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Casmiry:
Given how NL is a faceless forum that will best be left to the imagination not so?

Oh yeah..

Are you female? And interested?

Just haven't found the one. I don't really know how to chase.. So the person has to really be into me and I also need be into her.

That double coincidence, without chasing much (while looking for an intelligent, independent, and non-materialistic lady), hasn't really happened.

Casmiry:
Hello TSBO
I read your diary
Are you like who you're searching for?

Mostly yes. I won't describe myself as extremely attractive though, that would be left to others. Some do find me attractive however..

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I hope this isn't lip service, because if it is, and the SARS guys remain out there, they may get even more aggressive and sinister. Even if they are disbanded, broader police brutality may get more aggressive.

What we need is total, heavy-handed reform across law enforcement and the military... They are to protect, not oppress, and they should not be able to get away with their blatant oppression of civilians.

It is sad that in Nigeria, a sign that you have arrived is the ability to openly oppress others and go scot-free. Something that would typically be heavily condemned in saner climes.

The low interest rate environment is really the catalyst; but something had to eventually give, considering how broadly undervalued the market has been for some time. The hope is however that this low interest environment does not end up building asset bubbles all over the place as investors seek yield at any cost.

Massive (infrastructure and real sector) investment drive is urgently needed to soak up excess liquidity at low yields for future economic growth. This is, of course, provided we can reasonably tame corruption and ensure we get true value for money. Otherwise, we will just end up permanently destroying investors' wealth.

Imagine lending Naira to the Nigerian government for 30 years at sub-10% per annum, only for the money to be mismanaged.. The scenario and its consequences do not offer a pretty sight at all.

Neo actually looks like Morris, probably more handsome even..

Niceeee

franchasng:
This same thing is happening in United States, UK, Europe, and in all developed countries of the world, not just in Nigeria. In the US, young fine ladies or girls don't fvck for free. Only old grannies and the oversized ladies abroad fvck for free. There are more runs girls in western countries than in Nigeria, even though they are earning big, they put themselves in tight corner with huge bills as a result of luxury lavish lifestyle of trying to live lavido la loca life of the rich. That quest to live like the rich amd showoff to the world via social media have pushed all ladies around the world into doing multiple fvck with different men to meet up.


It is what it is.


A friend told me last week that there are too many pussies, as in too many classy pussies nowadays, that he pities single girls who don't have a husband because guys of today are now confused on whether to marry or not with the too many fine ladies parading the world now...he explicitly told me that if he had not married by now, that he doubt if he would ever marry with the number of fine ladies that full every corner of the world now ready to mingle

Poverty and wealth inequality "contribute"... Surely, they are not the only factors, but I was only highlighting these two.

I actually still do not think that sex for money is as rampant in wealthier countries/societies.

Poverty and wealth inequality contribute to this phenomenon.

But the article should have had more concrete data and probably sampled more respondents.

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Queenlovely:
everybody has a plan until they get in the ring.

sports can raise millions out of poverty. we don't value our own there in Nigeria. look at kamaru Usman, Joshua. these people would have remained in the small league if not for Providence.


I can't remember how many kids I enrolled in various sports academy in Nigeria.


one boy was shedding tears in front of my Office, I ignored him, he followed me all the way from lekki to ikoyi on foot. when my security detail informed me. I ordered he should be brought before me. he wanted to play football outside Nigeria and he needs a sponsor.

I watched the guy play and he was very good. we signed some documents and today he is in the arsenal academy

Wow. I like what you are doing. How can I be a part of this? Sponsoring/helping the underprivileged to achieve their dreams and find a way up.

Sixfeetbelle:
You should take this your assertion and give it to the Op. He may find better use for it.

Permit me this curiosity. A man, like the Op, can wantsa lady to stick by him through thick and thin but once a lady requires such of a guy, you term it "entitlement"? How disingenuous

It is not entitlement to expect someone who claims to love you (male or female) to have your back through thick and thin. Now if he/she walks away; life happens, or it may just speak to his/her character... among other reasons.

