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i am just surprised this is too good to be true first palmwine FM now a thread that is all about what i loveeeeeeeeeeeeee.
i should pay more attention to the music section of nairaland starting from today

A big shout out to you for a job well done

Wow wow where have i bin answers to my prayers wait oh today na thursday. groovy

Splendid

ive always made my point clear and i think a guy should give himself a timelimit when dealing with a naija chick. if she keeps saying no for months undending please let her be, i know a friend that keeps asking this chick out she keeps saying no but wants to hang out with him as per normal friend, the guy works himself up for nothing ''maybe she will say yes this weekend'' nothing ever comes out of it. He leaves her for a while, weeks later she calls to say hi, they meet up and the old circle continues. Thats plain nonsense to me

My policy is simple you like the bros let the ball roll, you cant make up your mind easily or youre thinking dont let it drag on for too long. i think its immature girls that play those games sha.

sylvao2000:
Abroad, Abroad, what do people see in this Abroad you better encourage him to finish his study in 9ja ok.

i agree so we know its masters or brushing up course in another area not back to square one. 300level he has come that far just a year to go

I laugh. thats the way the cookie crumbles

m learning
Chair cover what of musicals and ''some'' films/ home videos? do u watch them at home what is your opinion on those crazy musicals and allowing kids watch some sort of films. i ask cos though m not married yet i enjoy those musicals but i wont want my kids say 2-8 watching almost naked women but even if one is not watching those things are constantly on your tv. (m talking more from the nigerian point of view)

Pay who. i will hit his head with a saucepan after giving him a tongue lash (joking)
but seriously no one is is cheating nor am i paying.lol

omoyahoo:
@ gen2genuis
the expected duration of the programme is 4yrs.
He said going abroad has been his dream since childhood.
He said he can't leave me alone.

If it is his dream, let him go. Encourage him, what will be will be. If he is truly yours he will come back to you. i have seen people that went abroad and stayed true to their love at home i have seen and heard of others who could not cope. you said he is in 300level the least he will spend in any university in Nigeria is four years , he will do NYSC and if he gets a good job immediately or goes into business the better. Either way some how some how you guys will wait abit before the marriage i guess. So what are you afraid of? He cant leave you, if he goes for youth service tomorrow will you follow him to camp? Encourage him, believe in his dream, play your part, build your life too, if he is yours i say he will come back for you or you to him.

willyspace:
We planned a wedding, but my girlfriend whom I have loved sincerely for eight years suddenly tells me on phone, she had a dream that I have been visiting sorcerers, that I used juju to woo and keep her. Saying now her eyes have opened and the spell have left her. Her 2 lines have been off for a week now and her neighbours say she hurriedly packed some stuff into a bag and dissappeared. Nobody seems to know her whereabouts. I suspect two things, (1) she has found a new love and absconds. [b](2) There is this antecedent in their family, their women don't marry early (she's 29 and just graduated), I know she's been struggling to free herself from perceived spiritual husbands which she once told me runs in the family.(I am not scared about those stuff sha). it could be a spiritual attack.[/b]Right now, am confused because I have never visited a spiritual church, on her behalf or ever dreamed of using spell on a single woman when there are millions looking for such opportunities.

What sort of lady has issues like this? you urself nor tire?

ammamat:
The whole thing happen two days ago, i tried as i could to get back my stuff, but he still telling me that he want me to do just one thing so that he would show me who he is,
I know i jealouse a lot, but with understanding we can talk things out but my guy is always setting trap for me, doing what he knows i don't like and probably those things will hurt me most

What is the thing he is telling you to do for him? is it to beg or what.
My dear where are you located? Naija or abroad. if na naija just play along with him nicely until you get your stuffs back (hopefully it works for you) if na abroad you should have gone to the police long ago. Your international passport, ATM i beg oh

This is a very tough issue and sad for women who are played. i have read idocare's story and feel bad but this is nothing new. Browse through family and romance section on nairaland you go read tire. Even as we speak people are into it not just in America but Europe, people will continue in it, it just depends on how it is played will you be honest and let the woman know its for the green card or play on her emotions
i have heard so many stories i am tired of hearing sef, sometimes it ends up well the men grow to love them and stick with these women(but most times its never the case) , some never have the mind to divorce but remain trapped continue in a loveless marriage maybe even with children(a while ago my uncle was asking my mother to help him find a nigerian wife he is tired of the arranged marriage that has lasted over 8years years now, i told my mum get your hands out of that shit)
See what i am talking about very sad i wish everyone well people will continue to be used sad as this may be

sistawoman:
I made it thru just fine.

answered alot of questions and brought up more.

Recouping slowly and returned to work yesterday.

