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Ugosample:
not in all cases tho

But a good number of women are suffering in their marriages in Naija especially

The truth is that naija men in general were not trained to respect WOMEN or see her needs as important

And guess who did that damage?



Their mothers

hence women are the problem of women, directly or indirectly

But that aside

things need to change

You are right .

So true . Nigerian men don't appreciate women one bit , that's why women don't care anymore . but two wrongs can never make right .
But even if their mothers didn't train them well, as they grow up, don't they have compassion to treat another human being well?
I was brought up from a well off family , I was trained to see myself as very important and even the most important human being on earth . my mum pampered me like egg and I became proud and self centered , also I had fake friends around . But after my degree in the university , things happened and I retrained myself or would I say circumstances retrained me and I'm humble , selfless and very caring, all my fake friends have gone .I now have friends that are more than family to me . I can't trade them for anything in this world .

So if I retrain myself, why can't some men retrain themselves and be a better human being .

So don't entirely blame the mothers. Blame the heart of man that refuse to have compassion and reform . that's how I see it .

I miss nothing about him.

lefulefu:
na d ones wey dey waka dey mostly use jazz to hoodwink men. The normal bini girls no dey involve in anythin diabolical.

Ok

UyiIredia:
So person like my sister just get bad name. When she be spirikoko Christian wey go use prayer and Jesus Baptise the house. Ur papa no like. I don't blame him sha I understand.

Eeyah.

Sighs the bad ones have spoilt the good ones .

I know of one Benin girl, she's so homely , christian like dressing , very intelligent school wise , so innocent looking , i can vouch shes a virgin. She came out with first class and her dad bought a brand new Prado jeep for her . Even with the jeep shes so humble , you wouldnt know she driving such car , so respectful!!! Chai! and very dark pretty girl . mehn her type , have never seen! Her parents try in her upbringing.

First time I wanted to go against my dad wish and organize the girl for my brother to marry but my brother doesn't like dark girls , thats how we miss this girl.

So pretty and respectful .. Better girls dey o!

lefulefu:
ehn na wetin me see i dey talk. Dere is another one outside my compound.this man is based in germany. Anytime im dey around na so im go jus dey shout at his wife dey call her ashawo.d woman no go utter one word. Na so d man go dey blow im generator 24 hrs if light no dey complain of heat. But i notice any time d man travel back to im base in germany na so d woman face go jus brighten up then she go start to dey wear all those ripped jeans and tights. Dis na woman wey dey wear wrapper oo wen im german based husband dey around. Omo some marriages dey dis life ehn.

Lol!

The German husband body too dey hot!

Not every woman like tying wrapper , and that's the truth .

She simply want to feel young wearing those tights , as long as the blouse is conservative or sewn with moderate length.

If woman tie wrapper men will complain , she's local

If woman wears trendy outfits, men will still complain that she's a hoe .

Infact what exactly do men want sef!

Sighs .

UyiIredia:
Eh heh! Wetin u dey try talk. Sey u know no be Benin pass for bad marriages so. Mind yourself o.

Lol


I remember when my dad go warn all his sons . If u marry Benin or itsekiri woman , just know say they will use jazz control the house

Infact he forbids any of his sons threading those tribes !

lefulefu:
all these ones u guys are saying ladies born and bred in nigeria are traditional my guy its not all dat are traditional. My neighbour here his wife is a born and bred bini lady. She does not cook or do any domestic stuff.its her husband who does the domestic stuff and they have a 12 yr old boy that helps the man. The lady no dey enter market as well. Some nigerian guys overseas who have never stepped their foot into africa and nigeria always have this fantasy dreams about african women. African ladies don wise up. Go to some naija homes and u will see dat na man dey cook inside d kitchen in some homes while d woman dey sitting or go dey polish her nails for balcony.

Lefulefu , why e be say na always bad marriages u dey always see around your area ?

Oh I forgot ? Na Benin u dey? Sorry jare my mistake

wetdick:
they are hard to come by nowadays, do you know how many men have treated their gf or wives with love and care, even boost up her self esteem, at the end of the day, she still cheated on them

That's what most of the men always say .

If only u had a video camera hidden in their homes , you will definitely pity their wives and stone the men . some talk down on their wives even in public , all to destroy her self morale . While some in private , just to make her feel useless .

