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skoskosko:
It depends on the circumstances that led to that status. Never take her word for it, it does not mean you are insecure;
1) Is the boyfriend/husband deceased? If so good to go, although With added expenses.
2) If he is alive, why did he not wife her;
a-: did she have to escape an abusive/immature relationship? If so, no problem.
b-: was she a promiscuous, abusive partner, that the man had to run for his sanity.

A true life story that happened last November. I and my flatmate live in diaspora. I got a call early November from a mutual friend if my flatmate is still with his babymama, I used the term, because although with complete tradition engagement/intro done, they were not yet officially married. She lives in his house with their child, has every good thing of life and runs his bussiness. Marriage is in the works and there is no case of abandonment because we visit Nigeria twice or in worse case once every year. Communication is good, FaceTime is almost nonstop. I confirmed in the affirmative and he went on to tell me how his woman has been passed around by virtually everyone he knows, unfortunately for her she did not know this guy knew us, so she was basically free around since it was a bit off their zone.

I broke the news to my flatmate, he vowed to catch her red handed, but I asked how? For the first time, he embarked on a trip home in November instead of December without her knowing he was on the way right until he walked into his home one evening. On entering his house, he went immediately for her phone , giving her zero opportunity to wipe clean. She was completely caught unawares. The contents were heartbreaking, the allegations confirmed and she had no choice to admit to it all. It became clear that what she does was wipe all traces of infidelity clean whenever he announces he was coming home. Most horrible is the fact that they were multiple. Although my guy foolishly lost his cool and beat her up and it ended at state CID, but was later settled. Today, that relationship is effectively ended, she is officially a single mum.

Now, tomorrow she will paint a pathetic story of how she left because he was abusive, while leaving out how she was sleeping with every thing that has a dick. And someone would want to form woke and just wife such a woman without sue deligence.

There is a reason she is single if the baby daddy is alive, find out why and do not take her words for it.

Lastly, I expect some people to try to rationalize her actions by asking why the hubby did not take her along. Please whoever will cheat will cheat, while you are even at home with her, what if the conditions were not favorable? Mind you, he visits once/twice a year, and it wasn’t about funds, she runs the family biz!

You just described 95% of most of them.

frozen70:
You sound arrogant, no wonder you are called uncle koboko

Truth is painful

frozen70:
What goes around comes around
If you are a single father, are you forbidden to get a woman

This is where your sense should tell you that MEN AND WOMEN CAN NEVER BE THE SAME.

WE ARE NOT EQUAL AND WILL NEVER BE EQUAL FOREVER NO MATTER HOW SENSELESS FEMINISTS AND SOCIETY TRIES TO EVEN FORCE IT.

KNOW THIS AND KNOW PEACE.

DON'T COMPETE, WE ARE HERE TO COMPLEMENT EACHOTHER AND NOT TO COMPETE FOR EQUALITY.


You dey see Nerd nwoke? You see the late aalafin of Ọyọ? Etc

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MrBrownJay1:
i have absolutely NO DISCRIMINATION towards single mothers because i do believe that being a single mother doesnt make a woman a bad person nor does it makes that woman a future bad wife nor a future bad mother, therefore why should i/we discriminate against a woman with a child?!

being with a single moher is 10x better than being with one of them fancy single ones you see out there, who go to Dubai every weekend that may have been fukced by dogs and eating excrements.



and whats so wrong about that?! its not like he is gonna continue fukc your wife or sleep in your bed, is it?! remember, you are just a "surrogate" father at best to this child, and nothing more. dont try to play "captain save a child" here as this is NOT your child. so whether he has a father still alive (or not) is irrelevant here. sadly, your misplaced ego is giving you funny thoughts and you are so insecure that you believe that the baby daddy could come anytime and just tell your woman to :"lets go" and she will just follow the yeye dude. come on!



come on now.... even with your biological child and his mother, you could suffer the same above fate... so instead of telling us stories, why dont you guys tell us EXACTLY What you are scared about?!?!?



many women out there may "seem" that they have no baggage but they will carry more load than a single mother (all them Dubai sista that are all fancy and beautiful but get mounted by dog and eat shiiit). again, you guys are not being honest about what really is bothering you with this single mother issue....because it is obvious, the flimsy excuses you all give here on this thread doesnt sound valid....especially when good women are scarce in 9ja.

