₦airaland Forum

Lovingkind:
Both the man and his wife are nigerians. He thinks this is Nigeria where you can brutalise women and go scott free

or where women are leeches

IdanNla:
My girlfriend was raped around March but did not tell me anything about it not until I came back from school and I found out she is acting strange and I got to put up an act so she did tell me what happen after much act she didn’t tell me but lied about the whole thing but I still put more pressure and she later dropped a voice note telling me how it happened.

That a co worker of hers invited her to his home after work and the same guy had asked her for a relationship which she said no and the guy lockup the matter. So this fateful day she requested or invited her to his house getting there the guy's junior brother left for school cause they are daily part-time student, after his junior ones left, he rolled up weed and started smoking, so during the process of smoking or afterward the whole thing started and she claimed to fight him and scream but the guy overpowered him and had his way with her after which the guy pleaded saying he’s sorry and she left for home and called her best friend which she suggest she reported to the police but my babe told her she don’t wish to pursue any case that the deed has been done already and they both lockup the mater.

And she even talked to the guy the next day at work and the guy was like he’s sorry and bought her prevention drug which she collected and used. After that day the guy wanted to start a connection which she refused and the guy was like what else she did want cause he had already beg so what is with her attitude and the guy lockup with her.

Some weeks later she discovered she was pregnant and she told the guy which the guy gave her 4K for abortion and she collected the money and did the abortion.

After saying all this she pleaded I should not breakup with her cause she don’t know how to manage the aftermath of the breakup and what happened was not her intention that she was sorry such thing happened!! After hearing all these I simple asked her some questions about the incident which she don’t have an answer to:

*1= A guy asked you for a relationship and you said NO that is the more reason you should not give him chance of being close or being with him alone in a room!!!*

*2= You went to visit such guy at home and you wore a gown like a guy whom ask you for a relationship would not touch you when he had the chance of being alone with you in a room?*

*3= The said guy roll up weed and light it right in front of you and you sat there comfortably!!*

*4= You claimed you fight him but you got no bruises on you or your undies gettting torn nor your cloth*

*5= You talked to the same guy the next day after the incident*

*6= You concluded to act like nothing happen !!!*

If you are to be me what would you decide after processing all this Asin put your self in my shoe or If your Senior Brother came for advice from you stating all this what would you advice

Right now am devastated not knowing what to do cause this is the same girl am planning on marrying next year or so and I love her more than I can actually comprehend.. Right now she is avoiding me etc But what I wanted to do right now is filling a case at the police station as breaking up has not cross my heart yet but to punish the dude for what he did..

there are three different situations here

1.she was raped

2.she wasn't raped

3.she was raped and probably recorded (been blackmailed)

Why don't u conduct a private investigation

Would you personally participate in an open marriage? Why or why not?

LeoDeKing:
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this was how Buhari followers started

Truly Nigerians are the problem of Nigeria

Calibrator:
Entitlement attitude is a progress blocker..... Doubt if you will notice your brother's cold shoulder if you are doing well yourself.


I don't blame him for cutting off dead weights.

it depends on ur upbringing

If u think helping ur siblings make them entitled ,there is absolutely something wrong with u

You share a bond with them (one u were born with) that cannot be broken even after death

They are the very first group of people who could likely donate an organ for u

You got fragments of same DNA

With exception of ur children ,these are the other people u should die for

Am very disappointed with u

Calibrator:
I said what I said.


This mentality is always fronted by the less privileged and entitled peeps in every family.


If you are doing well for yourself, life na per head. Nobody should leech on another.



Face your immediate family and let communication amongst siblings be strictly about courtesy not billings as if the elder bro is in charge of the family trust fund


As the first son of the family who is forging ahead without any past or present assistance, just sheer individual willpower, I know first hand how people like OP reason, I also followed the initial thread page to page that year.


Nonsense and entitlement!

people like u Na dey carry girlfriend matter for head but no dey gree help family

Calibrator:
Entitlement attitude is a progress blocker..... Doubt if you will notice your brother's cold shoulder if you are doing well yourself.


I don't blame him for cutting off dead weights.

did u just call ur own family a dead weight?

