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I discovered lately that most people misunderstand this statement and this didn't start today,it's been there even right from the bible days...

I can state here categorically that not all things that do happen to a believer is as a result of God been involved, most times it is as a result of ignorance that makes some people pass it off to be so.

I know of a woman who lost 5 of her grown up children, she is a believer,a prayer machine but this evil happened to her,the old woman said that it doesn't shake her faith that it is God that gives and he is the one that takes.

I feel that this statement is actually not true in some cases because some things that happen to people can either as a result of sin,family bondage or even demonic manipulation and ignorance of God,his word and his character.

but what do you think,I think we need to discuss this....

#DiscussingFactz

siofra:
Abeg get out of this thread. In fact delete this thread. You should be ashamed of your fellow men, Wike, and his predecessors for managing the administration of that city so poorly. Trash.

At least e pain you and e sweet me
I got your attention low budget 'Margaret Thatcher'

I am a progressive, and I believe in growth,development and a flow and exchange of cultures amongst people, however there are some things that seems to be overboard when doing so, and one of it is the issue of indecency in dressing amongst the women folk, I said this specifically because this is mostly a women affair..

I decided to breeze in to the south south city of Port Harcourt,the city is known for this thing of highlife,flexings and razzmatazz, so persons there try to appear classy and trendy,but I wasn't comfortable when I discovered that a major proportion of young ladies and even older ladies has shamelessly taken up the trend of wearing no bra,and even wearing clothes that reveal everything,the nipples and their undies.

It was quite disgusting to see one lady wearing such to church, I felt like going there and dragging her out,it didn't speak well,women who live in the area not minding how their body structure is just flaunt everything, even sacred things for marriage, and I see this as a moral debauchery.

I don't know if it is trend or westernization but to me it is nothing but a desecration and depreciation of sound values,women are to be known for chastity not such,I see most men enjoy such sights but it breeds perversion and rape cases...

Please women have value for yourself, you mustn't be naked to appear beautiful and classic

doctore212:
My brother, na so I carry one big yansh olosho for TDB enter club one Friday. My boss and the HR also came to the same club.

After that day, thier jealousy level don increase. Me am now careful.

But the good thing is that my boss na Soji guy , he later ask me the number of the babe and I gave him whole heatedly.

Since then we dey run Tinz while the HR still dey vex for me

Wow,you're funny somehow

Klass99:
@ Truthsoldier, your post is interesting. What I have often observed is guys beefing guys and ladies beefing ladies. The jealousy is usually within the genders and not between them, as in, it is not between male and female colleagues, but between male and male colleagues, then female and female colleagues. It is always entertaining to watch, I try not to get sucked into it. The best workplace advice I ever received was - do your work well and be pleasant to work with, so I leave you with that.

I appreciate your input,thanks

Kam2021:
One thing I have learnt those that have better ideas are always resented.You may have good ideas, but swallow them,Nigeria bosses and workers are afraid of change.They rather do things the same way.
Those that contribute nothing are preferred because they are not seen as threats.
Sometimes keep your ideas even if you know, except when asked directly or told to do so anonymously.
In my former school, so many suggestions to the owners on how to develop and change things to move the school forward caused so many things even betweencolleagues. ,I left there, now they are even worse off.
In my current place,so many things wrong, because of poor management andproper knowledge of running a school by theowner. I shut my mouth tightly and continue looking at them. I do my work as supposed,but run your thing anyhow you like.
In summary apply wisdom with your ideas @op.

Sounds brilliant, thanks

RaySimran:
It's Office Politicking, the initial stage is jealousy then trials, in all this if you come off as a weakling you automatically migrate to become "one of the fellas" prone to subjugations - it get worst if the gang is headed by those with double X chromo......


"What's in it for me, what's in it for them"

I was able to neutralise their dreadfull fangs by inculcating the bolded to my working ethics.

hmmm

OmidheBlessing:
How to handle a jealousy colleague

Handling a jealous colleague can be challenging, but here are some steps you can take to help manage the situation:

Stay calm and professional:
It's important to remain calm and professional when dealing with a jealous colleague. Don't let their behavior or comments affect your own work or attitude.

Address the issue directly:
If you feel comfortable, try talking to your colleague directly about their behavior. Be specific about the things they're doing that are making you uncomfortable, and try to approach the conversation from a constructive, problem-solving perspective.

Don't engage in their behavior:
If your colleague is trying to engage you in negative behavior or gossip, try to stay out of it. Don't participate in negative conversations or confrontations, as this can escalate the situation.

