Please everyone, I need your suggestions. I had a baby last year, and another this year. I just discovered I'm pregnant again. And I feel visiting the favour room for three consecutive years in a row isn't good health wise. Hubby is suggesting D&C but I'm very scared something might go wrong.

IAmStrange:
I have come to notice that most times when human beings fall in love, we lose our willpower. People mistake it for sense - meaning we lose our sense but it's not true in many cases.

The person who is in love can actually have His sense intact and functioning and in every event, he knows the right thing to do... But he just doesn't do it because he has lost his willpower and his resolve has become weak so he runs around seeking advice from people so that their comments can serve as a sort of motivation to carry on with what he already thinks or knows he should do.

Secondly, you were saying he loves you to a fault. I don't want to dispute that. But I want you to know that "love" is not the only thing to be considered when choosing a spouse. You must not - I repeat - you must not marry someone JUST because he loves you. Love is not the only thing that guarantees happiness in a marriage.

There are more important things to be considered.

Do you really think those husbands that send their wives to the hospital after beating them thoroughly do not love their wives? in fact, they sometimes do that due to extreme love and protective jealousy for their wives?

Do you think all those men who womanize and cheat on their wives do not love their wives? In fact, in many cases, they do love their wives and give her all respect and love she deserves and would never allow any man come near her. Yet, they are serious cheats!!!

You are going to live with the character of your man and the character of your man is one of the major factors that will determine if he will make a good husband, father, in law to your people and if he will make a good "head of the family".

So cancel out that idea that "he loves me to a fault" if you think that that's enough for you to give in to him.

It's better for you to marry someone who loves you averagely and he treats you like the "queen" you are than get married to someone who "loves you to a fault" and he treats you like you are "serving a sentence as a prisoner" in his house.

Then thirdly, I want you to know that, that man has serious issues and if I were you, I will flee from entering into a marriage with such a person.

Please open your mind - that guy is going to cage you. He's probably going to make your life miserable.

- He has anger issues.
- He has trust issues
- He is uncultured (calling your sister a prostitute and hurling insults at you)
- He is a wife beater
- he jumps to stupid conclusions hastily (calling you a prostitute and going to the extent of taking your pictures)
- He checks your phone and wrongly accuses you of different things
- His jealousy is overboard

Believe me, A man who has all the above will probably make life miserable for you.

He may be the kind of man that will make you sit at home and cut you off the world. Then he maltreats you and doesn't take care of you, making you age faster and weaker as time goes on. Then he will be giving outsiders the impression that he is taking care of you and when you try to complain, they listen to him and not you.

And when you now start looking miserable, he ends up cheating on you with more beautiful girls out there while he leaves you at home to your misery.

There are men like this out there - that guy may be one.

So I advise you to flee from him. Do not listen to anyone. Don't let anyone pressure you into accepting him. They are not the ones to bear the pain and when you die and they get to know the true story, they will still blame you for accepting him.

That's life!

Then, please, do not also think low of yourself and pressure yourself into accepting him just because single men are not coming or because of your age.

Marrisge is a beAutiful thing but that's only when it's with the right person.

Being happily single is better than being miserably married

If you listen to the stories of many married women out there, you will thank your Lord and consider your single status a blessing, thanking God for saving you from what those married women have experienced.

I don't know your age but I think you are probably "not too old" yet.

Please, think positively of your God, yourself and aim for good.

Leave that man and after you have done that, pray to your Lord to bring you a good man you can settle down with.

And while you are still waiting, please be patient and understand that our major purpose on earth is to serve God. That's the major and true success.

Being single doesn't mean that you are a failure, don't let society pressure you into believing that.

The one who is married doesn't necessarily have more superiority in the eyes of God than the single one. The level of superiority is measured by how much you are close to God, how much of righteousness you achieve on earth and how much you do things that matter to the whole world - things that affect people positively.

Being single may turn out to be a blessing on its own. I know some people who went to very great heights of which it would have been difficult to achieve if they got married. What matters is your happiness, your wellbeing and how much your Creator is pleased with you.

So pray to your Lord and hope for good and be positive that he will send you a good man. But while you are waiting, try to do other meaningful things in your life that will bring you happiness.

Don't settle for a bad man who will make your life miserable.


