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Y'all have left ‘ what are you bringing to the table?’ to ‘ DNA’. This too shall pass

Is Nigeria a country?

It’s just a place taking up space, full of people with no sense of direction or purpose. A dull land where corruption runs deep and bribes keep things moving. Greedy souls everywhere, never satisfied, waving religion around like it means something — yet living like pure hypocrites.

pigmania:
Sometimes we erroneously think that we know someone else, but we are still getting to know our own selves. The key is going for someone with a good character, it is never cool to ignore red flags before marriage. I have an aunt who took her husband to Europe (she sponsored everything), he was tall, handsome, well built and crying like a kid on their traditional wedding day. He got to Europe, got a job, started getting money, drinking and probably flirting, but she couldn't hide his flaws anymore when he started beating her in her own home. It got so bad that she once jumped from the balcony of a first floor building, while chasing her with rage. Well, they are divorced now with three kids and she moved all the kids to another country. As for me, I'm not sure I'll ever get married, the wahala is just too much, but I surely want about two kids, baby mama self na another wahala.

Good example

So y’all should stop with the crazy narrative that it’s never right for Naija men to bring their wives abroad. From your example, it could also go wrong when a woman brings her husband.

nurudeen181:
About men taking their women abroad, i will say it's wrong, if a woman wants to go abroad, she should do it by herself. And first mistake men are making today is sponsoring their wedding 100% if it cant be 50x50 then you're investing wrongly.

To this statement, I have a question.
Is it right if the woman brings the man over as against the reverse? Does it make any difference ?

dbabs500:
Hello Nlanders

I will tel you guys something for sure, marriage is sweet, but the bitter part of it can affect a mans life even more than a woman. Episodes upon episodes have surfaced online regarding SOME men bringing in their wife to the western world and gradually seeing the demon crawl out of them. I have read many and heard of some within my community here in the UK. I always thought these episodes only happen to some people that it could never happen to me, bros and sis, he dey sup oo.

I don't want to delve into too many details, but I just want to share with you guys the most recent thing happening in my own, this is just to let u guys know that he unthinkable can happen to anyone whether or not you deserve it or not

So one day i decided to change the kitchen lights from the white one to the warmer bulbs, I had kept them right atop the kitchen cabinet which is a bit high. I climbed my chair and lo and behold I saw a paper neatly wrapped in a square shape, I took and opened it, lo and behold the attached is what I saw, I obviously don't know exactly what it is, so I called my mum, and the only thing she could tell me was to destroy it and up my spiritual game.

Overtime, I sort of react on situations with my wife, but I have changed ways. I politely and diplomatically approached her and asked if she knew anything about what I found, and she said, where is it, told her I have destroyed it but showed her a picture that I took. She sobbed and said she knows nothing about it, and I silently ended the convo.

A week later, I was assisting her to monitor the facebook ad that I have helped her with, a notification popped up on her computer saying ' finalize your hotel booking', which apparently popped out from bookings.com, I checked and saw that she pre-booked a hotel booking for 24th of Oct to 25th of Oct, I saw this 2 days prior to the 24th. I have had it in mind that I will not question her, set a trap and catch her red-handed, I know alot of you would say you should not have told her, she will now be smarter, I have my reasons and that's that. I left for work that day (24th), she was suppose to go for a house viewing as we are planning to move, I knew if for whatever reason, she might use that outing to go run things, that's if an actually plan was underway. On her wayback, we were talking while she was driving, then towards the end of the conversation, I asked her why she nor tell me sey she book hotel for me and her for Basildon, 24th to 25th two adults, she paused for like 6 seconds, and said which booking,then i gave her the lowdown, at first she was defensive, saying she does not want to further be asked questions, but that the pre-booking might have been done in error bla bla. I just ended it with no p, I thought I'd ask you.

Since 7 days now, she dey try seduce me, i nor gree Bleep, im just telling myself, what kind of fake life person wan dey live so, i am with a woman that at least i know she's effing someone, because she has not been caught red-handed its all 'lets continue our normal life' but me nor sabi pretend and the fear of contracting disease and also spiritual misfortune is now on the high for my mind. Winter dun come, who i wan dey nack, the depression just start now again.

Nlanders what would u do

If you bring gist come my side, I wan know everything

Ehehn, Wetin Dey for the paper wey you see ontop the kitchen cabinet when you been wan change bulb?

You sef
You for no tell am anything, you for plan am then catch her red handed, then everything go scatter🙃
Next time, keep mute and catch her.

Na from that catching, Una go come know where Una stand.

But, na you tear green card na
That means, US ain’t worth it for you
And, yeah you got served too- No visa

😂😂😂😂😂

Brighton1:
i jst wan greet u.
U no go greet me back?

No

Brighton1:
na crime say I dey greet u?

The question is: why you Dey greet me? No be crime, but there must be a reason. You never greet me before.

This girl sabi follow ‘unfine’ men

Na so e go Dey miss

Them don swear for Nigeria na

Brighton1:
Jennyclay
Ukaface
Saphiere
Goodlady

I say make I jst greet una oo, una good morning oo

Greet me say Wetin happen?

I don’t know anything about cars

Kobojunkie:
1. Everyone grows up knowing right from wrong. That happens to be the only manual one needs to be a good parent, wherever one finds oneself.