Good to know

i read this post when it just started and laughed look how far it has come i wish u guys the best sounds sincere who knows. fingers crossed

@sistawoman
[b]Wen i was younger where I grew u r told men are useless and cheats and WILL ALWAYS CHEAT ON YOU IN ANY FORM so ur job is provide 4 ur kids,prepare his meal and lay on his bed [/b]d day u feel like so d issue is we cant erase wat the older generation mothers have done just pray God gives us non-CHEATING husbands cos its an epidermic everywere u turn its in ur face and train our kids 2 be better and 4 our girl children not 2 take crap from anybody and 4 the boys 2 have a conscience

i laugh i laugh things like this makes me laugh. i will not marry a man who has eyes outside God nor go let me see and i will do everything in my power to keep a good home and make him happy (same goes for him). i will accept nothing less if i dont cheat he should not.
I have grown up and seen alot of nonsense (a woman wastes her entire life with a useless man and unhappy marriage. What a life to live)and there is a limit to what i will take. Turn a blind eye to a cheating man, place condoms in his bag so he cheats with sense, keep shut cos at least he is providing money and taking care of things.God forbid, let me be single then and be happy. i always tell myself there is one life to live and everyone deserves to be happy. i could never accept a marriage like that and be happy. i dont deserve it and by God i will teach my daughters not to accept less from any man.

This is preposterous!!!

Cut this woman some slack, will ya?
A lot of Niaja women don't even know what their vaginas look like until they hit 25 because they just couldn't be bovvered.
This woman could be spewing the truth and i don't think fingering counts.
As long as she's yet to have a full sexual intercourse, my church mind says SHE IS A VIRGIN.
The OP should do nothing and let things PLAY OUT

i was reading the thread and becoming worried that poster's mind would be poisned until i saw your response. God bless you there is still hope if a man can reason like this.
Poster read this man post again and let your mind be at rest

nethacker:
There is this argument going on in my office abt ladies/women.I said:

1)No matter how happily a woman may be married, it always pleases her to discover
that there is a nice man who wishes that she were not.

2)Women are wiser than men because they know less and understand more.

3) Every woman is wrong until she cries, and then she is right, instantly

Opinion pls

The guys argued but i want ladies opinion

1)i'd rephrase it to ''that there is a nice man who still fancies her and thinks she is hot with her kids and all''
i'd like that
2) Nonsense its cos they know more and understand even better
3) Wrong too

Wow lol

When i hear and see things like this and some peeps at home keep telling me dont come back home, dont bother i get so worried. Why is my country like this? He will now apologize and still remain in power and not resign with dignity. chei
This is so shameful the pictures were the icing on the cake. Nigeria

:oChei na true oh!, see as i dey shake.
Before i check my own, i will do 1 week fasting and prayer plus i will meet my pastor to pray seriously for me. Because no be me and Nigeria go die together GOD forbid. Nigeria leave me alone oh!, eheh. Give me my freedom release me make i go, make you go catch another person tie him luck down.

person wan kolo ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.lol lol lol

LadyT:
I cannt believe the people who are saing ti was not that bad went to the NIGERIAN EMBASSY IN LONDON!!!!!!!!!

That place is a hell hole!

Theres one old lady there behind the counter Lawd have mercy she is MAD!!!!!!!!

She screams at people randomly "what are you doing at the counter? Who called you GO AND SIT DOWN!" "MOVE AWAY FROM THE WINDOW"

If you are stuck at the back when she calls your number and take too long to get to the window Jesus you will see hell that day. Example

Crazy embassy lady: "Number 67, number 67 ok number 68 number 68"
Number 67 is running to the front
Crazy embassy lady "where were you when we were calling your number? Eh? Where were you? Did you not hear your number? You have missed your turn!"
Number 67 starts shouting like a madman


I hate that place

i laughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ohhhhhhhhhhhhhh when i read this post i nor fit laugh again. i have never been there but ive heard nothing but negative talk about it and this thread has confirmed it further. hopefully it gets better if i ever have to go there.

hi sisterwoman i hope you are recuperating fine? Drop a note when you feel like it so say ure indeed better.

This happens alot just look beyond it. it may affect the relationship just a little bit but if youre both matured you'd move beyond it.

OneNaija:
No Way to Quit Nairaland. I enjoy it here even While Working. it just my eye is open to check Profiles of Beautiful girl here and they even send me Email.

y u nor do all this one finish b4 u marry?

yes i can and would again uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh thinking of it sef shivers down my spine

timmy7:
This one that is already relishing d prospect of travelling to dublin na him una dey advise

Nor be lie thats the thing propelling him and if he makes his decision on that solely he will be a miserable man. Those are the kind of people that will later turn around when things are tough or not going the way he wants in the Europe and say something like ''na you bring me come here i be dey enjoy my Nigeria, u brought me here and have ruined my life''

I only got one thing to tell you i use God to beg you if you know u'd never be comfortable with those children and love them like they were your own please refuse that woman, if not over time the excitement of being married to a citizen and living legally in Europe will wear off. Nothing will please you again and you will begin to look outside.
I understand your fears like a typical Nigerian man has. A woman with no ''baggage'' a woman he can say is his through and through with no issue of ex or step children (unless he has some himself or has been married previously)some can take it, if you cant let it go.

Uhmn food for thought thank u Mr love u have touched an issue dear to my heart let our women be educated.