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In life, you are forever full of choices. You may choose to have a
pessimist's view and live a self-defeated life or you may choose to take
the optimist's route and have a challenging and fulfilling life.

#1. Optimists expect the greatest.

They tend to think defeat is just a fleeting delay, that its causes are confined to this one case.

#2. Optimists tend to center on and plan for the 'difficulty' at hand.

In other words, they most likely reinterpret an off-putting experience
in a way that helps them discover and mature. Such people are unfazed by a bad situation, they perceive it as a challenge and try harder.

#3. Bright expectancies of optimists also forecast better reactions during transitions to new environments, unexpected tragedies and
unlikely turn of events. If they fall, they will stand up. They see opportunities instead of obstacles.

#4. People react positively to optimists.

Optimists are upbeat and less dependent on others for their happiness.
They find no need to control or influence people. They usually draw
people towards them. Their optimistic view of the world can be catching and influence those they are with.

#5. Optimism seems a socially desirable trait in all communities.

Those who share optimism are generally accepted while those who spread gloom, panic and hysteria are treated unfavorably.

#5. When the going gets tough, optimists get tougher.

Pessimists are more likely to quit trying when difficulties arise. Optimists typically maintain higher levels of subjective well being during times of stress than do people who are less optimistic They persevere. They just don't give up easily, they are also known for their patience. Inching their way a step closer to that goal or elusive dream.

#6. Optimists are healthier and live longer.

Medical research has justified that simple pleasures and a positive attitude can cause a considerable boost in the body's ability to fight
disease.

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simple! avoid or reduce eating saucy/ seasoned foods for they can lead to mouth odour

As we all know, first impression matters. Usually whenever it comes to approaching the opposite sex, we guys usually use different strategies to introduce ourselves irrespective of what our motives are (frienship, relationship or fun). Well as for me heres my (typical) way of introducing myself to the opposite sex. I call their attention politely, qnd then pay them a complement.

ME: Hi/ hello, excuse me/ good morning

Girl: yeah?/ goodmorning.

Me: looking at you from overthere and i couldnt help but notice how great/ sweet/ nice your outfit/ shirt/ bag/ shoe is. It realy complements your beauty / you look realy gorgeous/ great in it.

ME: I just felt i needed to come tell you how sweet you look this morning.

SHE: oh thanks (ignore me)/ thank you(blushing)/ hmm ok (blightly)

Me: By the way my name is Tunnyl / Am tunnyl (stretching my arm for a handshake)

SHE: hmm Ayo (blightly) / Aaand i am Aaayo(enthusiastically)
(returns the handshake or doesnt cuzza fear of "touch and go" lol)

ME: Pleased to meet you AYO

She: likewise(blightly) / oh nice to meet you too tunnyl

And then i carry on from there by using different conversation starters like the ones here http://
xenxaltonix..com/2014/07/5-superb-
questions-guaranteed-to-help.html?m=0


So there it is guys, would love to know how you also introduce yourself to the opposite sex in public places and ladies you can also tell us how the opposite sex usually introduce themselves to you.

cynhamscakes: That K is the worse. I hate it sooo much when people use it instead of simple ok.

tot u ladies are the ones that reply with "K" and not guys

glitest: Nice info!.... The problem is, it s way more easier said than done.

true, but practice makes perfect, right!

Yomieluv: Very helpful,people take undue advantage other. I gave a friend a huge amount of money,when he wants to buy his car,since January,he hasn't paid back,now I find it hard to help out people now,cos he left a bad taste in my mouth. He doesn't even pick my call again. Wish I knew this earlier.

i feel your pain bro. We've all been there

hmmm ok

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If you are the "very nice" or maybe "fairly nice" type of person. You
know how annoying people can be attimes. They always try to exploit
your niceness and kindness, always trying to use you, push you, get
you to do more than a descent amount and annoyingly continue to ask
you to do more. The worst is that your efforts are not often
appreciated and you are still taken for granted.
Unless you learn to say "NO" to this type of people, the circumstance
may not change or may even get worse. People can inconsiderate and
unreasonable sometimes, they dont care if you are busy, they just
want you do do exactly as they say at that moment. Being able to
reject their demands will help you gain respect and you will often be
appreciated whenever you offer to help them.
Here are the four ways you can say "NO" to any request without
getting aggressive or negative response from people.

