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Do you know that addiction and self restraint are forms of self discipline? So when you hear the word "self discipline", do not be scared or think it is too difficult for you. As long as you have some things you can't do without, you have an ability to be self disciplined.


But then, do you know why I said that addiction and self restraint are forms of self discipline? It is because both of them require conscious actions before they become automatic actions. The only problem lies in what automatic actions you're configured to.

Since about two years ago, I've been hearing people say either seriously or mockingly "self discipline is his watchword. He likes to be disciplined". Yet, I know that I have a lot to do if I were to get to the status most people normally ascribe to me. I personally know I would have really gone farther than I am had I been self disciplined like many people think.

What I've found out however, is that being self disciplined is not as hard as we make it look. The most important factor is the mindset. If you have a strong mindset, your body has no choice but to fall in line. Meanwhile, it is easy for the body to configure the mind if the mind does not configure the body. A typical example of when your body has configured your mind is when you indulge in things that are harmful to you and you find it difficult to stop.

Let's reverse the case; when your mind configure your body, you'll keep doing things that will hurt your flesh and move you forward but you'll find it hard to stop (this is what we now called "self discipline". Why? Your mind is in charge.

Many people find it difficult to submit to God because they've not given their minds primacy to reflect on their potential losses and gains. What keeps them from coming to God or realigning with their purpose is the same thing that can make one self disciplined and focused.

Let's talk a little bit about addiction. When addiction is about to set in, it comes like illegitimate or legitimate pleasure. The body loves it and wants more of it. You refuse to deny the body and then the mind brings a sense of guilt. But then, the body is getting enriched and wouldn't want you to stop so you continue. Even though you know you're losing out, the body has disciplined your mind to keep quiet. So quitting an addiction will be difficult.

On the other hand, when you introduce something developmental to your body. Your body feels you're bringing a sense of purpose. So at the first instant, you'll love the self discipline. But when you're about to go back to it, the body remembers the pain it endured the last time you disciplined it. So it becomes difficult to go back. This is where you need to strengthen your mind and keep the body quiet. Consistently doing this will give your mind primacy over your body. And guess what, it takes more of a strong mind than a strong body to really make a change in the world (I will come back to this some other time).

So don't think you can't discipline yourself, we have a form of self discipline or another.
When the doctor tells a man he is going to die if he doesn't quit smoking, the man try to quit but find it difficult, it is because his body has disciplined his mind. He knows he will soon die but the body will tell the mind "I don't care, I enjoy the smoke". So the man continues. But when a student is told to read or risk failure and punishment, the body whines that it cannot seat and read for too long, it cannot lose sleep because of reading and the mind say "keep quiet, I don't care". It is still self discipline. It is only being channeled at the right direction. With time, the body will become used to being disciplined and if you stop, the body will protest. So, you can be self disciplined.


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daddytime:
I whole heartedly concur and say " I am a Dolphin" oya say it after me...lol

Lol... That's the spirit. "I am a dolphin".

You have a very nice dream here and animals are really a source of inspiration even to man who call himself the most intellegent. However, you and I can decide to be a dolphin wherever we are. Instead of praising dolphins all the time, let's be good even when people go against us. Let's decide to say "no" to "an eye for an eye". We also have inner instinct to do good but unlike dolphins, it's the opposite we mostly choose.

daddytime:
Very cute and lovely animal, so sad they won't have a chance to be this nice and cute in Nigerian waters or anywhere around its shores...na butcher dem go butcher the innocent animal one time as if she was responsible for all their life troubles.

My greatest dream is to build a Dolfinarium in Africa...

Intelligent animal

This is one addiction so many young people ate fighting. And time and again, there's been many thread on this topic already.
Here's my little coin for you.
Take an active step.
1. Write a plan and mark everyday that passes by without you masturbating or watching porn. It gives you a sense of challenge to beat.

2. Limit the level of security and privacy you set around yourself. E.g make your room more accessible. If your house has very good security, don't close your door when you're about to sleep at night.

3. Find someone who won't judge you, someone you trust very well and confide in them. Let the person monitor your progress in the challenge you give yourself in number 1.

4. Don't be too harsh on yourself every time you fall into it and don't try ti give up. Always be convinced that you'll overcome it.

5. Find activities you can do to move your life forward and engage in daily commitment to that activity. Masturbating reuqires passion and you can drive that passion to something else.

Overall, if you're really convinced you want to stop it, I believe you will really stop it though it's not going to be easy.

henryobinna:
Shitlist I swear, shitlist I swear.
Where's reddit?