IamV:
"You're talking rubbish that has no base"

How she don't realize that these is offensive when you're engaging in civil argument with someone beats my imagination.
When someone start getting all emotional when they disagree with you,is better you ignore them,unless you want to expend your energy engaging in pointless discussion with such a person all day.

thanks

safarigirl:
I did not insult you

I did not say one word of insult to you

I called your statement baseless rubbish and that is a statement of fact

If you have any fact-based opinion to prove that your statement is not baseless rubbish, state it, or wear your cloak of ignorance and walk away.

did u know new Zealand has experience a progressive annual GDP growth decline since 2016

safarigirl:
You're talking rubbish that has no base


There have been women in power, do you think nobody has criticised Ellen Johnson-Sirleaf? Do you think Angela Merkel did not get heavily criticised? Have you not seen the criticisms on Kamala Harris? Even Michelle Obama that was just First Lady, continues to be heavily criticised.

The PM of New Zealand is a woman, go and read


Stop touting unproven and baseless nonsense on the internet in 2022. Read

insulting anyone whom criticize you has always been a trade mark of ur gender ,am not surprised here

Simran94:
There’s nothing like a man or a woman’s standard.
Do something good for your country, for the people who elected you into power! Whether you are a man or woman in power, work for the people who put you there.

Bihari is a man, does he qualify with the so-called “man’s standard”? What has his tenure brought to the country in a good light?
Tinubu is going in soon, does he also qualify with the “man’s standard”?

hey am not saying men in power are ok

But they are usually cretisized heavily ,the same can't be said for female leaders as any man whom criticize them is labelled a misogynist , believe it or not men and women in power are treated differently

If a female leader make gender biased laws ,it's seen as a no big deal

But we both know we never hear the end of it if it was done by a man

Simran94:
And they pity her enough to want to consider her for a second term?
OK

of course if a woman does something good it's often exaggerated as it's seen as unusual for her gender

Believe it or not if we judge her by a man's standard she may not seem so saintly

Show me a virtuous woman and I would vote for her
quote me if u got any virtuous women in our political circle

One that has not been implicated in one money laundering or another

One whom rose in power without

Sleeping around

Playing the victims card

Simran94:
And since the male gender has been given the nation to handle, what has come out of it asides from corruption, embezzlement, famine and insecurity?
See all your governors in the country spending multimillions of naira on GIRLS, buying expensive houses and cars for them, sponsoring their trips to other countries in private Jets. All with the Public funds meant for the development of each states.

Other developed nations are putting women in power, the leader of New Zealand since 2017 has been a woman and there’s has been no complaints about her, the VP of US is a woman. Look at the parliament members in the US, Canada, New Zealand and the rest there are tons of women leading political parties. But here in Nigeria, out of 360 members of the house of rep, how many women were given a sit?

no complain because they pity her

Sterope:
You can tell who their mothers are by their replies.

parasites are very easy to identify

Mko123:
Seriously, we shouldn't be served what we don't deserved. In the entirety of the cosmos at large, how many female president can we boast of, using Africa as a case study?

even us no get female president

Temidayo9:
Date

thanks

Saw these aboki boys hawking these alongside coconut and Hausa groundnut

kettykings:
I give it to Russia military, no mass starvation of innocent women and children, no shooting of unarmed civilians, no individual burning of business premises and homes . Just professional military engagement.

Elsewhere a 10th century useless satanic military would have started starving women and children with their satanic cheerleaders singing that all is fair in fair

wetin u fit say war be self

In times past women were raped and killed u dey talk about starving ,shey Na only the men suppose starve and die since their life no get value

Some people just dey yarn with their third leg

HarunaWest:
Asking citizens to fight for their country is now a crime? Dude must you make a comment? Like I don't get you.

asking men (without women) is wrong in an equal society

It reeks of double standard

FERNANDEZISBACK:
I am not..
You shouldn't have a problem..

feminism was how lesbianism and gay began

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Nothing Evil in homosexuality..it's who they are..stop disturbing everyone with your imaginary creature pls...
He has no business with reality....

only a fool would say there is no GOD

Oya prove to me he doesn't exist

Lordave:
Better to be inside Asia prison while their family in Nigeria live like Free Asians. At least na drug and scam, they no force or kill anybody to patronize them. It’s better than to be in Nigerian prison for decapitating and harvesting the organs of 100s of your own kinsmen and foreigners in the South Wáste, and un top it your family in the South Wàste is not living better live than you in Nigerian prison.

That’s a very big frustration no human being should never live with, I now understand the bitterness of our sufferisticated neighbors.

if foolishness could be measured you would be it's SI UNIT

Sleekfingers:
I listen to him on nigeria info fm 99.3 last week Thursday....

Kinda like the dude... ..why people never come out to collect the money? Abi, dem dey fear to collect 2.5 million?

the vain display of such powers might have a adverse effect on the user

Amalekki:
To do what? Until you turn to cat and back, no deal

so that u go tie am for sack abi

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