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Trash

Cry of a lonely single mother

marvy69:
Pls what about woman with two kids,can someone marry her if she is serious

Yes na

Bastards



DESPERADOS

Buhari na bastard


God bless yaradua

Pharaohny:
Naaa only get sense abeg
Others just decided to give baseless and Childish opinions base on their egomaniac brainwashed capacity
You'll live long

Lol
He she is a bitter and lonely single mother trying to force his senseless and mischievous opinion on senseless and naive young and single males of value.
No matter what she says, WE ALL KNOW THAT SINGLE MOTHERS ARE:
LEFTOVERS
WASTE PRODUCTS AND A TIME BOMB FOR DISASTER.
ONLY ABOUT 1 IN 100 CAN HAVE GOOD PERSONALITY AND BE GENUINE, AND INCASE IF SHE'S A WIDOW.

MrBrownJay1:
the issue of single mothers is very simple... if you have no problem with it, then meet them and enjoy your life with her....and if you have a problem with it, then dont date/marry single mothers, et voila!

a woman with a child shouldnt be an issue, unless that woman is a bad person....sadly, many people will automatically view a single mother as a bad person, while many others wont/dont, and will instead judge that woman on the go or her character. some single mothers are fantastic women who became single mothers because of a bad union, a death and/or an accident. you cant possibly judge a woman negatively on the sole act of having a child unmarried (unless of course, you are one of them religious holier than thou hypocrites who forgot that even JESUS mother was a single mother, lol!)

U dey even mention Jesus name... Shame on you

See how you keep degrading yourself....
What a shame...
When they warn you people, you won't listen...
Now, you're trying really hard to force your senseless and mischievous opinion on innocent novice and fools...

A bitter and lonely single mother impostor., MRS BROWN

denobaba:
Nothing in your posts suggests even the remotest connection to reality. It's either you are very naive or you just wish to be disingenuous.

It's a well established fact that women divert attention to kids as against their husband. If this is the reality of many fathers, tell me how it could not be potentially worse in the case of marriage to a single mom.

Granted, a few single moms may find men who would commit to them for the long-term but don't try to misinform the public of the likely risk that could crystallize. Marrying a single mom will never be a first cause of action for anyone.

You're quoting an impostor.
She is a bitter single mother.

Spider20:
Advising a Simp, is really a waste of time and resources.......
I get sad seeing and reading all sort of warning advice but am sure OP won't indulge.........

All Simp will learn in a hard way.
Even if Archangel Gabriel comes down to render advice to a Simp, A Simp will always remain a Simp.

Exactly

ugodson:
Bro the Most important question u will need to ask and do ur own findings is WETIN HAPPEN BTW D FATHER OF D CHILD AND HER? AND IS D FATHER'S OR X HAND TOTALLY OUT OF D PICTURE? am actually dating a single mother we have been friends from little we even had our first kiss together (wen we never know anything) her x husband used to maltreat her and sadly he doesn't taken his hands off d child,so We are good to go. All single mothers aren't bad but if u get to meet my ex hmmm u are on ur own

Keep FOOLING YOURSELF until you fall into the pit and you can no longer escape...

The ex usually maltreat her and that's all Abi?


When they were having marathon sex and romance for some years, he wasn't maltreating her then Abi,

Lol
Or deh

THE BEST OF MISCHIEVOUS, PRETENDERS AND LIARS OF WOMEN ARE MOSTLY THE SINGLE MOTHERS...

Lightway:
Shut up, you fooool

The person you quoted is an impostor. In real life, SHE'S A STUBBORN AND BITTER SINGLE MOTHER.

justscorchone:
I'm afraid to admit it but this post just shows how many juvenile men are in this forum.

Lol
Or deh
Brother Mrs ancient of the days

BRATISLAVA:
Just marry her and stop asking around.

