₦airaland Forum

BaddieFreak:
My step dad is maltreating my mom. What should I do?

He comes back home very late and drunk and beats my mom almost everyday. I have told my mom to leave him but she is adamant, I even rented a house for her at a point so that she can leave him but my mom only spent about a week in the house before going back to my step father's house after my step dad called her and was crying on the phone that he will change.

Yesterday I went to meet her and I saw her face swollen. When I asked her what happened she dismissed it saying it's nothing, I knew my step dad has done it again. I have reported the case to the police several times but all to no avail. I don't know if my mom and my step father made a covenant reason why they can't leave themselves.

Why are men like this? I am confused and heart broken

Your mum has refused to leave an abusive man BUT the one that helps u sleep at night is to generalize by labelling the male gender. Some of you people ehn....una problem too deep

xest:
stop supporting mediocrity

I dont know about scholarship for church members, BUT truly Quality education is never cheap. A lecturer guides you but most learning is done with the internet these days...if u buy 20k data bundle for ur child every month forthe 8 months he/she will spend on campus....thats 160k...the accomodation facilities provided by private unis(especially the ones that charge in this CU range) if you want to rent it for ur child in a public uni.....150k or even much more depending on location. can you quantify LESS exposure to cultism activities (i said less). Ur child is not in a classroom of 100capacity with 500 other students(quantify that one too). I think we should tell ourselves the truth, a Private uni that charges this and provides these basics isnt overpriced.

kingjoe:
if one has 3 kids in university .how will the family cope. does this amount include feeding and books .just asking.cos another 500k will be spent on feeding and books at least.its not easy in a country that gives unemployed graduates 30k for npower ,18k minimum wage.90percent of private schools don't pay their teachers upto 50 k,nysc 33k .it's just for few

the problem of an average Nigerian is not private proprietors providing an education that is out of reach of the general public. They are people in business and every business model is at liberty to pick its target market....It is the duty of the Nigerian Government(NOT private school owners) to provide quality education that is affordable for the general public, we did not vote prioprietors to give us quality affordable education. In Germany, university education is almost free, largely(only a small student contributory fee of abot 250euros), yet there are unis that still charge as much as 10k to 15k euros and they. they both co-exist

AnonymousRebec:
In many German school, university education is free.

In many Europeans schools excluding the UK, their fees are cheap too. As long as you can attend a school where you will be taught in their lingua franca, their schools are cheap. Though they have the expensive ones, but when you look at it, it is mostly international students that go to the expensive ones. The locals go to the cheap ones.

TRUE german schools are almost free for students, it doesnt mean a lot of money is not spent in maintaining in running the schools.In those German schools u still need to pay compulsory student contribution fee(ranges around 200 to 350 euros depending on the school)...this is excluding the main fact that the German government spends a lot of money to run these institutions. PhD students generally earn around 2000euros per month, u can imagine what full time lecturers n earn, also consider the fact that there is a very low student to teacher ratio. Institutinal facilities are very well maintained, internet access, libraries top-notch. My point is quality education is very very very expensive. Nigerian private universities are trying to get to this level without government funding, so it is bound to be far more expensive than the public unis largely funded by the government

hahahaha...no shame

1 million naira for a child to stay in a proper academic environment, learn and get his or mind developed....if the child spends 7months on campus in a year..thats less than 150k per month ... there is a big difference between something that is overpriced and something u cannot afford. Hustle and no born pass ur power, u go begin see things appropriately

flokii:
The problem with public unis became enormous when NUC started giving accreditation to glorified secondary schools like C.U and Babcock who don't want things to work in fed unis so they can entice and lure all the professors in fed unis with money to abandon their duty post and come to their glorified secondary school.
Most of C.U students can't sit for and pass exams they set for UNILAG, UI, OAU students even when revised to make the questions simpler.
How many of the glorified secondary school students are on probation or advised to withdraw out of poor performance? None!
Education has gone to the dogs.

Sound education is not giving students hard exams, this world has evolved.....skills skills skills ideas ideas ideas rule the world, Both private and public unis can co-exist, if the government do not provide a conducive environment for the teachers, how will they not cross to somewhere they can get that. there are private unis abroad too, but the public ones still do very very well.

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Tilykay:
Yes maybe expensive for the larger masses. You are correct in most other points. Except that no special offering was raised in the church for building both covenant and landmark universities.

Ok, that would be fair enough, if true

flokii:
Glorified secondary school.

Pay such huge amout to learn nothing and obtain printed paper certificate. Reason they dash all of them first class and 2:1 while they go outside to fumble.
How many of their church members can even afford this??

THE PROFESSORS AND LECTURERS OF PUBLIC UNIVERSITIES THAT SEND THEIR KIDS TO PRIVATE UNIVERSITIES, have u asked yourself why they send their kids to the so-called glorified secondary schools.....they know and understand the system they operate in...they know the system under which they were trained, they know the system under which they are training people now...they know whatup

vickydevoka:
De only courses I can study in dat kinda skuk are only business courses ( estate management, law n de rest). I no fit pay dat kinda school fees de collect salary. God forbid

it goes beyond courses, its about the possibilites ur immediate environment puts in ur face...some private unis have flexible curriculum and expose you to what u need to do to make the difference, as a medical student u will see what u can do with tech in the hospital, as estate management student u will identify how u can create positive disruption to the existing other and deliver better value for clients, as a Lawyer same thing.....u see all of these ideas on a daily, it becomes the normal for u. Every sector is saturated already, what makes the difference is how u do things differently...which is what private uni guys are doing very well

Coldie:
U think those people became what they were just because they attended private uni?

