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FreeSpirited:
The problem is you...... she went clubbing , many girls do that, either single, engaged or married sef...that's not new. The issue is, u are the one to set the boundary and it is after u set a boundary and she crosses it u can raise a serious eye brow.... The problem with you is that you don't love the girl again, and what u should have done is to break up with her if u couldn't cope, but u accepted her and impregnated her...now, you are evil if u leave that girl to suffer
A girl who is still a virgin of recent, u have no evidence dat she cheated, yet u are messing up... All girls don't get fvcked every time they go clubbing.

She received a call in the morning from a pastor or a priest -and so what?.....That's childish of you if u can't get a thorough evidence before concluding.

You only need to groom that girl if she has attitude u dnt like. it is after u think she cant change that u can leave her, imagine, somebody u already engaged....

Good ladies are scarce, we still have the responsibility to groom and nature our babe...cos they all have the tendency to stray

This is very true

tobianthony:
Hmmm....

My dude ... Allow me to be retrospective ... I would advise you and everyone one here in this life to never propose to anyone within one year of being in a relationship with them or at least till the " honey moon" period is over . Truth be told you really do not know this woman that well enough to spend the rest of your life with her .

And to every one out there no matter how infectious or appealing a partner is to you do not get engaged till you have created enough experiences or information for you to fall back on when trials of love come .

Same thing happened to me last year .


Most people have given you advice on the pregnancy so I will refrain from repeating the popular sentiment .

However if this child is yours I want you to be in his or her life full on ...everyday . Whether this lady is within this picture is entirely up to you .

Bro, I beg to disagree with the emboldened because there's no specified duration to propose to a lady.. The only thing you need is to properly examine the person and perhaps, gather relevant information about that person.

I have seen people who dated for five solid years and they parted ways due to lack to mutual understand and tolerance.. I have also seen people who met and got married within the ambit of 8 months and they are living happily till now.

A very wise and sensible man does not need to date a lady for two year before you can know her true colour.. In fact, if I engage you into three hours of communication, I will have a foresight of the kind ofof person you are

So my brother, dating a lady for three years before proposing guarantees nothing

ikorodureporta:
we all know u.... No hidn place

Anyway, I'm surprised you know me that much

Origin:
@ OP read your post, go and wash your eyes and read your post again.

You met her chaste. You don't have credible evidence for cheating. She went to have fun at a club(were u thinking she would sleep with all four men). You've been tracking her calls and messages.

No wonder she is scared to tell you the truth. You are the type of person who owns a wife's life, movement, friends (monitoring spirit..... A control freak).

Do you know how I save names on my phone, by the places I met them . So u will see- Tope Unilag near moremi.

But you had no right to monitor her calls and be calling her friends. Now you are claiming she got pregnant ( it takes two). My advice to her is not to marry you. She should drop the baby for you and leave. As I don't think it can get better.


So someone like me that has never been to the club before and I see four friends to bodyguard me, I no go go. I will go and give my eye food. Yes i will drink Fanta. And will not dance but I've always wanted to know what the hype is all about that will not make someone sleep in his own house.

What kind of advice is this for Christ's sake? I still don't know why a woman will see nothing wrong in the accusations laid by the OP and all you did was to embellish unfaithfulness and untrustworthiness

Well, they say birds on a feather will always defend their kind..

ikorodureporta:
wetin u won learn for here? Dis no be romance section-o

So na only woman matter dem suppose to dey see me abi?

I'm not that patient... The moment I notice infidelity in a woman, I save my life and take a decision which pleading won't even solve

A lady/woman that keeps another man aside her man is a potential "evil" woman.

dangotesmummy:
that one na testimony

You dey mind them ni?

How come the guy looks unsophisticated and unfashionable?

Wetin be my own sef?

You forgot to add the ones who give testimonies of how many students they sent parking due to examination malpractice

Na dem sabi

UltraLeslie1:
Tosynebaba! I great your gentility and tenacity and thank you incalculably for remembering me today.

Oga Lezz, who be the mod wey send you go jail?

Rapmoney:
Whoever that starts planning his/her life after youth service is not serious about success!

You're right my brother

I just like this woman lady sha

Bro, I can relate to your grievances that's if you aren't telling lies oooo

Well, I don't think you have any spiritual problem as attributed by some people.. It's just that some guys are naturally appealing to ladies weather they have money or not, own cars or not.. Whether you give them attention or not, they will always crave your attention by fire by force

Sorry bro, deal with it

I fell in love with a gold digger now my pocket is empty

Happy Birthday egbon Lezz... I wish you greatness in all your endeavours

Cheers!

