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Omolola1:
psycho on the loose!

bad gal.  

lanredo:
Please pass on your comment, to the best of my knowledge the older you becomes the better you are in most aspect of life. I could remember when I'm younger I easily flare up, but now I usually take my time. In my younger days I don't have sex better, many times I just do it, but know my woman always thank me after the sweet rounds. In fact I do every thing better only that my body always notify me of the aging.

guess u aint coherent enuf for me to pick anything sensible. sowie!

kokoye:
theonion.com = the number 1 source of fake stories for the suckers who fall for them

seconded.

they are bunch of liars!!!

Hotie Tima:
lol i am not man i swear.

but i also hope it don't happen coz i wouldn't do it,

but is it wrong if it happens tho.

if u aint doing it then maybe it happened to someone close to ya. cos i really dont understand why u av so much interest in it.

anywayz, in response to the topic, it's really a bad thing to do. one should not even think abt it. it's a shame i dont av a brother/brothers (got sisters instead) but i cant even imagine any of ma relative dating same gal. i wont take it lightly and am sure rest of ma family members will think the same way. it's n-no in short.

Hotie Tima:
don't worry it's not me ooohhh i am single

abt this, am sure u must be joking, right?

MsSophista:
@tosyne007

Lying to spare someone's feelings? i dont buy that sis. A liar will always lie for personal benefits and that's all i could deduce from the story. Moreover, all i wrote up there are personal opinions, take it or leave it.

Thanks for your comments. Yes, everyone's opinions are appreciated and respected the same. Let me tell you, I love to engage in thinking and conversations that spark thinking on a higher level. I'm not intended to offend or debate.

Anyway, if you reread my comment you'd see that I gave examples of various forms of lies. That they come dressed in some my outfits, so to speak. I agree, a lie is a lie, a liar is a liar, and it doesn't matter as to what forms the lies appear.

cool!! got no hard feelings towards u babe, why should I? this is supposed to be an interactive thread and i cant do dat all alone. Moreover, i see u as an intelligent person and ur comments are thoughtful. I appreciate u agreeing that a lie is a lie. What am saying in essence is that lie(s) should be avoided if possible in relationship cos trust and truth are the bedrock of relationship. Truth begat trust so they go hand in hand. we wont be having problems in our relationships if we can be wholly truthful to ourselves though it's easier said said than done. I try so much to be truthful to the best i can but i gottta admit that i tell little lies too

you dont do anything. U kill and banish such feelings except u wanna lose ur friends (both of dem i mean) cos u aint sure if she's gonna like it.

so, be guided and dont concede to the devil.

which security sef?

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=677222.msg8409256#msg8409256 date=1306583496]^^ **sighs** ok, I'll assume I know what you're talking about--- I don't care about the main thing--- But, he should be able to use whatever he has to the best of his abilities. [/quote]yeah, guess u r right!! any sensible guy should. lol about the "assumption". u sure "know" wat am talking about and i also blv u "care" about the main thing cos that's expected of every reasonable girl/lady/woman.

MsSophista:
CORRECTIONS FOR THE SAKE OF CLARITY

@ tosyne007:  if you can tell little lies, den u can tell big ones too. there's really no difference, a liar is a liar

I agree.  So you have never told even a tiny lie?  Lies come in so many forms.  Like exaggeration, leaving out information, changing information;  even for instance, telling some girl they looked nice in a dress and inwardly knowing she looked bad.  Even lying to spare someone's feelings.  

So, is there a difference between lying and being a liar?  
I guess I'm wondering because I don't  think a liar would confess such damaging confessions.  A pathological liar will continue to lie even after being caught

Lying to spare someone's feelings? i dont buy that sis. A liar will always lie for personal benefits and that's all i could deduce from the story. Moreover, all i wrote up there are personal opinions, take it or leave it.

