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Nlelder just imagine what things have spiralled into.
People who don't fear GOD now want you to divorce your wife or get even more deeply involved in aldutery by starting with a new girl with the excuse of forgetting the old.

Why didn't your Familty relocate with you instead of the occassional 2 weeks visit?
Who says that all that 6 years, your wife couldn't have gotten a new job?

I read where you said you would not wish a long distance marriage on your enemy, so why did you wish it on yourself or rather, let it happen to you?
If you really wanted your family together, it could have happened.

Bassmetrics:
Op even if this ur story runs into 3pages i will read all with keen interest cos I had a similar experience. I am a kind of cool headed guy who never even had a girl friend till I graduated from the Uni. I was more focused on my studies back then. In my case, she(d lady in qsn) was pushed into marriage to a guy she felt could take better care of her financially as at then. I annoyingly got married to another lady, and we lost touch. Few years later, she realised her mistakes. she called, apologized for hurting me, I forgave her but there was no way we can be together again. Now married but She is not really happy in her marriage so I am.She has confessed this to me many times. We were both putting up with our spouses. There is this undying inner love between us which we have been fighting to subdue but.... currently we live in different cities, each time I visit d state where she stays with her husband for biz, she wil be trying to fix an appointment, but I will keep on giving her flimsy excuses cos I know it may end up in sex. We may not be strong to hold our bodies. Its not about lust, i have a genuine feeling for her, its just that we are both married.

I have warned her on several occasions to face her marriage while I face mine. But one way or the other we will still end up talking to each other. The truth is that I feel more happy talking to her than even my wife. I love her far more than I love my wife; it is exactly same with her, but its rather late. I have lived with this emotional torture for over six years now. She is my dream lady and am like her dream man whose peer pressure took from her.She wants me and I want her but it cant happen and I am left no option but move on less it ends in shameless adultery.

So Op, no matter how hard it seems, let it be, move on or it may cost you ur marriage !!!

Round of applause

GOD bless you for honoring your marriage bed.
May GOD ignite that spark in your marriage to make you happy and totally fulfilled with your wife so much so that no one else compares ever again.

This is what we are talking about, marriage means responsibility.

NLelder
Getting over someone is like getting over an addiction.
There is no easy way out other than to do it the hard way and the uncomfortable way;
-delete all your chats,
-unfollow and block on social media
-block all incoming calls of the person, SMS
Delete and block.

When your thoughts starts to trail towards the person, switch it to the person's bad behaviour.

STOP STALKING HER and them.
STOP IT.
STOP yourself from doing it.

Ask GOD For help.

Like someone said, you are lucky she did not decide to go away from the relationship with a "souvenir", your baby. She could have done it.

Your wife can still be pleased by you, like someone else pointed out. You just need to take responsibility for that and like someone else asked, didn't you know she had fgm?
If that is the only cross you are carrying concerning your wife, you are also blessed but donot realise it.

Too bad you stayed faithful for 4 years and got to throw that away. You should have yanked your wife over to stay with you.

Like some others have pointed out, do not accept your this your Ex in the future if she is foolish enough to start "missing you".
Prepare your response now.
When that time comes, tell her that you fear GOD now and since HE forgave you the first time, you wouldn't want to hurt HIM again that way.
Do not also take her fiance /husband for granted. Some men with anger issues can kill a trespasser. But na jail go get am Las Las.

I really enjoyed your long write up, thanks for not summarizing.
You really didn't need to go explicit though. It ruins a good write up.
When writers mention, "in summary" or "let me not bore you with long story but summarize", e dey be like say make I vex for them.

Astoria:
Go back where? ? ?

Lol, na so me sef shock.

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

There's this particular saying that goes this way, " Person wey go pay you no go stress you" Try understand wetin I dey talk you go know your next move...

As for your cousin try know wetin him dey do first before you go use humility kill yourself, Some humility dey kill pass sapa my brother.

