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GabrielYulaw:
Thank you for your kind words, sire. I will forever treasure them.

By the way, you must think you are very handsome to upload that picture. Hahaha

Kinzo0917:
MUST YOU QUOTE THE WHOLE SYORY B4 YOU CAN COMMENT?

SOME OF YOU ARE SICK UPSTAIRS.




IF EVERY QUOTE THE WHOLE STORY, WILL YOU BE ABLE TO COMMENT?






RUBBISH

Please show me a Nairaland rule that says one should not quote an epistle. Who has time to be editing epistle before responding? Yamayama fall on your bald head there

NJV:
Never marry a girl who has no iota of love for you. Your case is a good example.

But then, must you pple co-habit?? Why must every grown up girl live in a boy's house without marriage? Does it mean a girl cannot live in a house without depending on a guy?? Nawa o

No be free accommodation

FanRong:
I'm sorry, this post is going to be a long one. But you're saving a soul if you read through and advice candidly.


My story
We've dated for 6months and we've lived together for the 6months.

On our 3rd month, I found her interesting and told her I'll like to marry her. She accepted but no engagement ring or anything to show. We just accepted by word of mouth.

Since then, I've worked towards it. I've told her to call her mum and eldest brother(dad is late) to relate my idea and understand their feeling since it won't be that easy to marry. (same state, but my people and her people are highly selective in marriage)

After several persuasion, and threat that I'll throw her out if she doesn't relate the circumstances to her family, she called the mum. And again I had to force her to call the eldest brother. She claimed she did. And that's enough. I'm ok.

Meanwhile, there's this guy(her ex) she claims helped her when she came to Lagos. It was when I started accommodating her that I found out in her chats that she was living with this guy, but lied to me she was living with her Aunt and the aunt's husband was harassing her sexually and she wants to leave. She later told me the guy, though provides for him but has never had sex with her, even when she was living in his house. These stories doesn't move me since everyone, who is not a virgin has an ex. So I forgave all that and we moved on.

She wasn't everything I need in a women, but I told myself I could train her the way I want. We continued adjusting to each others likes and dislikes.

I feed her this 6 months, provide comfortable shelter, buy her things she needs,(not want). Told her I'll do more and open a shop for her, if we get married, but she still confronts me asking why should I wait till after marriage? . I didn't allow the words move me cos Its my decision and my money and also, I'm used to gold diggers.

A good number of times, I see her as being selfish. If things doesn't benefit her, she'll not get bothered even if I'm involved.

Just this week, It became obvious to me that she argues everything I request her to do. From 24th Dec, we've been on holiday, we're always at home.
1. I'll wake her up at 9 and ask her to prepare breakfast for the family, she'll prefer to roll on the bed than do it. I'll finally have to do it myself so I can get things done and get busy.

2. I detest girls on eye lashes. I've repeatedly told her how I dislike it, but when she went to fix herself for the Christmas, she fixed the eyelashes, Contrary to my demand.

3. I got her some sneakers to upgrade her fashion style and look smarter, instead of the usual slippers and sandals she wears.
When we prepared to go to the beach few days ago, I requested her to put on the sneakers to look more fashionable, but she refused buttressing that she must wear what she wants, sandals.

4. Few days ago, we had a heated argument and she said that if I'm not happy that she's living with me, that she can go, afterall, she has somewhere to stay. I asked her to go and she immediately called that her ex bf to come to my house. I immediately swung into action, took all her belongings out, before the ex will arrive, at the same time, retrieving the items I gifted her.
While she was struggling to have her gifted items back, our neighbours heard the struggle and had to come and settle for us. She apologized and I forgave her. we were back into the house.

5. Just yesterday , we left home together, and I locked the door and I took the keys with me. We walked down the street together to the Busstop, I have almost no friend and seldomly greet. But there's this my ex girlfriend by the roadside, she saw me and yelled my name, I went to greet her and my Fiancée picked offence, left me without waiting for me. After that I chased her and told her it's nothing because I've told her everything about this ex.
Before we could get to the Busstop, she demanded for the house keys and I gave her since she might come back earlier than me.
We couldn't say bye. The anger was clear on her face and we parted ways.