They became what they were caused they left the country and maybe advanced their education overseas

Founder of paystack did not school abroad.

od501:
Oga don't say what you don't know!! This is one of the best universities in the world. [b]At least they have been ranked twice in the best 100 universities in the world [/b]and top 10 in Africa. I agree when you argued about how many church members can afford it, the fees are way too expensive though, but they are amongst the best you can find in Africa.

statts these days have shown covenant is the best in Nigeria at least judging by employability and productivity of the Alumni BUT when was it ranked in the Top 100 in the world...calm down sir....abi na 1000 u wan talk...i have not seen a time at least 500 American universities have not been ranked higher than any Nigerian University.

flokii:
Glorified secondary school.

Pay such huge amout to learn nothing and obtain printed paper certificate. Reason they dash all of them first class and 2:1 while they go outside to fumble.
How many of their church members can even afford this??

I also have an issue with how the money used in starting the universities were raised from church members who cannot afford to send their kids there. They should have made it a proper business set up, and so the donors operate as shareholders, they make profits or losses as the case may be....But about what the university charges...sincerely it is not out of the roof. Education is very very expensive, Public universities is largely subsidized by the government....lots of public institutions charge very small for the regular degree programs BUT use other means to raise funds to complement what they get in running the schools, d reason diploma and predegree programs are very expensive, see unilag business models for example.

flokii:
Glorified secondary school.
Pay such huge amout to learn nothing and obtain printed paper certificate. Reason they dash all of them first class and 2:1 while they go outside to fumble.
How many of their church members can even afford this??

i used to think this way until i started seeing piggyvest, paystack, and lots of their graduates doing very very well outside the shores of nigeria in fortune 500 companies.......looks like generally a public uni person aspires to work in top Nigerian companies and govt agencies(ofcourse exceptions are there, the mindset of an average private uni student is chanalled towards building solution, creating systems that can work better, or at least aspire to work in the biggest organizations in the world(and there are exceptions to this too)

Ohizman73:
No sence here, Give to Ceaser what is due to him.If he indeed was a traditional man, he ought to have opted out of an Foreign event as Church marriage in the first place.There are ethics and protocol in every said event.Is he now trying to rubbish his bride that wore an english marriage gown . lets be factual in all we do.

It is a church wedding, no dress code for church weddings, if a man chooses to be different lets respect his choice. if u wont do yours his way, its also fine, lets normalize freedom to do what we desire. Btw i love the mans attire , he rock am well and the wife in a white wedding gown beside him is not odd at all...good combo

The kind of man i respect....rock your thing with pride....

BruncleZuma:
True, I don't want his resume, I want to see what he does in his new position; we've seen individuals come in which flowery resumes and bungle things up astronomically.

lots of them, at best they are just there maintaining the low standard they met, not improving anything. the system is much more important than the individual..

BruncleZuma:
Huh...?! What manner of trash did I just read, how's his drivers' religion or aides religion got to do with anything?

we have been reduced to making all these unecessary things an issue when we should concentrate on competence. I am not optimistic because Nigeria has a way of making performers fail. His resume seems quite impressive, but This man will only be as good and effiicient as the the president wants him to be. sadly, we have a mediocre president.

Maina that we have been looking for was produced/arrested or whatever they choose to call it, because a senator is on the hot seat.... Keep legislators under serious pressure, things will work in this country ...they will put pressure on the appropriate authorities to do their job

techmo:
Do you just use words you have no meaning of?!

Nepotism in Lagos senatorial district

Godfatherism?!

How?!

Do you need me help you with the definition

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ok

Ajibel:
Free of what?

godfatherism and the consequential nepotism....my opinion though, no need to be vulgar

i dey wait 4 the outcome of this election, let us see if Lagosians have seen the light and will be free come 2023

the IGP reports to the President/Presidency, this same Police force attempts to use the court to stop the activities of a panel instituted by the same president they report to, the Presidency claims no knowledge and expresses shock,,,,,...either the IGP is undermining you as the president OR the presidency is playing a clumsy game. However you want to look at it.....Buhari is not competent.

Uniquekriss:
Kanu's reaction to the allegation is legendary buh he should actually get to the root of the matter to ascertain how innocent the wife is, na small thing dey kill man even when we know family comes first. He may choose to do his investigations and analysis off social media.

exactly what a real man will do..keep his family away from the eyes of the public storm, investigate in private and make your inferences n decisions without subjecting it to public interference.

DaddyRochie1642:
Kanu needs to add Weight

maybe his wife isnt even complaining...btw he looks ver cool this way......some people dont find flesh attractive

witworth:
Yes for the children, No for the marriage.

This is it for me too but even at that it is still not universal...others will have their view of family achievement carved out differently and it will still not be a wrong view...like the poster above u said, achievement is subjective

DonTattaglia:
Very lame mentality..

it is not lame sir/ma. please how do you define a family. It doesnt matter what we have been made to believe. It doesnt matter if we are married or aspire to get married, the truth remains the truth, marriage is not what defines a family. Adequate Finances n maturity are ingredients needed to start a family, not marriage.

internationalman:
He may have children but he doesn't have a family..

I've shown you the definition of marriage..

I don't like marriage anymore than you do, but the truth must be said.

family is defined as a group of or more parents and their children living together as a unit. the belief that you must be married before you can have a family is erroneous. Some parents live together with their children without being married and are even happier than some married ones. Lets see things for what they are, there is marriage, there is family, none is a prerequisite or consequence for the other. Achievements can be defined by what an individual set out as his or her goal, to some marriage n having kids could be an achievement, to others it might not be.

Romanoff:
How old was she when she had this boy?

48 minus 20 would be 28.