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Younger single girls of these days that's their mindset towards older single pretty ladies.

They are filled with hatred and jealousy when they see a younger guy with an older lady dating or married. They can wail for Africa saying the relationship won't last. Have witnessed it first hand, so i know how they think. Lol


Na so

MiaB:
Lol the comments on this thread are funny. She's just trying to look fit (for Ned) by shedding small weight but i guess she over did the slimming thing

That's not fit


See her neckline. It's just too thin.

She doesn't look healthy to me.

Na WA o



What a waste of life.


You see why I say fear men, both rich and broke men


Pray women to have a Godly man who has focus. Some men these days are demon sucking blood animals.

God forbid.

simonlee:
Is it not Zlatan that welcomed a child with his baby mama just weeks ago?
men are wonderful!

Hahhhahahaahahahaha


Over wonderful lol

Enemyofpeace:
imagine this mumu talk from this village girl with a mosquito brain

Fast and pray against poverty.

Mr mosquito brain.


Ode!

truthsayer009:
I don't know why you women like living in denial. Its like it comes with Women's DNA.

A stranger, invited you to an hotel. Please for what purpose will it be for?

Na me u dey ask?


Ask woman wey dem invite go hotel and still carry her two left legs go.

Don't ask me biko

I'm busy with work here

Passionate1:
She's wiser and braver than you. .He who has overcome his fears will truly be free. .

Story! If you know my profile outside Nairaland, you will realise she no reach where I dey, that's one. Then two! I cant be so brainless and be hawking food as a graduate. Heavens forbid. It cannot happen. Why did I go to school then? If I can't create jobs for people.

She no try at all

And her husband is even worse off!

But anyways may God bless her hustle and give her an helper.

Cause she is suffering if you don't know.

Such suffering

Lol


Na so

Tosinex:
@victorian, nice one from you dear!
Maybe I should also send my song to you, so you can give me advice ooo!! Mine is beyond tired jere, just that I can't come and go and kill myself!

Na so. I don become compiler of songs abi?

husbandsnatcha:
......oonya!

Strong indeed

Lol

dondemex:
God bless you for saving him. And on the enlightening part what did he teach you about the Holy Spirit

It thank God he's saved.

He said the holy spirit is a messenger of God, as God himself. God is up there in heaven to approve prayer requests . Jesus is the only name u can use to get your prayers answered while the holy spirit takes our prayers to God for final approval.

So before one pray to God. Praise and worship God, so the holy spirit can be around the person and await for prayers to be taken to God.
Then welcome the holy spirit and decree what u want to be done in Jesus name.
He will take the prayers to God for approval,when God grants it.

It's the holy spirit that penetrates into the consciousness of people to have compassion on assigning certain contracts Or jobs to you. It's the holy spirit that talks to people's mind in having a rethink of someone's situation that's if u assign them to. It
It quicken answer of prayer if the time is right.

Shame on the lawyer husband. He can't even pull resources and open a shop for her.


That's rubbish hustle. What's the difference between she and an illiterate woman selling the same thing.

This one is not thinking out of the box , at all. She's more or less living a burdened life with an extra mouth (husband) to cater for. And she will say she's married. I hear.

Miaraka:
What do you mean terrible? In which way? I lived in that region for 15 years. When Ukrainian, Russian and Belorussian women love you, they love like crazy but then isn't that the case with all women? Before you dump or cheat on such a woman you should remember that "hell hath no fury like a woman scorned."

Don't mind Nigerian men, they feel they can date, fucvk anyhow and dump at will. Saying they are not doing again.

White women don't have patience , you fucvk with their heart and mind, they gun or kill you straight up!

Let Nigerian men keep breaking hearts home and abroad , na dia way.

husbandsnatcha:
...... Victorian listen to him as 4 me , i buy guys who can take me to heaven with little cash ....o yes the larrd is good!

Hian? Your own strong one

BlueAirMother:


Amen to you hopes, prayers and faith.

Just remember my cake or i won't speak to you again.

Hahahahahahahahhah


I will... I wont forget


Thanks dear

BlueAirMother:
You don already enter grade A marriage come out with pikin to show for it so you go dey make mouth upandan, fulfilled woman that you are. Victorian needs at least 1 grade A marriage and kids in her life. Period.


