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celeboi:
@Poster,

You are just nagging unnecessarily. Why not study him properly and know what the problem is. If you miss this chance, I pity you , You will end up been a contraband,

cant see any chance to mis here. if she were ur sista, would u give her same advice? i dont think so.

@poster, dont really av much to say cos they've all said it all. Don't settle for less cos mariage is a lifetime business and one deserves to be happy. Please av rethink and u can always go ahead if he changes. i hope he does cos three years aint a joke.

all da best.

wherever u got that notion from.

As for me, it has only made my relaionship stronger cos i spend less on call credits. Aint nothing like it and i wish it neva stops.

na wa oooo. so suprising to see some guys on this forum are girl/woman-beaters. that's bad. really bad.

@op, wat is happening in ur relationship is not love and u should be thanking ur stars dat u r still alive to tell dis story and ask for advice cos people have died for lesser reasons all in the name of love. LOVE is totally the opposite of wat u are experiencing. i will advise u leave dis guy and find someone who will truly love u for whu u are. i am sure u will gain a lot from wat inked_nerd have written.

Bottomline is, u have to move on no matter ow hard it seems and am sure u dont wanna live ur entire life in fear of being strangled/murdered all in the name of love. please think about it.

all da best.

cause of death?

Omolola1:
Alryt, Alryt, Alryt! av heard u.
God knows he is a wondaful person and doesn't dserve what am doin 2 him
i wud stay

it aint abt staying alone but loving him while u do dat.

u av to love him for who he is henceforth and stop day-dreaming abt one ex in "God-knows-where"

kinjiko?

r231:
^^^^^ohhh so you even understand what he was saying

i taught he was a driver cus he kept saying my madam has a jeep

yeah i did though it looks as if the guy was not logical enough but i was able to pick one or two things.

prolly the time-bomb and the jeep are having their toll on the poor guy. lol

[quote author=Shy-One link=topic=605940.msg7741944#msg7741944 date=1297870784]Don't look back - you will turn into a pillar of salt.[/quote]very funny.

Omolola1:
Wat i av for my guy isn't a sham!
u cnt force a feelin on urself if its nt there,i enjoy hs company,wit tym i wud lv hm

wit time? wat's the time-frame like? 2yrs? 3yrs or more. wat stops u from loving him now?

lady, put urself in dis guy's position. would u love it if a guy should treat u this way? i am sure u won't take it.

please treat others the way u want to be treated.

i dont think u are serious man. u just got a new job and all u do is lust after ur colleagues in d office. u dont need any advice cos it's so obvious u r hell-bent on destroying urself.

May God deliver you.

Omolola1:
Don't get me wrng tosyn,dis az neva hapnd 2 me
Yes,my guy lovs me and am tryn 2 reciprocate dat but ds is beyond me!

it has never happened to u (great). then why must itstart now? moreover, u dont knw if he (ex) has moved on and forgotten abt u totally. and here u are still drooling abt him.

Nothing is beyond u my dear. I think u dont appreciate wat u av and it's high time u did that. Stop trying to love him (cos that could take forever). just love him cos he does love u and it's so unfortunate dat the poor guy does not knw wat u av for him all along is a "sham"

wat a pity

it's kinda crazy. u r thinking abt someone else wen all ur bf is thinking is abt pleasing u. if u r so crazy abt ur ex, then release the poor guy and let him find someone dat would reciprocate his love.

just hope u wont start missing him as an "ex'" when u return to ur former "ex" cos it seem u've got something foe "ex-es" (if there's somtin like dat")

wat a crazy world!!!

Ujujoan:
If I understand correctly, the way it works, someone can have your number as his/her magic number and you, at the same time, can have someone's else's number as your magic number!

My advise . . . . Use your mum as your magic number and let your girlfriend add your number as hers. Either way you get to call both of them free of charge and them you.

_{Na wa for all this broke backside people for hia sef . . . .}

best reply so far!!!

@op, u have the solution there. to make it easier u can send ur gf airtime to make up for the subscription fee. u got no hassles man. i think most people here post their replies before they think. simple logic will solve the problem.

no wonder mtn keep swindling us of our hard-earned cash.

Busta:
Cos they were never taught during their "Home training and Life lessons" that one good turn deserves another.
Funny thing is that not all Nigerian men are like that.

