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Are there giants and ogres and goliaths in the promised land?
Are you going to be my David and kill the goliath with one blow??
Hold my hand my sugarcane then,hold my hand. Take me to the land flowing with milk and honey OOPS! sorry I meant flowing with cassavas and yams.

^^^
Not really .I used to ask such when I was 13-19 years old. Thts why.
I was expecting smthing else.
I am sure somebody will define for him. I am jst in a different paradigm and school of thought.
I may confuse him the more.

^^^
R u talking to me?? I had to check the first lady's profile to confirm who your addressing and since there's no pic then I cn only assume its my eye your asking abt.
My one eye is enough for a public forum.
Am only peeping here you know.

oooh.You know I stopped using Firefox as my homepage and made wisdom my homepage  .You have become my favorite tab on my toolbar!
My browsing has been made easier/faster since wisdom became my homepage
Now help me search for your Add-ons lolest!
Which button should I click? Is location one of the add ons??
Oh you really made my heart go gbam gbam.See, I even made you my password to my heart!

And now since your producing sugar in your heart,then our lives will be much easier,see, I dont take sugar, So we shall never buy sugar.
All I will be making for you is black tea and cream.When you drink,the sugar will just add itself in your stomach. how about that?

36 yrs, 6th marriage 
NKT

4 give me 4 asking but wht is ur age bracket?
its just tht your question makes me feel soooooooooooo old

@ Brown jay,

Its funny how money or wealth tends tk keep people together.But its only 4 a while. Its so easy to say 'we are one' when you have the money.
Now just wait until tht wealth starts dwindling.Your debts become 'yours' and mine remain 'mine' Oh nobody wants to carry another person's burden at tht instant.The word 'one' goes out of the window and 'mine' walks in thru the door, Thts reality.
The vows should change to 'till money do us part' not death
prenup is good. some people are very careless after all in handling finances. If the woman is the type tht spends 3/4 of her income sprucing herself up,then this will tame her.Same applies to the man
You mess up with your money, I dont care cz you aint touching mine.
Separate the wallet from the heart lol the two cant mix !. lets be one at heart but 2 in the wallet!
Sounds weird!

Husband 

I will sue you for fraud!! It doesn't matter what your 'returns policy' is after all, you seem to have perfected the art of unfair and deceptive business practice to attempt to avoid liability by claiming expiration of  warranty!!! Your product was defective at the time of sale but you packaged it soo well to hide the defects!
My lawyers will knock on your door soon.

okay my my 'only star in the sky'. Let me start walking. My feet are very dusty and I smell like the 'goat'!! .I hope you dont mind.Thank you for that assurance.
The day you stop making my heart beat 'gbam gbam' is the day I will 'dead'.
I love you so much.I will make sure we eat cassava everyday for dinner for the rest of our lives
okay I hurry now since i can see the clouds gathering. hope it doesnt rain. But just in case,pliz talk to mama nkiru and beg her to allow us to meet in her store.
We will not steal her sugar.

WOW! you guys
I know you are celebrating since evrything we read tends to favour the prenup.
Now have you asked yourselves why ladies have shied away from this thread? the first one said mmh it wasnt a good idea.
What does tht prove? will an african woman be willing to sign the pre? its not yet sank deep in the African woman's mind. so you guys are in for trouble unless you go for the 'oyibo' .i guess tht means white person.

^^^ i wonder what criteria he used to carry out his survey !!!
W90 when i said dnt tresspass i dint mean go to village or city.I think it would be very comforting to the human species if you just went to space.
You can then watch and follow up from there. Woe unto the female aliens living there.
But lets see if you will be able to face their males. Good luck.