After about 15mins, I got to where I wanted to make payment for the items I picked only to notice I am not with my transaction phone. I was confused where could I have kept it, the seller insisted I may not have come to his shop with the phone, and the phone rang as I called with my second phone. so I had to call my Fiancée for assistance since she's with the keys.
At first, she said she was still around the Busstop but when I told her I needed her to go home and confirm my phones whereabout, she said she can't go back that she has gone far, shouted on me and hung the phone.

I called and called and called, but she didn't pick. Many thoughts ran into me. Who took this phone? My money? , my phone? , my sim card? . I had to find my way and trekked back about 4km to the house since I had no cash with me. And finally saw the phone ringing in my house. I was relieved.

The way she shouted to me on the phone got me unbalanced, I felt she would be fire if I get this girl as a wife.

We finally traveled to our home state today and I paid the bills for the traveling. My major plan of traveling was to see her people and do the needful before I mistakenly get her pregnant. But I'm seriously contemplating of canceling this plan and throw her out come January. I need peace.

Dear nairalanders, I'm really in the middle of the deep blue sea and the devil.

I need mature and candid advice please.
Should I continue with the marriage plans or the redflags are obvious?

If this is real and not the typical fake stuff we read here, then you deserve a hot slap with Yamayama on your bald head for even bringing this nonsense to come and ask strangers. You no get sense

GabrielYulaw:
It's not just this thread. It is all threads on Nairaland.

Go to the Clearance thread and like 97% of what's on sale there are not actually clearance and they are actually sold at prices higher than you would get in the open market. And no matter how much you explain, it is like some Nigerians simply don't get it or don't want to get it. I swear, there are a lot of m@d people on Nairaland and relating with them is such a chore. There are times when what I see on this forum makes me want to d1g out my eyes and throw it inside boiling lava.

Seun has learnt nothing. All that's necessary to restore order on all threads is for the mods to start doing their jobs, but they don't care and Seun too doesn't care.

Guy, do you understand that this is a private business and not a government enterprise? Seun does not owe you shitt. If you don’t like his business, then deactivate and go find another forum. Who the fukk do you think you are to come and dictate to an entrepreneur what to do with his business that he built from scratch?

I feel like slapping that your bald head I swear. You Nigerians and entitlement mentality na 5 and 6.

About this thread, do you guys think this is some private thread that belongs to a few special people? If that’s what you think, then you must be out of your mind. As long as one is not breaking the rules of the forum, you have no right to exclude anyone!

BluntCrazeMan:
Only you know what you want.

Because this photo is one of the perfect feminine shapes in the book of shapes-and-butts.

Don’t mind the liar. Those are either old or fake pics. Go and look at her recent posts and you will see she’s overweight. She’s doing this because a lot of people have been asking her to slow down with her dirty diet of junk, lots of sugar and very nasty oily street food.

Pukkalolo:
Here's why you end up not making a move and moving the interaction forward:

You're scared of fucking up the interaction and you are trying to ensure smoothness of the interaction...

Please read open mindedly because I'm about to show why many guys aren't making progress with women or even life in general...

Let's begin...

You said, "This girls will steal glance tire but I no dey make move, some will even knowingly march my legs and start conversing with me but I always give this 'others will come vibes'...."


No bro, you are not giving the "others will come vibes"...., you are actually giving the "I'm scared of fucking up the interaction vibe."


When you see that an interaction might work out, i.e the girl respect you or is attracted to you and showing you sign of loyalty, you become uncomfortable because you are scared of fucking things up at some point DOWN the road, and spoil the respect she has for you.

So, you avoid moving the interaction forward, because you are scared of fucking up the interaction.... That's to say, you undermines your progress and prevents yourself from actually getting her.

You basically hinder your success, but in order for you to feel good about it, you deceive yourself with the saying: "others will come."


Most people don’t realize that, this is why they don't succeed with women or life in general.

They procrastinate and put off things, because they are scared of losing their "rep"; they are scared of making mistakes, failing, or fucking up things...

