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@poster, i wont mince word wit u over this issue. I think my own opinion is kinda different from others. I blv this guy is a playa and a pro at it. Whether u like it or not, i will advise u to prepare ur mind for the worst. It could happen anytime (for real). All i could deduce from ur mails as per his actions is that he's only trying to keep u and the rest of the fold (i mean other ladies).

Like u said, u are 33 and i believe u should know better. Though love makes us look stupid and behave irrationally at times but it doesn't hav to continue like that. Though wat u did was wrong, i mean going thru his messages cos most guys wont like that (some wouldn't mind anyway) but it's not out f dis world for someone u love to do that. Ur cussing, i dont like that either so be careful in the future cos no man will want a foul mouthed lady/woman for a wife.

Though u dont hav any facts to pin against him about the lady over, wat about the one he slept with next door? wat reasons did he give? believe me, some ladies wouldnt take half of wat u've taken dear. So i will advise u to cut out of this relationship while u still can though it will hurt u badly.

best of luck.

kemisuga:
Why didnt the wife slice-off the hubby genitals? Cause the hot water burnt will heal and he might still continue in his infidelity. LOL

na wa for u ooooo,

posakosa:
She was probably piling up all of that anger, saving them all up and then she finally blows up.

If he gave her HIV now, news no go carry such story, when women stand up for themselves, I wonder why that is deemed negatively.

from ur earlier post, there was nothing implicating the man that he was an infidel. The woman only acted out of suspicion if i'm right. According to the man, his wife has been complaining abt his late night activities and coming home late doesnt mean he flirts around.

so, i'm kinda confused here and i blv the woman's action is baseless except i'm missing something.

@poster, i understand ur frustration and bitterness towards girls, ladies, women et al but u can't rule out the fact that they are also wise. We men are created from dust while they are taken out of us which simply means u are indirectly insulting guys/men.

lest i forget, they are also cunny and mischievious, no wonder they seem to always land us (men i mean) in trouble and it's so unfortunate that we cant do without them. (they cant do without us either).

Moreover, God created them to be our helper though these days, they do more than that. (that is they fool us, trick us, deceive us, LOVE AND HATE US AT THESAME TIME, frustrate us, make us to fight their cause (like i'm doing  ) but they can aslo be loving, supportive, encouraging, motivating e.t.c.

Personally, i think they (ladies, women) are hard to understand but once u do, they can be as sweet as a bowl of hot chocolate.

Thor:
What is your interpretation of a cultist?

where's the poster?

patwhizkid:
What is police?

wat a question!!!

AEjiro:
i love her, cared, even named her as the benefactor to my small asset. yet she left just few months to our walking the aisle. And at a time i was bedridden in the hospital.

Now she is back, i told her no i dont want again, she came back, i change my phone she got the new number from one of my friends, i moved to a new location she traced me to my new cribs, i introduced my new fiance when she was half nude because (she came unannouced sha) she said she understood she was the one who erred so she can be number two.

Something tells me she has something up her sleeves, even if not, i dont want. the love has long flown away with her deceit. Cant she get the message.

Please i need news ideas on how to get rid of this pest. (Dont advise me to bang her because i wont even get an erection). she reminds me of the wicked step-mother in cinderela.

i will never advise u to make up wit her!!!

u av been trying bro cos i know it aint easy. Just keep keeping ur distance and God will see u thru. Ex can be so powerful and adamant even if u write it out in black and white that u areno longer interested.

Furthermore, make ur girlfriend understand she should never allow her in in ur absence. That could be dangerous. Maybe if ur girlfriend is not so friendly, she will understand the message.

best of luck

@poster,
i understand ur fears. It's really a hard decision to make. Personally, i dont really give a sh*t abt 'age difference' but in some cases it does count. I want u to know i'm going thru thesame dilemma. My babe wants us to settle down FAST but i'm holding back all in the name that i want to get some things done b4 committing my life to her. At thesame time, i hav to consider the fact that she's not getting younger. So, wat i'm saying is that there will be a time that u will start seeing some signs of desperation in her. U should be prepared for that.

My advice is that u giv her a chance if u love her real good and be sure u wont disappoint her cos that will be a grave thing to do if she decides to wait for u. The best time to pull out if u hav doubts abt her is NOW.


Think with ur head and follow ur heart.