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now stop getting al too personal here. When i open a thread its for discussion. I dont have to be a supporter of the topic i choose all i need is for somebody to prove me right or wrong.That to me is a healthy discussion.
Am naive at all. Not with all i have seen,I can make a silly remark to stir u up and get your reaction cz trust me theres a woman/man who believes in tht 'silly' remark. its like taking on smbody else's mind.
Most marriages today have a short lifespan cz people fear to speak out the truth while dating. the fear of spoiling the relationship or being rejected,so u go in there blindly thinking tht the lovely dovey feeling will put bread on the table,pay bills,and sort out evry other problem. now thts the fairy tale smbody mentioned.
Theres nothing wrong with adjusting to the system.really who can u even trust today apart from your own mother? the real person comes out after the wedding.
thts when u wish u hd signed all these things. its unfortunate tht the greedy ones have messed it up 4 evrybody else. now its better to be safe thn sorry.

now i cry. I feel like deading now. Guess wht hppened!
I was walking carrying my basket full of cassava,yam and porridge, then i met this man riding a bicycle.
He was cycling in the same direction as I. Upon seeing how heavy my basket was, he offered to carry me on his bike.
Unfortunately he had another passenger too. A goat tied on the bike;He said thet I can squeeze and seat together with the goat.I am not fat yo know so it was okay with me.
He tied my basket next to the goat and i sat behind him.ie goat and basket behind me.
On a lighting at the shopping centre I thanked him and he untied the basket.
I noticed it was very very light. .when i peeped inside?
My cassavas,yams and porridge were nowhere ! The goat ate them all! INCLUDING THE PORRIDGE!!
it was fast asleep and snoring and its stomach very big!!!!
ohh my dear wht am i going to do?? am soo broken hearted.my mama told me never to drink coke.it is acid you know thts why i carried porridge!
now we are going to DEAD!!
AM wondering wht to do with the goat! do u think i should wake it up and make it cough out everything? or shud i ask the owner to pay me by givin me the goat?

ohh my sour  milk in the Rubindi,come to my aid before I dead

@sagamite sagamite

Note this pliz; I am a woman.If married the last thing I want is a divorce.I will be lying if I said that it cannot happen.
When does post nup come? when the marriage has hit rockbottom and all i see is divorce.
Now me being a  woman,I dnt wnat to see it happen.So wht do I do? I purpose to patch the cracks up be4 the postnup is effected.
In other other words am preventing a likely divorce from happening by working hard and not signing it.(take it as a weapon of mass destruction)
Is it clear now?
A post nup is meant to 'save a marriage.Prevention is better than cure. And note this:  the reason you are marrying is so as you stay.Not separate. Now work hard towards making that 'stay'happen.
Now if we dont patch up the cracks then yeah we sign it up and step! It makes sence then cz by then you really hate each other and no amount of talking can help you out.
What is worse to lose?? A MARRIAGE OR MONEY??

Dont even bother to answer I already know your answers!

no you guys re just being hard on women

All am saying is a woman is diffrent from the man especially wth issues of feelings.
I am a very mature lady and I know all am talking about.
Forget about the lovely dovey childish feelings.Reality is diffent and in marriage you dont always feel that way. I kp saying
So, I am not ignorant of wht ur saying here.

I just want u to understand that this lady getting married loves you and doesnt want you to make her feel like shes coming to suck up ur money u know,
You want to feel other things and not agreements.It's like talking about bills when your having sex.Thts killing the passion.
So this prenup talk kills the passion before marriage.
Thts why you ahoul keep silent hoping all will be well.After all u dnt intend to separate.
The moment you start noticing how she's put on weight, the thts the right time to bring up the postnup.bcz thats the start of the fall of any mariage.

@ sagamite and crew. Are we getting married here to Divorce??
Of course not! But is there any chance of it happening? of course.
Now help a woman love you by not forcing her to sign a prenup!! If the marriage doesnt work say a year or two later then a post nup comes in handy.
Questn is.Which woman in her right mind wouldnt like to give her marriage a try ,u know work hard to see it happen?
So the reason she has to sign the post is not to make you happy that your assets are safe,No.its coz sh eknws if she doesnt sign it then its divorce.
Nobody wants a divorce but it happens.But before it 'happens' you must have not 'liked' it!!!!