I once dated an akata guy that has "zero" mentality on what it means to put ladies first, common courtesy, or treating a lady nicely. My bf now is nigeria born and breed and he treats me like a Goddess. Opens the door for me when we go out, hold my shopping bags, buy me stuffs, take out for dinner dates, pulls the chair for me to sit, helps me in the kitchen to cook and clean up . . endless. Some women do have them!!

still have men that are like that though few. u are lucky to have one of them. cheers!!!

Carolece:
Nigerian men are:

disgusting.
stuupid.
noncaring.
stuupid.
disgusting.
silly.
disgusting.
silly.
silly.
silly.
scammers.

I dont care what yall want to say, thats how I see all the ones I've met.

that's being unnecessarily harsh and irrational. seems there's more to your comments.

are u a victim of circumstance?

there is no need trying to get back at him/her cos he/she doesnt deserve it. Why not move on wit ur life & do wateva u do so well that will make him/her regret ever leaving u. That i think is a good way of 'getting back'.

@ ur back as how? Do u guys work in dsame organisation? Ow can she be at ur back if u dnt allow it. Can u be more elaborate cos ur story is kinda confusing.

okpismart:
Can some one help me define the word "LOVE":

love is all-encompassing and does not have a concise meanning hence the various definitions given in the dictionary and bible.

love has to do with everything to do with the whole of existence!!!

pinky lady:
@ poster

what has dog got to do with this?

to keep her company of course. at least she got "something" to do it with anytime she thinks of "cheating".

@poster, seriously u should know u cant replace urself with a dog. i think all she wants is more of ur time. prolly u've been ignoring her and her ex has been taking advantage of that. if u still love her and u have forgiven her like u said, u can make it work by giving her more attention.

Phate07:


Nice analysis bro, but you only lust after what you want to taste. You cant be lusting after what you have already tasted. Or can you?

true.

personally, i want to blv it's possible to fall in love with thesame person again. it depends on how the first "love" ended. if it's a case where u guys drifted apart cos distance, it's possible for the old love to be reignited if u guys find ur self in thesame vicinity but if u guys broke up in the first instance due to one scandal or the other, it's a no no. wateva u are feeling cannot be termed as love but lust of flesh due to d "unfinished business".

MzDarkSkin:
How do you all feel about "Open Relationships" which are when a couple occasionally let the other person "see other people" or invite a third party from time to time to "engage" in acts? I just watched a documentary about it and supposedly it spices s3x lives and prove to lead to more successful relationships.

Worth the try or is it a load of crocodile @#$%%?

open relationship is definately a "flippant relationship" and will lead nowhere. am suprised u blv so much in wat u see on TV. they are just make-believe ma broda.

[quote author=D-sense link=topic=570373.msg7356864#msg7356864 date=1292605554]What's relationship?[/quote]that's a crude question to ask. u can as well google it  

Omolola1:
@ tosyn

i dont support forced marriages

good to know that.

all y'all that's asking the op to ignore, act silly, act foolish, can u do such? u guys are ignoring the fact that the person she's talking abt is her partner not an admirer or a friend. she is seeking for advice that will aid her relationship and u are giving options for break-up. na wa oooo

@op, yeah we guys can be bull-headed and hell-bent on having our way but ut doesnt mean we are silly or irrational. we listen and can be considerate too. i will advise u sit him down and bare your mind and make him realise he's making u unhappy and if he doesnt change, u might have to go your seperate ways.

u will be suprised the kind of wonders dialogue perform in relationships. all d best dear.

Omolola1:
Ofcourse!

They have to marry the girl they impregnated
except ofcourse they were forced to do it

marriage should not be forced my dear. the parties involved will regret it (most especially the lady)

Creamish:
Sell your clients Mister . . who r they? wat tribe? location? . . sell dem n ul get results.

and their status cos the op failed to mention if the so-called working class guys are single or married. why will a single lady want to have a "wonderful" relationship with a married man? it will definately lead nowhere.

sorry, forgot i aint a lady

one of my watchwords is never to date of have intimacy with someone i dont love/like cos i should be ready if things get out of hand (getting her pregnant). if she's ready to get rid of the baby, cool but if she aint, then we have to settle down though it might not be the kind of ceremony we want.

furthermore, any lady who tries to blackmail any guy into marriage by getting pregnant, will only have herself to blame cos marriage cant be rushed (u rush in, u rush out). it (marriage) should be a mutual thing between parties concerned.

that's the way i feel.

it depends. If it's public funds that she is embezzling, i think i can condole dat & we cant both enjoy cos it's 'national cake like dey say' but if she's  a criminal in d real meaning, i will report her to d authorities straight away.