Small men here will tell you they are high value men who will only have a virgin, or this and that type of woman, yet the women around them are all single mothers so they will certainly end up with them. You don't have the clay to make any woman, so marry the one you see before you, and stop your choosiness. Otherwise you will end up an old bachelor at Shiloh while others men who aren't aschoosy would've had their families settled down.

Marry her and quit the opinion seeking.

Lol
Or deh
No one will love you again...
No sane one will marry you again...

Gift those "sweet" advice to your brothers and males in your family, THEY NEED IT MORE

MrBrownJay1:
you see....NONE of you are bringing anything valid to this discussion, and instead are just focussing on rubbish about me because a man (with no sistas) brought a valid point to this discussion...now put your misplaced ego aside and answer the damn question:
APART FROM THE YEYE INSECURE BS THAT MOST OF YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT, WHAT IS SO WRONG ABOUT A SINGLE MOTHER?!

now focus on that instead of quoting me about nonsense!

I won't waste my time educating a stubborn hypocrite and impostor.

Never ever!

I repeat, NEVER EVER TRY IT, especially if their first husband is still alive.


You can just manage a widower if you're deeply in love, she is deeply in love, she has a job, she has good personality and she can also still give you your own children.

cenaman:
because they are single mothers, they should remain single forever isn't it?

Yes! Unless if their first husband is dead or a mad man.

MrBrownJay1:
i understand what you mean and your "preferences, but just because YOUR EGO IS MISPLACED, doesnt mean they are different. the sole reason that you look down on one and not the other, is because another man is still alive aka in the picture. why should that be a problem to you? its not like you are gonna adopt the child and make it your own. you are dating THE MOTHER and this child already has a father and doesnt need a new one. just focus on your woman etc and basta. yes, you may spend a little money on the child, big deal, so what?! its a small price to pay for having a happy family.

I have been vindicated
Mrs-MrBrownjay

MrBrownJay1:
the issue of single mothers is very simple... if you have no problem with it, then meet them and enjoy your life with her....and if you have a problem with it, then dont date/marry single mothers, et voila!

a woman with a child shouldnt be an issue, unless that woman is a bad person....sadly, many people will automatically view a single mother as a bad person, while many others wont/dont, and will instead judge that woman on the go or her character. some single mothers are fantastic women who became single mothers because of a bad union, a death and/or an accident. you cant possibly judge a woman negatively on the sole act of having a child unmarried (unless of course, you are one of them religious holier than thou hypocrites who forgot that even JESUS mother was a single mother, lol!)

You're either a bitter single mother hiding under a male moniker or you currently have sister(s) that are bitter single mother (s)

Tohsynetita1:
You could do a bit of affiliate marketing. it won't take upto 100k.

You're very very wicked

How much have you made after all these months that you've been doing this rubbish?

forgiveness:
Have you been to Abia and Kogi state before?

Yes!

She's like 95% of most other average Nigerian girls.
Useless
Broke
Loose
Rude
Lazy
They have nothing to offer apart from their private public parts.

This one is not even up to 23, yet she already has a married man, probably not the first in her BODYCOUNT arsenal. That's how most of them live. By the time they're 25-28, most of them will have at least 10 bodycount and will have done at least 3 abortions. After they're done wasting their good youthful lives away, they'll be praying and waiting for one "unfortunate" "God fearing" rich and handsome young man to marry them. It will never be well with all of you.

I blame the parents. Most parents are responsible for this nonsense children are exhibiting.


Ps
TO YOU THAT HAS SLEPT WITH OTHER PEOPLE'S HUSBANDS OR CURRENTLY SLEEPING WITH ONE, MAY YOU NOT ENJOY YOUR MARRIAGE TOO.

Ogun state, one of the most unfortunate state after Abia and kogi. Ogun is even worse because Ogun is supposed to be competing with Lagos but unfortunately, evil useless and old fool corrupt government won't allow the state to progress.

Acidosis:
Ask your sisters.

Oh poe nu

dominique:
Absolutely nothing wrong with selling of her eggs but using it to buy a new phone knowing the financial situation is extremely selfish of her. The reason she didn't tell you she wanted to sell her eggs was because she wanted to use the money for herself. If she had told you that she wanted to sell the eggs to take care of bills, it's you that will be driving her to the fertility clinic every month o

So?