The difference between "lying and a liar" is that one is an act and the other is the person indulging in the act. they are inseparable though cos one cant be without the other. Dont believe there's anyfin called "pathological liar", a liar is a liar period!!!

op, den something is wrong wit u or ur relationship. Maybe she aint down wiv u anymore.

cant imagine that happening wiv ma babe wen we got beta things to do

you need to take the bull the horn or else u r gonna lose her to the so called ex.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=677222.msg8409180#msg8409180 date=1306582336]^^ What's the main thing? [/quote]stop feigning ignorance jooo. u sure knw wat the "main thing" is.

we are not babies please.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=677222.msg8409055#msg8409055 date=1306580103]^^^ Escalades, Rovers, Mercedes, Gucci, LV, Prada, Bvlgari, Dubai, VGC, Hawaii, Mansions, Front seats at Staples center e.t.c.--- [/quote]Oh!!! material things? aiite. Now i gerit.

Not my line of thinking though. So u can substitute the "main thang" for all these?

does height really matter or if they truly love each other? Love they say covereth all blemishes now!!!

at least okocha's wife is taller dan he is but they are living happily. forget the height and go for someone who truly loves u.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=677222.msg8408779#msg8408779 date=1306575460]I'm already short enough. It's hard to fine a guy shorter than me. But, if I like him and he's super-short, then he has to make up for it in other areas. [/quote]could u be more elaborate

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=677418.msg8408890#msg8408890 date=1306577252]LMAOO---- hehehe! But your babe needs to look fine for the wedding now--Allow her abeg. Stop being so thrifty. How much did she spend sef that you're shouting asif they stole your Lamborghini? 

Well, Firstly it's called KARMA--- karma is a B1tch. God has dashed you with your wife na niyen. Deal with it.

Secondly, don't even think of dumping her, coz the next one might/will be worse.

I like your first girl, she has a 'strong head' and she knows how to pray very well. What church does she attend? Mountain of fire?  [/quote]lol. you are just a wicked gal.

@poster, wouldnt wanna say "na God catch u" cos wat happened can happen to anyone and that's why it's called a MISTAKE.

i will suggest u talk thing ova wit ova with her and see if she would change (that's a long shot though cos u said she's a spoilt brat). All the same, dialogue is power and could solve a lot of problems. But if she's not ready to change, that one na "GOBE" cos if she squandered ur savings b4 settling, den wat would she do if u guys finally settle down? Maybe sell ur properties and travel abroad for facial surgery, tummy-tuck and d rest. Give it some thought dude.

like some people said, it depends. But the lady took it too far and if i were in d guy's shoe, will forgive her but wouldnt want anytin to do wit her again

you cant be toying with someone's feelings. It's not just right!!!.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Little lies yes. Big ones no. [/color]

if you can tell little lies, den u can tell big ones too. there's really no difference, a liar is a liar.

[quote author=BABE! link=topic=676635.msg8402110#msg8402110 date=1306484935]Nope! Not atall! Popsy is my best buddy, so NO KOSO! He doesn't even need to ask, he has to be there![/quote][quote author=baby.me link=topic=676635.msg8402197#msg8402197 date=1306486095]Not creepy[/quote]wtf!!! that's fu*ckin creepy!!! if i may ask, when last did u have yer bath in ur dad's presence?

moreover, why should he be there? na him do the thing? Haba!!! wateva happened to ur hubby? Na wa for some girls sha.

yeah!!! got a broadcast like dat but i keep thinking there's a motive behind it.

i smell "brand damage". 53 ladies? that's quite a lot.

anywayz, told ma babe and ma sistas to watch out and i implore other ladies out there to be careful.

maybe it's one of boko-haram tactics to ursup power!!! just a thought

jay bee:
So he probably wouldn't come back for forgiveness if things were still rosy with the other ex. Just tell the sorry loser that u you hold no grudges as u've moved on to better things. It's really that simple

that's if she's really moved on. dont u think? maybe she's still got somfin for the guy (ex).  

it's no big deal. because we are no longer together does not mean i wont wish her well.

life shouldn't be that hard.

why beat her? that's totally uncalled for!!! it's inhuman!!! i will neva descend so low cos she's not worth the stress.

all u need do is to move on with my life though it will be painful and heart-wrenching with all d sacfrices and all that.

abt humping her? with the knowledge dat someone else has been bang.ing her? nada, that will be disgusting.

some ladies sha

Atreides:
lol i'm not harsh oh. I'm a very affable person,buh i have this imaginary line in my head,this limit,and when i get to that point,nothing,not even a blast of dynamite will get me to cross it.

Him believing his friend or whatever shows he doesn't trust me. No trust,no relationship. Pere.