Seek support:
If you're feeling overwhelmed or unsure how to handle the situation, seek support from a trusted colleague or supervisor. They may be able to offer guidance and help you navigate the situation more effectively.

Document the behavior:
If your colleague's behavior is particularly disruptive or problematic, consider documenting it. Keep a record of any incidents, conversations, or emails that may be relevant. This can be useful if you need to escalate the issue to a supervisor or HR.

Focus on your own work:
Don't let your colleague's behavior distract you from your own work or goals. Stay focused on your own responsibilities and continue to do your best work.

Be empathetic:
Try to understand where your colleague is coming from and why they may be feeling jealous. This doesn't excuse their behavior, but it can help you approach the situation with more empathy and understanding.

I think they feel threatened

Thank you for this piece

If nah Naija this hen dey eh.......chaiiiiiiiiiiiiiii

Jidenkem:
The truth of the matter is that jealousy runs in so many people's blood.

They don't wanna see you win...but always trade with caution.

Keep on working hard,proffer solutions to your boss in private and keep your circle close and tight.

Best regards

Thanks alot I appreciate

meobizy:
Is this week the attack-women-at-work festival?

Anybody will feel insecure being in a job for a decade or more only to see a fresh-faced twenty-year-old employed. We grow complacent over years. Young workers are also prone to trying to outshine senior peers. Don’t blame them.

Thanks

New007:
Many offices are like this in Nigeria. When a colleague of mine knew I was his senior in the profession, the guy didn't like it. He was my boss's ass licker and I don't like people like that, and for some reason, he didn't like it when I did good things and was approved by my then boss. He even went to the extent of asking people about the result I graduated with and the year behind my back.
My advice: be careful, bold, wise, and foolish, depending on the situation. Situational and emotional intelligence is important in such a workplace.

Thanks alot

I discovered that folks get easily jealous in the workplace.
lemme go this way....I currently work in a firm and when I got into that firm I tried to study the environment as per individual character, to some I went close enough to chat casually and to some I don't, I had a rare privilege of meeting the MD and to share some ideas with him on things that I think could be quite okay suggestively, and my boss is a listening person and apart from that the office I occupy gave me that privilege, I try to tone down sometimes my ideas and contributions in meetings not to appear over impressive or get this jealous vibes from these other people, but honestly these ladies some of them are behaving in a way I suspect there is seeting jealousy in them, so I want to ask what should I do,since they have been there before I came.
I don't want to go into details now

virginprincess:
If she isn't ready he should leave her alone, there are thousand and one eligible girls looking for men to marry them,let him go for one of them and leave who never ready.

Hmmm..deep o
love go gree am?

woginid967:
He should pregnate her and after she delivers she can further her career.
He needs the blessings of his parents above all

Really? What happens to the girl?

yrhuhfy113:
YOU PEOPLE WHO COME HERE ASKING QUESTIONS IN THE THIRD PERSON.... On behalf of some "FRIEND"

pls just stop it.


TELL HIM YOUR MIND... and MIND YOUR BUSINESS NEXT TIME.



IF SOMEONE TRULY CONFIDED IN YOU, BRINGING IT OUT HERE IS NOT WORTH IT.

Thanks for your contribution

There is this family friend who is in love with a young lady,this young lady is just 25 like he said and for his age he is just 38 going to 39,he is the first son of his parents but not the only son,most of his younger siblings whom are girls are married.
Now the case here was that he said his sick father is mounting pressure on him to get married before he dies and his mom also is trying to get him marry by thunder by brimstone that he wants to carry his kids,according to him his mom wants to do the visit to his fiancée's house to see her parents but he objects..

The young lady in question wants to continue pursuing her education and skill,she loves the guy but not ready to marry now,maybe she is still trying to study the guy,at this time they are a year plus in courtship and this guy just so loved this girl.

He asked me of what to do, pls what should I tell him?

I have this friend (name withheld) that used to be active in womanizing, watch porn and loves sex a lot,he goes to church too but not too that serious,then suddenly he relocated from the east down to the southern part of Nigeria, the last time we met and were hanging out,I discovered that this guy has lost interest in everything called women and sex,he even told me that he cannot understand himself anymore as his urge for women,sex and even booze has dropped and he felt no desire for these,to him he felt that he ain't normal anymore.
He tries to attribute it to maybe the kind of work he does and issues he tries to focus on,because next to that he told me he would prefer to discuss ideas and money productive issues than anything men,women,sex and porn.
I just want to know is it possible for someone who is so addicted to these things become suddenly disinterested in them all of a sudden,or what can be the reason.
I am happy for him though

Good day nairalanders

Most of the times we hear some religious folks say 'God is in charge of everything that happens in this life both good and bad' while some others disagree with the fact that 'Satan is the one actually in charge' some others are of the school of thought that neither God or Satan is in charge.
The question still goes; Who is in charge of this world?