2. Everyone, including good parents, makes mistakes. Bad parents go a step beyond making mistakes. Not only do they reject every opportunity to learn from them to become better parents, but many also go a step beyond to pour all of their regrets on those kids whenever possible.

3. You mean like Boko Haram and your Nigerian Politicians move through life doing what they think is right, abi? Nonsense!

Wait to go, trying real hard to blur the line between what is right and what is wrong! You must think you did well there. 🙄🙄🙄

Do you know good and bad really depend on the context of a situation?
Being “good” alone doesn’t automatically make someone a good parent. Parenting is more like mentoring — and you mentor people based on your own principles, right?

So what happens when the child you’re trying to mentor doesn’t agree with those principles? Does that suddenly make you a bad parent?

You’re still not getting my point — your “right” or “good” might not mean the same thing to me.

Boko Haram and even some politicians believe they’re doing what’s right because, in their minds, they have a “good cause.” The people under them don’t question it either because that’s what they’ve been taught to see as normal.

It’s the same thing with parenting — people act from what they believe is right, even if it doesn’t look right to someone else.

So most often, I won’t want to blame parents 💯, until I understand certain things about them. The resources, their growing up, their mentality, their understanding of life. It takes a lot to be a parent, and while still grooming your child, you are still learning.

Mogajunior:
You sound like AI

I wish o
I for don turn myself to money making entity

Mrdealer4all:
I have so much resentment towards my parents

No one receives a manual titled “How to Be a Parent.”
Parents are simply individuals — each with their own personalities, strengths, weaknesses, and flaws — who happened to grow older. They still make mistakes, they’re still learning, and most of the time, they’re just doing the best they can. Remember, it’s a cycle: they were once raised by their own parents and shaped by the experiences and knowledge they had.

I may not know your personal story, but try to see them as people who never had it all figured out — they just moved through life, doing what they thought was right.

It is well.

You sha swear for Tunde Abi?

MrHandsome2013:
He married a lady he is 16 years older than.
He was 37 when he married to a 21 years old church girl without skill or education..
He married him because she was yellow and naive.
He took advantage of her.
Yes i said it.
Now his kids are suffering the evil atrocity he committed taking advantage of an innoncent Lady who he would have develop before getting married.
I watch this people living for years borrowing money from people without a single achievement.

Was the 21 years old lady forced to marry him?

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Cashio:
When you go to the market to buy commodities, do the sellers give you explanations as to why the prices tripped in the last two years? Abi Una think say bad government nor dey reach landlord side too.
You wan make landlord dey collect same rent where as in your own business, you have also increased your prices to balance with the economic realities in the country

Can you even listen to yourself?
So how does that question her manners?
What if she is a 9-5?
How do you know she is making more money?

Simple question: Oga landlord why you Dey increase rent?
ANSWER: Omo Igbo ti o l’eko.
Are you serious?
Play the scenerio in your head na, e make sense?

Seller: na 2,500 jale o
Buyer: why e come too cost like this na
Seller: na so, them close border/ dollar increase/ na Tinubu o/ na so we see am o/ we sef e hard us to buy

Appletek:
So, from what 1 person said, you are saying an entire tribe is tribalistic.

You are Igbo and not tribalistic. Can an Ebonyi or Enugu man be Governor of Anambra?

Yes
I said what I said, and I’ve had too many experiences ( directly/indirectly) to conclude that y’all are tribalistic

If he pain you, say your own too

Softmirror:
You can see how you people are always fond of looking for trouble abi?!

Baba
How does needing explanation for price hike equate to Omo Igbo not having manners?

Come and defend rubbish

Judging from what the comment of the landlord is, I can categorically state for a fact that YORUBAS are the biggest tribalistic people.

And that landlord needs to be schooled, how does requesting for an explanation as regards the rent hike equate to not having ‘eko’ ( manners)?

Oh, because his fellow Yorubas would sheepishly and foolishly agree with his rent increase without protesting? I see. Because their own money is coming from tree, oh sorry, they are getting more money from the man living in aso rock.


Rubbish

Why don’t Nigerians like leaving trees in their compound?

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

He don go dine and wine with enemies of his people😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

His people wan die😂😂😂

This country is too funny

Wait a minute!!!!

This guy is gay?!?

Tor!!!?

So it’s even possible that majority of these NL guys forming macho na gay

Waaawuu

Nemesis0147:
What kind of disorder is this?
dissociative identity disorder i guess😂

Mental hair disorder , I guess

🙃🙃

Well I think China is rich and mightily wealthy for him to have spent 37m

Did he complain during the time of the spending ? Maybe not

If you no get more than that money you won’t risk losing it.

Leave 37m out of the marriage. Cost of wedding shouldn’t equate marriage longevity.

Zonefree:





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So, how was he able to save about 18Million Naira to move to UK since his monthly income was just N185,000.

Abi e dey thief?

You know he said he lived with his parents, he was earning 185k
I’m sure he wasn’t paying rent or having extra bills
If he saved 100k every minute month for 7 years , then I think he saved enough to relocate.

They don’t know that too much of everything is not good.

They think their muscles can hold relationships/ marriage

Some of em are gays

They don’t know that they are at risk of limited flexibility,joint and tendon strain, heart strain

princepee:
Nice one... Joy of having a male child.
Hardly will a girl child do same even if she have the money.

I hope you’ve done same for your parents

Una no know anything other than comparison

Nbachenekwu