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The matter has come to a tidy conclusion
this man has gotten what he wanted in the first place
i wonder why he married her when he already got the papers maybe he felt he owed her something in return
i wish to God he would come out straight with you and say what's on his mind
to end the misery currently being suffered so you may move on with your life and meet someone more deserving
i can only imagine
i believe in the sanctity of marriage and making marriage work
but to continue in a loveless marriage where the man's intention were perhaps never right is pure tortue
i only got one life to live and it deserves to be spent happily

No matter the decision you make resolve your issues with him first, dont cheat on him(I'd never support adultery)

liz benson, Regina, uche osutule, Ameze(cry cry i  loved her)Dolly oh dear
and ohhhhhhhhhhhhh how could i forget Domitilla.

I've alwz disliked virgins jst for the simple reason that they seem to alwz carry their virginity as a precious stone 'you can never find no where'!

Well its precious and rare isint it? you said everything is going on well.Is she well behaved and all?  Wots ur problem all i can say is ''u lucky son of a %$#& but then you dont seem to send

Well, Berit, from your latest information, I think there might be another angle to the the strory.[b] Could this man have used you to get some special privileges that wouldn't have accrued to him, if he was not married to a German? [/b]Do you suspect any such thing?

God bless you

uhmnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn
good thing ure just 27, still young, let him continue to be involved with his child but DONT ACT LIKE YOU NEED HIM OR U'RE STILL AT A STAND STILL WITH YOUR LIFE
but you need to get on with yours. all the best

thats y as a Nigerian musician one should begin to diversify trynna do something else during your hay days
cos they young guys keep coming and with a society has not yet broken the hold of piracy
der will be tough days if they are good they'd come back strong

If they are washed why would there be skid marks? damnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

Why not ask her about it. before and after then has she been acting well, teating you fine and all that. She could have just forgotten (that would be strange though cos its guys that usually miss things like this but lets give her the benefit of doubt)
My boyfriend once forgot my birthday and it was so so painful. he called during the day and was chatting like no man's business oblivious it was my birthday even though we discussed it days back can you imagine?
Thats why you should ask her give her the benefit of doubt then watch for any tell tale signs when u begin to see them u know what to do next!

Has your husband always been this way even before marriage. how could he have suddenly changed? Are you both Germans? i am asking because if he is another national he may want to spend more time with his guys from his place and all that sort of thing.(although this is no excuse) From your story it would appear he is almost avoiding you

his work isnt takin so much time, most of the time hes workin in the afternoon til night, but im always stayin awake until hs comin back, even when its 12 or 1am, and then his food is ready, and im talkin to him, so, and instead of stayin in the mornin at home, hes alwys findin anything else doin,
the sex life*lol* theres no sex life for long time, im tryin so many things to make him to feel makin love but, no, then when hes around in the evenin, and we could have time together and im showin him waht i want, he stop and tell me "sorry i gotta go out and make a call", or"sorry i gotta check somethin in my car" and all those things will take up to 2-3hours, in between im callin him to ask what hes doin and that im alone here, but hes tellin me "i almost finish, i can go to bed if i want",

that sounds like someone trying to avoid you dear. m so sorry is it not possible to find out why he is acting this way. there could lie the answer to this problem. Dont cheat , please dont give him reason to turn it all on you when the problems start and trust me, once you start cheating the problem will multiply. try to solve this one first. Whats his relationship with the kids like?

No one ever said marriage is easy. you face your challenges head on and work on it not forgetting prayers. cheating will never make anything right for you and you got kids too girllllllllllllll. look make dem nor catch you oh

With all this my plenty school. chei i will eternally be disappointed in myself
by the way i dont think women who decide to be full time house wives are any less real

Anamelechi:
I thank you all for your reply. i I am now comfortable giving it to my husband any how he will want it.

hurrayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy!

Not funny had to put off my system in a hurry(yes not log out just press the off button) plus the scare it could have bin a virus or something
inquisitive me

lol lol lol lol lol lol lol this is so so so funny
did u ever notice anything strange about her?
i say so because its difficult to be with a witch (i mean witch in the African context) and never know or suspect
talking about still wanting to marry her are u serious

Even if I am to continue the relationship, I am sure there won't be an iota of jealousy anymore, I won't be worried she's late home and I won't care about almost anything that has to do with her relationship with men, I won't ask questions and I won't show any signs of being hurt, in fact I won't be hurt

If that is the case what is the need for the relationship?

I fill guilty each time we have sex because my mind is telling me that it is wrong

its ur mind u have 2 work on nothing any1 tells u here wil make any difference

Are we really ready for these women because most of you want to have them needy and clingy so you can put them in your pocket. Tomorrow these same men will say these women are virus downloading my this and that

By the way i will always support a good, independent and humble woman.

Nautillus:
Dude,

Go see her later today when you have the time and appologise for hurting her. . .but let her understand the "being exited abt another dude. . .ain't just right" ok . .and insist that SHE shouldn't see him again. . . .(though you might not be able to control that 100% sha)

If she insist on holding the small dispute between you guyz. . .then there is more to her reaction than meets the eye,

i agree but the bolded part i kinda take a back seat there. he should not be to quick to apologise (unless in the course of the argument he used foul words on her ), instead explain why he is taking the stand he has taken. how normally she is not all so excited and all that and how this case is different and finally how its unacceptable to see mr singapore again. jesus, Mr disturbed u have to be stern and make ur points clear on this one oh.

This is simply amazing

the removed cloth will be seen on the floor near the bed

Maybe you pull it off without knowing. if youre so worried and probably think its spiritual speak to your pastor or a trusted chrisitian whom u respect. pray too

Micheline89 you should never have honoured him by creating a whole thread that is what he thrives on. Do you see the way Desire and some others reply (or totally ignore him), such reply rattles him the more. if he knows you are pissed by what he writes, you fire him on. You give him reason to keep hitting at you cos he is sure he is having the desired effect . (a hint)

I love a woman with a measure of Independence, a healthy dose of it. i don't know how people think oh. if i go and see a man or anyone for that matter, i take my cash. A working class lady (for that matter) comes to see you and asks for transport fare on her way out. A man who is not even your boyfriend where is your pride?
For Christ's sake 50naira our way of thinking has just turned into something else. This is the mentality of the average Nigerian girl these days. Money for recharge card, money for relaxer, weavon, to fix my hair, do my nails. A student like you. Dont get me wrong i don't like stingy men too cant stand em, i love the ones who use their initiative once in a while but its not a right to feed off a man that way. that's why you start reading things like ''Nigerian women are virus, they will suck you dry'' etc etc
guess i'm an exception to the general rule

Oh for christ sake maybe it gets so hot at night and he just takes off his shirt without even knowing. it happens people do crazy things when they sleep. e. g you call and ask questions and they say nonsense the next day you tell em and they swear its not them. all that sort of stuff
by d way when you wake up where do you find your shirt? Is it close by on the bed or the floor or far off like say on a hanger in your wardrobe? (Now thats when i'd get really worried )