@poster,

i will just like to contribute a little to wat everyone has said. i blv every guy should be a lil' jealous over his babe. (it simply shows the depth of his love.) but it becomes a thing of concern when he's overly jealous. With all u hav said, u made us blv he loves u so much and i will advise u stcik to him.

i hav a conviction that the jealousy will go down a bit when u finally settle down cos most of us (guys & babes now) feel insecure while dating most especially if u hav a good partner (which is hard to come by these days) but the insecurity fades away with time once they are married.

Moreover, one is expected to be jealous over wat he or she loves dearly. So, discussing it over wit him is the best option and if he loves u as much as u say, he will understand and re-adjust himself.

best of luck dearie.

timinimi:
it all happen in school,as a man i no that i am strong but sometimes i might be weak and i will need somebody to make me strong,so i saw this girl we started dating,same department in school,fell in luv,but i never knew she had a boyfriend too in campus,so when i found out,i called her and told her,me and that guy who do u want,she said me,so i told her my mean rules if she can be, she said yes, few weeks she started acting funny,i called her try to make her understand certain difference,but still no changes,so i decided to quit the relationship,i felt it,but with few time thing went on,one faithful day she called and was begging seriously even till now,i don't just no what to do,because i am already hockedup in a relationship,but i still luv her,

i see no reason why one should go 2one's vomit. Like u said, u broke up it her for certain reasons. why will u want to take her back? or u blv she's a changed person. U need to understand that she could misbehave again and when she does, u will start all over again.

Moreover, wat plans do u have for the one you are dating presently. Tell her to find someone else while u go back to ur ex?. that wont be fair u know. My advice is to let her go and stick to the girl u hav. there's also a saying that goes thus: 'once beaten, twice shy'

funkygirl:
hi everybody. am so bored. i need a responsible person to chat or talk with. any interested person should please notify me. thank u

i'm interested.

delegirl:
Am really in luv with dis guy but i don't kno how to show it to him. I am always very angry whenever he tries talking to me and now i heard he is dating another girl,  dis tings dey hurt me.


i beg no abuse oo talk if u wan talk ok. Na serious matter oo

wat i really dont understand is why u get angry weneva he tries talking to u. can u explain that? does he put u off?
u said u are in love with him but u push him away with ur words and actions. U cant expect him to worship all his life, he has to move on and that's exactly wat he is doing.

Well, in ur case, it's HARD LUCK that u can still get him back (don't fool urself) cos he must hav read meanings to ur actions and decided to try his luck with someone else. I will suggest u try to get over him and ensure u dont make such mistakes in the future.

I'm saying this becos apologising and pleading will only look as if u are forcing urself on him and the relationship might end badly since u are the one making the moves now. Believe me, guys dont like it when ladies make the first move. Most cases, it doesnt work out.

So, pull urself together and move on and when anoda opportunity comes ur way, make sure u grab it with all ur body.

best of luck.

finguy:
is that all u saw in the post? dont be a pessimist

whats she needs in her state (Pregnant) is encouragement

dont mind him jare!!!

i think his judgement his clouded by wat he's going thru (i mean his cyber love saga)

zico124:
From your explanations. I will advice you keep praying for him.someone might have seen the future and decide to destroy it because,if he doesnt love you,he will not be begging you,even with the unborn baby. Now,you have to be strong,get more closer to god and if you would not mind,i will like to help you here with my own little prayers to. Take care of yourself and be happy. God be with you.(zico124@yahoo.com)

u hav really spoken well.

I dont really know wat to say. Could it be he developed cold feet? it happens u know. but wit wat u said, it's obvious he cares about u and u are only worried abt his strange behaviour, so, i will advise u hold on to ur faith and keep talking to him and keep praying to God. God willing, he will come back to his real self.

best of luck.

p.s: take it easy oooooo, i mean considering ur condition. all will be well

FL Gators:
Instead of writing all that, you should have just let us know that you don't know what IMPERSONATION means

BlueDiva:
How can it be the same person?
Don't you know what impersonation means?

@FL,
Come to think of it,
Perhaps you're OP's role model.

of course i do!!!.

it could as well be thesame person using two id's.

Well, i don't think blue diva will agree wit me cos it seems both of u are allies.

FL Gators:
Dnt act surprised, my dear. Impersonation is not a new thing on NL

are u saying El and FL are thesame person?

i hope this post is not a bloody joke?

sexyLeamon:
how will u find her? she doesn't even know

abi?

congoshine:
Hey guys ,I appreciate the intensity,pls lets keep it safe ,so I can find my babe

or is there somtim u r not sharing?