That wan no be humility o. Na humiliation.
Dem no mean the same thing at all

MrOjay1
I just dey feel for you here.
It is well.
I wish I get excess money, I for give you.

I don't think you should go to him.
No good person humiliates another to their face like that. Chai!
If he wanted to help, he would have since helped.
It looks to me like he is testing the waters with you. What if he suggests you join their cult or become h*m*s*xual, will you do it out of desperation?
You soul is worth more than a billion trillion, don't sell it.
I am just saying be careful with that guy.
What he did was disgusting.
If you go back, he may humiliate you more and still not lift a finger to help you, Only GOD knows.

Let's look at it this way, if he wasn't available, if he wasnt in the picture, if he didn't have the means, how would you have solved the issue?

GOD is calling you to resourcefulness. You can do it.
If that your cousin refuses to help you, GOD will help you.
GOD HIMSELF makes a way for you right now where there is no way.

You can engage your brain, with GOD's help, after praying to GOD, and the solution to your challenge will be so clear before your eyes without you humiliating your self before a another human calling it humility.


Jeremiah 17:5
This is what the Lord says:
“Cursed are those who put their trust in mere humans,
who rely on human strength
and turn their hearts away from the Lord.

7 “But blessed are those who trust in the Lord
and have made the Lord their hope and confidence.

What is the challenge you are facing? You should mention it in your main post.
Your helper (may or may not be in monetary terms) may be reading this thread.
Some of us may have faced similar challenges and solutions to share with you.

TheDemola:
Thank you for opening my eyes.

I am sorry Lord.
All the glory and adoration to You alone, Lord.

Thank you very much Sir.
GOD bless you immensely. Amen.

jaksmillioniar:
u Neva still see a guy to married u

Leave this gal naa, lol.

Munzy14:
One has to be very intelligent and confident before coming on social media..

If not, they will get swayed with deceit...Too many negativity here and there...

A lot of couples are happily married ...Facing their ups and down times together without stressing it.

Those who couldn't will always want allies..So they go on projecting their failure in the minds of gullible persons.

My parents have been married for 3decades plus..And anyday you see them, it as if they are just few years into it..

And they pride that no third party has come to meddle in their affair..

I can't come out from such family without being well groomed in the family ways...Anyone projecting negativity of marriage on me is wasting time..Even though I know we live in perilous times..

At the mature times, I wil do the needful and obtain my favour from the Lord and more grace/blessings.

At your last line, I say amen for you.
Dem no dey too look well bro, carry GOD along when searching for her. HE never fails to give the best to all who ask HIM.
As you come from better home so, make GOD help you marry ONLY better wife. Communication goes a long way. Amin.

kingsceedon:
Deborah, we must surely avenge your death here in South East against those dirty smelly fulanis, but I pity those Yoruba Muslim miscreants terrorists, them no belong anywhere, the south no need them, and the dirty fulanis terrorists no accept them

You are definitely Fulani.

Favaman:
If you get mind, come meet me one on one for Benin...

I go drop location for you!!!

I swear to God who made me if I no send your lifeless body back to your village, call me bastard..

Everybody no be Deborah.. No body has the monopoly of violence..

Relax.
You have got the enemy confused in their coven by sharing this thread that has resulted to praise to GOD.
What they meant for evil, GOD has turned into praise to HIS name.

Relax.
That guy cannot get you spiritually that is why GOD has caused him to show himself to you physically.

Na praise to GOD you for type give that guy.

Laugh bro.

generalwo:
This pastor... Even if e dey do jazz... I sure say God go bless am and allow am enter heaven.... Because other men of God are busy buying fine shoes and building schools that the children of their congregation can't afford to attend....

The only criteria for entering Heaven is to be washed clean by The Blood of JESUS. Na the ONLY asoebi be that.

TheDemola:
Deborah paid the price

IkeIgboNile:
Why must you die to enjoy in Nigeria. Wonderful development.