#1. SAY IT IN A SOFT AND POLITE TONE

As opposed to yelling "NO" at the person which may create an
uncomfortable encounter you can instead say no indirectly by
deferring your help. For example
"Not right now please!, Am a bit preoccupied at the moment but will
be done in some minutes, by then i can help you."
"Please am busy and i dont have a free time for now. Maybe later in
the day"
"Oh i would realy love to help, however not at this moment, please try
michael".

#2. NEGOTIATE A DEAL

Whenever people who always want your help but would not help you
in return approach you for help, You can negotiate, because at this
point you have what they need then use that opportunity. Here is an
example
"I will help you but on one condition- and that is, whenever i need
something( anything) you will also help me in return"
Since you have what they want they usually would agree to your terms,
however if they disagree you can use approach #1 above by softening
the "NO" and postponing your help. This type of people view their
needs as more important and the need of others as secondary. Since
they consider themselves more important than others, then linking
your need to their gain is a fair negotiation approach. In a nutshell tell
then you will give them what they want if they give you what you want
in return.

#3. DIVIDE THE TASK

In cases whereby a request from these category of people cannot be
rejected. Another approach is to cut the task in such a way that you
take the smaller and easier part, while they do the bigger and hard
part. That is, you offer to help them only if they do the more tasking
part of the job. For example,
"I will clean two rooms if you clean the other three rooms".
"If you can get the materials i will write the research report"

#4. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

You can get better at this by saying no to things that arent so
important. That is say no to individuals or offers whose approval does
not realy matter to you. You will discover that saying no does nOt
mean the end of the world and doesnt necessarily imply that the other
person is not pleased with you. Best way to do this is to say no to
something you are offered and choose other available options.
The idea here is to win back control of your interactions with people
that often push you beYond limit. It gets better with time and practise.

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bizzlemie: 5 DANGEROUS REPLIES THAT CAN DESTROY A CONVERSATION


5. Fine

4. Nothing

3. Dunno

2. Bye







.....and the number 1 most dangerous and potent convo killer










....wait for it











[size=16pt]1. K [/size]

lool. funny!. Well rejection isnt a bad thing, just move unto the next person. and when you are rejected its not bbecause you did something wrong, sometimes the person you are talking to might not be in the mood for a conversation or is bothered by somethings

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To approach someone for a conversation can be real scary sometimes.
Most of the time when people find themself in a room filled with
unfamiliar faces where everyone seem to be having a good time, they
wanna join and start a converstaion but are caught up with the
thought of what people's reaction would be and maybe they would
look, sound or act awkward. Most of the time The reason why you
wont like to brEak the ice or start a conversation with a stranger may
be due to the following assumptions

"i dont have anything great to say", or "what if i say hello and they
respond in an awkward manner or they dont respond at all or "what if
the conversation ends in awkward silence"
Thus in cases like this the best way to break the ice is by using
conversation questions which are open ended. The advantage of open
ended conversation questions is that you wont end up getting a mere
"Yes or No" answers from people which might end up killing the
conversation, also you are able to pick clues from their response
which would make the conversation a lot smoother. Below are five
great open ended questions to start or build a good conversation with
anybody.

1#. HOW WAS YOUR DAY? / HOW IS YOUR DAY GOING?

Although, everyone is familiar with this question. Fact remains that
this is a great conversation opener, because of its simplicity interms of
response and also because the person you ask is sure to have an
answer to it. And also giving the other person an opportunity to talk
about him or herself and making them the center of attraction tells
them you are polite and caring. This also helps to give hints about any
family, work or leisure activities they engaged in that for that day. You
can then pick from these information to further develop your
conversation.

#2. HOW DO YOU SPEND YOUR LEISURE/ SPARE TIME?

This is a great conversation question. This is because it helps both of
you to see how much you have in common in terms of hobbies, which
would help take the conversation further. This question makes it
possible for both of you to discuss your hobbies, why you engage in
those activities, and since when have you been doing the activities.

#3. HAVE YOU BEEN ON ANY (HOLIDAY) TRIP THIS YEAR?

