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Ooh so u had told her already? see? always post the full story otherwise you make us give all the wrong advise.
Then she must have loved you so much she feared you would dump her if she told u the truth.
There goes another broken heart.Is she in NL cz I see another thread coming soon and reading
'He dumped me coz I lied about my age'
Let me get my answers ready.

@poster,

And how Old are you anyway? I assume  your mature enough to know the way 4ward.
Pick advise that best agrees with your conscience so that you can have peace in your heart.

@ hollandis.

You should have said 10 reasons why I hate being myself.

All those 10 points dont apply to all women.
I am a woman and I dont struggle with any of those Issues. Mybe point 1 may apply to 'almost all'
God,I think life is what you make it to be and its all about choices.
Keep it real,simple and realistic and you are gonna have fun.

R u more disturbed that she lied or is her age such a big issue now?

1. You r months older and already feeling bad I thought she was older!!from ur reaction.
2. Lying?? well you can choose to create a mountain out of it,disregard everything else good about her and 4gt abt the marriage altogether.
3. We are not all perfect. She made a mistake.Cn u 4give her.If nt then dont strt marriage wth unforgiveness/lies as foundation.
4. If a lie about age can make u throw away a big dream like a marriage,then I think u need to check out your decision making skills. you may end up throwing  your kid out of the window one day. It gets tougher and more challenging.

Does she lie about other things too? You havent told us anything negative about her other than that age.
Wht wld happen if u found urself a younger gal tht will drive u nuts??
Anyway.Its your life u know.

When he starts makes decisions using his brains and not his 3rd foot.

The best thing to do with the physical symptoms of anger is to not act on them [/b]but to[b] just feel them ,  do not resist them ,  experience them out , 

Shes got some unresolved business I think.Take time to talk to her about any past hurt. She cud be bitter at something and she hasnt let go.

Tell her when she gets angry to try doing the below;

1.'Hold her breath and count to ten before she says anything.'
2. As 4 you, Walk away from the situation so that you dont react.
3.Tell her there r better ways of expressing herself and you will be there to give her a listening ear.

Shes better than a quiet ticking bomb.

Above all,PRAY FOR HER TO OVERCOME IT

Many threads here are cries about issues of love/partner etc.

If a certificate is given after successful completion of a course,then lets take the course while dating pliz and pass since we are ever complaining and blaming each other for our own mistakes.

Just do a CAT(continous assesment tests) on:

1.Finance handling
2.Ability to raise a family
3.Ability to work too and bring something to the table
4.Resisting temptation
5.Determining a gold digger.
6.Testing an extremely jealous partner
7.Vanity.
8.Intelligence
9.Maturity
10.Anger
11.Patience
12.Humility
13.Perseverance


and many more.

Then acquire your cert and tie the knot. And you will live happily ever after.
Prevention is better than cure

I would really have wished to hear the women's side of the story.
What is keeping them away from this thread. Only 2 or 1 were courageous.
Do you guys think your women will gladly accept to sign a prenup, cz from the look of things they may be harbouring different opinions. Tone down maybe.

where are these kind of gals found. what do u attract?? where d u pick them?why do you give in then complain??

@ Da Doctor,

Help me understand this.Am sure you could sense the heat in  my post and reason is becoz, not all women are like what you describe.
When I use words like dog society,I mean the madness and immorality all around us.
pic this

[b]miss x[/b]She works,pays every single bill and lives in the city.she helps out once in a while.  She doesnt  club smoke or drink. No man shes not related to enters her house. till they marry.Thts a standard she hs has set for herself and doesnt compromise on that. she respects herself so much she hs no trouble with issues of relationship cz shes disciplined and knows her worth b4 God. shes  comfortable  with what she earns and lives within her means. cz she knows how vain things can be.
Yet she lives alone in the city.

Now theres another girl in the city too.She lives with her parents and her lifestyle leave everyone gazing.Shes got a job but no bills so her money is spent partying. To her life is all about fun. 
When asked to tone down she says its her money and its her parent's house she doenst care. Shes known to every Tom trump and Harry.
Now if I ws to go by your comment on girls living on their own, then which of the gals would you prefer for a partner?? the latter?

I just read somebody play with your mind up there dear and you quickly responded in a very naive way.  I think hes testing ur maturity and reasoning.
This opening up to guys that are 'willing to share your pain with you in private' is one way to getting used. take care and read btween the lines always.
Dont just share you life and misery wth any man.Life is cruel so dont mess up yours.
Go on studying.
cheers.

^^Thank you for good compliment.
Now you blow kiss yet uv only seen an eye.What if you see the full me will you faint? nway.do this,
Seriously am not some young gal here seeking love you know. My view of love /my status/my environment is soo diffrent.
I love meaningful discussions.
cheers.

Hoax or no hoax, Smbody could be in the same dillemma sooner or later so whoever it helps well and good.

@ poster.
Dont mention suicide coz of something petty like this.I know at your age its seems like a mountain but to me its wind
Just know for now that you are very undecided as to what you really want so dont even make any decision yet.
Sit down and ask yourself wht it is you want in life.Set short realistic and longterm goals.Tht way you have something to work hard for and you when you achieve one you feel lik eyou have accomplished smthing.
lets see u said;

uhhh i am a virgin, i can cook, i can clean,and i can have babies,also in a few years i will have my university degree and will be able to have a career.

