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nuchinova:
This comment is the reason male sexual harassment isn't taken seriously.

Don't mind them

JeffreyJamez:
That was what Ugo said in 2009 until he got raped by 6 black bra girls and he was ejaculating blood....It sounds sweet but when e happen, nobody go tell you. Continue praying for bad thing.

Which Ugo was that o?

Tell us tori

jhudit:
Oga just shut up and take corrections. I didn't read this rubbish...

This girl has problems
What is there to correct

jhudit:
You are very very senseless but have no one to tell you.
What is justification about that post?
That illustration is wrong! If you didn't understand my question then ask questions and stop showing your stupidity.

In case you still don't get it, that question is like saying "would you want an ugly fat man to rape you?" Nobody will desire rape, irrespective of the offenders physical look...!
I know you still won't get it, dumb men.

Oh lawd

Please dash this small girl sense.

Where in that comment did I imply that rape is desirable UNDER any circumstance?
I just used that example to paint a picture in his head, on how undesirable rape is.
Rape is unwanted, hence why I said that the rapist chooses you but you don't choose her.


But your brain power is low, you will not understand the message I was passing to him, to discard that thought of wanting to get raped

safarigirl:
see what you're saying, is the reason why you belong in Nigeria. Don't ever go to a country that has law and order, you won't last.

Have a nice day

And what makes you think I am a local boy without foreign exposure?

I'm just asking you on whether you think that "law" was fair in the guy and instead of you to address the issue on ground, you are still reacting emotionally

And I used to like your insightful posts on this forum over the years, but for you to respond like this, I'm feeling kinda disappointed.

Telling me not to go to a country that has "law and order" that I will not last. What is the correlation between that and the topic on ground?

pick out the holes in my argument, let me hear you and reason it (as you normally do, especially when it comes to women based topics) but you did not do that

As much as I believe in the law, that law must be fair and not stupid, or biased.
On that case, I still think more things should have been looked into instead of disgracing that guy.

What's wrong with that?

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Talking of an uncivilized country, many womenin this country are in denial that indeed men are harassed sexually in any form, while this subject matter is a recognized thing in the same "civilised countries" you love to mention.

What do you have to say to that?

safarigirl:
sexual molestation is not rape. It is molestation and that is what I have been calling it. BTW, in none of those situations did we have an unconscious or semi-conscious participant. If you are groping someone when said person is asleep, it is assumed the person is not conscious of their actions

I have given an example of two drunk housemates who had CONSENSUAL sex in the eyes of most on BB SA, but the girl claimed the next morning to have been too drunk to remember giving consent and the guy was disqualified for that. That is the closest example to what happened in BBN. I know that if such a thing had happened in BB Naija, y'all would call the girl all sorts of names, that is the pitiful country Nigeria is

And for you to support the girl in this case is terrible
So she claimed not giving consent and the guy was just disqualified like that
TWO DRUNK PEOPLE.
When they played the tape, was there any resistance from the girl? did she at any point say no, or push the guy back
Was she cajoled into getting drunk
What other factors were considered?


Instead two ADULTS had drunk sex and the man's life was ruined by it

And you still support that action within you

It's a shame, very big shame

safarigirl:
in America, if you sleep with a 17-year old girl and you are a 20-year old guy, it will be termed abuse of a minor. Is it fair? No, not exactly, but it is THE LAW.

The fact that barbarians occupy this part of the world does not mean everywhere else is filled with people who only know how to take without consideration for their actions

Nigeria still operates that useless law that a husband can have non-consensual sex with his wife. So don't worry, you and your ilk are safe as long as you remain here. Try what Kemen did to TBoss in SA, let me see how you won't see the four walls of a cell

That law goes two ways...

The same way a 20 year old woman will go to jail for sleeping with a 17 year old guy... It's vice versa.

And non consensual SEX between husband and wife is not what I support.

You did not even address the main thing I spoke about and you are getting emotional
Why would two drunk people have sex and it's the guy that gets the heat.
What if it was the guy that was being slept with against his consent.
That does not make sense to me.
A drunk girl taken advantage of by a clear eyed guy should be dealt with tho.