Acidosis:
Every time a woman ovulates, she releases at least 1 egg. So, biologically, selling of eggs has no negative impact on a woman. It's only eggs she sold, not her ovaries. Her ovaries' got more than enough to meet her reproductive needs. It's even better to sell it than waste it (as menstruation).

The bigger issues are that she failed to inform you about the procedure and whatever it was you guys were going through didn't matter to her. It was all about her. These are the main threats to your marriage.

You haven't seen anything yet.

Or deh.
For your mind....
So, selling her eggs or selling some of her eggs will prevent her from releasing one or "wasting" it during menstruations?

Larryfest:
Good morning all, I have been having sleepless night for a while now and a few days ago confirmed my insomnia would last longer than I thought.

We were comfortable and have been married for 5years now with a daughter but things have been rough for a while due to my business folding up and we have had to manage with the little we see from time to time. Earlier this year I had to sell some of the things in our house including my phone just so we could buy foodstuffs and pay our daughter's school fees, just some weeks ago I even had to shamefully reach out to a popular Nairalander if he has a phone he could spare because the one I'm currently using is a Desktop kind of phone (doesn't work without directly plugging it).

Last month my wife came home with a brand new Samsung phone and when I asked how she got it her response was that she won it from her womanhood help group on Facebook (she is very active there).
Last Sunday while arranging the room I came across a fertility clinic document and the receipt of the phone which the amount written there staggered me a bit because it's way more than our house rent that expired recently which has been the cause of my sleepless nights. When she got back from church I confronted her with my two findings and after plenty talks and argument she confessed a friend from work told her about it and she sold her Eggs at the clinic and it was from it she bought the phone.

My people since Sunday I have been seriously weak and confused, a lot on my mind already but now I have to add this to it Marriage is for the faint hearted abeg!!!

ADDENDUM.....

1. Someone asked how much .... well she said she was paid #150k but the nurse who brought her in collected 15k.

2. Someone also made some points about sex, complications and others and even said it's a made up story to tarnish women or whatever well I don't think they pay for story on Nairaland and even if they do it isn't going to cover what's on my mind right now so you believe whatever you want, it's quite funny to think everyone would exhibit same complications as the third party you heard your gist from...

3. She told me it only took her 3weeks of preparation and she wasn't even going to the more than 3times a week and as for medications and the rest, you think someone who doesn't want you to know what he/she is up to would leave clues flying around the house

4. As for the sex part and her risking getting pregnant, she has been on birth control pills for like 4years now so pregnancy wasn't going to stop her from the procedures....

1)
From your write-up, I can smell some LAZINESS....
A Man that cannot take risks...
A Man who doesn't want to leave his "comfort" zone...
You can do better...
You can hustle....

Fact:

Most women are very disrespectful to their husbands especially if the husband is not financially okay and that's your situation. In your case, your wife's disrespect and disregard is even on the higher level.
For her to get to the level of selling her egg and only to by a phone, then she can do ANYTHING and she's also very stupid.
I believe 99% that she's also CHEATING on you... If you want to confirm this, find a way of going through her phone without her knowledge, YOU WILL DEFINITELY FIND MANY ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS...

P.S
I said you're lazy for many reasons...
E.g, how can you be using a "desktop phone"? How much is a new battery? 1k-5k and I'm very sure that you can at least afford that. You need to brace yourself. YOU WILL NEVER GET RESPECT FROM ANYONE IF YOUR CAN'T TAKE RESPONSIBILITIES FOR CERTAIN THINGS.

Taiggarr:
You lost your late WRETCHED ILLITERATE father a long time ago .

Was it well with him and your family

Oloriburuku ọmọ ofo jatijati
Woe betide you and your entire family and generation.
You product of a broken condom by an ugly old hag WHORÈ and a drunkard old fool.

FOR EVERY RUSSIA COLONEL KILLED, HUNDREDS OF UKRAINIANS HAVE BEEN KILLED AND MILLIONS OF DOLLARS WORTH OF PROPERTIES DESTROYED.

IT WILL NEVER BE WELL WITH BUHARl AND ALL THE ROGUE LEADERS OF THIS COUNTRY.