Dande55:
You can't be a complete idiot this morning. You didn't see where I said I was being supportive and always there for him, even in his down state? Get him gifts etc.
Of what use was he to me when he was broke? Sex kor, we even hardly see cos I was busy with my studies. He was surprised when I made first class and got offer to travel to India through my company and the offer worth thousands of dollar at my young age, the idiot wants to come back after getting married oo. The wife must be thinking she married a human being, not knowing she got married to the usual street scum. Lool. Mumu, I'm a big asset, even in your wilderness dream, you can't afford me. No woman ever in your generation can match up to my level and standard.
And lemme tell you one thing, to every disappointment is a blessing Lool.
I have an amazing man now. Who believes and supports me in every sense.
And I never even gave him what I gave to the idiot at our initial stage cos I lost interest helping men cos you scums don't worth it. But he proved me wrong.
And oh yeah, I can never be more happier and fulfilled than I am right now. So, don't ever think my comment is cos of a useless man. I come here and drop comments, and strike the heart of useless broke idiots and go my way. If you feel attacked, I'm so sorry lol.
I don't come here blowing my achievements or proving how intelligent I am. Lool. I come here to attack scums in human form.

Wow. I'm sure you can make your points with little or no insult. The vitriol in your post actually proves the other poster's point.

I think the idea that dating someone "broke" and periodically spending on them automatically equates to being there for them when they had nothing needs to stop; also the idea that they are expected to reciprocate by remaining in that relationship after things get better.

It reeks of entitlement. If one truly loved the person without a care about their financial status, then it shouldn't factor into one's assessment of them or their value, right? If they decide to leave later, whether after getting rich or not, one should therefore not begin to refer to one's time with them as a privilege because they did not have money.. One is of course permitted to be feel bad about the fact that the person did not value one the same way one valued him/her.


Lastly, guys rarely feel like they stood with a girl when she had nothing, even if she leaves when she becomes ."richer". Why? Because the girl's financial status is not expected to matter. This courtesy should be extended to guys as well...

Microwhy:
Stop this northern connection nonsense..
BUA has the capital to compete and run the business. People have stop using Dangote cement in the north because of breach of quality.
You cant Plaster with Dangote cement, you can only use it to lay your blocks.
Tell the southerners to bring out capital and invest in big business like Innoson. Let them stop turning Nigeria to dumping ground by bringing in other countries finished product.

chloride6:
You cant plaster with Dangote cement?

I wondered at his comment as well....

He should come and clarify abeg

AmIaYahooGirl:
Hello Nls,
I'm not really someone who listens to what people say but I just want to share this so that y'all can air your views.

I'm a young girl, 23 and an orphan, dropped out of school and came to Lagos to make ends meet. When I first came to Lagos, I stayed with a married female cousin of mine, along the line, the husband started making advances to me which I politely declined. He got angry and told his wife to throw me out of the house, and yes she did.

I was thrown out of the house without anywhere to go and as someone who has survived losing both parents at such a young age, I literally lived and survived in the streets. Did all sorts of menial jobs, hawked purewater, soft drinks, worked in a bar and all that before I finally got an apartment.

The story isn't quite necessary but when I get talking with people and I tell them that I stay alone, next thing I'll hear is "you're too young to stay alone... it's not a good idea...blah blah blah. Some older woman even told me to go back to my cousin's house and beg them so I can continue staying with them, another told me that it's better I stay with my boyfriend than staying alone.

I really don't understand all these talks, like despite all I've been through, isn't staying alone the best option? Or is there something wrong with staying alone as a single young lady?

Your humble opinion is needed, thanks

I don't know if anyone has mentioned this, but I might be worried about your vulnerability to criminals. Nigeria is not a very secure country.

My advice: stay alone and get one or two well-trained dogs (if you can afford) or regular dogs (train it/them) that you can reasonably control, get self-defense items, and/or ensure you live in a secure area..

Lastly but most importantly, believe and trust in God (Jesus).

Stewart883:
Everyone doubting here or pretending here should know that men do terrible things most especially when they were younger! It's that pathetic. This rape thing, over 85% of guys have been in to it one way or the other either through the use of force or tricks. Many men have drugged ladies, kidnapped ladies etc.

I would advise anyone reading this to ask God for forgiveness because karma is real.

I am finding it difficult to believe the story but with what you said, you've jolted me back to reality.

I'm speechless. On one hand, I'm thinking if he can do that, what can't he do. On the other hand, I'm thinking, it is possible for someone to change for the better, to be redeemed, to be reformed.

Wow.

In the same vein, the much more gory crimes we read of, the kidnapping, human sacrifice, ritual killings, community pillaging, ethnic cleansing, are all perpetrated by humans.

Indeed, the heart of man is desperately wicked. I'm just angry at how vulnerable the weak/defenceless are.

I won't say much about the narrator. Can do better but at least you're doing something (on it's own, that should be commended).


On Wizkid, that's how to be a professional. As a Tecno ambassador, he just did a good job.

