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Dannyabu:
My Wife Lied About Her Age

Four years ago at 35, I married my wife, who I thought was 35. We both wanted children, but unfortunately, she had miscarriage in the second year and stillbirth in the third year. We began consulting a fertility specialist.

After she started asking questions, my wife admitted she is actually eight years older than she had led me to believe. She's 47 years old! She's cried and cried, begging for my forgiveness.

She's gone to try fertility treatments to get pregnant, but I don't want her to continue that for health reasons. I have forgiven her but as an African man; I'm NOT willing to consider the adoption option. She says, of course, that she feared I would walk away if I knew the truth, but she must have known it would come out sometime, somehow. I think I still love her, she is really a wife material, respectful, lovable and very industrious lady but I feel so betrayed! Letting a husband believe you're years younger than you are with all the implications for child-bearing, is a grotesque deception. Sometimes, I'm always wondering if some things she says are the truth. Moreover, after all the wahala and years in-between, her beauty has really waned. She now looks old! We have become butts of joke from neighbours and even strangers when they see us walking together. I look way younger than she is.

I think of getting another wife, but that has not been my person. I think of divorce, but where do I start? Have I wasted 4 years of my life just like that? We still have faith that miracles do happen. Our pastor has asked me to forgive her and move on, that my ability to forgive her will make her more loyal and obedient to me. She is a naturally good person, but for this act of deception.

Maybe if my wife had been honest with me from the beginning, knowing her age I would have adjusted my planning and expectations for children. But she lied. Should I prove her right in her assumption that when I found out the truth, I would walk away? Any thoughts on helping us get through this? I have given all my resources to make this marriage work.

I need matured and sincere advice please!

You have been one-chanced... . It's painful.

chymystique:
Sex sex sex!.. Na Food? I really dont understand why a man should beat a woman cause she refused him sex... There are ways to go about all these issues responsibly...

Ways like having a concubine outdide.

kunle1960:
God is on my 8 year old daughter's side and God saved her from a pedophile and a predator. Yesterday, the teacher was using my daughter's hand to rub or caress his genitals and in the process with a stunt warning not to tell anybody but my child in her wisdom came back to inform my wife first before my wife told me last night.

PLEASE WHAT DO I DO NOW? I'm about to go to Police to report it!

Hey, what should you do ? Report to police and let the school authority know.
He will find it hard to deny it.

SUGARBEE:
Okay another prince in distress

Posts like this makes me feel like bombing people

I know what the op is passing through cos I suffer from the same distress.

kennygee:
Our Celebs and their fake and exorbitant life style.

Idris Elba is way richer than Dbanj and you don't see him in all those mumu chains and Glasses.

You'll never find Bill Gates, Aliko Dangote and Femi Otedola looking like this. They look simple.

The bank balance and Forbes does the talking.

He's the nature of his job. If Bill Gates starts wearing bling bling, then something is wrong. Btw, Bill Gates have paintings worth hundreds of million.

hyfr:
Irony of life, the real criminals that are meant to be burnt with brimstone are busy jetting round the continent, while a victim of frustration from these criminals is vested upon. Nigerians its high time we stopped jungle justice, if you have recovered your stolen item why not call the police.

Well, there are bigger thieves though but make person no dare thief my car Oh. You don't know the pain and traunma that person whose car is stolen will pass through. If the thief is a victim of frustration, he should not make anotner person frustrated. Food for thought. I'm not in support of jungle justice though.

ayokunlei:
see comment sha, Ignis must hear this o

Abi no be so ? U think say dressibg well go reduce runs for Uni ?
Those girls that were sent don't know their rights if not na to sue the institution.

Chai.. . It is over oh.. . To beat this woman ehn, no be small.

kevinberry:
They school is trying to prevent slut from gaining admission,they are everywhere,once they get admission they distribute their number and offer house service...they are many here in uniben..preventing indecent dressing is one way forward,I support slut shaming..

Unillorin is a Federal University. If it were Babcock, Covenant University it would be a different thing. A uni should be a secular institution.
Any lady can be a slut. As long as there's poverty and randy guys, there'll always be runs girls to satisfty sexual needs.

Haha. What kept them so,long ?

funlord:


What a complete _idiot! So you can't hustle hard, save up and then travel to the states on your own! Unfortunately this hungry man will still end up in the states trying to chase hotter chicks and then the old granny go teach am the meaning of "white power"!

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It is love

EggovinMma:
BROS seriously, you need to calm down. Dying of laughter here.

I meant to say er.ecTion not Attention. Wetin dey worry this auto correct sef

Kentrasso:
This his house is fine o

Claim it for your future.

Ephemmm:
This is not only absurd, but astonishing coming from the mouth of a son.

It's astonishing but he's the one who knows his father better than you and I.

SFSNIPER:
Wats with the gloves when he's bare footed?

He's a goal keeper !!

camaraderi:
The year was 1988, I was 6 and my aunt will be in her 20's m. Just came to Lagos for the first time from akure. Was staying in Pedro area with my Dad's step sister and she made do all sorts to her. It was years later that I realised the effect of what she has done. Still trying to understand why my aunt will do such a terrible thing to me, one day I will confront her

This is incestuous rape. Very disgusting...