Urheadmaster:
She died to give her family a better life

tegrianonigltd:
She paid a sacred price, life no really get manual, na mixed feelings e go be for them, but the idea of losing a grown up child will still hurt no matter, the mama go dey cry steadily

Heavensent01:
may we not have a destiny that will cut our life shot to uplift others

this scenario is spiritual and predestined, may God change all bad destinies and turn them to good for our favour Amen

Flappy222:
this is it!

zoomman:
More like when Jesus died for us to live.

Aganju849:
Okay why you no go kill your own pikin, whether 'grace' go from there locate you

YoungBlackRico:
What a price to pay

CaptMarvel:
No Blood
No Glory!

Makes me remember that slogan in Abbatior Mount Zion Movie!

May her gentle soul rest in Glory!

Electrochemistry:
She lived to die for her parents' upliftment. Indeed there is nothing that God cannot do.

viyon02:
What a huge sacrifice from Deborah, her death brought success to the family. It can only happen in Nigeria, just like blood money.

Nbotee:
Her death had already been destined to uplift her family

scally11:
Right now, i am going to my community central mosque. I must abuse nonsense and bastard from ****hammed. Maybe i go see person give me flat too

Johel:
Probably.

Harmattan123:
May you die to lift your family up in Jesus name

Neoteny7:
Good.

Coach your other kids to be blasphemous, and next stop: mega mansion.

bonnyhope:
Synonymous to Jesus s death

smile14:
So person must die for this country before help comes abi..happy for dem same time the way that innocent girl left this earth is hurting.

She did not PAY the price to give her family a better life because she didn't envisage the death and the aftermath in the first place.

She did not offer to die to alleviate her family from poverty.
She did not want to die but live and graduate from school, get a job, help her siblings and have her own kids etc
She did not even know she was going to die speak less of "paying" for her family.

GOD simply turned a bad situation around to good.

IT IS GOD WHO DID IT.
HE choose to wipe their tears this way.
Not Deborah!
GOD can also decide not to do it this way.

Is Deborah the only person that has been killed in Nigeria for religious reasons?

Please let's learn to give honour to WHOM it is due and this time, that honour is due to GOD.
Thank YOU GOD for turning Deborah's family's mourning into dancing. Thank YOU GOD for making it work out altogether for their good in JESUS name, amen.


JESUS CHRIST alone, forever, has paid the supreme sacrifice for our Blessings , Salvation and Eternal Life with HIS own blood. And that sacrifice has been judged by GOD to be enough.
No other sacrifice is needed.


What we need now after this is justice for Deborah.
Her death was gruesome, the killers need to face justice. You can lend your voice and posts to that.

Lordave:
490 guests?

When I modified my comment the thread had about 1,800 guests viewing.

You are right.
By the time I made up my mind to screenshot, the viewers had considerably reduced.

Munzy14:
Too many good marriages out there....

You only read more of negative ones here.

Congrats man

Same thing I tell people.

I tell them to stand in their street and count the houses by Families; which ones are married for years and which ones are divorced?

Families were couples have been married for years always outnumbers the divorced.
And this is always true for anybody who Carries out this exercise.

If you can't do this exercise with your street, try with your work place; how many are married for at least 5 years and how many are divorced?

But some how the media has deceived a lot of people to thinking divorce rates are more than staying-married rates.
Lies!

Lordave:
I think Obi massively underrated himself with this move, the number of viewers on this thread alone is enough evidence on his popularity.

I think you may be right here.
I took a screenshot of the thread viewers for keepsakes

seunmsg:
Glad he got the memo early enough to avoid the disastrous embarrassment he would have gotten at the convention. Obi is a far more sensible and realistic person than his senseless supporters who have been abusing and threatening those who told them the truth about how things will play out at the PDP primary.