And if u lose the marriage then u lose some few things too. you may nt get half of everything especially if u came wth basically nothing! so yeah theres reason to fear.

i was getting ready to clarify tht.
which woman would want a divorce? she will definately lose her marriage . now thts something.
see, i said the post comes to 'save' a marriage. You really dont want a divorce you want to make it work! But if you cant make it work then you face the divorce.
You dont lose money,you lose the marriage

This is how am reasoning. You dnt have to call off a wedding to a partner of ur choice just cz she/he refused to sign the prenup.
You still have the option of a post you know. If she thinks it will 'kill' romance (thts her way of thinking nt urs) then marry her.
Now the moment you see cracks that are getting bigger and bigger then tht would be the best tyme to bring up the postnup topic.
Theres no compromise there since you are both staring at a divorce.
Now knowing the risks involved and how much she stands to lose after divorce, she will definately sign the papers.
At the end of the day,thers not much diffrence btwn the pre and the post. The diffrence is in the timing and the purpose but still your treasured assets remain protected.
postnup as i said is also good cz of those assets we inherit since they are viewed as separate properties. unless u wish to make them family assets,they remain separate. prenup doesnt cover wht you inherit after u said I do.
postnup also help if both of u engaged in a family business tht generates income for the family. see, the post nup will ensure the business continues without disruptions even when u separate or divorce.
So in the end its either pre or post. They both guard you assets. What you shouldt do is turn off a wedding cz she or he refused to sign.

see the prenup is supposed to protect your assets good.
the postnup comes to prevent a divorce. chances of her getting divorced wl make her sign the postnup.
Why is post nup necessary?
say u inherit some wealth from some old relative of urs and lets say ur living wth ur second wife. you decide to give the wealth to the kids in the first marriage but she refuses to agree wth u.
in tht case then shes likely to face the divorce courts.its you either sign and agree or face the court which in most cases may rule in ur favour.

can u feel romantic when your signing the prenup? see thts the purpose of the thread.All the reasons given are true and justifiable.
I think a post nup comes as an 'after'.Where you both know you need the prenup,but just so as not top spoil the flavour of your honeymoon you decide well we shall do the post after we'v adjusted. And tht shld be say a year or 2 later

So now are u aware we also have a Post nup?
This is an agreement drawn after you are married ,when you at least have experience in the  marriage.
It somehow works better than the prenup cz when your signing the prenup,then your still naive and have no clue on dealing with minor marital issues.The chances of separation are therefore high at the beginning becz after all the prenup is in place and you are here fighting over the toilet seat ie if it shud stay up or down,how to squeeze toothpaste and stuff.
Now just to prevent separating 1 or 2 yrs into marriage,(when your thouroughly getting into each others nerves),then better sign the post nup. By then u have fought over every other silly thing,put the marriage to test and determined if theres hope or not.

nkt

Now you only God can sort you out. No human can so look up.
Next I have all along thought that you 'hold the remote to controlling a woman'. Did you lose the remote?
Your problem is not in 'search'.Its in 'sieve/sift/choose.
Did I help?
okay then it applies .

@ sagamite and crew.
After reading all these your replies,then I can conclude that Prenup is only applicable to the rich and the famous.
What has thet poor fellow got to do with prenups?
So the reason its not widely practised in Africa is due to the fact thet we gt nothing much to protect afterall.Therefore after we marry we fight later and forever as we try to divide the goats and sheep.

it pains me when people refer to kids as baggage. cz i know they were sired by another man who may have died or neglected her. they are just innocent kids.
so kate middleton signed a prenup?? wow
then it shuld be made law.women in Africa will riot I know

op
whts her age anyway.
cz i know some games ladies employ to make the guy leave them. That is a killer line.
@ w-90.dont trespass.

haloooooo?

shes telling u 'leave me alone'.i doubt shes even had one!!

@ tell wisdom

Okay let me finish packing some cassavas,yams  and porridge for the date.
I dont want us to 'dead' out of hunger you know
behind mama nkirus store.

@ babe lol
now u make me crack.
I understand .

@ Babe

Chill.
I hate to go that line u know of calling people names.But I do appreciate their compliment the same way I compliment somebody else.
I wouldnt like to call that 'celebration or anything'.Nope I dnt think thats what they really meant unless smbody is nt very wise.
I really love NL 4 one reason.It makes me laugh my head off. As in really really laugh.Most pple here are just funny with their comments.

STRAY SPERM??!!!!!!IN THE POOL!? Swimming alone like a fish and heading towards the target?? LMAO chemicals in pool water cnt kill sperm?
The reason I love NL.If I want to laugh I come here.
Am done with swimming pools. From now on I swim in the lake or river
Now I die.