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LaurelP:
Every guy knows that its not an easy feat to successfully approach and woo a lady. Even the most confident of guys usually need to "gather morale" before doing the needful.

This could stem from the fact that you don't know what the outcome of the action you're about taking might be.

Another reason is the fear of rejection, nobody wants to feel ridiculed or like a looser sort of. We are all created with a sense of self worth and we crave for respect and regard which is normal.

However, society has made it look like a guy who cannot approach a lady is not a "real man". Such a guy is mocked by friends, relatives and even the female folk. As a result of this utter mockery and in order to live up to the expectation of the society, guys come up with some funny excuses to defend themselves and also to remove their mind from trying to approach ladies.

Below are some of the excuses guys give themselves and others for their inability to approach women.


1) Naija girls are gold diggers: I'm sure you've heard or read many guys make such comments. They be like "Naija girls too like money jare, if you no get money forget am!" The truth is that this is not a valid excuse at all. No matter your level of economic power, there is always a woman out there who will accept you the way you are. you don't need to have money to find love anywhere, besides I know some really poor guys dating rich chicks and even eating from them sef. What you need more is self confidence and social skills.


2) I Don't Have Time for Girls Now: I hear this all the time and all I see is a guy who is frustrated about his inability to successfully woo a woman. I mean is there any such thing as a separate time you need to have for a woman? Lolz... Guys please enlighten me on what it means to have time for women. U ask a guy "What of your girlfriend?". He goes like "Which girlfriend, I don't have their time oo". When I hear this I just laugh!

3) Girls are a Distraction: For real? You that has been jobless for 5 years after graduation, how is it a girl's fault? It is you that is a distraction to yourself not girls. How come all these footballers, musicians, entertainers, bankers, doctors, oil guys that I see change chicks like wrapper don't get distracted, na u come dey get distracted. My guy forget excuse and do the needful.

4) Women bring Badluck: Lols... I don't even know what to say about this one. You hear guys say that if you want to make it in life, forget women. Funny thing is, they can't! The more they try, the more they fail. Men and women have been created to 'complete' each other so my guy, unless you're gay.....

5) She's too Pompous/disrespectful: No my guy, you're too timid, that's the truth. You have the right to woo any woman you like, she has the right to agree or disagree. Don't give away your right, exercise it!
Btw, research has shown that ladies who seem too pompous are usually much easier to convince than guys tend to think.

6) I can't Satisfy her Sexually: Most guys won't voice out this excuse at all, only to very close friends if he's the very open type. This however is not a valid excuse. How do you know you can't satisfy her? How do you even know she's after sex? Must you Bleep every girl you date? Enough said jareh...

7) I Prefer Foreign Women to Nigerian: All na wash! So of all the millions of women in Naija, you can't find a suitable one for yourself, na for foreign land you go see am? My guy, your problem no be Naija women, your problem is internal. Search yourself and tell urself the truth!

No Responsible Woman Anymore: If I hear! Maybe you want a Mary magdalene or virgin Mary. Guy, if na responsible woman be your excuse, why not enter Deeper life, Jehova Witness, mountain of Fire and the various mosques and look for them? Why look for responsible women at Allen Junction? Mtcheeew...

9) I Prefer to Roll With my Fellow Guys: You be gay? Yes its good to have a good rapport with fellow guys, to have fun and drink with guys with no chick around once in a while. But my guy don't use it as an excuse, because very soon those your guys will start asking you to go and look for a chick. They will soon start laughing at you bro.

10) Complete it.



LaurelP

As par no. 1, where you go find rich chick, wey fine , dey humble, respectful and very very rich ? . With man this is impossible but with God all things are possible.
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LaurelP:
Every guy knows that its not an easy feat to successfully approach and woo a lady. Even the most confident of guys usually need to "gather morale" before doing the needful.

This could stem from the fact that you don't know what the outcome of the action you're about taking might be.

Another reason is the fear of rejection, nobody wants to feel ridiculed or like a looser sort of. We are all created with a sense of self worth and we crave for respect and regard which is normal.

However, society has made it look like a guy who cannot approach a lady is not a "real man". Such a guy is mocked by friends, relatives and even the female folk. As a result of this utter mockery and in order to live up to the expectation of the society, guys come up with some funny excuses to defend themselves and also to remove their mind from trying to approach ladies.

Below are some of the excuses guys give themselves and others for their inability to approach women.