As a result they hamper their own success, and so they settle...they settle for less...they settle for porn.... Because at least with porn, there's no risk of fucking things up. There's no rejection because there's no real woman involved: it's just you, your lotion, your hand and your dick.

I'll tell you one of the BIG reason for my success with women... It's NOT because I've got game, neither is it because I know any redpill, alpha or seduction techniques...

Here's the BIG obvious reason:

I'm willing to Bleep things up with women.

All this game crap or smooth alpha bullshit is a false facade that prevent you from actually being ALPHA.

Because, paradoxically, showing BALLS and willingness to make mistakes, fail, or Bleep things up is the most ALPHA shit ever....

Every guy wants to date the best chics and have amazing sex—but not every guy is willing to go through the messy conversations, the tension, the rough, awkward and irregularities of male-female interaction....

And your ability to go through with that stems from your willingness to Bleep up.

But because you are not willing to Bleep up, you tell yourself, "others will come."

So you asked and wonder "how do I take it from respect to romance..."

Romance is NOT equal to smooth interaction

Romance is equal to emotional turbulence, irregularity, tension and drama....and fucking things up and risk losing her.

Trying to ensure smoothness of the interaction hinder your chance of romance with her.

To be frank, I only go for the beautiful ones, but in order to attract those caliber of chics I understand that I must be willing to embrace the emotional turbulence, irregularity, tension and drama that comes with trying to date beautiful women.

Therefore, your romantic success isn't determined by your ability to create smooth interaction with women, but by your ability to create tension, emotional jolt and drama in the interaction. Which means, you must be willing to create drama, build up tension and blow sh*t up.

The movie industry make use of these concept very well: they dial up the uncertainty, suspense and anticipation to an intense level and get you extremely focused on the screen, wondering what might possibly happen next.



Romantic success or success in life in general is messy, dramatic and filled with tension and uncertainties.

The guys who have the BALLS and BACKBONE to handle these tension, drama and uncertainties are the successes.

This hopeless guy doing copy and paste from Pick Up Artistes website dey talk about success with women. I dare you to show proof of your so called success with women. Show pictures of you with all the numerous women you catch with the skills you possess and I wire you Xmas money. E sure me say you don soapy 3 times already this morning. Jew man!

Anybody that takes these jokers seriously is an idiot.

ahnie:
Still on the marra that mara...local girl Kent keel hersef

These food pics don’t look good at all. How person go see these kind food and still have appetite 🤢

Fake pics. You are definitely overweight. Stop lying to idiots to justify your dirty diet before strong yamayama nack that your forehead

Ogilinsaka:
Bald headed vulture like you deserve a place in the evil forest. *spits*

Yamayama fall on that your bald head wey dey smell. Tueh!

zoer:
Thank you sire....I am a professional in my field of medicine without brighter grammar...na you need am more...Empty brains gives the best advice.

Which field of medicine? You must think say na only dullards full here. Tell me which field of medicine you dey make I embarrass you with yamayama on that your bald head

Ogilinsaka:
Jumobi don really try for you. Putting up with your wandering preek through the years

Thank your stars


Golibe

Try for him how? I feel like slapping that your bald head. Who favored who in the relationship? Why did Jumobi leave her boyfriend to go and marry RMD that the whole world knew was a playboy? Why did she get bloated overnight as soon as RMD put am for house? If anyone is lucky, it is Jumobi. RMD can get any damn woman he wants. Jumobi has to die there to claim RMD wife!

iamoyindamola:
Cook in your kitchen, take pictures and post it here
Oh simple is part of the sentence
I mean how hard is this to comprehend

Oga, how many you don cook and post

davodyguy:
I was thinking about him few days ago, not knowing baba would pass on.

RIP.

His firm is on Lewis Street. I use to do asset valuation for him for many years back then up till 2018

This man who ask you question

Chinese and Coldstone

Donbrig:
My God, una get mind sha, 44.53%, even people who does money rituals don't get up to that percentage.

Do you know the difference between ‘do’ and ‘does’