Some men are habitual liars . I don't believe all their stories .

Treat à good woman well, give her good sex , money , attention and care , then see if she will cheat on you. most married women are like tenants in their homes , while some loneliness wan kill them die . And the man will be wailing as if he is the best husband a woman can ever have .

I don't believe their lies .

wetdick:
that is what he wants and stop changing the story

he wants a woman who is respectful and loyal and that is everyman dream

Such kind of women are not hard to come by.

Treat her well with love and care , she will be loyal .
Be supportive and don't make her feel less of herself , she will do same .

Its not hard to locate . it depends on the kind of crowd around him.

Abounce must have done paternity test, the first moment the child was born for him to be this sure , the baby wasn't his .

Yvonne na wa for you o!

Just quietly move on with your baby, let the man lick his wounds in silence and remarry a faithful woman . Enough already on this abounce this ! Abounce that!

Some women sha

sacramento1212:
Splendid, Good luck to you ma'am

Thanks dear .

sacramento1212:
Vickies, okay oooo. No wahala then.

I also hope at the emboldened won't change ooo. No be say wen the man wan quench burning fire, you go say him don too collect ur vitamins

Nope I won't .

I must fufil my wifely duties. Its my duty .
Orelse another woman will do it for me and thats where cracks in marriages starts from .

bdchange:

you are so funny

yes o!

bdchange:
Well I like her view on marriage as long as she plays her own part well and knows what she is doing...then am okay by that.

Thanks

That's it.

sacramento1212:
vicky vicky vickies

If you sure say that man propose true true, kuku ma collect ring sharp sharp oooo.

Forget matter of 4 bedroom flat or duplex because that shouldn't be a criteria for you at this time. I even forgot sef, shey you are a princess na so it's a welcome development.

But the question now is, after the man do everything finish,will he be allowed to taste all the vitamins anytime he wants it?

No be by collecting ring sharp sharp, I want my marriage to last biko!
I don't really fancy him , I had terrible migraine thinking about his proposal all through last night and I was so sad .sighs

But nah I will think about it very well first !

Comfort is a criteria to me at this time o! Abeg! Its not like I need a millionaire but the guy must , I mean must be comfortable . Starting from a flat , to maybe duplex . I cant come and suffer and wither during marriage at this age . God forbid!
Looking a shadow of my self , later its people like you that will be saying , why my hubby no younger lady , see as I don old just how many years of marriage . abeg!

I don't need it . I'm serious .


When we are done with court marriage , and am settled in his home , he has free Acess any time any day to my vitamins and proteins . is his rights afterwards .

Preshy561:
Yen yen yen!!

When will this jealous thing get off my case

Sighs !

sacramento1212:


Really? Ma'am Vicky, picture of the freshness not the doctored picture you have on your profile.

And what is there left to be sucked. Protein and vitamin what?? Joke of a woman

Which doctored pic? I even look better in real life .

So don't get it twisted . my body is not for taste and move on.

Lemme not just talk.. But a guy proposed to me yesterday and want court !marriage sharp sharp around the mainland. He stays in a four bedroom flat and his aged mum lives with him. But I told him I will think about it . he's not really my kind of guy . but I will give it a thought . he has been on my case for a year! So don't even start. I have groomed myself well !

The man am dating is not ready yet and I'm just looking at him with one corner eye. Lol

bdchange:
Well you are matured and have some experience already. Not all ladies will take this your path though. So you are saying if a guy comes to you now and give you a duration of two years before marriage..that he needs to know you better and see if things will work,you wont agree

With all seriousness I will not agree .

I'm in my 30s for God sakes . but that does not mean I can marry any man and at the same time , that doesnt mean I can wait for two years for a man I like .
Have done such waiting but not as long as 9years o! when I was younger and it only led to heartbreak ( back then 2years )

I can't go through such waiting anymore ,nah! I can't . I rather keep my pussy intact and safe than allowing love to distabilize it . Its better when a serious man whom i feel we can make it work and he feels how tight my pussy is. He will be very happy and ready to marry sharp sharp . Then we can keep knowing ourselves more through marriage . I can't wait two years . I rather be single two years and wait patiently .

bdchange:
Okay let assume you meet a guy who you deem fit with good potentials and a bright future. If he ask you to be committed to him that he sees a future for you two. will you accept him or dump him and move on? Now bear it in mind that he is not buoyant yet financially and it may take time to come good...are you saying you are not ready to spend that time with him to have with it takes to take you to the alter and wife you.. Note this, not all ladies will meet a man who is already successful.

