mine who travelled to Vietnam 10 years ago came back with nothing, all the money he made there was peanuts, In fact I was better off in Nigeria financially when he came back, now he is desperately trying to relocate to Australia via the Australia Skilled Select program but every thing is super tight atm. Now he is stuck in Nigeria.

KobeMan:
I'm a 31 year old graphic designer running two jobs & I'm quite comfortable financially but very busy.
I hardly have free time. Planning to drop one of those jobs so I can have time complete my frontend Dev training & manage the other job for now, I can use react/next to an extent, I set a target of 3 - 6 months to complete the training. I just want to know if its worth it. I need advice of experienced programmers here, Thanks.

You need to be aware that to be elevated in your career and exceptionally good at what you do, then it means you have to choose one.

If you want to go fully into Freelancing (Upwork, Fiverr etc) then having both skill is great but if you want to have a steady 9-5, then you have to choose one. Only crappy Nigerian companies hire one person to do both jobs, designer & Front-end developer.

Secondly, you will need to move from "Graphic Designer" tag to "Product Designer" in the future because that is where the career path is, so that you can work for companies like Toptal etc.

Choose your career path early, else you'd be caught in limbo in the future.

Twoclans:
How can you wake up in the morning and go to a health care facility in Nigeria and expect to get good seevice?

Once I step into any healthcare facility either government owned or private owned I always expect the worse.Sometimes it turns out good and they give good service,but my mind is always conditioned to expect nonsense.

Truth be told those guys are over stretched and always at the verge of anger almost always.

As long as It is not a government owned facility, I have always gotten good services from private hospitals and clinics in Lagos. So it might be your location.

Gerrard59:
The picture was taken sometime in 2006/7. And he was single then. This man had a first class in Economics from OAU and got his first job way before he met his first wife.

In all of this, you people are accusing a man who wants to fulfil a part of his religion. This is not Yul or someone from Akwa Ibom. This is a Yoruba Muslim man who has decided to marry another wife. He is no different from the average Kano indigene or Saudi Arabian. If you so much hate polygamy, please don't marry a Muslim.

How hard can this be?

I sincerely do not understand the premise of this argument myself, I was trying to follow-up the conversation from the get-to but couldn't keep up. So we have a Muslim man who wants to marry a second wife but Christians or non-christians on the forum are all upset that a muslim man wants to do just as a Muslim man would do.

There is also another narrative that she suffered with him which was not true because he got his job and built himself up on his own.

The wife being against it is not a surprise because she has to defend her territory due to what the religion allows. It is also acknowledged that very wealthy muslim individuals end up being polygamous, EG: Sanusi Lamido as being one of those enlightened muslims that are still polygamous.

Alphabyte3:
Thanks I forgot but it is expensive the developer said he needs supports to continue the project . Flutter, MAUI, React Native and compose multi platform are free .

Yes I totally understand that aspect, and I think companies like intelliJ or Google can even purchase his company and implement his solution because it is awesome. I saw that he ran both iOS and Android app all with one button. I was seriously impressed.

The best bet he can get is for a larger company to adopt his company and pay him millions of dollars.

That isnhow Firebase, Android etc was created, Google purchase Firebase and the Android technologies for a separate company to build on it.

You forgot to add the pricing lol.

Professional $99 / month $999 / year
Small Business* $29 / month $299 / year

Apart from that, it looks great on the eye, I think when It comes to building complex apps, tweaking database structures, implementing clean architecture and others, then it becomes complex to use Skip.

Skip is a paid service which companies will not want to pay for knowing they would still require hiring devs and paying them monthly or on contractual basis, skip can decide to increase their subscription and then you're stuck on their technology.

It is also bad for Freelancers, If someone hires me on Upwork to create an App, and I deliver it with Skip, that means for the client to upgrade the features of the app tomorrow, the next developer the client hires has to heavily rely on Skip as well. It is a lose-lose situation.

But Compose Multiplatform Native UI is free to use, we can also use AI (Chatgpt and Gemini) to convert Kotlin to Swift when we need to, so why would I want to pay for a service when Gemini is free.