MatrixReloaded:
Your post!!! Enjoy Gay.
True story: You cheated on ur partner with ur gay partner and ur both partners got suspicious, u ran to nairaland to seek advice by twisting the story.

What sort of a madman are you,just picking up people and saying nonsense, are you really alright?
Like seriously are you okay
Please seek mental help ASAP...

Nairaland can really be funny with weird dumbos

Listen to these..
1.Wike will rig the election
2.The Electoral commission will sabotage the process of credibility
3.There would be clashes between PDP,SDP and APC in some quarters in Rivers state
4.Election may not hold in some areas
5.PDP would be declared winner
6.LP will try in this election


This is the prophecy over Rivers Election

MatrixReloaded:
You are a hocuspocus. Get a life and start someone meaningful for your existence on earth. Don't waste your miserable time on worthless discussion.

You just revealed your dumbness,lowlife get off my post

I think in courtship one ought to respect one's relationship with his or her partner and even in marriage today it is highly needed.
I have seen people forgive their cheating partners in marriage and some say that religion teaches them forgiveness, so they got to forgive them,some even during courtship knowing fully that their partner cheated on them goes ahead and marry them,it think this is weakness and such marriage will be full of suspense and infidelity including bitterness.

what do you think?

Tickles001:
I wonder where you people pick this line from. Nobody said virginity is the only or the ultimate quality a woman should possess. Even the character you talk about is nothing if it's the only good thing about her.

Let me ask you.
If you are presented with two good ladies in their mid 20s that are identical in every way, except for one aspect. Lady A is a virgin but not naive, and Lady B has been having sex since she was 16 and has accumulated an impressive body count.
Which of them will you choose?

None of the above
both have character issues

I have come to hear some people say that they would never marry a virgin,with funny reasons for that, some said they would bleep any girl but when they come to marriage they will surely marry a virgin,but that's funny too.
Virginity is good but that's not the only thing to look out for,infact it is not the primary reason when looking for a wife as some religious people paint it,it is nice but not the major thing, what I think that a man should look out for in choosing a marriage partner is CHARACTER,sound character.

What do you think

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A balablu bulaba

Mecapo76r:
Hgggg

how do you subscribe

Here on Nairaland I will give the award of the most lousy group members to;Romance forum
WHILE the most serious group members goes to Politics forum

You can vote if you have yours

It surprises me as some people here would engage in discussion with each other,even as there are many faceless people on this forum,insult the hell out of people here not knowing if it may be their destiny helpers or relatives and so on....
I want to know,because some even said that they got to see their spouses here,but I cannot understand how possible that is.
Have you seen any nairalander here face to face

To me the two presidents that Nigeria would wish to have again and again are no other persons but:
Alhaji Umaru Musa Yar'adua and General Murtala Ramat Mohammed

For the rest,they are nothing but Town hall and Blu blu bulaba

blabulu2000:
And keep doing it in your 8 by 7 room in the village ...nothing do.you

Rubbish for a disgrace like you

MrPresident1:
Salvation has come

Luke 12:42-44 KJV
And the Lord said, Who then is that faithful and wise steward, whom his lord shall make ruler over his household, to give them their portion of meat ae in due season? [43] Blessed is that servant, whom his lord when he cometh shall find so doing. [44] Of a truth I say unto you, that he will make him ruler over all that he hath.

David Michael is coming, his reign will bring great peace blessings and prosperity to all the downtrodden and pulverised people of the earth

The next President of Nigeria is not Peter Obi, or Atiku, Bola Tinibu

It is the LORD's anointed, the Saviour, the Helper, the Anointed, Generalissimo David Michael

Psalm 89:20-21 KJV
I have found David my servant; with my holy oil have I anointed him: [21] With whom my hand shall be established: mine arm also shall strengthen him.

Psalm 89:24 KJV
But my faithfulness and my mercy shall be with him: and in my name shall his horn be exalted.

In the name of the LORD, David Michael, will be promoted and exalted

Oshogbo weed dey turn your brain I swear down