And for the record, I'm not in support of sexual violations against BOTH GENDERS.

Hemanwel:
Na wa for this Obinna oh!
Obinna go dey play midfield for us for Super Eagles but for inside room, him na top striker. He even scored a brace in one of the matches he played inside room.
Oga, we need you to come strike for us against Cameroon oh!

Happy 30th birthday to you, man! lol

Is her Instagram handle not supposed to read "Olga Obi"? or "Olga Mikel Obi"?

It's not necessary bro
She can keep her name if she want to

davidif:
Goodness gracious!!! see mentality!!! Now this is what you call a one dimensional overtly simplistic reasoning. Naija mentality sef. I hail una.
Why should i be surprised sha! this is Africa we are talking about.

It's not surprising, it is not Nigeria

My country is still behind in this subject, for women to think that men don't get sexually harassed too.
In other climee, this is well recognised, and when a junior staff reports the senior of harassment, be it male or female, the matter will be taken seriously

jhudit:
So, sexual harrassment is cool when the lady is beautiful?
Thank God this is coming from a man.

Is this one sensible at all

You cannot understand simple English?

I said indeed, he does not want to be harrassed, and just used that as an example
How can any guy WANT to be sexually harrassed biko?

If you have experienced it, you will not wish that for your enemy

missyadorable:
How can a man be complaining of sexual harrassment?
Men always want sex...Something they chase,spend money on,tell lies to get being offered on a platter of gold irrespective of the person or location is a plus

having sex with his boss/colleague at work is a mega achievement.Something to discuss with the guys at a bar over chilled beer and be applauded and envied by peers.

Unless a child under 18years,there is nothing like male sexual harrassment.
An invitation for sex is every man's dream.

Better leave that one

You obviouskt have no clue about what is happening..

Do You know how many married men are bullied to have sex with their female bosses against their will?

You people are probably teenagers talking here, go to the workplace,and see the harassment men AND women too go through, then you will not be talking like this

Boboye4slim:
well I want to be sexually harassed. I'm so sex starved, and I don't know how to approach a lady. I'm miserable!!!

Trust me, you don't
You have forgotten that your rapist will choose you, not the other way round.
If a fat, unattractive and sick lady wants to rape you, will you still want to be harassed

TheLogicalMind:
This topic is nothing but unrefined bull crap. So statistically if 1 out of every 1000 men experiences sexual harassment in the work place, it makes it as bad as the 900 out of 1000 women who experience it? Stupid, stupid, stupid

What is this one saying?
Who told you 1 in 1000 is being molested

austinosita:
Naija girls nor fit try am, but go yankee.....white girl go spend her money on you, still dey beg you join!
Na there love finish!

Love never start for naija

Have you experienced this?

dayowunmi:
Okay, what he did was wrong, he was disqualified from the show and he's apologized. What else do you want. I think at some point we have to define what is rape! If it was a tboss that went to grope a male housemate, I doubt it will be termed rape! On Bigbrother Africa several years back, a Botswana house mate, named Miss Peo was groping the Ghanaian male housemate and demanding for sex and it was all caught on tape, the guy refused her though and nothing happened! Infact Miss Peo and some other former housemates including Uti was even invited to visit the house during the edition Tayo faniran participated in. Somebody was groping someone and the person being groped said no and the one groping her stopped, that is rape? Somebody help me, am confused o. This whole case lacks merit.

@safarigirl what do you have to say to this?

safarigirl:
the useless man crawled into her bed, so she should run out because he was in it?

Someone that had his dick out while he was touching her inappropriately and you said nothing happened?

Of course such a thing is normal in this useless country filled with animals like you and Kemen so how will you see any wrong in it?

Even in SA, when two drunk housemates had sex, the guy was disqualified because the girl claimed she was inebtiated and was not aware. They were BOTH drunk, but who got the axe? Who was further humiliated? Women's rights groups followed it up, the guy never got the kind if exposure Kemen is gettaxe now

That is what takes place in a civilized society, not this jungle you animals live in.

Your mentality is as a result of your society

You see yourself?

So two drunk people had sex, not that the girl was drunk and he was not o, they were both drunk, and because she claimed she was not aware, the guy was disqualified, and you, Safari support such ruling?