1) What memo? Abeg gist me.
2) How will things play out? Abeg point me to the post or thread make I read the gist

OgaTheTop2:
Nothing can ever be beautifully made except by our creator.. We go carry our hands destroy God's beauty in our life

It is also selfishness and the lack of fear of GOD.
"Me, Me, Me" syndrome.
Hacking a baby to death just so you don't feel shame??

Babies in the womb are babies and do feel. They do react in pain to the knife or whatever instruments it is they are being slaughtered with.

Fetuses are not just fetuses, they are human.
Spreading or believing in lies that that are not human beings is devilish.

siofra:
And they still want to split bills with this submissive holy virgin.



They want to have it all and accuse women of same thing.

Small small pikin, all of them.
16 years, 17years etc. who think with their reproductive organ and the emptiness of their pockets. They don't reason that tomorrow is gonna be great for them. They think they'd be poor for ever and already feel seriously pressured over nothing.

Your last line reminds me of a definition I saw on Urban dictionary of what red demon piller is. It read something like, "a set of people who think women have privileges and want those same privileges"
I laugh so tey I wan cry; abi na you write am there?

But some feminist on NL rude too.
Those ones go just dey insult the real innocent men wey dey try dey reasonable. E no good naa. Make them face their brothers red demon pillers them

Redpill1:
I'm being Honest I do only hookups I got no time for relationship man

you never get correct bar.
When you get, your vision of life go change.

That time we go dey hear from you something like, "I remember those days on Narialand when we were young and catching cruise..."

MrDevice:
My rented apartment was burgled last week and this happens to be the first ever since the house was built.

My flat not the first, but they ignored others and start with mine, and they gone away with valuables worth million before they burgled other occupants of the house and left with some valubles too.

So I'm currently planning to move to another safer place. The owner of the house said I should provide new Tennant that he will refund some part of my money.

The agent who's bringing them already knows why I want to leave but he's telling, I'm moving out because or work transfer.

My concern now is that, i don't know the security situation of where I'm going because agents lies too much. Could it be it's going be from frying pan to fire for me. Should I stay back to put our street security in order, or I should move out?

Your friends did it.
All those guys wey you dey pack come your house. Na them.

*You dey cult? Or you dey cult before for school?
If yes, then 100% na your friends do am.

kenzysmith:
Obi own bad gan , wike own mama be like u come here come shout for me

Lool...na you make me sign in, chai

NgoziOkoli:
Mama reaction to obi be like; are you here for development, like your brothers are developing Indonesia, China and India?

Which one is Obi in the pix?

BigDawsNet:
I just think we need someone like Wike

I'm not sure about his economical experience or expertise

But I can assure you this strong man will not tolerate any form of terrorism or banditry in the country

Abeg which one be Wike and Obi for the pictures?

Miraclejunction:
Omo this thread funny die,i don laugh tire
wikelaughing) mama I don come
Mama: you and who day shine teeth

Obi(thinking) this woman no send me o
Mama(thinking) this one follow for people wey day contest

hahahaha...!

Questioner try dey fear GOD small.

You no know say this thing dey Bible and GOD talk day make you no do am?

You do not take out a full human life just so your life can feel "convenient".

A human life life weighs more eternal value than your "convenience" in the sight of GOD who gives life!

Redpill1:
I'm a redpiller because most Nigerian girls are only good for hook up.
Of course I have emotions too

You never talk true.

The ladies didn't as much as gasp speakless of calling out for help?
They need to be charged to Court and fined.

You video a man in distress without even flinching?
May GOD have mercy on parents.

You are beautiful the exact way GOD made you.

You were allowed the right to live.
Stop denying others theirs.

It is not your call to make!

Unknown to these Red demonpillers, they are beng indoctrinated with Narcissistic ideologies.

Compare a red demon piller and a narcissistic, no difference.
They can't feel your pain because they have been brain washed to see your actions and reactions differently.

I repeat, they can't feel the hurt you feel like a normal human being should be able to.They can't understand your emotions.
It is interpreted as something entirely different to their brain.

They are cold!