May God soften your heart and grant you your desires.

dannyla

Op, read this, digest it and act accordingly. Here is all you truly need to clear your eyes and sense of reasoning

misreal:
i watched the video.mehn that lady was shrinking

Really? link to the video abeg

F117nighthawk:
I tell u Nigeria and Nigerians can never and ever see any meaningful progress when we justify criminal act in which ever form,the law says ban on importation of rice,and some people still justify smuggling because of high price of local rice, how will u encourage local production if u don't ban importation.any country that want development will have to shut it's doors to importation and grow local productions, the world is celebrating CHINA and INDIA today forgotten that both countries shot it's doors to importation for over 20yrs,to develop technologically, today they are better for it

How will one encourage local production with the exorbitant price placed on a bag of rice. Sometime in 2015, a bag of foreign rice was 8000 and local rice, 5000. What do we have now? A bag of local rice in my area is not less than 17000. Why? Why do we have to pay more for something we produced ? I don't support any unlawful act against the government. I'm just trying to say for smuggling and hardship to be curbed as regards the rice issue, government should see to it that it is affordable and sufficiently produced for the rich and poor alike

The list isn't complete

FocusedB1h:

This is nothing to be proud of especially when they do it at the neglect of their region. They go about “developing” every other place but the entire south east is a mess.
Stupidity

Increase the volume please

Nawa o

Hedonini:
And yet, you bastards banned the importation of rice. You see the kind of clueless fools we have in positions of leadership in this country?

And have been seizing trailer loads of it leaving a good number of business people bankrupt and heavily indebted. God is watching

starbuck:
NEVER should you let the bank know that your brother is dead else the money go follow your brother too to the spirit world...


If he has an ATM, try as much as you can to find out the pin and make your withdrawals...


Thank God my mom told me hers on her death bed because she too sabi bankers.. Ndị ohi and ndị uchu

Seconded!. You can even slot his SIM card in a phone, use the banks ussd codes to check the balance and make transfers

Erediauwa:
Kindly stick to your opinions.
Thanks!

He's right. And you know it

Had his candidate won, he wouldn't have surrendered them. Smart dude. He didn't want the incumbent Governor to fish him out.
Where were custom officials when all these were imported sef? If it were trailer loads of goods, they will seize it. Especially, if the goods belong to people from a particular tribe. Corruption everywhere

RIP

MuttleyLaff:




Daughter-in law, for crying out loud nau. Awọn aiye.

I tire for their matter

Seen

Novartis:
I got 156 gig on 2 sims

My sister also got 156 gig on her sim and my gf got 156 gig twice on one sim and 156 gig on another of her sim

We were so happy
Now it’s time to chop back wetin mtn don chop from us

abeg, transfer 20gig to me please

This is pure wickedness. What amount of money can equate life? Its obvious money is the issue, but why let your wife die in such painful way? Normally, women who have passed through more than one cs are always advised against vaginal birth. As a mother, I can feel the pains she passed through. And to think she lost her life , is quite heart breaking. You men should stop playing with the lives of your wives. And the children are the worst hit here cos no woman can treat a child well like his/her mum would have done. RIP

Take it from someone in the industry, NAPIMS is far ahead of NPDC.[/quote] Connect me nah

tydi:


I'm thinking what he is thinking,, a young man giving birth to girls alone shows that he womanizes alot..

You are not thinking what he's thinking. You have no idea how bizarre his thoughts are

I don't understand why she's trying to make it seem like she's the victim here. Claiming ownership of someone else's property ought to be a crime.

ok

noni14:
oh how wonderful, this man no get progress 4 him agenda oh.

. Lol...... he is a one of a kind president. Doesn't even collect salary sef

The boy no get respect sef. How can he be greeting a man old enough to be his dad while sitting down?

Ademidd:
I have done that already. As it is now, I'm only afraid he may use the account to defraud people and they may think am the one. Reason I went to the police station to lay a complain. Thanks anyway...

But, can you open your fbaccount at all?

mployer:
2016 chat?

Go Sidon.

I been think say na only me notice am. She wan trend for suicide matta

AbooNasir:


I dey tell u......Even with all the (big) names she mentioning makes it seem true.....cuz na only liar go talk say their witness dey heaven !

We should not forget she did so with Ibiyieome. And we all know how that ended

I hope Federal and State Governments are included?

Hia

This is sad

We met on 2go of those days. Started off as just friends and then blossomed into lovers. Like play like play, we are blessed with three beautiful souls and we still loving . Itz been God

martyns303:
Got the download link here on NL. Guess I am among the Nigerians that watched it illegally.

Please, help me out with the download link

Vince77:
Abortion is better than this.

both involve spilling an innocent blood. So, they are the same o. Killing is killing

Why go through the excruciating pains of labour and then kill your own child? God forgive us all