Gerrard59:
The same women are supporting Sharon Ooja for marrying a serial divorcee who divorced just two years ago. Very good decision by her.

Just for correctness of information.

Husband filed for divorce in 2019, married again 2022, the husband got divorced the 3rd time last year 2023 and then now another marriage 2024. Under 6months too, so it is less than 2 years.

pansophist:
Spain is not in the Schengen So you must pass through a border check every time you leave or enter the country.

You mean Ireland

MelaninGemstone:
thank you sir
Please what are the costs to get this documents and to notarize it

This is also the first time I’m hearing certificate of spinsterhood, never knew we had it in Nigeria

Bless you sir
Please give me more info

Not the original commenter but I googled for you and I found a detailed explanation on Medium: medium.com/@ojoademola044/how-to-get-a-bachelorhood-or-spinsterhood-certificate-and-affidavit-in-nigeria-a-step-by-step-8e65e8accc4f

I stumbled on this post & I LOL'ed. First time reading certificate of spinsterhood here too

Nothing man no go see for Nigeria

antoniobaresi:
First of all you made a big mistake giving her 700k as upkeep in this economy, and unless you're saying you don't know your wife very well, you should have known how she is especially with money and help cut down on many things. 700k is too much to spend in a month and still say it's too small. What if you could only bring 100k, won't your family survive? Cut down drastically and enforce a certain level of management with her. If she is not willing to help and adjust then you have a problem in your hands.

He was probably a big money spender before marriage, you know those people that enter lounge/beer parlour or club and the hype man starts singing Odogwu, ODOGWU has Arrived.

I don't have anything against self-proclaimed odogwus but Nigerians aren't aware that once you start something with a lady, you have to maintain that standard.

Elena247247:
It’s a two in one question. I believe the other should be responded to if the first isn’t viable-

Ok but asking someone a question from 2017 is super weird, almost a decade lol

There are companies that pay for technical writing: bootcamp.uxdesign.cc/8-websites-that-pays-400-to-write-articles-online-4f4684613bd4

ICTspecialist:
turmacs is a troll, a male and a scammer behind that moniker.
He scammed someone in the crypto thread and he's being hunted as we speak.
Go through his post history you'll realize he isn't worth the attention

She has a female "F" sign on her name and also a profile picture, are you saying this person's whole identity is fake?

Elena247247:
Is this still open or there some more freelance job I could take hold on?

LMAO why would you ask this question after 6.5 years?

Gerrard59:
Especially in Nigeria where childcare costs don't exist unlike say the UK.

The first statement is also another point. Wetin she dey use her money do?

I really don't know for the dude & his wife but child care costs in Nigeria is almost next to nothing, I cannot be gaslighted when I know I can easily pay 300k or less each month for a walk-in child care service.

descarado:
Wives that contribute more, should they be above their husbands?

Yvonne Jegede who contributed more in her one year of marriage said she was tired of doing that, and she was above her husband in that regard. So the answer is Yes.

I'm sure you saw the viral post on social media.

Enemyofpeace:
Na you spoil your wife. Period!

Simple & short!

descarado:
Houses wives contribute more, what happens?
Should they be above their husbands?
Or you think or pretend that around you, you have not seen wives who carry the financial burden of their family alone?
When you are ready to enjoy your marriage, you will know.

The lady in question is not an house wife, she has a thriving business.

And NO, house wives do not contribute more. I will retain this opinion until Jesus comes, I have done both more than 5 years each & I can tell & say categorically that taking care of kids is easier than earning a liveable wage in this harsh economy.

ruffhandu:
Hello people,
Please I need some advice.
We live in PH, and have 4 kids. The oldest is 10 while the youngest is 6. I give my wife 700k every month, and this includes general upkeep and maintenace and fuelling of our car (Lexus 330). I don't drive the car (I dey leg, while she uses it to run around, which includes school runs and her business).