This question is guaranteed to provide you with lots of this to talk
about. Chances are the person you are asking this question might have
been on a vacation trip recently or him or her is planning one. They
would gladly share their good, fun and bad experiences of their recent
trips with you.

#4. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE DAY OF THE WEEK AND WHY?

This helps to lay a foundation for getting information about the other
person which often leads to why they picked that day of the week as
their favourite and things they do on that day of the week. Most
people would pick friday as their favorite day of the week though,
because they get to unwind, relax and have fun.

#5 SO WHAT BRINGS YOU HERE?

This open ended question is sure to get you guys talking for a long
time as the person must be there for a reason. He or she could be
waiting for someone, there to relax, looking to have new experience or
just to make friends. Careful not to ask this question in places where
the person's purpose of being there is obvious.

#6. WHAT DO YOU DO FOR A LIVING?

This a great conversation questions because it leads to asking more
questions like why they do what they do, and if they enjoying doing
what they do.
The aim here is the ask open ended questions about those ordinary,
normal everyday events that goes on around that person which is
easier for them to answer and also wanna talk more. You should note
that conversation needs to be a two way process in which both of you
benefit from one another, and you are genuinely interested in knowing
them rather than interrogating or interviewing them. Therefore an
ideal conversation question should be simple and easy so as to create
rapport. You should listen actively and show genuine interest in what
the other person is saying as this would help you to pick out the next
thing to say.

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hi pleqse drink lots of oranges everyday.

Of course, nobody likes the idea of being bald; this is something that affects a lot of men as well as women though. Working to regrow hair is not always easy; this can also cause a substantial amount of stress as you are trying everything under the sun to make hair actually grow back. Fret not, there are several home remedies that have been known to actually work, just finding what will work best for you is extremely time consuming since you need to give each remedy a chance to actually work.

How do you feel about onions? Most people are not huge fans of onion, particularly the smell. The benefits to your scalp are potentially huge though. Did you even stop to consider that the same food you put on your hamburger could also help you to regrow a bit of hair? This is a concept that is out of the realm for most people, but it is true. Taking a piece of onion and rubbing it over the bald part of your head until it is slightly red then applying honey for a short period has been known to help improve the circulation of the scalp and in turn improve hair growth.

Another popular choice is the usage of coconut milk and also a bit of aloe vera gel. By mixing together equal parts of the gel and coconut milk you will have a nice paste that you can use to spread around on your scalp and help stimulate the hair follicles to regrow hair. It is very important that you leave the treatment on for at least thirty minutes each time and do this a minimum of three times each week. After a couple of weeks, you should begin to notice some very small hairs regrowing.

Everyone knows that apple cider vinegar is a truly remarkable remedy. This can also be used to assist in hair growth as well. Adding this to the already long list of remedies that apple cider vinegar is capable of is certainly a shock for some people, but it is a reality. Add equal parts of the apple cider vinegar to a bit of sage tea and use it to rinse out the hair. This will help to also stimulate the hair follicles and help you to find a bit of fuzz regrowing.

If you do not see any immediate improvements try not to give up all of the hopes you have at first. There are several reasons why you might not see immediate results; this can range from a bad diet, to stress, to even problems with your overall health. Instead of looking to purchase any expensive treatments always take a bit of time to see a doctor and ensure that you are not experiencing any serious medical problems that could be impacting your hair growth negatively.

Perhaps the doctor will be able to find a problem, which would allow the remedy to work better. If nothing else, this would allow you to determine for certain that the remedy is not effective for your needs so that you can move onto pick out a new remedy to work with. Never just struggle along trying to force a remedy to work that is not effective. There are far too many choices that can help you to continue struggling for success.

As for me, i feel incomplete because its like i have wasted a precious day. Even if i dont have any important things to do for that day, i always make sure i get up to do something that contributes to my health, relationship, communication, career, or my sense of humor. How about you guys?

SpaceGoat: just stay off man!!

woreva. mr attention seeker. I bet she doesnt know u exist. loool

SpaceGoat: pleas stay off my crush !!

Dude ur crush aint ur girl friend. She gonn choose herself men. besides shez too pretty to be ignored

MISSYTOSIN: Thank God I don't have any of ds side effects. But op av u taken ur medication today??

good question. He prolly escaped from yaba left. retard!.. By the way, your beauty is breath taking

i knew itz gonn b scapegoat/andyblaze.. silly post indeed.