[b]my life already sucks my parents don't let  me do anything, all throughout high school i did nothing just go home and do homework i had only 3 frds they were losers so all we did was study.
i go to university then i get used and abused by sum guy,and now i wanna get married.
I thought you said you were a virgin,Did this guy sexualy violate you? If so then you were suffering from lack of self esteem and thought by allowing him to use you,you will feel better.Sorry it only rubs salt into the wound.

but since i am somewhat sensible i will take your comment into consideration, i guess marriage isn't all that.
Yes marriage is not evrything.If you arent fulfilled as a single persn you will not be fulfilled in marriage. He comes to ADD value remember tht.

but then why do people like getting married?

coz they are mature in every way and are so much in love .you dont gt married expecting to divorce. But it happens.Tht should show you that marriage is not all that.

@ op.
now u make everybody want to know their character in relation to zodiac.
post them all.
Oh and am not capricorn lol nor Taurus!! .
Am upendo lol.
Thnks potato 4 compliment. well appreciated.

I introduced this topic because I hate so much what women and likewise men have turned this institution called marriage into.
A money making machine!!
I just dont know why men/women  cant read a gold digger while dating!!! yet theres all possible ways of finding out somebody's intentions if you are really really keen.
Problem is we get dazzled by the outside.Men/women see a cute body and reason flows out of the window.

God help us all

some reasoning my God.

I wish I could take some men on a tour and see some women that are so well mannered,humble,working hard not lazy,waiting for a man to buy them every lil thing including innerwear/sanitary stuff and basic basic things, as I just heard! Spinsters that love their parents sooo much they live on their own and support their families.Their houses are not brothels no. Well I have such for friends and we build each other.
They live according to their means and are not vain at all.They are simple and kind.
Just cz you live in a dog society doesn't mean you become a dog.Seriously  dont know where some people live where women arent supposed to live on their own and pay rent while they wait for the right kind of man. In this worldI think this shocked me the most.
We are all passing judgement based on this lady's story bt there are pretty, well mannered,humble,well respected,God fearing,moneyed ladies that respect men out there and know the role of a man.They dont intimidate men. They respect them and wait 4 the right one to come.
Look out for them and get rid of that caveman mentality that says women stay in you mums house till your 30! How are u going to manage finances in marriage if you have never seen a bill? if you haven't felt the pain of paying bills? you will be reckless and not very economical cz ur used to being done things for and you dnt know the sweat it takes to put bread on the table.
If all the women u ever met living alone were promiscous,sorry you are soo wrong judging all of them.Take a walk and see well .

God help us .

MMM.

Give me one good reason why you would want to see my pic.
I don't advertise myself to say the truth. At times the pic clouds people's judgement.They see you the flesh and not you the mind.
That is just me.

^^ Thank u soo much potato 4 answering my question.Nobody saw it.

@ earlybird,

melancholy  def --feeling or causing sadness: feeling or making somebody feel thoughtful ,

Is that what you meant??

Then I must be very evil

^^^^

MMM,

Keep wanting to see my pic. Just know this. Am a pirate.Nobody sees me and lives okay?
If you love your life just see the eye.

^^^^^ very very correct. I agree with you for real.

Well after all is said and done. Just know whom you are getting married to.
All that glitters is not Gold.
Neither is every other ugly stuff.

@ Doc, lol

Am 81 years. I got 17 grandkids so take counsel from 'an old wise woman'

No jokes

Oh God lemmie get into ur nerves properly   Read below

'Therefore a man shall live his parents and CLING TO HIS WIFE!! Now last tyme i googled,cling meant,

To hold fast or adhere to something, as by grasping, sticking, embracing, or entwining:

When you want to separate a 'cling' the best way is cut in the middle. Perfect balance.Otherwise one falls and breaks into pieces.

You wnat to see somebody break into pieces??

But when you become one,everything else becomes one!!!!!!!!!!! Otherwise the whole marriage is vain
That includes your heart,mind,and[b] PROPERT[/b]Y!!! 
So if you split the simple maths is 1/2 = 1/2



Pliz dont stone me online .I can feel the wrath from here 

You guys .

WHAT IS LOVE!!!

TO LOVE, TO HOLD, TO SHARE and share equally.

Havent you been sharing a bed?? now what!

MAGNETISM AND MAGNETIC MATERIALS!!!! WOW. (MMM)

Its no wonder.

[b]M[/b]an[b] M[/b]ade [b]M[/b]ad, One of the attributes of 'Capricorn Woman' is to observe very very very carefully.
Talk to the poster lol he shud confirm that.

^^^^^ what did u say your initials stand for again I though i replaced them already!

Hey guys come on.

We don't come with much. ok this is not in all cases but few,
Carrying 3 kids in our wombs and the whole process of nurturing the babies surpasses any amount of cash.
I told you a woman claimed more and used the term 'wear and tear' on her body to justify her case.
Well after all the man was determined nt to give her anything cz she was a housewife.She said she was 'hot and shapely'
when she married but the process of bringing up kids destroyed her physique and she may nt get a suitor very soon!
she was compensated!!! well