Teempakguy:
I love how this thread is now two pages and no female has given a reasonable contribution.

It gives me the audacity to put the grinning smiley on female rape threads.

Don't be surprised if some of them are molesters too.

lalasticlala:
http://thenet.ng/2015/08/i-dont-wear-bras-so-men-can-know-all-i-have-ghanaian-actress/

Does she wear pants too

izeeqpotter:
no but my stuff went in. And she did it until my stuff slowly died down

. Sorry Oh.

I started getting erection very early and I was looking for such opportunities. Then we had a house girl that dresses any how. She was giving me serious erection. .

Jesusloveyou:
u are correct, but d so called bishop kukah and d wailers think otherwise

You are already abusing bishop Kukah because he is advisingBuhari
Didn't this same Kukah criticise Gej government ?

Trailblazer1:
I am a patriot
I love and support buhari's anti-corruption stance.
I want all our looted resources to be returned, both the ones looted by APC and PDP members.

However, Since charity begins at home, I will advise buhari to first recover all the resources looted by Amaechi and Fashola(78million inclusive) and all his inner caucus, before he starts to chase Dieziani and okonjo. This will assure Nigerians thst he's not witch-hunting.



My people abi no be so

Exactly my point. It surprises me that there are people who believe that all the allegations against APC members are false. To them it's only Gej that is corrupt..

kemiola89:
The same old story!

She was never your responsibility...or was she betrothed to you? Did you both sign a contract that says she'd become your wife after helping her through school? You did all that out of good will and your reward is with God.

Everything happens for a reason, so do not see it as a lost, learn from your mistake and move on. Someone better is out there for you.

In life nothing is certain... Not all relationship ends in marriage!

So they must sign a contract to marry, abi ? What about the promise she made ?
Have you tried seeing things from the man's perspective?
Mind you, this could happen eithet way. A woman could do this for her bf and later get dumped. Stop seeing it from one side.
I believe once a promise is made, it must be fulfilled. If he/she decides not to, he/she should return his money.

ElFenomeno1:
Such is life.... Move on!

It's not easy to move on oh. He has been one-chanced. When will guys learn that investing heavily on a woman that you are not married to is highly risky.

If you have not married her or she's not expecting your child, better don't make that mistake. However, there's nothing wrong in helping someone if you're not expecting anything in return.

Bonapart:
you're a fool Vivian okyere or whatever your name is..... repent or you will perish! Mind the way you use the name of Christ next time you want to talk rubbish..... fool

Haba !! Must you call her a fool It's not right. I believe you are a Christian.

natas22:
To me its because she bent to write that her boobs started showing like that the problem is with the pervert called photographer he took the pics that way to just get the full pics of her breast.

Funny you. Why should you call the photographer a pervert for taking a picture

She's beautiful but the dress exposes too much.

calebo101:
Only fools complain of PDP being the problem and still celebrate when they decamp to APC.

When will they stop deceiving the fools in Nigeria?

Hmmm..... . I dont understand Nigerian youths
Youths like this are also part of the problem.

Everfrank:
Rubbish. When you kill Fulani and rustle their cattle the media won't report it. They only report when the Fulani take revenge. The Fulani are one of the most marginalized group in this country. But make una continue. You can't finish them but it's you that will finish. If a Fulani cows eat your crops there are legal ways to settle such matters. But when you employ jungle justice they have no choice but to fight to live.

Smh. The bolded is a big fat lie. Really, I don't know where you come from. But just pray that a Fulani herdsman does not attack you.

Tonniey:
Sometimes, I use to wonder if this Fulani's have blood flowing in their vein. They don't have regard for live and can wreck havock at the time you least expect. These people needs proper education an enlightenment by their leaders. Especially the cattele rearers, if they graze their animals on ur farm land and u challenge them, it might cost u ur life or total destruction of ur property. Pls the govt should do something ASAP.


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I remember when some Fulani marauders were killed in retaliation and their spokesman came out to say, "why are your people killing my people?" . And this same person is now the president.

DrPrickson:
Please can somebody explain what Sahara TV did to Mugabe?thank u

Sahara is a junk news organisation. I don't kniw why they've not been dealt with.

Sorry Mugabe for the embarrassment.

londonrivals:
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This is a press statement. Read below...

You can recall last two weeks Mr. Bruno Iwuoha was calling for medical help. After that the CEO Morgan Entertainment, Emeka Morgan Nwanne Oguejiofor Jr invited him to the US and took him to one of the best hospitasl and paid all the bills including hospital bill feeding and medication bill

When Mr Iwuoha arrived the US, he was on wheel chair but right now he is very healthy. According to the doctors, Bruno will not be able to work or do certain things for 6-12 months, to give room for proper healing.

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http://www.metroparrot.net/2015/08/photos-nollywood-actor-bruno-iwuoha.html

Thank God for him. I was thinking that since he is a well known face, many people will come to his aid.