Shameful

If the guy's eye was clear, and he was taking advantage of the drink girl, it would have been a different case.

This is just pathetic.

Kemen did wrong, was disqualified, and should move on.
But for the record again, he did not RAPE T Boss.
We can call that assault tho.

And if indeed people were wise in this country and not idiots, this should have been a trigger for a female based ngo or women rights whatever to run a campaign to educate young men (and women too) in secondary schools and tertiary institutions on how to conduct themselves with the opposite sex in the proper way, consent and al like it will be done in a "civilised country"; they are running their smelling mouth on social media

They only call civilised country when it suits their argument

Rubbish

back2sender:
When the fulani and hausa people were helping thier people to get employment in civil service, military, custom, police etc the southerners refused to help thier fellow brothers because they want thier brothers to keep serving them (PHD SYNDROME). NOW THE RESULTS ARE CLEAR THE SOUTHERNERS ARE NOW WAILING FOWL PLAY. The north were very strategic. Even as at today the southerners still keeps refusing to help thier brothers.

Thank you o

At least someone is using his head

For Hausa people, injury to one is injury to all, meaning they got each other backs.

For us in the south on the other hand, the story is different

And you wonder why things are like that

odaniel1:
Are the Beninoise hostile to Nigerians like the ghanians?

In my experience with them....

NO

Donjazzy12:
The marriage will never last! Mark my words.

Don't be a pessimist jare

obailala:
Cut this crappy insecure mentality for once... What do you mean by real Igbo and fake Igbo?... Anyone who aligns with your position is real and others are fake?... Right from time, the word 'Igbo' has alternatively been spelt as 'Ibo' in several literature. Only insecure people struggling with self-esteem issues suddenly see this as a grievous or demeaning offence.

Don't mind all these people pls

Dreambeat:
It's your God given right to support or not support Biafra.Brexit was not supported by every Brit, today Britain has left EU.You are just one person with one vote in a referendum,many more others support Biafra.We all know that you are protecting you business interest like many of your kinds are,but just ask the federal government to allow a referendum,then you will see how much you are in the minority.As for me I stand with BIAFRA.

And Britain leaving EU has been their biggest regret.
You obviously don't watch the news.
Brexit vote was won by a small margin, but with catastrophic consequences

Now Theresa May is confused and the remain voters are kicking.

The soft landing for Britain would be giving them the same status as Switzerland and Norway, but that negates the whole purpose of leaving in the first place.

If this mess could happen in Britain, what of Nigeria?
Where many do not understand the consequences of the decisions they make

You people think leaving a country or drawing new borders will just change things overnight and the people will be enjoying?

Well sha

Na wa
So black men cannot have an intellectual discourse about each other's country without it degrading to this?

WTH is wrong with you guys

If it is not Nig vs GH, it's Nig vs SA or some other country.

You guys should be ashamed if yourselves

There are good sides and bad sides to the both countries, and I have been to both, and spent good time in both countries too.

We can learn good things we do from each other to make our countries better, but this constant bickering


Let us use our brain biko

shedybaba44:
am the first and only son, is not easy o.... your parents wants you to marry from where they want, and the age they want,the course they wasted 5yrs pursuing medicine even when I was already doing zoology at the end I lost the admission and had to start all over again in another course, now have graduated they want me to marry immediately after service,start live immediately,your mum wants grandchildren immediately,Guys I regret being first and only son, I wish I had other younger brothers or better still I was the last born

You must be an Igbo guy

JiggamanGh:
Ask you illiterate brothers first. There is a reason you guys are. Ring killled left and right

JiggamanGh:
But your women are prostitutes all over the world.

What is your problem?

bantudra:
the way you want it will end in war again...your other choice is the constitution...think......if you realy want to leave that badly,their are ways...you still have a chance...try to change the constitution...and believe me,that would be very hard.....

you still have a chance solong nigeria still practice democracy....but the day military rule returns,then that door will be closed..

setting nations against nigeria is a very bad idea....nigeria will only become more militaristic....and i think that will happen sooner than later..capital punishment is back....the longer kanu stays in prison,the more the chance will grow that he will be sentenced to death....

understand who you are dealing with here....nigeria is not some backwater black nation in africa.....
we have tribes here that only understand how to fight and quarrel...

you think the yorubas,hausas,isokos,urhobos,tivs,sultanates,obas,emirs will go easy on you because you mention western nations....??...the colonialits had a tough time dealing with this area....