1) Naija girls are gold diggers: I'm sure you've heard or read many guys make such comments. They be like "Naija girls too like money jare, if you no get money forget am!" The truth is that this is not a valid excuse at all. No matter your level of economic power, there is always a woman out there who will accept you the way you are. you don't need to have money to find love anywhere, besides I know some really poor guys dating rich chicks and even eating from them sef. What you need more is self confidence and social skills.


2) I Don't Have Time for Girls Now: I hear this all the time and all I see is a guy who is frustrated about his inability to successfully woo a woman. I mean is there any such thing as a separate time you need to have for a woman? Lolz... Guys please enlighten me on what it means to have time for women. U ask a guy "What of your girlfriend?". He goes like "Which girlfriend, I don't have their time oo". When I hear this I just laugh!

3) Girls are a Distraction: For real? You that has been jobless for 5 years after graduation, how is it a girl's fault? It is you that is a distraction to yourself not girls. How come all these footballers, musicians, entertainers, bankers, doctors, oil guys that I see change chicks like wrapper don't get distracted, na u come dey get distracted. My guy forget excuse and do the needful.

4) Women bring Badluck: Lols... I don't even know what to say about this one. You hear guys say that if you want to make it in life, forget women. Funny thing is, they can't! The more they try, the more they fail. Men and women have been created to 'complete' each other so my guy, unless you're gay.....

5) She's too Pompous/disrespectful: No my guy, you're too timid, that's the truth. You have the right to woo any woman you like, she has the right to agree or disagree. Don't give away your right, exercise it!
Btw, research has shown that ladies who seem too pompous are usually much easier to convince than guys tend to think.

6) I can't Satisfy her Sexually: Most guys won't voice out this excuse at all, only to very close friends if he's the very open type. This however is not a valid excuse. How do you know you can't satisfy her? How do you even know she's after sex? Must you Bleep every girl you date? Enough said jareh...

7) I Prefer Foreign Women to Nigerian: All na wash! So of all the millions of women in Naija, you can't find a suitable one for yourself, na for foreign land you go see am? My guy, your problem no be Naija women, your problem is internal. Search yourself and tell urself the truth!

No Responsible Woman Anymore: If I hear! Maybe you want a Mary magdalene or virgin Mary. Guy, if na responsible woman be your excuse, why not enter Deeper life, Jehova Witness, mountain of Fire and the various mosques and look for them? Why look for responsible women at Allen Junction? Mtcheeew...

9) I Prefer to Roll With my Fellow Guys: You be gay? Yes its good to have a good rapport with fellow guys, to have fun and drink with guys with no chick around once in a while. But my guy don't use it as an excuse, because very soon those your guys will start asking you to go and look for a chick. They will soon start laughing at you bro.

10) Complete it.



LaurelP

As par no. 1, where you go find rich chick, wey fine , dey humble, respectful and very very rich ? . With man this is impossible but with God all things are possible.

Everfrank:
I sympathise with you for your lost. But some Fulani folks who lost their loved ones are equally grieving. You have presented your case well but can we now hear from a cattle Fulani man? Definitely not because while you have this mouthpiece they don't. We can only judge your matter here out of bias, malice or hatred for the cattle fulani. Some gullible posters above have already done that. The fulanis talk on radios and are painting even a worse picture of their predicament. How about that?
You people must sheath your swords and end this vicious circle of revenge and counter revenge. It's not doing you any good. It was bad leadership of former governor Joshua Dariye that was the Genesis of the uprisings on the Plateau not only between you and the fulanis but the resident hausas as well. Dariye was on record inciting the berom and others against hausas that that have coexisted for over a century. He was reported to have personally ordered attacks against resident hausas which led to imposition and extention a state of emergency and his suspension as a governor.
To be frank with you it's only through give and take, forgiveness, understanding and mutual respect that you'll attain the peace that evade you. The berom are fighting a war they cannot win. The nomadic nature of fulani and their massive population, spread and determination not to forgive or forget put them at an edge above you. They are tougher and know exactly where your people are at any given time but it's very difficult for you to trace them in the bush. Even when you do you only get two or three of them at a time. But you people are sitting ducks either in in your villages or in the next villages as refugees. So seek for genuine peace.
I hope your plea will reach your intended recipient. Buhari will definitely intervene as he promised. But be ready to give and take and to accept whatever settlement that may be reached. We suggested the inclusion of the cattle fulani representatives in the Constitution Amendment Conference organized by former president Jonathan but nobody took us serious.