If divorce happen late she can still thank God for a somewhat full life. Now she is empty and that's very bad.


How many guys dey pursue you for here now? If you say make we submit CV now how many of us go rush you, grade A mature beauty like you? You go dey laugh ni, you are fulfilled. Don't compare yourself to vicky wey never even start.

At the bolded, divorce will not happen when I eventually make up my mind to marry Biko. My marriage will last forever, amen!
That's why I'm taking my time to choose right. I don't want to make a disastrous huge mistake.

Then point of correction, I'm not empty. I'm fulfilled with a buzzing career with good friends and extended families around me. So biko keep your emptiness one side. Its not part of me.

Also please calm down on the harsh words ,haba. No be quarrel.

BlueAirMother:
Hi Vicky, Bigcowhorn speaking (I'm under 6 days ban due to some bastard but came back as the bastard's mother to fix him)


Listen babe.

You are one of the most physically beautiful women i have ever seen. You are independent too and very vocal (you love to talk a lot).

Do not take your beauty for granted, for it will fade as sure as the sun dies even evening in the west. Do not take your independence for either for it is neither joy and peace. Get yourself a partner... one that loves to hear your voice. Even if if he is poor pick him up and dust him for he will be your heart and protector.

Get pregnant at least twice... two kids...they will be your true joy even when your heart throb and protector fails.

There is a huge void in you.. i sense it each time you talk. My boss @Eze.2000 has sensed it as well. We talked about you once. We couldn't pin the reason down but now i know.... your family.

You need a new family.... to fill the void in your heart.


Fill that void soonest and be happy. You can thank me later by emailing me a huge chunk of your welding cake.

Oh hi Bigcowhorn

Good morning dear. Yea I know I need a void to be filled in my physical life, which is my own family.. I don't doubt it. But i ain't dusting any poor guy up. I tried it twice in the past, the dusting up thing, about to get a confirmed job for them in access bank during the period I dated them, that's few years apart.
On of the two guys on particular was scheming on how to use me for rituals. He almost did anyways, and I was meant to die after 7 days but God saved me. This is a guy, I thought truly loved me, I had already contacted one of my best designers to change his wardrobe, another client of mine who is so close to me, a lady said Princess Victoria if u end up married, I promised to give u and your husband a wedding gift of two weeks Dubai trip, hotel and feeding, all paid by her husband, if I get married not baby mama things o. Another client of mine said Princess if u get married, I will place two full page of your wedding in our magazine free for you and your husband, cause u are wonderful lady to work with and a friend to count on.

All these things I didn't tell the struggling guys i was dating.. I wanted it to come as a surprise to them on the wedding night! The only thing I promised them was getting them a good job. I can pull one or two strings for that.

But lo and behold, the first guy had already taken my name to one shrine on Benin and on the 7th day I'm meant to slump and die . Thank God i knew immediately he left for Benin after spending the weekend with me. The spirit of God alerted me, I felt strange and fell ill that same night he left. But God saved me and revived me back on the 4th day.
The second guy, was even a junior pastor. He also tried using me for rituals but God saved me by using another divine man of God to restore me back to great health. After that episode, men come dey fear me. To even have sex was war! I just kept clear from anyone called man! For two years !

There was a time. I kept away from Men for another 5years, over a terrible breakup. The guy was a sadist . I was suicidal back then.

So my dear, struggling guys? I'm done with such guys.


I have someone in mind nw, since yesterday

He's a young great man, a success in his field. We spoke yesterday on phone. I like him alot We are both thirsty in worshipping God. If everything turns out well, like I'm praying it would. I will be the happiest woman on earth.
This guy has a marvellous voice and he's doing well. He's not broke or struggling either. You can see the grace and favour of God rested on him. That's the kind of man I want.

A man who loves God and worships God. If you love God, you won't struggle the way unbelievers do. Things come easy ND effortlessly to you. That's the kind of man who can win my heart.

And he's so handsome Hahahahahahahahha


But thanks for the advice . I dodge poor guys mehn!

