₦airaland Forum

It's the moral duty of every parent to take good care of their wards.

And in the eventuality that they fail to do so, they shouldn't expect the kids to take care of them as well.

Dear poster, don't feel emotionally blackmailed to assist if you don't want to.
Some parents are not worth being referred to as parents.

Damn!!
Hypocrisy stinks.

Nigeria is not an Islamic state.

Lol.
They will all be back with different names.

I don't think it was properly handled.
You could have called her aside and admonished her.
Being addicted to porn at that age is not a good sign

questioner:
My mum has people staying with her - my niece, an extended family member and a close family friend and her daughter.
We are okay with it cos it ensures she always has company and reduces the need to always travel to check on her.


Recently the monthly subscription I do on the router at home, which usually has carry over data by the time it expires, now lasts about a week before they start calling me to renew
Everybody in the house denied being the cause of the data drain.


Last week, I came to spend some days at my mum's and first thing I did was to install a network tracker to monitor.
Long story short, I discovered the excessive consumption was from my niece but that's not the major issue.
She was visiting porn sites which was draining data but that's still not the major prob.
My problem was the frequency and how long she spent on porn daily.


The day I came, after she retreated to her room, the porn streaming started and didn't stop until the family member sharing a room with her came back at night.
The next morning once the other lady left for work, she continued with the porn until it was time to leve for her lessons.
Once she came back in the afternoon, she did some chores, ate, sat around the sitting room for a while and went inside
and boom the porn resumed until the other girl came around hours later. This was practically the routine for the 4 days I stayed there.


The day I was to leave I told my mum that I observed the drain came from my niece and blocked her from the router.
She called my niece and questioned her but she denied knowing anything about it, I spared her blushes by saying sometimes apps have background processes that consume data without the owner knowing.


Ever since, I have been wondering if I handled the situation properly.
I didn't confront her about it cos I was concerned about the embarrassment she will feel for a male family to find out about her secret.
She might even assume I have told my mum or my elder bro (her dad), which might weigh her down emotionally.


Also, I am concerned if this is a sign of promiscuity, she will be 17 next month And aside the fact that she's quite tall, she might as well pass for a 14 year old. She's barely endowed for her age- bottomline, not the kind of girl, you will associate with waywardness.

My question is
1. Would it have been better if I had confronted her
2. Is this a possible sign of promiscuity ? - if so, I will suggest mum sends her back to her Dad cos I am not sure at her advanced age
she should be dealing with issues like this, to avoid stories that touch later on

What makes Islam any different?

Absuchat:
You did the right thing your highness... They should go back to yoruba land if they must practice their archaic religion... Please trash the rubbish letter from someone who has long outlived his usefulness.... Imagine mentioning Deborah.... A girl he didn't utter a word about when she was lynched.

Modified.... Tenants now want to exceed their boundaries
I like how Ilorin people are very proactive in checkmating their activities

You understand nothing.

This sort of offence doesn't in anyway warrant such inhumane treatment on any lady.
I hope the manager gets sacked and jailed.

PerfectStranger:
I understand the manager's anger. Some women are so dirty

Why would someone dispose a used pad in an unauthorized bin? Food company for that matter

Thank you. I was wondering where all the sensible people went to.
None of them here saying thrash will donate their kidney for that amount.

dublinkmy6:
You must think you're sensible.

Why would he accept to donate his kidney for free in Nigeria?

Do you think they explained the terms and conditions and he agreed?

Do you know how the discussion went before you come on here to spew trash?

Would you yourself donate your kidney free of charge?

Why is it that the entire ekweremadu family, friends and relations couldn't come up with just one person to donate the kidney? Or have they not been the ones enjoying the benefits that came from the senator all these years?

Nigerians are shocking to say the least.

I am shocked at those accusing him of being an ingrate.

Can any of you here sell your kidney for that amount?

Let's be fair in out judgement.

How the heck is this ₦1B ?

Something wey ₦100M go building.

Stop Assuming.
Do things the right way.

Get a design done by a licenced Architect, give the drawings to a registered Quantity surveyor. That way, you get the right amount needed to complete the project.
Then you move on from there.

What tax payers' money are you referring to?
Is education free here in Nigeria?

Is04970:
There are arguments for and against the bill but I'll tilt towards the Reps.
If you desire to practice in UK or US as a medical practitioner why not school there and pay huge fees for your training?
Why get your education in Nigeria with taxpayers money and end up not being useful for Nigeria?
The hospitals in Nigeria aren't equipped ;Yes. So also the airports, seaports, the roads are bad etc but if the country manages to train you to become a doctor it behoves on you to manage to practice there.

It's obviously a black mail.
And I hope you get arrested for it.

Useless poster.

This seems to be a re occuring trend.
It's like most of these dead parties are just there to waste time and tax payers' money.

INEC Should just limit the parties in the country to 4.

So you can hit a man but don't want him to hit you. This has resulted in the death of many men without the women been prosecuted. Na who dey alive go fit tell him story.

IyaebeTheGreat:
Mine goes thus: I can never forgive a husband for having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking a second wife and going physical on me(even if I hit him which I won’t ever do, he should choose the option of silent treatment and not hit me back) . These three things are what I can’t ever forgive a husband for and I would hold him in my heart for the rest of my life. Share yours

This is a poverty inspired wedding.
Nothing classy about it.

But I appreciate their zeal for not borrowing to impress.
I wish them a life time of bliss.
And may Bless them financially as well.