And then for him to come back after 18 months? Chances are,i'd have moved on with my life by then. Life's too short to waste on useless elements who have trust issues.

Who's to say he wont disappear for 2 years if we have another misunderstanding when i'm married to him and pregnant with his kid?

Mi o r'aiye drama.

hmmmn. i bet u must be fun to be with cos u've performed more than a drama here but i do agree with all u av said so far.

*singing no more drama by Mary J*

Atreides:
I would not go back to him.
I would not forgive him either.

I don't know why everyone is always advicing everyone else to forgive. Resentment is good for the soul in some cases!

So he will now come and tell me,oh i'm so sorry,i love you,i want you back,blah blah blah? Shiooor. He will only dive rock.

u sound so harsh. op u aint like dat for real

Op, it kinda hard to take such a person back cos trust is essential in a relationship and for him/her not to have trusted u in the first place, ow sure are u that he/she wont behave thesame if somtin like that come up again. so, it's really a tough one. moreover, a year and half is really a long time to wait. i would av moved on.

Bitablet:
@Ink, I think you should read them over again.

I did not "ok" it. ( I am going to defer from using BUT because seems like that is what brings the disagreement)

Men have a different mindset to women.
They will assume a woman is a "ho"for unnecessary reasons.
Unless you do not care, if you care dress "a bit appropriate" to reduce that assumption.

If you are dressed "inappropriately" just be on the lookout.

really? on the lookout for u?

all i could deduce from ur responses is that u seem like a guy dat will harrass or embarass a lady cos she's scantily dressed but i can bet u that u will get wat u deserve.

a very hot slap if not more than that.

Bitablet:
@Tosyne007, we are talking about men who gets their egos bruised when toasting and try to embarrass the girl.


@Ink, I am not telling anyone how to dress but if women wants respect from men on the streets the least they can do it cover up.No, I am not but we have to be realistic. A woman who is bearing all will most likely get a man calling her a "ho" if he fails at toasting her.

that's been overly egocentric.

hunkyjohn:
No matter how a woman dresses, she should be respected. In fact men need to learn how to adore the beauty of a woman. If she dresses "revealingly", then the guy should sit back and feed the eyes.

cool.

Bitablet:
I am not supporting the act but when dressed revealingly expect to get men on your case. For a unclothed woman on the streets well she gets whatever she asked for.
There are respectable ways to dress with a few bits on show but it should not be all at once.

i just hope u are not one of the guys we are talking abt here cos am baffled with ur write-ups.

@Tosyne007, you have to understand that the majority of people on here are black so I will refer to black men because a white man will not disrespect a black girl like that if he tried toasting her and it fails. I have never ever heard or seen it. Never. It might happen in their own race.

[/quote]that's not true. dont tell me u dont go to the movies or u dont listen to news. and we aint talking abt a white man violating a black woman, we are talking abt men that violates women, be it black or white.

maybe u will den agree that white men violates, disrespects and embarass white women but that's not the point. we are againt this happening at all cos it's not just right.

got my drift?[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=664068.msg8293434#msg8293434 date=1305044193]
lol, well I could have mentioned the guys ethnicity but it didn't really matter. Wrong is wrong. Guys like him make other guys look bad Honestly, all the men out there in the world who treat women with respect, I commend you all. In the end, it'll all pay off.

Even if a woman is walking around nȧked, that doesn't give you or any other man the right to touch or assault her in any way, shape, or form!!! No one needs to dress to impress you or any other man. Arguments such as yours are the same arguments some men will use to validate their actions when they rȧpe a woman. Walking around scantily clad doesn't mean you've been given the ok to physically or verbally assault a woman.

yeah u are right. ethnicity, tribe or colour has nothing to do with it. physical or emotional abuse on girls/women is wrong and should be seen that way. we should all kick against it.

i will advise u see him and talk things ova with him. it's called burying the hatchet. with all u've said so far, it's obvious u still habour some feeling for him but i will advise u get rid of those feelings in ur best interest. u guys can still coninue being friend but dont let it go beyond that cos he's only gonna use and dump u.

with the lenght of time u've spent together, he ought to av taken the relationship to anoda level if he has anytin for u. dont let him take advantage of u cos u deserve more than dat. forget all u av done for him and move on with ur life.

all da best.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=664068.msg8293186#msg8293186 date=1305041881]
Trust me, I would never think all men are like that. Your obviously not like those men--I think we all [both men and women] need to keep an open mind with such things [/quote]yeah, we all need to.