Tosyne2much and ten things

Na so baba

See how the man resemble Kanu Nkankwo

missnawty:
This geh too fine.. She resemble me

C d way banky is looking at her in d last 2pix... Like 'let this pple leave And lemme 'borack' you. Kaii she looks fragile tho .. Banky sofri oo

Upload your DP

That's very unethical of the teacher.. Anyway, I hope she doesn't find solace at third mainland bridge sha

When you study hard just to outperform that your friend that barely reads his books but he still outperforms you at the end of the day

sEGXY2:
When you write a letter to your crush and she submits it to the principal!

Omo this one na gobe oooo

I'm going to learn a lot on this thread.. Please keep your ideas coming

You forgot to add that you shouldn't tell lies.. Don't form what you are not

pryme:
Well, I will tell you one thing. If you find the woman that has all you need in a woman you will have to make decision.

Then, you will choose what the world thinks or your happiness.

I guess you will sacrifice your happiness for what the world thinks.

Am sure you are one of those guys that won't date without sex, if you ask your girl for sex and she declines and say "until marriage" you will get mad. But for the fear of loosing you she agrees to have sex with you just because she loves you and wants to keep you.

But later things don't work out and you guys break up.
You move on, do does she. She meets a new guy the circle starts again.

Well I don't have to explain to you.

If the girl told me about her past, then the blackmail arrived late.

Although, the past sometimes counts too but when a lady doesn't hide her past from you and you see genuinety in her, I think you can leave the society to their rants and stupidity

RaggedyAnn:
I know that the point you're trying to make is that, sexual promiscuity by men is culturally acceptable (and this standpoint has nothing to do with health consequences). But society matures over the ages. Several cultures have recognized various hypocrisies and developed themselves in the past; and we can do the same. We no longer do savage things like killing twins, for instance.

On a lighter note, I don't know your father in law, so I don't know for sure how he would react. But I can tell you, my father would not call you. He would tell my mother and she would tell me. Our family dynamics is a little different from standard and we worry more about our inner-circle.

You're only taking from an ignorant viewpoint cos you're not your father so you can't be so sure of his decision

The way men handle crisis is different from the way women handle it.. So you think because your father spotted your husband cheating on you and out of his fatherly love, he would sit you down and explain everything to you? Which father does that? Maturity is far from a father that does that

Next time, please argue what you know. Don't let feminism becloud your sense of reasoning

noble2faith:
See finishing! Someone should help me wit a meme

Egbon, the finishing no be here oooo... Mrsphysics really finish the girl ooo

Menzy86:
Women always wanna put themselves on the same pedestal with men when it comes to assessing the DANGERS of promiscuity which is to say the least a sign of grave IGNORANCE (possibly deliberate). Who is at risk of conditions like cervibal cancer, unwanted pregnancu, HIV and all d numerous STI's around? Let's leave the moral aspect out sef in this matter but which sex obviously bears more of the consequences MEDICALLY? I have a live friend who was sleeping with his girlfriend without protection for about two months before discovering she had HIV but is still negative till today after running series of tests spanning 18 months. Meanwhile that gf who is now positive only played "initial away match" with a uniform man 'assistant boyfriend' and found out through d guy when he did medicals in preparation for promotion.
I hav been helpin a 20year old lady by taking her to c a family doctor who discovered she was suffering advanced symptoms of gonorrhea and chlamydia combined which she cld hardly do anything about because NOONE really cared but me, and she is chronically broke (summary of story). According to d doc, if it had gotten to her womb, she would have been staring barrenness in the face. She didn't know she had such until a very foul smelling brownish discharge started flowing from her vagina. Men on the other hand show strong symptoms merely hours after contracting such STI's and can easily save themselves.

Women MUST understand that this 'gender equality' or 'gender balance' issue shouldn't become a suicide induction course. There are just some things that can NEVER be balanced between men n women.

NB: I am NOT a promiscuous man nor a fan of promiscuity. Just a realist!

Bro, I salute your intelligence

slowbreeze:
And what happens to the men who sleep around before marriage....?? Very foolish post from a foolish man..

Hahaha.. Take it easy nah

No man wants to marry a lazy woman these days

I SMH each time I see some ladies come to Nairaland to encourage their fellow ladies to be lazy

NwamaziNwaAro:


Can you see the way that customer is lusting over the female vulcanizer in the second picture



5 words.

I pity this woman's husband

How you take know?

Officialkplus:
I think obj will take this Bae to the oza room...once dey land

Baba can't even go a round