Well, I may not know much about the Berom people but it's a well known fact that the Fulani herdsmen are very deadly.
They've had conflicts with people down South, the Yoruba towns, Igbos, Delta State and Rivers state. They've raped, killed women and children, and even robbed. I don't want to be bias here but can we analyse this properly ?

Aringarosa:


Just hoping this dude doesn't end up like Tyson, hope he is investing in real business other than acquisition of luxury cars.

I dey tell you. Just check out the garage sef.

Mogidi:
Lets pray Buhari reads his Fulani brothers the riot act, their impudence increased after his election win.
The Fulanis have killed more in NC than boko haram, still waiting for Bubu to berate his people rather than his nonchalant body language like nothing is happening at his back yard.
Nearly 500 dead since Buhari came to power, stop the killings.

I wonder what you people want to hear again. If someone can say, "why are you people killing my people?" What more can you expect ?

PunkyVeer:
SOOO, let me get this straight. .a guy & a girl can't just be friends? Platonic? How weird!

Can you just be friend with a man you're interested in ? No.
There's a lady I had been having an affair with. She wanted something deeper but I told her we should just be friends. She was mad.

GudluckIBB:
I attended one party in this man's house in G.R.A benin then. His house is behind judges quarters off ikpokpan Road.

He had all good things of this world ranging from cars, women, luxury,everything you can think off.

In Lagos,he had a property on MKO crescent in ikeja that was were he was living.

It was in his house I first saw B&O Electronics.

......Heard he was in 419 and drugs.He also owns hearts magazine. .......Bottom line of his story is :

"The wealth of the hidden are laid in stock for the righteous" and "He that thinketh he standeth, let him take heed,lest he falls"

I don't think I understand the bolded.

vanessaRN:
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I bet you, the foundation of this building is stronger than many so called modern houses in Nigeria.

VISTIN:
You see, Buhari and his APC talk like illiterates.

How can they be quoting figures that even the American government does not know?

Has any bank abroad come up to say they received stolen money?

Even if there are cash deposits, how sure are they all were stolen?

Looters will be tried in a matter of weeks, have they gathered all the evidences?

I bet you, people like Iweala will disgrace them in the court?

The best thing for this propoganda gvt is to start doing something for Nigeria while they quietly gather whatever for this probe of a thing.

The noise is too much!!!

But in actual fact Amanpor had told us how much Amaechi had in a US bank $757m . Meanwhile, she is not a Tanoid.

Sincere9gerian:
Lolz.., very different from the information Buhari and APC have been feeding their gullible supporters with. Going by the propaganda, one would think the trillions of dollars, allegedly looted and stashed abroad, will be recovered and culprits imprisoned in a matter of days. That is even if there is any looted fund stashed abroad.

In other words, we're saddled with a govt that is on a wild goose chase, and this is a govt that will hit the 100 days mark in a few days, no cabinet, no project initiated or continued, no policy, no programme, no achievement and no direction, with confusion reigning supreme. Everything is on autopilot from the way it was left by the last administration.

Govt of propaganda, by propaganda and for propaganda! Govt of body language and fear of Buhari. Yeye dey smell.

I dey tell you. I don't know whether it's too early to this government is a flop.

bushdoc9919:
I blame the state Governor.....and the Local government chairman.

Because....unfortunately in this country, people expect Abuja to babysit the governor and the LG chairman.

Well.....the President cannot do everything at once. Just because the presido for the last 6 years was from the area does not give the local leader an excuse to do nothing.

Firstly I don't know how true this news is. But if it is true, then it's a shame. At least those in his community should feel his impact, forget about local govt or State government.
It doesn't take him anything to clean up the creeks or rivers. I just want to believe there's more to this. At least we should all be open minded unlike some APC fans here.

175:
He's a Delta State Chieftain of APC. . .

He for put real broom on top the cake...

DeBret:
Liz Anjorin:


Liz acquired a brand new white Range Rover
Evoque valued at over 15million
Shortly after relocating from her Ogba-Lagos
residence to a penthouse on Admiralty Way in
Lekki Phase 1, Lagos, the actress acquired a
brand new white Range Rover Evoque valued
at over 15million.

15million naira car and a home in Lekki phase 1, how she take do am . Cos I don't know how many endorsements she has signed

ronald4lif:
The co-terms 'appropriate time' is subjective to individuals definition and understanding. What you consider as appropriate time is not so for everyone.

Another thing is, the write-up is lopsided. You made it seem as if guys are the only ones who initiates and demand for sex using different schemes to have a woman do it. I put it to you that you got that wrong. Some ladies are the ones who initiates sexual moves on men and forces them to fxck them even when they don't want to. Please correct that misconception and whoever harbours similar thought should dismiss it.