Bitablet:
I remember watching this video of a few black men and a black girl. I think it was those spring breaks they have in Miami or something. The woman was walking down the street when this guy tried to toasted her but she was not interested and she continued walking. The guy followed her and tried to tear off her dress and the poor girl just got flogged on the floor.


Black men and their egos especially the ghetto/hoodlums are the ones who will try and embarrass a girl like that.

i take exception to that. white men do that too. it's not only applicable to black men, i think it's more abt one's personality.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=664068.msg8293322#msg8293322 date=1305043136]
Omg, I just saw something like that last week. There were some women walking along some crowded streets and the men on the street were touching the women all over their bodies and pulling them left and right. From the way everyone was dressed, I could tell that the were in a region that had either warm or hot weather. . . Anyway, one mega fool decided he he wanted to show everyone that he was a man and grabbed on girl all over her body and the girl turned around hitting him and cursing him out and all the other guys just stood there laughing. Stuff like that makes me sick. What pissed me off even more is that a lot of those guys felt that they had the right to do what they were doing.[/quote]serves the guy right but i could see u didnt mention if he was a white or black guy. wateva the coulor, wat he did was wrong and he got wat he deserved. we are all saying thesame thing that ladies should be treated with utmost respect but it has nothing to do with the skin colour. this goes out to all men.

M M M:
creamy
old habit never die hard,
once a womanizer alwayz a womanizer.

there's somin called change and it can happen to anybody, even the worst offenders.

@poster, there's a possibilty that the guy has changed and he is in love with u for real. only u can say if he is though cos u r he one that's been with him and i guess before u fell in love, u must have taken ur time to study him thoroughly. as per ur dad, he's only looking out for you and that's wat a responsible father should do cos if eventually, u get hrtbroken (i dont pray it happens), u will run back to ur family.

so u are the one that can bridge the gap and make tihis work. if u are sure the guy has trully changed, u can alwas covince ur dad and make him see reasons that this is where ur heart lies.

just be careful and dont let urs emotions get the best of u cos this things called LOVE can cloud our reasoning attimes.

all da best.

[quote author=Inked_Nerd link=topic=664068.msg8292837#msg8292837 date=1305039006]
For me, I try to be open minded but at times it feels like my open minded comes across as me being down for anything that comes my way. I'd prefer a simple hello or even a funny little pick up line as opposed to things like "Shawty", "Ayo slim", "Hey sexy", or "Can I holla at you for a minute?". Sometime you can tell right off the bat what a guy has in mind when he used such tactics. I've actually met some guys who've only smiled and that was enough to make me wanna talk to them. I just tell myself sometimes, "Ya never know".[/quote]i understand all u've said. some guys could be naughty really but it does not mean all guys are like that. i just pray u gals meet the right ones. moreover, i think i love your last line "Ya never know". that's pretty cool.

Igwe419:
Some women who wear provoking clothing, you can't treat them with respect, if a woman is showing her a55 all over the place you are supposed to greet how, in the South you don't hear men whistling to women from the Northern regions, but they whistle to women from southern regions why? because of appearance, some women demand respect for not showing themselves respect and then compl ain

Igwe H.S.O.F.N

bro, cos some ladies dress indecently does not give u the right t molest, embarass or take advantage of them. that's wat make some ladies think men are animals. no matter ow a lady is dressed, she should still be approached in a gentle manner and not in an unruly behaviour.

though i hardly do such, i dont think i'ver ever done it anyway but the general notion dat ladies dat answer cat calls are seen to be cheap is wrong. There are so many relationships today that the parties involved got to knw themselves by meeting at parks, in a bus, on a train, on a plane and even on the streets.\

personally, i dont see anytin wrong with sayin hello to a lady that attracts my attention and if she refuses to answer me, i will move on. that doesnt mean i will think less of her. some ladies like it, some dont.

my advice is dat u ladies should be open-minded to cat calls cos u can never tell if the so-called mr right will resort to such tactics.

that's wat i thinnk.

Congrats!!!
May ur union be fruitful and successful.