Lol. See this one wey dey misyarn.

What level of experience is he referring to?
I mean none of them has ever been the president of a country before.

Tinubu was only a Governor..
Atiku was just a side man (VP)..
Obi was also a governor and also the Chairman of banks and CEO of various businesses.

What else does the other candidates have that obi doesn't have + more?

The life of the younger sis is at risk here ..
There is every likely tendency the paedophile would molest the younger sister.

May God help us all.

What a dunce..
I don't know if you deserve pity.

Hardened Thieves and fraudsters don't deserve to be pitied.

Bloody criminal.
Who the hell takes a corporate company's SM page and converts to their own..?

What the heck were you thinking - you think the followers of that page would automatically become yours?

I hope you are given the punishment deserving of a fraudster because that is who you are.

Take It to Brekete Radio programme.

You all condemning the guy are not serious.
Is she not an adult?
She only has a disability..
She no kill person.

Does she not deserve to be loved and love..?
Stop the body shaming and be happy for them both.

You are pathetic.
Why would you refer to the father of the child as a kidnapper?

That's way too low.

Shetemi12:
He went to kidnapped the girl from school in Mushin, Lagos state. He has been on the run with the girl. Police are not helping matter as they say they want 100K before they can commence investigation. Please, if you have any clue about him please do call this number or report to the nearest police station.

Smfh.

I am a Christian and I don't like getting involved in matters like this.
But, let's be sincere here - He has too many controversial issues surrounding him.

The assassination incident of which he has failed to tell the police those he claims to be after his life..
All these ladies accusing him of having sex with them.

Head pastor of COZA too been accused or raping some members.

I can never attend there churches or sit down to listen to their messages.

The way some of you yarn sometimes makes me wonder if you have got any brain up there no matter how tiny.

What has this got to do with PO?
Is he the serving governor or the ruling president?

Soludo should do his damn Job.
He needs to take action and not sit up there like a dummy.

beerfraud:
Taliban of south east again
Minus 4 votes for Peter Pandora Obituary

MRAKPORS:
She is still ranting that I am insecure

Yes you are.
They could be just friends.
Friends are allowed to miss each other.

Not everything Is sexually inclined.

You all supporting this are MAD.
You son't tell a victim how to react when been attacked.

If kidnappers attack you or your family, just stand with your hands folded.. you hear!!!

What a useless man.
Just because of a 5 mins forced sexual session, he got himself in jail. If he is convicted of rape, he is finished.

Lol.
But you are not God.

Ortintin:
Just as you can't expect a baby born today to start walking, never expect a party that came into limelight yesterday to win today.

From the natural point of view everything takes time. You shouldn't expect someone that joined an unknown Party barely 7 months ago to win those that took years to build their structures. Infact if Labour party should win, it won't only be an upset but it should be recorded as 9th wonder of the world.


Even APC couldn't defeat PDP in their first few trials, they had to combine various parties in a "Voltronic" form in order to defeat the then reigning party.

From the statistical point of view, Labour Party has strong hold in only few states compared to PDP and APC. Even in their few strong hold states, APC and PDP will still win them not to talk of Northern part which is a key determinant of Nigeria's presidential election.

In short I don't see Peter Obi winning or getting up to half the votes of APC or PDP. He should keep up the good work and come back in 4 years time; hopefully Labour Party would have gained more grounds by then.

After all being said, No one can deny the fact that Peter Obi has made a big statement by giving life to a third strong party in Nigeria and I hope Labour Party will proof themselves in years to come.

It is so because they can't afford to pay him.

Duru009:
Is really a pity that no single EUROPEAN clue wants this guy......

Nawaooo

You sound bitter.
He is out there doing what makes him happy.

You dey one for corner dey yarn dust.
You should be happy for him.
Even if he decides to play for Nigerian league, it is his choice - Respect it.

Truthisunique2:
Ronaldo is finished

Consoling himself with money move when dude is already multi rich and can't suffer in future

Messi still dey Europe best leagues earning more than half of the so called Ronaldo money move

Exactly..
Most people here defending the loan app's actions are just preposterous.
Defaulting in loan repayment isn't a crime.
They could simply give an extension.

Imagine calling one out at 12noon on his or her due date as a loan defaulter.

vikyno:
Stop defending nonsense. It's not a crime to default in loan repayment. That is why we force majeure in credit appraisals.
How many of those owing billions with commercial banks are being defamed in such manner. Untill we know how to collectively reject what's bad in Nigeria, the bad people killing this nation will continue to take us for a ride.

Exactly, they are not legally recognized and they have no impact in one's credit rating.

The worst they can do is shaming one till he or she pays.

grandstar:
Bunch of very useless people.

I doubt the credit bureaus recognize them as first class lenders will still lend you money even if you're in default to them. It won't damage your credit rating.

You think these loan sharks can do anything with one's NIN and BVN?

Lol.
You must be delusional.
They can't do shit.

The worst they can do is shaming the debtor.

And In a sane clime, they would have been liquidated. Nigeria is just a messed up place. If not so, why would a bunch of Chinese idiot think they can do things like this and get away with it?

mu2sa2:
Don't mind him, ignorance is a disease. Some people are even criminally minded - they never wanted to repay the loan in the first place. With bvn and nin there's no hiding place. If you take a loan from anyone, you're under a moral and legal obligation to pay back. Interest-free loans (mostly propagated by shariah-inclined financial institutions) are better alternatives to loan sharks, but some people are blinded by religious prejudice to take advantage of it.