Hi brother. Get two pieces of aloe vera, cut into pieces, put everything in a container, add one bottle of original honey, fill the comtainer with water. Take half cup twice a day. and keep visiting the hospital. cuz i havent tried this method myself, just sharing the content of a great herbal book i bought...

Take heart bro.. unless you changr your imei to that of blackberry. Sorry! even if you put for inside blackberry porsche and insert it back into your android u no go see shingbai!. . i also subscribed on monday thinking i would enjoy the 3gb. but unfortunately am going through the same as you and i have put the sim in oneside though after being frustrated. you. Visit SHELAF.COM i guarantee you will see how to change your imei there.

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Sadly making fun of people is often viewed as
a way of "just having fun" or " to lighten the
mood". While this may appear as fun to those
who make fun of others, it is not so to the
person being made fun of as it often leave
psychological damages on the person even
though he or She may laugh about it to hide
the shame and anger as a result of the funny
remarks.
Although no solution is 100 percent guaranted
here are few things you can do to make
people stop making fun of you.

1.) HOW PEOPLE WHO MAKE FUN OF OTHERS
THINK

Most of those who make jest of others believe
they are better than that person in certain
ways and thus often feel compelled to control
others or gain control over others inorder to
feel better about themselves. Their
perspective is that their way of doing things is
the perfect way and anybody who does or act
otherwise is awkward and should be laughed
at.

2.) SIMPLY IGNORE THEM

Those who make fun of others are attention
seekers who engage in this disgusting act just
to feel seen and be the center of attraction.
However ignoring these kinds of people by
maintaining a tall, proud confident body
language which says "Your opinion doesnt
matter", "have you checked yourself in the
mirror lately" will render them powerless.
Because the more your body language shows
how much you feel sorry for yourself, the
more the torment increases. Also when
disregarding people who make fun of you,
make sure not to keep eye contact and if
possible keep walking away from that scene.
This would show how unimportant their
remarks and statements are.

3.) DO NOT TALK BACK

It is important to not talk back at them as
this may lead to arguments with you being
emotional and them getting more persistent
and forceful which would get out of hand
thus leading to violence. Especially if the
person intimidates you. Furthermore it is
certain that everybody at one point or the
other will experience verbal abuses be it mild
or intense, the key is not to take them
seriously as this is precisely what they want.

4.) BE CONFIDENT

Be confident, as those who make jest of
others often target individuals who appear
weak and are loners. When you speak, be as
clear as possible and also be assertive and
never act shy. Because if you are seen as
confident then chances of being made fun of
is very low as you will be seen by those who
make fun of people as a threat who may give
back as good as he of she gets.

5.) NEVER FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF

Be careful not to feel sorry for yourself
whenever you are being made fun of,
especially if it is something that bothers you a
lot like something that can hardly be changed
or is impossible to change, for instance
disabilty, obesity, e.t.c. Do not make it
obvious that you are bothered about it else
the jest would increase which may lead to
feeling of depression all the time.
Ignoring being made fun of is not enough
attimes as no matter how much you try to
avoid it, some remarks both innocent and
harsh might leave negative psychological
damages. It is advisable to confide in those
who you can trust about your problems and
also have positive impact on you.

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yes you can. If you have 1500. just dial *440*161# I dont think tgeres limit to how many times you can activate

i have searched day and night, group theory is okay but it doesnt explain the link between civil society and democracy... buh the liberal perspective of civil society explains the link....buh i am confused if a perspective can be used as a theoretical framework
thankz

Guys please i am confused on what theory to use as theoretical framework for my project. my project title is THE IMPACT of CIVIL SOCIETY on DEMOCRATIC CONSOLIDATION IN NIGERIA. thanks

Chuksworld: How long did it take them to fix it. I heard it takes weeks.

3 - 4 days

Hou cant fix the broken screen yourself..i had similar case once. i took it to tecno office at allen ikeja and got it fixed for 2,800. they might not charge any fee if it wasnt damaged by the owner(you).

i have tried it on N3 even before you post. it was a futile attempt. It might work on other tecno models but not N3