I no dey chuk eye for her business. Bu I am getting frustrated as she still makes me believe that the money is not enough. I pay electricity bill (band A) and house rent (3m pa) yet every now and then she puts bills on my head. It is driving me crazy.

When I tell her to list out her expenses so I plan with her, she picks offence. I am really tired of the whole thing and don't know how else to approach the issue without causing too much problem. I know some men whose salaries are 250k-300k in PH, yet they are surviving.

The problem started in the early years of the marriage, you exposed yourself financially. Most women are not good with money and they do not save for the rainy day. They spend this way because they have never had to be self sufficient in their lives. Most times only women who are 1st born daughters of the families have the savings mindset, some do not even care because their livelihood has never depended on them alone.

You definitely exposed yourself financially to your wife in such a way where she wants to exhaust all that is available until you are down bad. Please note that this is not same as gold digging, that's another thing entirely. This is simply financial indiscipline.

The solution is to either fake a job loss, or some financial set back in your business.

Sooner most men will learn that love is different from finance and should not be mixed together.

jamesversion:
The issue with Bayelsa, nay Ijaw areas in the Niger Delta is the absence of proper habitable land. The terrain is mostly swamps and mangroves which without intensive capital expenditure will be largely uninhabitable. For example, take the East West Road, see the sections that passes through Ikwerreland, Ogoni land, Akwa Ibom etc and check the section that pass through bayelsa. The Bayelsa section is deplorable due to terrain.

Almost everywhere in Ijawland need serious sandfilling, which is capital intensive before reasonable work can be carried out. So don't expect serious development there.

Use Google map and zoom into Bayelsa and Ijaw parts of Rivers state and see how scanty there villages are. No amount of online revisionism can change what they are. It has never been about the size of bayelsa but the liveability.

This is very informative, but at the same time I think there should be a big Sea Port in Bayelsa. People should not have any business coming to Lagos for any reasons at all.

Nailly:
Bayelsa is bigger than 10 Nigerian States

See this Map.

Oya tell me what you mean by tiny.

Despite the fact that Bayelsa is a very new State doesn't make it small all because it's among the newest States.

Bayelsa is so big and I never realised this, why does Bayelsa not have a Sea Port?

This is so unbelievable, there are so many things about Nigeria that I am ignorant of. Sincerely if the British comes to take over Nigeria for just 10 years, Nigeria will transform totally.

We are a disgrace

Karleb:
If this were true then broke men would have no wives or girlfriend but that isn't the case.

Broke women marry any man that they can find, they are broke which means their options are limited. Those women you see at Makoko are all broke, therefore a man who also lives in Makoko is their best option.

Families do not even want their sons marrying broke women, do you know how much classism rich people have?!

Karleb:
The comparison between animals and humans is not a good way to explain this thing.

I see people use it everytime because it suits their narrative but it is wrong. It is worse than comparing apple and orange.

Humans are way different from animals. If you put 100 women and 100 men in a cage, 20 men won't be dating all the 100 women.


IRL, there are women hotter than Yvonne Jegede that are happy with their husband in a face me and face you apartment.

It's the reason your class rep wasn't dating all the girls in your department in school.

LOL you lacks experience, If women in 1st World countries such as Singapore prefer men who earn more than they do, then why would you ever think women from your own 3rd world country would do the opposite.

Humans are similar to animals more than you'd think and in fact there are too many evidences for that, the only differentiating factor is rule of law. That is why Nigerians behave like animals as we have no rule of law.

I can Indeed tell you categorically that 20 men will likely date all the 100 women in a cage. Using real life examples, as someone who frequents Lagos Island environs, less than 10% of the wealthy men who live in Lagos Island environs date majority of the women living in that same environment. The people buying luxury houses, cars, jewellery and trips for all those women are the same few men.

IRL, there are women hotter than Yvonne Jegede that are happy with their husband in a face me and face you apartment.

Please don't make me laugh

turmacs:
Let us see those that are real programmers

So DevDevDev is no longer anonymous? She has finally showed us her real account