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[quote author=WAM?]It behooves me as to how your thinking could be so myopic. I bet you would claim to be speaking the so called truth. My dear in life no matter how careful you are, no matter how obedient you are to the rules, no matter how much you think you have everything on lock down- things can always go the opposite direction.[/quote]nobody is saying life does not throw curveballs.

Some people in life are honest others dont give a crap. The most important thing is doing the right thing and believeing that all would work out for your good.

no one is arguing with this either.

The fact that a lady ends up with all 3 dog men' doesnt necessarily' mean she's a dog attractor. There is a great chance of me running into 3 sales people in a market who would try to rip me off before meeting a honest sales person- that doesn't make me the problem customer.

if a lady keeps attracting men who she says are the wrong type for her, then she needs to look inwards and figure out exactly why she's attracting these men.

if this has happened not once, twice, but three times and she still says the fault is 100% with the males, then it only means she's avoiding looking at the real issue. And she hasnt told the whole story, only one side of it.

if you keep running into sales people who are trying to rip you off in the market, then surely that means word has gotten out that you're an easy target? If you notice something like that then you're supposed to find ways to protect yourself from being ripped off, eg stop trusting people easily or stop allowing people to take advantage of you?

Please think outside the box and be more empathetic .

as far as i can see on this thread, empathy is what people have offered her.

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Beync: It takes the fear of God and true love you have for ur spouse to remain faithful to you partner
most men you see who flirts around with dirty ugly girls are married to beautiful sexy women

true that

parki: By design, a man was created to cheat.

seriously, if i were a man, i'd find statements like these so offensive?

maybe i dont get such things because i'm weird sha.

devour129: I remember one story my aunt told us about her hubby,she is also of the school of tot to dress sexy and smell like Chanel for her hubby all the time.she did this for months after her marriage ,they had there routine "sex" and there was never any wow moment . One day she went to d salon and finished late ,she got home started making bitter leaf soup in her kaftan and finished late so both her and d house was smelling of OGIRI ,for d first time,she wasn't able to take her bath and air the house before her hubby came back but she said that was the first day her hubby bleeped her like she wanted it.NOTE :she was wearing an un sexy kaftan,she was naked under her kaftan,she was smelling of Ogiri and bitter leaf n that turned d guy on so bad.the point is learn who you live with ,everyone have there own story and how they react to things . If you want to follow these rules please do but don't see it as the only way to stop fidelity. Just do your best,do unto others what you would like them to do to u and be happy !!!!! If you always find the good side of everything and smile,believe you are going to have a happy marriage.

smelling of ogiri and bitter leaf, lmao

una too much abeg, see story, lol

that's like me assuming you're a northerner because your user id says GenBuhari.

Youthful exuberance

Talk about what?

No, why do you ask?

why do people keep saying it wasnt taught in schools?

i'm sure thats not a correct assumption.

didnt read the thread, what is this about now?

hmm, never heard of it but i guess,

what determines the hijab style?

i mean how do you decide the type and extent of covering, just curious.

i'm curious- what determines what type of hijab to wear, seeing there are so many different styles.

how or why do you choose a particular one- is it based on your mentor's preference, individual culture, or peer suggestion.

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It is not uncommon to find couples who genuinely love each other getting caught up in a web of deceit and infidelity.

true that.

seems drug labs are increasingly being set up in lagos- it was in the news sometime ago.

peace is a mirage.

there are people who dont know where their next meal is coming from- spare a thought for them.

first time i'm ever seeing tbaba make a non-religion related post, wow.

is this tbaba from muslim section?

Queendo: I THOT DT WORD 'PEACEFUL' HAS SINCE BEEN DELETED FRM NIGERIA.

it has.

nowhere is peaceful.

what's a south african american?

occam: Culturally, philosophically he's more Nigerian. I bet he'e eaten more rice and stew than potato in his life. Black British is not an identity but a bland phrase created for political correctness. Even white people self identify themselves as English, Scottish or Irish not British

Besides he most heard, several times form his parents that England is not Home; that Nigeria is home

i havent seen any evidence he's nigerian or yoruba for that matter.

having a yoruba or nigerian name doesnt make someone yoruba or nigerian.

so, he and his friend are black british insofar they were born and raised there.

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highlife10: @ tpia
What do mean by most guys not under the influence of juju can sense when they are being used? I have been working since I was 16 and do not ask anyone not even my own parents for financial support. And why would a man between the ages of 34 and 40 still be looking for a good time? I dated them because I thought they were mature men who had their act together.

Used in a non-financial sense. I wasnt talking about money.

I didnt want to ask how old you are, but i already guessed a general range. And there must be more guys than these three you mentioned, i'm also guessing.

As per the rest of your post, a man of any age can be looking for a "good time" - having a "good time" isnt age specific.

Its quite possible you"re playing too smart with men, sometimes they can sense it if they're still with their natural non-juju thinking faculty.

Anyway, the main issue here is you may need to evaluate your criteria for choosing men.

ejiykzazi2007: Majid is d youngest in his family. He doesnt hv a younger broda...

Hmmm, interesting point.

Op or whoever, over to you.

highlife10: @ 25omega
I am usually attracted to the intellectual type. The so called safe guys because I think they will treat me better than the bad boys.

Being an "intellectual" type is no guarantee a male will be a "safe " guy ( whatever that means).


As per your last sentence, most guys who are not under the influence of juju, might be able to sense when they are being used as a means to an end, not to mention they could also be in the relationship for the same reason as you? Ie scouting for someone to give them a good time, not necessarily someone they are serious about.

occam: He's a Nigerian. Period. whether born in England or Timbuktu

He's british, his parents are nigerian.

He could also be referred to as black british.

Why dont you get your family and friends involved, tell them you're looking for someone, most times they can do the vetting for you.

And yes, seems you're attracted to a particular kind of guy, you should re-evaluate yourself and what you look for in a man.

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Which one is he, the one with the beard or the one giving interviews on camera.