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Oh yes, they do look happy! besides, when it comes to most Nigerian marraiges, once there is MONEY, chances are that the marraige will be successful especially if the man sticks to his wife and wife alone and does not embark on the polygamous route.


Money will help but it is not necessarily the glue to keep couples together, as divorce rates among the well-heeled prove.

I understand that Nigerians are generally quite mistrustful and unbelieving of each other. The little that I do know from my time in Lagos is that everyone is scared of each other, tribes, policemen, robbers etc, There are even people who do not tell their own family when they are travelling around/back home - for fear of being set-up/robbed or even murdered. I am not astounded that the fact that someone might have their real profile picture uploaded surprises you, because let's be honest, most Nigerians partake in smoke and mirrors, where what you see is not what you get.

Even reading these boards, the level of self-hate is astounding. How can you expect others to love you, when you do not love each other. It is this lack of love and communal concern which you take with you when you leave the country. A lot of fraudsters are cold in attitude because they distance themselves from the community and this enables them to fleece it dry. Here in London, it is mainly done by Yorubas, but I think it is a national characteristic which needs a national mentality shift.

Not at all,, we are more advanced than you think. Maybe you should start campaigning in your UK for your government to help dismantle the fake country they created, then you'll know how far the resulting countries would go.

How can you be advanced if you have had 50 years of independence to separate and have been unable to?

Do you need our help again?

I said before, I do not think the Nigerian mind is advanced enough to have a concern for the collective. You maybe need another 1,500 years to lose the 'tribalism' wiring to move onto the next stage of having compassion for your neighbour.

My girl Funmi has three uncles in prison in UK - all in for some type of fraud. One for forging UK passports, the other for making dupes of bank cards and one for fake loans on properties. She said that a lot of Yoruba men do it because they feel that England messed up Nigeria, so they want to do the same to England. I think this mentality is unfair, because we provide a safe haven for the hell-hole that goes by the name of Nigeria.

Quote from: UK Bobo on Today at 04:35:42 PM
Why do you all live togeher if you hate each other so profoundly?

Ask your ancestors.

I understand but you people have had 50 years to sort out your problems. Ghana seems to have created a strong national identity, why has it not worked in Nigeria? I am just trying to find out, as I am outside looking in, as it were?

Why do you all live togeher if you hate each other so profoundly?

Lasinoh - Why does everybody Hate Igbos on these boards?

Touchy-touchy

I spoke to a General (Housa man) in the Army last year who has a mansion in St. John's Wood, Ldn. He said that is very easy to manipulate the South West becasue Yoruoba peoople make noise and protest but never carry through with action? So, he said the elite can carry on as they like and act with impunity.

So now the country is at a crossroads - with criminals in suits, police uniform and casual clothes. Bombers freely moving with IED's around the country, the authorities now want to point to CHAD and essentially say that no Nigerian will partake in this kind of activity! Complete delusion of the highest order!

The stunning aspect of this saga is that there are some who will fall for this, hook, line and sinker.

That goalkeeper would not look out of place in a veterans team.

This is outrageous. I am completely shocked. It is not normal to debase your neighbours like this. This is exactly what happened in Rwanda with Radio Milles Collines. You are inciting each other to hate and kill. Will your souls be able to live with the legacy of what might happen. The bigots among you are adults behaving like small children.

If another tribal massacre occurs please do not blame the white man, the ball is firmly in your court!

It seems as though it is not just your leaders that are corrupt, but rank and file, everyday people. This is terrible.
What kind of person sells the soul of this planet's future?

I fear that this kind of exploitation is endemic.

Bravo.

Absolutely splendid.

Yes, I agree whole-heartedly. I was thinking of a foreign military group (for impartiality of course) comprised of 50,000 soldiers (from ex- Pol Pot foot-soldiers, Shining Path guerillas, Al-Shabaab qat chewing- generals sprinkled with Lord's resistance army adolescent pistol-holders). I know Nigeria loves to lurch headlong into crisis but the sudden infusion of these kind of charachters will fast-forward continental implosion into a stunning supernova.

Bravo!

Poster - forget these colonial clowns telling you to stay in the UK. Nigeria for Nigerians.

Of course it will be difficult, but there is nothing better than being in a place with your own people who look like you and talk like you. Immersed in your culture and with loving family to offer you emotional, material and spiritual support through tough times.

Any deprivation that you will face, will be counter-balanced by the profound, innate warmth of being in the motherland.

Go and enjoy!

Why can't their safety be guaranteed. Are they treated as second class-citizens?

This is beginning to remind me of Rwanda

Why do you people never get on? You need to come together to move forward, otherwise split the country up asap. We gave you the country back and you have been going round in circles ever since.

I think Nigeria could move forward with accountable, foreign management to move the country forward.

When I was in Lagos, it seemed like the poorer the person, the more exercise (walking and manual work) they did. However, those that aspired to a western lifestyle (had money, big car, house with servants) were the most overweight.

I am sorry to hear your story. I live in London (originally from Southampton) and my girlfriend is Yoruba. I am white English and we have had a few issues over some cultural issues between us but thankfully we have worked through them. She used to regularly ask me for money, phone credit, hair money, despite having a job herself and I told her that this had to stop as I was not a mobile ATM (Automatic telling machine not Ass to Mouth).

Through conversation, she said that in Nigeria, women regularly asked their partner for money. I suggested that this may be the reason why in her previous relationships with Nigerian men, they felt entitled to treat her badly, abuse her publicly and sometimes beat and have forced sex with her. We are now on firmer ground together.

I suggest you speak to your husband and tell him how you are feeling and ensure that no money leaves your house until all of your bills and needs are met first. Good luck!

I second the motion but we also need to get foreigner to handle our PHCN and other public infrastructure.

I agree with you fully.

Don't count on Nigerians to come together and achieve any measure of success.
Nigerians only succeed as individuals. . . not as a group. Kiss
Too cowardly, too self-servomg and waaaaaaaaaay too apathetic. Kiss

7AM. . . .Abeg, wey my bed? God bless my sweet America! Cool


Could the answer be that Nigerians who have worked abroad and have an understanding of the evils of graft, corruption etc, like yourself Lasinoh, return back to run the country as you have seen the benefits that organisation and civil responsibility can bring to a country.

This is very serious now. The lives of foreign nationals cannot be protected as well as this of locals. Can we petition the UN to help here?

Lives of all people should be respected and valued, irrespective of the person or tribe. It seems as though this may be a case of spin, to divert the reader's attention away from the root cause, as it were.

I have to thank everyone above for a very frank and open discussion on a delicate and tender topic. Your openness is without question a big virtue. I understand that the legacy of colonialism has left wounds and mental psychosis on both sides. We here in England, have never had a deep discussion about slavery, the long-term and current wealth generated from it and how it has left a frisson of superiority among the upper classes here. We do have a 'Masters of the Universe' mentality which is quite misplaced.

I hope Nigeria can get back on it's feet quickly however I feel foreign intervention is necessary as the country does need to seperate. From what I read on these boards, there is a lot of distrust and enmity between the tribes.

P.S
Is distrust normal in Nigerian society as it seems no-one trusts anyone or anything. Quite sad really.

We solved your problem before, you had roads, postal service that worked, smooth exit and entry into ports and airports, effective and small civil service, health provision, light etc,

We can do it again. Think about it. Put aside ego and pride and look at the stark facts since 'independence'!

A friend of mine from Berlin is a fervent anarchist. She travelled to Nigeria for a conference and on coming back to Germany said that Nigeria is the last place an anarchist should visit, because she realised the 'beauty that organisation and structure can bring' to a country.