Reddit that is the 17th most visited site in the world is not on the list but Nairaland that is in the thousands is number 3..

Nairaland is doing great and that's good but no, not this. Come on

Is forum and website the same thing? I'm not well versed in web stuffs o.

kiddoiLL:
I don't doubt that fact... I can say Nairaland's the only Naija site/forum I visit... Linda Ikeji Linda Linda, I haven't for once visited that blog..No doubt Seun is doing an amazing job, my point is for the great job he's doing with NL, I hope he takes the right steps so he reaps great values from it

I'm not so much surprised Seun is not making huge money from Nairaland. I'm only surprised a Nigerian can do that. At least, the popularity of Wikipedia doesn't make his owner super wealthy. Some people just want to create relevance and I tell you, it's more appreciated than wealth. Seun Osewa is rightly relevant.

I finally understand what you meant after moving the picture away few meters from eyes.

IjebuWarrior:
So funny that this will be more challenging for folks with perfect eyes-sight. I took off my glasses and I was able to spot it easily.

The one you're most interested in which also has relevance presently.
It is never too late to start what you're convinced is the right thing. As long as you have genuine interest (not just monetary motivation), you're good to go even if you need to humble yourself to learn the skill.

Thank you.

Those commenting about Buhari, Jonathan causing this or that are joking right? What you see there is the failure of the Nigerian state, the failure of the North, the failure of Gombe state itself. The political leaders are individuals like us and we're already placing so much expectations on them like they're gods.

flyca:
And I thought education and exposure saves from this depth

Some things should just be left in the head. SMH

If her husband reads this (and he will), she has given him the key to her entire existence. From now until eternity. I hope and hope the man is a very good person to handle such glorification, and not turn back to hurt her with it.

All is well.

Should the husband take advantage of her because of that, it means the husband is immature in the first degree. You see, if what we have nowadays is what you're calling education, I'm afraid you're mistaken. How many times has there being increase in the rise of broken marriages and children born out of wedlock since this your education is now being accepted widely.
Now is not the time to see the full fledge of people raising children without two opposite genders around. In the next ten, fifteen years, you'll see that our people were not mad when roles of husbands and wives were defined in those days and every couple did what was expected of them.

RichFoundation:
#NotTooYoungToWin
My name is Richard Ngene, I am 30 years old.
Also a House of Assembly Candidate of APC in Enugu State.

Please I am appealing to my fellow Nigerians irrespective of party affiliations, tribe and religion to support me and help fund my campaign.


I don’t have a godfather and I also don’t intend to have one. I am running my election with the little I have and also with the help of very few individuals who believe that Richard can do better. I won’t disappoint the Youths when elected.

Please I need more campaign Posters,T-Shirts, Caps. etc


Thanks and Gold Bless.
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Wow... I've been seeing this poster around Agbani area.

Shortyy:
I'm so happy for this. I need my allowee to be increased

Corp member spotted.

bjims:
are you saying the CEO read through all the cover letters? Are you saying Tony had the best cover letter? Do you consider if the CEO was in a good mood that day and decided to request for cover letters? When did CEO's have time to seive through cover letters if a letter does not accompany ypur application or something dramatic happens. The three managers connecting with you is luck bro no matter how connected you think you were. In christainity luck is called favour. Dont downplay it. You can be the most talented or most brilliant if favorable time and chance does not happen to you forget it

That person might not understand your point but I get it. It takes someone who has seen hardworking people dying without any reward for their zeal to understand the place of luck. That's why it's difficult to emulate any American billionaire, it takes more than hardwork.

However, there are some attitudes in people which draws things like 'luck' to their lives.

You'd have still communicated your points without calling him a goat. Afterall, this is a public forum and we're meant to say what on our mind. Haba!

pythonkid:
You're a goat for that nagging aspect tho. There are so many other things that could engineer domestic violence .

Oluwaseyi00:
I Made this amazing personal discovery sometimes back, which is..

The way a charger charges your phone is the way reading sharpens your brain.

You don't believe?? Try reading consecutively for a month
And

Your brain will be smokin' hot.

Of course. Did you also notice that the more you read, the more you want to read? The love for reading takes a little while before it usually dies and then with effort, you can make it rise again.

Yep... Reading it is.

Nigerians are reading now than before sha but I think that a man is usually an aggregate of whatever he reads and most of us now read motivational books but motivational books can't make a man a guru in his field. Instead, they're supposed to make us more focused.