If I meet such guy and he stays in a miniflat , he has a job . I will tell him we can date for 6months , see how compatible we are , then afterwards head for court marriage , and forestall having kids. At least with 15k or thereabout one is married . Then we can be planning our finances and life gradually together .
And during the 6months , he won't be fucvking me like his life depends on it o! No way , I won't allow such . if he wants sex that badly , every second every day? Then put a ring on it and marry me properly .

That's if he truly does not want to miss me but if he's squatting with friends Biko I Don Japa! If he likes , let him look like Enrique the Spanish musician ! I ain't staying no shit!

I no get body wey man go use enjoy for years , without him doing the needful . heavens forbid. That's why am this fresh . No man will suck all my vitamins and proteins dry and dump me because of love . abeggi!
A guy wanted to try that shit with me , I bounce him off !

I'm not gullible !

The guy wan collect e share .

Lol

Nicki o!!!! keep distributing !

bdchange:
hahha abge don't be annoyed . But seriously you meet a guy and want things to work between you two, is it a crime to give him time to meet up

Its a huge crime ! Its even catastrophic!

Sorry to say , Men are confused beings !

There is enough time for a guy to meet up Meet up in what exactly?

God forbid!

Immediately I read they were dating for almost 9 years , I just hissed.

Who dates a guy for 9 years biko? how much more even a year , without tying the knot .

If he's giving u stories ? My sister move on! Quickly ! Don't waste your time on the morrafucker!

Op op! Op! Bdchange! You and your sister dey make me vex! I swear!

Oga , allow your wife to pray against them abeg!

Some ladies of these days are so desperate and diabolicall. They can go to any level to destroy a home . Your wife is very wise, let her continue to protect her home against karishikas.
One of my neighbour home has been destroyed by gf of the husband . its just too bad . the husband has turned his back against his lovely kids and wife . His only son's life is at risk now. Failed plans to kill the son happened recently .

Biko keep away from female admirers o!

Women are desperate and wicked o! No say , I no warn u o!

She still looks young , pretty and sexy .

Nothing new there . its good to be married .I pray it last this time , amen.

LordReed:
You should encourage him to go to the hospital for a checkup. Sudden deaths are sometimes attributable to undiscovered medical conditions.

He said he's fine . Especially when we called his dad . the dad is a business who deals in building materials . the dad came and was blowing fumes on his son and complaining bitterly what kind of son does he have sef! And how stupid can he be taking food and drink from people and its over between both of them! Cos he didn't kill his dad , his son won't kill him. And its over between them ! Cos he's tired. Only him is paying school fees for three of sibling and feeding them once in a while and he's fedup .

He's no longer his dad .

I looked at this man! I tapped the father , I was like you are tired over your son?
What are u saying for God sake ! If God says He is tired of u how will u feel? Your son almost died last night , u can't even feel concern and ask him how it happened, u came ranting everywhere . Honestly am dissapointed .
Anyways if u like take care of him , if u like don't ! That's your problem .
And he is the only son , while the rest three are girls !

The son confided in us that his dad has a new gf , that he's spending time with . He rented a flat for the babe and that's where he sleeps , he no longer goes home and that's why he is behaving that way.

Anyways that's their problem . If a grown assed man of 55 cannot take care of his only son of 21, then that's too bad . if he's fedup already , well I pray God will not be fedup of the dad himself.

And this guy is a young chap who is still growing , why write him off like that

Who does that!

zexy2030:
u r such a beauty...u killed it. which planet r u from..r u married? I care o..choiii...u will be very sweet o..would love to meet u.
but she has done it before...abeg let her have fun joor.

Abeg! Stick with your 15 year old girl. She wants you badly ! Don't dissapoint her .

But do u know u disgust me ? Making plans how to lay a 15years old girl with her friend .

