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Sure i can. he can always learn.

Da_archer:
U see now? This is wot happens wen u eat Santana wit red oil not soup, It's people like u dat makes NL boring, This guy can't even spell, or speak well,

Dem don use laugh kill me for here ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

thanks for replying me, it appears yours works for you and most importantly you dont feel pressured nor do you see it as a burden besides your gf does not demand it. your case appears to be an open and closed one. whatever floats your boat like they would say

seyenko good ive bin waiting for a man like you that pratises this to ask a few questions?
do u feel obliged to buy her stuffs like that everyother time?
does she work?
have you failed to deliever and how did she react?
do u enjoy what you do and dont see it as a burden?
does it make u feel more of a man that you do the providing, would it make you feel any less a man if she never needed this allowance from time to time. i mean would you have been threatned by that?
finally does she buy you stuff from time to time and also buy you surprise recharge cards as well?

ok dear all the best

[b]so keep moving foward and if it means dragging some ppl with u [/b]then do that even if they are 5 as long as u know ur limits, it might just be what is written on ur book of life u came to play

babe keep dragging nothing do you
i'd never get this reasoning sha, if they are not what you want why drag them along? if they are not it, drop them and keep searching for the right one. what do you now do with a whole 5people. if they are not the one what good can they be doing for you until you find the right one. surely they must be doing something that makes u keep dragging them. pray tell me?

nwaka_80:
[b]For me i believe dat if a guy loves his g/f he wll not be waiting 4 d the girl to be demanding money from him all d time. He shld know that a girl needs cash to put body and soul together[[/b]color=#000099][/color][/color][color=#990000][/color][color=#990000][color=#000099][/color] but not that she will now convert the b/f to an ATM machine.

My dear granted i get your explanation. permit me to ask you a question which you dont have to answer but nevertheless think about. Do you work? if the lady does why does she need his money to put body and soul together?

Tracy121 where do u reside? i have a friend in the states that used to act like that too. she says she is still searching so those guys are simply dates (at times she had two or three)she tried to convince me that its something that obtains in the states and its not cheating by any stretch of imagination. i never really understood her but respected her decision. luckily for her she finally met the person she claims she is serious with now.

poster did u get your facts right abi u meant to say Nigerian men?

lol

i really dont understand what the fuss is about!!!!!! i dont think there's anything wrong if a girl asks for allowance from her man!!!!!! i mean comm'n!!!!!

no! not for being his girlfriend! but for taking care of her needs!!!!!! wats wrong with that?


this is what i was referring to earlier on.   To the average Nigerian girl this is the norm. very sad

The answer to this question is an emphatic ''NO''
ive always been of the opinion that decent, independent, well brought up ladies dont demand for money in a relationship (and i have maintained this opinion in a thread or two here)
he is your boyfriend not your husband nor father
he gives when he has or wants you do the same, thats what love is all about
the idea that he has to give you something every week, month because its the norm is just sickening
the bitter truth is that sugarbelle's view is one widely accepted and pratised in Nigeria today
go to the universities and see what i mean, most of us in Nigeria know this is what happens
the society's thinking is sick
girls expect it comes with the package in a relationship
some men who know no better play to that tune even before the word go (thats why when they go abroad and start to act like that for oyibo, oyibo dont understand and get offended)
most of them are caught up in a mess that snow balls into one huge disaster
i am suprised she is the only one that stood on that path and got all the bashing
i believe ive seen threads tending towards this line that people supported the not so popular view this time around
we as a society need reorientation from this this what do i call it
show of shame

na2day?:
u bi fish?


u sabi spoil gist eh!

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i think people may see her as being desperate because they dont understand her reasoning and where she is coming from. i still think she needs to relax on the meeting his parents thing. if she goes to visit him and meets them. perfect at least then he'd have to say something.On the other hand, i dont see anything wrong in the boy stopping by to greet her parents knowing how it means to her family. this matter is so simple

i think you need to take a chill pill poster. its just three months. when we talk about meeting and introducing someone to the parents its like saying ''hey this is the girl, this is the one'' you may not see it like that but that does not change how he would view issues like that. give him some time if you happen to visit him again and meet his parents he is likely to say something out of courtesy i guess but just taking you to them and doing the introduction thing might be a bit too much for him right now. that being said i dont understand why he has not just gone ahead to say hello to your parents since to you its not a big deal and its expected in your family. i think he is not willing to get too much into family matter for now. just enjoy the relationship the way it is. if you get too pushy bout this family thing you will scare him
i hope youre not a play thing to him sha

platinumnk:
any small thing he would throw a hissy fit and say im insulting him when if I told anybody the same thing they wouldn't be offended. my dear she is stressed out, take it from me and to me u show aloofness because she is AM citizen.

that could be a very good reason too, to suddenly burst out and not even realize your being insultive or less patient. the nursing profession is a very demanding one but to consistently act that way should raise alarm bells for any sane person. i am of the opinion that since poster said she was never like this, she can work her way out of the mess too. its a concious thing. i had to do some corrections like this myself after my bf complained that i was no longer patient with him and lashed out too fast.

A time bomb ticking by waiting to explode thats what that woman is. Sorry to say, on the other hand she may have exposed herself or learnt alot of those oyibo way of life she forgets where she is coming from or who she is dealing with. Sorry all the time will soon tire you. you need to see a real change in her. since you say you have the means maybe you could go over once in a while or she could come over (this is very tough i know)
i'd not rush too fast with plans of marriage with this sort of woman, i wonder how long you can even take what she is dishing. Maybe you should give it a short break let everyone go and think what is good for them and access their attitude. please plan to meet up before saying i do and resolve every doubt you have in your heart before you go ahead, pray too.
finally sometimes a life in America or even the UK is not everyone's destiny. do you want to move there because you are persuaded and totally convinced its the right step in your life? you say you are doing well in Nigeria. not the one u will go der and begin to work your way to the top and start blaming your passport wife. you need to be sure and convinced 100%.
all the best oh
there just may be hope sha u said she has never been this way, if she puts her heart to it, she can drop the insultive behaviour.

i'd b scared too if i were him, she could hurt him

what is ur business with what people are doing on line for the love of God? Are they your sisters or aunty. this is an online forumn if someone chooses to spend all her time here what business of it is yours? mr i must be noticed. you will not allow women be, that is my concern in this matter. everything someone has to bring out a reason why a man's own should be different from that of a woman, the other day it was ''what is a married woman doing on face book''. the presence of some ladies here is like a bone in the throat of some men. do u know these girls? why do u feel the need to always be on their case. you are the one with the issues then. you who feel you have a cyber case/mission to unravel.
you think this one is family meeting where you sit and judge family people. these people are strangers to you, this is an online forumn, if they have a job or not is not your business.

post pone the wedding just like that when the bride to be is talking aso ebi and all that stuff is it at that stage you want to back out just because someone is putting her all in preparation of an important day that will cause her to spend the rest of her life with you. she is definitely not going about it in the right way, but postponement or breaking off is not the right thing either, if uve spoken to her about it and she has not changed as such let it go by now you should be cork sure of what you have gotten yourself into.its definitely the pressure on the girl nothing more

how have u been coping since 2006?

m so used to seeing half naked girls nothing shocks me any more. summer even made it worse. i think i can take anything most times i just throw my face away no matter how bad i think it looks. oh well m a chick so maybe its alot more easier for me
plus i think its beginning to influence me abit too. oh well who cares here

i will so mind my business. well m a girl so mayb
But 'd be nice enuf to tell her if her zip is down, a button is undone (maybe the middle of her blouse if its at the top she probably did it herself)and u can see her boobs or if she is stained. lol