It might also make him more attractive to other endorsements as he gives the impression that he is willing to go the extra mile to make their products/services more visible. Win win situation.

And there are ridiculously expensive android phones; so calm down on the affordability talk.

pansophist:
Leg split is not a compound exercise. Also by compound exercise, it should be understood in the context of an exercise that requires an object (e.g calisthenic and dumbbell). At best, I will describe the leg split as a gymnastic and flexibility thing, not for strength.

To your question, yes, you will build muscles, if you do it consistently, progressively, in a shorter timeframe, and eating nutritiously clean. This simply summarises everything you need to know/do about being fit. It is a lifestyle, not a one-off thing.

Also, you should add deadlift and squat, because I don't see how you will build explosiveness, raw strength, and muscles proportionally without incorporating those exercises.

Thank you very much.

What I meant by "push, pull, legs" split is that I do exercises three days in a week in that manner.

For example,

On Monday, I do push compound exercises: bench press, military press (standing overhead press) and than just add the dumbbell fly. 5x5 for each exercise.

On Wednesday, I do pull compound exercises: Deadlift, pull/chin ups, bent over rows, and then just add the biceps curl. 5x5 for each. Can't complete the 5x5 for the pull ups yet (did 3x5 last week).

On Friday, I do leg compound exercises: Weighted squats and then add weighted standing calf raises and farmer's walk as well. 5x5 for each. For farmer's walk, I just try to do 3 or so sets to exhaustion.

Then I rest weekends.

That's what I meant.

And I think you're right on consistency. That's the key, trust the process and stick to it. That's what I'm trying to do.

pansophist:
I do a simple exercise known as 5x5 for strength, and jogging for cardio. They are all compound exercises that worked for all the major muscle groups in your body. It is simple, effective, and not complicated.

They are Squats, Deadlift, Bench press, overhead press, barbell row. So you start with how many kgs you can lift, then progress from there. For jogging, I try to run 5 miles in 40 mins, though 45 mins are my average. If the weather is bad, I do jump rope instead. It is as effective as running, as it burns as much, if not more calories, and recruit more muscle group than running. If you want to burn an excessive amount of calories, then do stair climbing.

Sometimes when I eat large food (such as swallow and junks), and my stomach feels like a big iceblock is inside that refuse to melt, I use stairs climbing to force into digestion. If you do it for 30 mins, every day, you go slim by force. It is more effective than running and jump rope combined. Also, you must get nutrition right. Let me know how I can help you.

I've been experimenting with routines and tried German Volume training (10×5 though, not 10×10) for two weeks but it was quite intense and I already have a busy schedule. I am now trying out the 5x5, three days a week using the Push, Pull, Legs split. All compound exercises but also incorporating the lateral raise, biceps curl, and weighted calf raise (one of three exercises on each of the days). Just the first week in.

Do you think I can build a lot of muscle mass and get shredded doing this consistently? I am a beginner, typically slim and have gained some muscle already from the previous regimens.

And by the way, I use dumbbells for the exercises. Trying to get more dumbbell weights as I get used to the weights I currently have.

Although I only watched parts of their speech, I was impressed.

You can tell they both share focus, discipline and dedication to what they do. Didn't know they were behind AACE foods. Nice.

CAPSLOCKED:
THIS PERSON THAT HAS BEEN RUNNING AROUND THIS THREAD IS A TYPICAL DRUNKARD.
IN MY FAMILY, STARTING FROM MY GRANDPARENTS, EVERYBODY WAS RAISED TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYTHING. THE MEN IN MY FAMILY ARE 100% GREAT HOUSE KEEPERS AND COOKS (I'M A ZERO HERE THOUGH) AND THE WOMEN ARE INDUSTRIOUS. IF THERE WAS NO INTERNET AND I WAS RAISED ON AN ISLAND I'D HAVE BELIEVED ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THE WOMEN WHERE I'M FROM.
WOMEN PAY THE BILLS WITHOUT EVEN INVOLVING THEIR HUSBANDS. SOME WOMEN CONTRIBUTED FOR THEIR OWN WEDDINGS AND HELPED BUILD THEIR FAMILIES. MY SISTER TAKES THE KIDS TO HOLIDAYS FROM AFRICA TO EUROPE WITHOUT MR. MAN PAYING A DIME. WHEN IT'S TIME TO PAY THE RENT OR CHANGE CARS EVERY PARTY COLLABORATES. THESE WOMEN TAKE CARE OF THEIR FAMILIES WHILE THE HUSBANDS FOCUS ON OTHER THINGS BECAUSE HERE EVERYBODY (I KNOW OF) IS EDUCATED, EMPLOYED OR DOING BUSINESS. AND THERE'S MUTUAL RESPECT AND UNDERSTANDING BETWEEN EVERYBODY INVOLVED... AND I BELIEVE MANY FAMILIES WORK TOGETHER LIKE THIS AS WELL. THESE ARE THE GUYS THAT LOVE SELFLESSLY, AND WILL HARDLY HIDE THEIR BANK BALANCE FROM THEIR PARTNERS. THROW IT ALL ON THE KIDS AND GIVE THEM THE BEST LIFE. IF THE HUSBAND'S BUSINESS IS SHAKING SHE SUPPORTS AS MUCH AS SHE CAN. THESE ARE THE TRUE WOMEN THAT SHOULD BE RESPECTED, AND NOT ALL THESE NONSENSE TWERKERS LOOKING FOR THEIR FATHERS TO BROKESHAME.