Warm hugs #

husbandsnatcha:
.....Sorry about ur loss ...wat is ahead is bigger vicky ,
I was married b4 ,but not as single now

Amen, thanks dear

Oh OK. That's good as well, as u are not that single in quote but have a companion. I like such too

majamajic:
our is not common , but this Oga of a thing is very common with ladies now especially single ladies around 28- 40 years of age, maybe u girls are in a rush to see someone that u can call that finally

Lol, but not me o


I will.only call a man, Oga if I'm in his office on official duties or he's a client.

Apart from that, I rather call the man, Bros! Or Chief! Or Oloroogun!

That's for me anyways.

anonymuz:
which volume? She's just said trash, though correct in some way but that's absolutely a very bad Wright up. Let her face her problem.

LillyVal:
This is one secret a lot of women don't know.

Men have this psychological construct that if a woman tolerates a thing from them, they hardly will change. A man wants a woman who has boundaries and doesn't take shit. When you start bringing down your standards for a man, he feels bored; no motivation to be with you again.

Men want women who can say NO and mean NO. When once a man can make you do anything even against your standards, no matter how beautiful you are, you become less appealing to him.

Men love challenging women.
Men love women who are grounded in their beliefs.
Men love women who can walk away when what they want is not served.

This is why it's highly discouraged to settle with a man who has major habitual and behavioural issues that you can't cope with. No matter how much he poses to assure you that he'd change in marriage, if you fall for that. Immediately, the motivation to change drops.

If a man can't change before marrying you, I fear after marriage, because most men do their best before marriage. So if this is his best, imagine his worst?

Men want women who'll make them see that they'll lose them for not being that man they want.

Another reason men don't value women who stick to them no matter what they do.
He beats you, you cry and come back..
He cheats on you serially, you cry and come back again..
He abuses you emotionally, you keep coming back.

In your feminine mind, you feel you're showing him love?

No, you're devaluing yourself.

Sometimes men prefer women who walk away than women that stay.
Men prefer women they can't have because of their high standards to women who bring down theirs for them.

Even if they get into something with you. Deep down they are not so thrilled. They will easily get bored. And they'll finally leave you.

___Solomon Buchi Bartholomew

Increase the volume my Sis.

Louder!!!!!

Correct babe!


Your head is screwed right!

husbandsnatcha:
....ur own is waiting for sha !
2 me marriage is outta it

Smiles, i know i will settle down one day. I just want to get it right. If not that I lost my family early in life. I would have ignored getting married and just be with families and friends. Much peaceful that way.


But why do u say marriage is outta it for you?

Anyways I won't blame you if u don't want marriage

Marriage these days is a huge joke!

majamajic:
just like women in Nigeria now address someone as Oga

When guys address young ladies as mummy or mama, do u think we enjoy hearing such?


So deal with it

Welcome to the kind of marriages we have these days.

Haven't we seen it all already?

Welcome to marriages of these days.


Haven't we seen it all already?

Tyche:
You and your stvpid pathetic tales. Spits profusely

Simply

NkemChukwudi:
Ikebe super story .....but I enjoyed it though.

I'm sure the sharp guy is a Yoruba guy......

Funny but he's an igbo guy, while the cleaner is from benue

....

dominique:
Our men love to emotionally blackmail ladies to believe that wanting good things of life makes one a bad person but they're no different themselves. They also want educated presentable wives, but if a woman wants same for herself, she's a pesky golddigger.

I read a rather pathetic story here a while back about a pageant girl and former model who declined advances of several rich men to marry a struggling man. He eventually turned her into a punching bag, she was denied communication with her friends and family, he destroyed her old line and bought a new one nobody but him could reach her on, he didn't let her work or even leave the house except when they go to church together. She eventually died as a result of the violence shortly after having her 4th child (insecure men that marry beautiful women often turn them into baby making machine so they won't be snatched by richer men). The man claimed she was electrocuted, no police interrogated him about her death. She must have been brainwashed into believing that marrying a struggling man will make her look humble and will enjoy the rewards of her endurance after he becomes rich. Sadly that wasn't the case and it all ended in tragedy.

I feel bad for the lady in your story, she must have watched too much Nollywood and Telenovelas.

At the bolded that's a typical Nigerian man for you.