The person sounds like a sexist. As if sex was made for men to enjoy.

Cutehector:
Good advice.... I see you all ladies here as my sisters and I wish u could grasp smth out of this post...

In as much as some ppo will tag me hypocrite buh hey, let's be true to ourselves for once... Sex should be smth both parties gv dr consent to... If a man loves u so much, he won't ask u for sex befor u two are married... Yes, he won't! He respects u well enough to wait for u to decide to give urself to him, dats if u wish to before marriage

Chastity is good and it should be encouraged.
You know I have a a problem with some people here. Secondly the post does not really address certain issues.
You people make it look like it's only men who enjoy sex. Or maybe it's because of the way some men go about it.

Women do enjoy sex and they demand it. If you are in a relationship with an average lady and you've not had sex with her, that relationship would likely end. There are copious examples.
You know, ladies have very subtle way of expression themselves. When they want something like sex, they would hardly tell you point blank. You will see some cues although there are a few exceptions to this. If a lady is in a relationship and she decides to have sex, leave her she knows what she is doing. QED.

olasquare22:
It works like magic even with well established firms. #my experience

How does one get the info . Most of the time it's clandestine.

peedeeasobie:
Am I the only one that is noticing something awkward here?

How was she able to tell you such huge lies?
47-35 = 12.

How young looking is your wife that she was able to deduct 12 years from her age and you didn't notice that something was obviously wrong?

Iget as this story be o! I don't believe this story! Sorry!

Don't think you got it. He said 4 years ago, his wife lied that she wad 35. But he realised she had actually deducted 8 years from her age, then. In essence she was 43 when they met. 4 years later, she's 47.
Even at that he should have noticed some changes.

Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

You have been one-chanced... . It's painful.

chymystique:
Sex sex sex!.. Na Food? I really dont understand why a man should beat a woman cause she refused him sex... There are ways to go about all these issues responsibly...

Ways like having a concubine outdide.

kunle1960:
God is on my 8 year old daughter's side and God saved her from a pedophile and a predator. Yesterday, the teacher was using my daughter's hand to rub or caress his genitals and in the process with a stunt warning not to tell anybody but my child in her wisdom came back to inform my wife first before my wife told me last night.

PLEASE WHAT DO I DO NOW? I'm about to go to Police to report it!

Hey, what should you do ? Report to police and let the school authority know.
He will find it hard to deny it.

SUGARBEE:
Okay another prince in distress

Posts like this makes me feel like bombing people

I know what the op is passing through cos I suffer from the same distress.

kennygee:
Our Celebs and their fake and exorbitant life style.

Idris Elba is way richer than Dbanj and you don't see him in all those mumu chains and Glasses.

You'll never find Bill Gates, Aliko Dangote and Femi Otedola looking like this. They look simple.

The bank balance and Forbes does the talking.

He's the nature of his job. If Bill Gates starts wearing bling bling, then something is wrong. Btw, Bill Gates have paintings worth hundreds of million.

hyfr:
Irony of life, the real criminals that are meant to be burnt with brimstone are busy jetting round the continent, while a victim of frustration from these criminals is vested upon. Nigerians its high time we stopped jungle justice, if you have recovered your stolen item why not call the police.

Well, there are bigger thieves though but make person no dare thief my car Oh. You don't know the pain and traunma that person whose car is stolen will pass through. If the thief is a victim of frustration, he should not make anotner person frustrated. Food for thought. I'm not in support of jungle justice though.

ayokunlei:
see comment sha, Ignis must hear this o

Abi no be so ? U think say dressibg well go reduce runs for Uni ?
Those girls that were sent don't know their rights if not na to sue the institution.

Chai.. . It is over oh.. . To beat this woman ehn, no be small.

kevinberry:
They school is trying to prevent slut from gaining admission,they are everywhere,once they get admission they distribute their number and offer house service...they are many here in uniben..preventing indecent dressing is one way forward,I support slut shaming..

Unillorin is a Federal University. If it were Babcock, Covenant University it would be a different thing. A uni should be a secular institution.
Any lady can be a slut. As long as there's poverty and randy guys, there'll always be runs girls to satisfty sexual needs.

Haha. What kept them so,long ?

funlord:


What a complete _idiot! So you can't hustle hard, save up and then travel to the states on your own! Unfortunately this hungry man will still end up in the states trying to chase hotter chicks and then the old granny go teach am the meaning of "white power"!

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