Nigga calm down jare

Simple comprehension you no sabi

Where Did I say that Nigeria should fight war

Are you sure you even understand anything

Read the thread from page 1 again

bantudra:
well..if you think you can defeat the nigerian army just like that,then continue....

and if you igbos push too hard,nigeria will become cuba or north korea....your choice...

What is this one saying?
Or you have comprehension problems ni?

Did I suggest for war?

pchukwudi:
Who the bleep wrote that constitution you babble about? God? Even the Torah that was given to Moses by God himself was later replaced by a bunch of more humanistic epistles written by Paul.

What kind of idiocy makes you think that a constitution which has lost touch with the aspirations of millions of people is still worthy of allegiance -especially when such a constitution directly violates the fundamental rights of indegineous people to self-determination?

My friend, all constitutions, regardless of how elaborate and progressive they may seem, are written codes. None of them is a living document. Thus when the living societies evolve to new realities, their constitutions should either be forced to evolve too and reflect the given society's present realities and wishes or the dead constitution loses its relevance. This is why civilized nations conduct referendum.

If this is true for progressive constitutions, how much truer do you think it should be for the repressive and extractive constitution we seem to have here?

Do you have any idea how many times the US has had to ammend her constitution?

Do you know that even the UK has no written constitution to its name as we speak?

So what's your problem? How could someone like you who claim to be enlightened not know that its silly to tie millions of people down to an obsolete document that no longer represent their interests?

Go and sit down.

I am telling you as it is on ground and you are talking zig zag.

We are alive, and we are looking, let us see how this country will break down

And lets see which international power will back it.

You people have zero idea about the situation on ground,

[quote author=obiezed post=55729819][/quote]Oh please

So it was in an auditorium that Bisfra was declared according to you, and you think that the action was not illegal?

Let us assume that was the case, and it was legal, what about the other ethnic minorities in the eastern region

Did they also give their consent before the country split? or ojukwu stupidly dragged them into a war they did not bargain for

And you wonder why the SS dealt a deadly blow to the thing?

TheCongo2:
OMG, very sad. We all have been through rejection one way or the other. The worst thing is when your loved ones reject you because you aren't doing good financially. But then again, no situation is permanent and the earth is spinning constantly. Those who were first at one point may find themselves been last. Conversely, the last ones may find themselves be the first ones. Therefore, never underestimate anyone because we don't know what tomorrow may bring about.

Just take it as a learning process and move on. One day, she may be embarrassed to look at you in the eyes. She may even pretend she never had an instagram account.

I remember when I was growing up in the Democratic Republic of Congo, a primary school friend of mine befriended some white people in the neighborhood. He started to mingle with white people in Secondary school. One day I met him on the streets and the guy pass me as if we never knew one another. He even put on a very serious face. I was hurt but there was no much I could do. I had to accept the fact that he was in a different world. I even started to thing that maybe he didn't remember me after all.

Then all of the sudden BAM, I was in the United States of America. This news became a sensation in the city where I grew up among all my peers. The next thing I knew the childhood friend ,who I thought didn't remember me, was looking for me. OMG, it means he never forget me all this time but preferred to ignore me because of the fact he had white friends.

You live and learn. And one thing I have learned is you never know who will help you and when.

I have come across this thought on Karma online:

"When a bird is alive, it eats ants. When the bird is dead, ants eat the bird. Time and circumstances can change at any time. Don't devalue or hurt anyone in life. You may be powerful today, but remember, time is more powerful than you. One tree makes a million match sticks but only one match is needed to burn a million trees. So be good and do good."

Hmmm
Such is life
BTW can you still speak French very well?

blackberlin:
Sehr gut. Ich bin deutschlehrer.

Gut Ich bin nicht so gut in Deutsch Du bist ein deutschlehrer... Wo? Goethe oder eine Klein schule