I GREW UP WITH WHAT I OBSERVED FROM MY FAMILY IN MIND SO FROM DAY ONE IF SHE'S NOT CALLING OR TEXTING BACK, OR THROWING IN CASH LIKE I DO, I CUT OFF. I'M NOT GONNA SETTLE FOR SOME YOUR MONEY IS OUR MONEY BULLSHIT. IF I'M DOING A HUNDRED PERCENT YOU BETTER BE DOING A HUNDRED OR ELSE IT WON'T WORK.

THE WOMAN THAT CLAIMS SHE CAN ONLY "SUPPORT" HER HUSBAND WITH AT MOST 20% OF ANYTHING, PLEASE TELL ME. DOES SHE INTEND TO TAKE THE REMAINING 80% TO HER GRAVE?
OF WHAT USE IS THE MONEY IF YOU'RE NOT TAKING CARE OF YOUR HUSBAND AND KIDS WITH IT?

Apart from the first sentence, this post should be virtually framed and have it's own exhibition.

I am inexplicably baffled when I hear "men provide, women support", breadwinner, my money is my money, man is the head so he should provide and all those ridiculous comments.

How on earth do you choose to marry someone and intend to spend the rest of your life with someone or even claim to love someone and you cannot see yourselves as one unit, a family? I mean, my money is our money, your money is our money. Is it really that hard? For non-marriage relationships, no one owes the other anything. Each person is responsible and where one assists the other, the assisted party should be appreciative and not feel entitled at all.

I just cannot make do with a lady that does not pull her weight. In fact, once I notice you don't do jack, only waiting for me to set up dates and spend, I flee and friendzone you. We might talk or go out from time to time but trust me, the expenses will remain negligible in the grand scheme of things. And there will never be a cash transfer except I'm making a normal friendly contribution or loan I could have made to anyone.

The funny thing is, the female friends I have had, who had no qualms pulling their weight, have my utmost respect. I end up spending much more than I ordinarily would on them, because I know the person is not trying to use me. I really don't understand how so many guys are fine with having partners that deliberately contribute little or nothing.

I LOVE THIS THREAD.

Should be a reference on all other entitlement mentality reformation threads..

UndauntedYOCA:
Shouldn't ladies also make their own money?
Marriage is between two people who must work together to ensure things work out, they do so by working together in unity, reasoning together, helping each other, lifting each other, having each other's back. It's not the sole responsibility of a man to cater for his family, if a man is capable of contributing 60-70% then the wife should contributed the rest. Sometimes most men don't grow much because they're left with the burden of footing 90-100% of the bills in the home. Personally, I'd never support that men marry ladies who do not have ambitions, ladies who aren't working towards being financially independent and supportive, ladies who are selfish/stingy, call it whatever. If not for the fact that some men are blinded by ass and boobs, they wouldn't make the wrong choice of marrying alady who has the mentality that a man must foot all the bills, no be una fault, na una preek dey reason. Even if a man isn't financially bouyant, if he has a partner that believes in that two shall become one (that is, working to help the other etc) then he is good good to go, this doesn't suffice to say that women should shoulder all the responsibilities of the home, a woman is called to follow (not to be confused with objectified, while the man leads, the woman follows but not blindly, not like a slave), to help and to love. A faithful and supportive partner is pure bliss (not talking about the biscuit brand o, lol, forgive my very dry sense of humour). Scout and choose widely!

Mehn.... Too much sense in one post..

Well done.