What planet are u from ?

And this was what R Kelly was jailed for ?

Smhhhhh.

As if he raped the girls . Whereas the girls were so willing to be fucvked .


O ga!

Anyways I don't know him but

Na now when he's competiting for governorship post, he remembered he married a beauty queen from anambra .

Anyways he's deceiving himself .

2dice01:
smh for this ur body sef


Anyways still try go check ur bp once a week...am sure u dont use your drugs anymore?

Check ur mail


Morning.. Make sure you do ur bp today or tomorrow send me feeds back


I don't need Money for my service just send ur atm card and pin ..

Lol you no serious .

Come and take my atm nah.

Secondly I don't chat offline with negative peeps. I'm not miss high bp. I reject it .

LordReed:
Nice one, glad he didn't die but here's how a skeptic approaches this. How do we know it was your prayer that caused him to recover? Would he have recovered without your prayers? Did he do any follow up medical tests to ascertain it will not reoccur? Did he have any previous unknown medical condition that could have been triggered by the circumstances prior to the incident?

I dont know if he had any medical condition but we are talking few minutes ago and he said , he hardly fall sick and what happened to him waa strange .
The cleaner who packed his vomit said she saw a long top inside the vomit as she was packing it away.

So did the long top get into his tummy . we asked him , he said he's not a mad man that will deliberately swallpw long rope and he's surprised too , that he vomited a long rope .

Honestly its God that saved him through the prayers . You can't keep mum and be excepting to be saved .

...My dear peeps, God is the same today , yesterday and forever .

Something happened last night , and God revealed He is indeed powerful .
I was sleeping peacefully in my apartment when I heard loud voices downstairs with people screaming Femi! Femi! Femiiii!

I was like who is Femi quarreling with at this time of the night , sighs this guy sef !

And I went back to sleep. Within few minutes I heard loud banging on my door and quickly woke up and I was like , is it thieves ?
I went close to the door and screamed who is it ! Two of my neighbours shouted back: its us o! Femi is dying ! Please come o!

I was like dying ke! I quickly wore my gown long and grabbed my holy water ,which I normally use on rare occasions of dizzy spells .

I rushed downstairs with them. I saw Femi lyin on the floor ,his eyes turning white , and people gathering calling his name . I went close to him, sprinkled my water on him and I placed my hand on his head and started praying and decreeing whatever has entered his body must leave now! Any spirit of death I cast you out! You don't belong here ! Leave ! In the name of Jesus ! Get out!!

As I was praying his white eyes came down and we could see his black pupils . then he tried standing but we held him down , then few mins he vomitted , three times and one of the women brought water and washed his face and he fainted again.

They were panicking , I said no! Don't panick he's fine .. Let's place him on his bed and leave him till tomorrow ,,God has taken control.

So they checked his breathing he was breathing well and softly .

This morning , him and some neighbours came to my flat and knocked . I opened he was looking alive soft and very OK. With smiles .

I was so happy! They were all thanking me. I said its not me. Its God who did it . let's glorify God . cheesy
One of the men said he wanted to pray on the guy but he received shock on his palms and he stopped looked at Femi, then he tried to pray , the same shock!
He said ha! This is not ordinary o

Then someone said let's call Vicky she goes to one army church like that ,she can help.. That's how they came to meet me.

So I asked Femi! Femi what really happened?

Femi is an undergraduate of unilag . He went to school yesterday for lectures . as he was coming back home before he got to the school gate . someone he didn't know tapped him and said guy! A lady is doing her bday , let's celebrate with her , come join us , enough to eat and drink.

He followed the guy and he saw students celebrating . he said he just need coke and drink. He waa given . he ate and bade the celebrant happy birthday and started his journey home .

He said , his eyes and mind was clear as he walked home but on getting to the gate of our compound , and screaming mai guard name, he didn't know when he fainted . and that's how maiguard saw him and was screaming we all should come out and see o!.

He said that was what happened and he didn't take any alcohol .


I said Femi be careful what u eat from strangers . be very very careful . but let's thank God for saving you . its all God !

My people I thank God o! This Femi is too open minded and trusting ..I pray his healing is permanent in Jesus name , Amen!

GreatReasearcher !!!!! Come and see God's wonders