When a man below ones standard marries a lady higher than them in status and looks. They tend to destroy to the woman in the marriage or relationship. that's just reality. I use to believe in such kind of relationship before, as in marry a man below my status because I'm so in love. My dear if not for God! As in for not for God! I would either be in the psychiatric for some years now or 6feet under. I saw hell in the name of love. God forbid! I make such mistakes again. As in heavens forbid! I make such terrible choice and mistake in my life again.
It's sister, that's why I hold God firm and so thankful to my Creator. He saved me when the evil useless exes in my life thought I was dead and forgotten but God brought me back to life again.

And for the girl from the village, I didn't pity her. Cause she even insulted me because I was telling her the truth about men. She thought I didn't want her to marry. Back then she saw us as evil people. Lol
Now her eyes don clear, she's now respecting me and begging me to forgive her. I told her, for me? I wont lead my fellow woman astray, I will simply say the truth, it's up to you, to accept or not.

She has learnt her lesson the hard way, next time if she hear I love you from a man. She wont fall hook line and sinker. She go check am well and ask the man questions.

Some men will say I'm placing them on a hot seat by asking important questions, well that's me. Saying I love you means nothing to me. Amongst those questions I will ask him face to face not online o, I will catch him if he's trying to play a fast one on me.

I love you na scam!

GreatResearcher1:
U told me I won't get a wife until I accept your God. but I've not just gotten a wife, I've gotten a Queen.

OK I wish u success in ur belief. 31st is the date oo.

And I wish you and your queen well.

There are lots of people out there who don't believe in God. So it's possible u will have your type to marry.

My dear move on and enjoy your marriage.

And greetings to your bride.

husbandsnatcha:
.....i thought u were married! my bad my bad ....

Nope I'm not.


I want to be very careful in choosing whom to spend my life with. I cant come and die of high bp

When I saw iheoma nnadi, the beauty queen's post about marriage, an hour ago, I said correct.
I have a fragile heart and I don't have patience for the kind of nonsense some men pull these days on their wives or gfs. I don't have patience for annoying behavior.

One guy wooing me said, I have a nonsense look , it's glaring in my eyes . I smiled and shrugged well have seen hell and back in my past . So I'm not ready for annoying games. He said that's good. He likes a woman who knows what she wants. I said yes o! I know exactly what I want. I cant come and kee myself.

My dear, na jeje o. Before I marry.

dominique:
How many well educated men with good jobs have married these illiterate petty traders or are you saying they're all unreasonable.

Don't mind them

They want well placed women to settle for less. How does he expect a beauty queen to marry spare part dealer in aba. He must be high on weed.

I mentioned sometime ago about my security guard's wife who brought her younger sister from village to work as a cleaner in one of the banks in our working place. The sister came, got the job, a sharp banker in the bank saw her and started professing love, she fell hook and sinker believing her slim shape with round assz has gotten her a husband! Just like that. And a banker for that matter.
She fell hard in love, her sister warned her a banker will not marry a village girl o. I warned her. Everybody in the office building warned her, the guy is just using u for sex! Cut off from him he won't marry u. She no hear word, she saw us as her enemies. She fought for her love, fought with everyone who spoke against the guy
She will even steal her sister's money to cook for the guy. The stealing was what break the Carmel's back. The guard's wife sent her away.
Her beloved banker boyfriend said he's staying with his parents, she can't come and live with him for now and she should be patient. Her fellow cleaner worker who was friend with her camped her in her place.
She left us 3months ago.

Now she came back yesterday, on her knees begging the security guard and wife that she has suffered in this Lagos. Lol

And her beloved boyfriend told her, they can't continue anymore after a while ( he don fucvk taya,his thirst of sex has been satisfied) . So he said , his fiancee who travelled abroad is back and she won't let him be, he thought she has gone for good. So sorry babe its over between us, and I've already done engagement with her before she left. I didn't know she will come back. I thought she will marry a white man , because she wasn't picking my calls anymore. She fought him, slapped him but sorry banker no want again. It's over. Bye bye baby.

Her friend who accepted to camp her used her like housegirl. The friend sef was camping with her boyfreind o. Both the friend and her bf used her like no tomorrow. She said she's ill and emotionally battered and please big Sis forgive me. I never knew u all were right. I thought he truly loved me. I never knew Lagos guys are like this.

It's only in nollywood films u will see banker marrying a village girl working as a cleaner .

As one goes higher in life, u need a companion to complement your status. It's only natural.