The result, many of us are becoming like the motivational speakers whose books we read while the result of the motivation is not really there.
If you're into law, education, medicine, engineering or whatever field you are into; the largest chunk of the books you should be addicted to should be from your field or whatever field you're venturing into.

God does his job in heaven but we humans especially Nigerians need to deepen ourselves in knowledge also for then can our minds be opened to secrets.

PS: It's better for a man to have a little knowledge about almost everything.

SOFTDRINK:
With the advent of SO MUCH emphasis on Money, where a man's worth is measured by how much he earns, where the likes of degenerates like wizkid,davido,olamide,tuface,flavour are now role models in our society,a situation where bobrisky,miracle,nina are celebrated and elevated above people with good morals and standards, the family institution will continue be dragged in the mud.

That's just it. In a society where it is difficult to talk about morality, virginity etc., money being at the center, misconstrued feminism on the rise and the men became less secure because they've lost what they felt made them men; all the men could do is to live irresponsibly while the women get drunk in what the society has given them. The entire family suffers and the nation becomes sick!

Asshurbanipali:
Achebe and Chimamanda are both Anambrans, and they two Africans outside Mandela that made the list.

Anambra is truly the light of the entire black race.

Because Mr Obama read their books in 2018? Let's stop this inferiority feeling for goodness sake. The black man has more than that no matter his origin and he's not defined by religion or ethnicity just that he decided to be blind.

pansophist:
If you have read at least 25% of the aforementioned books, you're smart

I've read at leat four. Some have even read more than that but yet, dumb.

In the same countries where many people have post-doctoral fellowships even though they're not solely in the academics, it is individuals with certificate controversies that must rule us. What a shame on Nigeria!

Teens really need help as concerns this predators all over the social media. It's so easy for teens to be carried away in what they call "exploring".

Please warn every teens in your house, the social media is like a street where the whole world meets. They should be careful with information sharing and friendship with strangers.

Vulcanheph:
If you calculate how much you will spend on sorting courses.... The money is enough for private school

Not in UI sir. It's still a surprise to my friends whenever I tell them how much I paid for each session.

meobizy:
My preek stands at the very thought of accommodating her blessed place.
Well, I do not have money but jars of Vaseline — I possess a lot.

That's the simplest definition of lust!

jamaicabakare:
How will diz news now change the fact that 2018 dey end tomorrow and marriage me never Marry, Car me never buy upon the mouth i made for 2017

Sha, All Glory to God, I no better pass those wey done die or the ones wey dey hospital abi nah the ones wey dey prison

#2019MustObey

Don't worry, since you're here alive and sound, 2019 has very great things in stock for you. Just be patient and hopeful.

That's the only way she feels she's useful to Nigeria...

Seduction doesn't happen all of a sudden. It always start with facial expression, touching etc especially when two opposite genders are alone. Any man that'll turn it down would have communicated with his body language earlier cos it's easy ti read between the lines.

However, some ladies might want to 'Delilahlized' a 'brother Samson' violently and if brother Samson is a dummy or he secretly desires it, he'll go for it but if not, 'Bro Samson' will turn to 'Bro Joseph'.
All the same, yes there are but they're rare.

philip0906:
Rubbish...Every damn thing is competition to you female lots. Who gives a hoot about you been male or female when voting for leaders? We have a number of women who beat their male counterparts to hold political office posts at both state and federal level...what Nigeria needs is good leaders not male or female leaders. I sure won't vote you because you're female. I'll vote you because youll get the job done

She's omitting the fact that women had their shares of corruption rampant in the men. We need a good leader be it male or female.

You know one lesson I'm learning from this government, they're focusing on their strengths. We thought anti-corruption fight was their logo but they have corrupt individuals so they focused on trains and more trains at least to sweep Nigerians away.

But we deserve more than Buhari and Atiku...

That's their way of preventing chaos. It doesn't also stop them from using the same method to their advantage.

IntrovertedK:
christianity is someway synonymous to stupidity. You have go far to understand the religion very well before you pratice it or else, one 'd end up loosing everything. I mean both earth and heaven.

It's not the religion, it's the handlers. When men resort to opening pages of the Bible which aims at oppressing other men using words like "obedience" and members too find it difficult to study their Bible, pastors become their God since their minds will become blinded even when God himself is talking to them. Christianity has seriously been abused.

It's now socially acceptable for people to commit fornication and still come to the public, with their pictures to share testimonies of the evil they did in private.