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FamilyRe: My Wife Says She Deserves"thank U" After Sex - Can U Say That? by vivianc(f): 1:06pm On Oct 29, 2013
grin grin grin grin Chei! LWKMD! Wetin I no go read for NL?

But seriously, what's the big deal in saying "Oh sweetie, you were so sweetest today, thank you for a mind blowing kpekusing." grin grin Pride doesn't give keep you warm at night oooo.......
FamilyRe: Will You Tolerate A Friend Calling To Ask You Personal Questions? by vivianc(f): 12:50pm On Oct 29, 2013
Yes I would tolerate. I'm not in competition with anybody, let alone my friend.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 12:34pm On Oct 29, 2013
meine: This girl must really have some anger issues to deal with and i am not joking,see how she talks down on people. I fear for her guy,she has no courtesy at all.
Taa gbafuo gi there.
FamilyRe: How Old Do You Really Look? by vivianc(f): 7:31am On Oct 29, 2013
ignis: Why do you think so?
Lol, why do I think what?
FamilyRe: How Old Do You Really Look? by vivianc(f): 7:22am On Oct 29, 2013
doomsdayII: LOOK TWICE! Cos i fu*king look like MOSES
Lol, how did moses look like? Show me a px, maybe i'd finally know.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 6:59am On Oct 29, 2013
alutacontinua: We're humans and we're bound to react to people's actions, most especially the people we love! Anger is a normal reaction to some actions and in a relationship, you cannot expect a party to be keeping cool if the other party ain't acting cool.
Don't mind them. If this poster where to be a chic complaining about a dude, we would have seen a lot of "How to calm him down and treat him like a king" lists. But since reverse is the case, how dare me! Right? How dare me demand she should be treated right, huh? Of course she shouldn't be, she should just smile and remain cool even when the guy drives her insane. If she couldn't the guy should move on jare..... After all he is doing her a favour by considering to marry her. grin grin

Hypocrites.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 6:44am On Oct 29, 2013
igbonla: Usually don't do come backs but there are always exceptions.
(1) Part of my comments that seemed out of point were directed at your personal experience that you shared, thought it was obvious.
(2) Again, reacting to somebody's action is what I was asking you not to do! You have control over how you react but never on the actions coming at you!
(3) I agree that every body should treat everybody right but sadly, we don't live in an ideal world.
(4) Never wrote anything about the lady being at fault, I listened to Chimamanda when she talked about the dangers of a single side story and learnt valuable lessons.
(5) Temperament may differ but everybody must control their tempers otherwise it becomes an insane world. If in doubt, go to Ojota motor park watch those touts for like 15 minutes.
(6) Sorry, I don't do horoscopes and don't believe that has got anything to do with anybody's behavior.
1. You are still out of point. So no comment there.

2. Please get real! Somebody's actions is totally different from a "fiance's action." Where there is no feeling, there will never be an emotion. We are not talking "somebody's action" her. If we go by this your flawed logic then it doesn't make sense that the poster is reacting to his fiancee's reaction, he should just go with it cos "You don't go about reacting to somebody's action."

3. Again pls get real. No body is obligated to you for anything but there are exceptions. For instance; a husband/wife is obligated to his/her partner. A mother/child is obligated to each other. Best friends and lovers, etc. You don't go about expecting anything from random people.

4. Ignored.

5. Let me give you an assignment, pls go and study people's temperament intensively, until you do this and have a thorough understanding of it, pls you have no business advising people on behavioural issues, you can't advise people on what you know nothing about. Sometimes this goes beyond saying the right things and all, what about the practical aspect of it all? I agree with what you said, but until you know your partner's temperament and emotions; e.g, is he or she melancholic or not? Etc, is he or she very sensitive or not, you might never be able to calm him or her down. And when you don't know how to calm your partner down you are on a long thing. Most times logic doesn't prevail in relationship, especially when a woman is involved.

6. That's entirely your call. But other people believe and its plausible for them.
FamilyRe: How Old Do You Really Look? by vivianc(f): 12:01am On Oct 29, 2013
I look 7yrs older than my real age and its being a blessing.
FamilyRe: Why Is It That Every Man Wants To Marry A Working Class Woman Nowadays by vivianc(f): 11:46pm On Oct 28, 2013
The same reason every woman wants to marry a rich man.
FamilyRe: Why Is Inter-ethnic Marriages Rare In Nigeria? by vivianc(f): 11:44pm On Oct 28, 2013
In the environment i am inter-ethnic marriage is rare. My parents are from the same community, my uncles, aunts, cousins etc all married from my ethnicity, and so will I. My culture is the only culture I understand and can live with.
FamilyRe: Confused Husband Needs Advice by vivianc(f): 11:34pm On Oct 28, 2013
Being logical is one thing, then being pragmatic is another. If this man has truly endured for 6 whole years, then the reality of it is he must cheat one day. None of them bargained for this and its not fair to either of them.

So its there any alternative solution to this problem? Be it medically or........ Its there any surgery she can undergo that would atleast enable her to fulfill this need of her husband? Well, if not, then putting myself in this woman's shoes (God forbid tho) I won't "ok" it, i'd just turn my eyes away from the truth, whatever he does I don't wanna hear it and I expect him to lie through his teeth. I would consider even tho this is not my fault and its not fair but he has a need; a very crucial one for that matter and I can't fulfill this need, i'dn't want to deny him that, no matter how hard it hurts.

And yes, if the table is turned i'd do same thing. I can't stay s...e...xually inactive involuntarily for 6 whole years, at this my very young age.
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Those Born In December,lets Meet Here by vivianc(f): 10:40pm On Oct 28, 2013
kay29000: Mine is Dec 29
Finally I have found my birth day mate on NL, yayi!!!!!!
FamilyRe: Is Cheating Normal For Men? by vivianc(f): 10:31pm On Oct 28, 2013
carujmonella: @OP, it's not normal for ANY gender to cheat. Cheating is bad and should be condemned. All these "men are polygamous in nature" is pure crap. A man or woman that values his or her partner won't cheat her.



I have problem with your 98% deduction. How did you come about your fallacy?. Which research did you or anybody carry out and came to the conclusion that 98% men cheat?. And about your number 2, in as much as cheating is bad, you can't say the fault of her hubby cheating is not her's. It can be her of fault. Some ladies push their hubbies into cheating though not all the times but it doesn't justifying the men cheating nor the women cheating though
Opinions are like azzholes, we all have it. I just gave mine, give yours and move on.

Thank you.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 10:04pm On Oct 28, 2013
alutacontinua: Does she snap at other people like that too?
Good question!

What is she reacting to?
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 9:27pm On Oct 28, 2013
jeffizy: You even sound angry here too.
Anger is what any matured person can control. You need to know people will always have a different approach to everything cos we are not the same. It's called tolerance.
Although, most angry people are either impatient or havinging inferiority complex.
ignored.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f):
Is it not a shame how most of you are not being objective in this matter? Really a shame!

Unless someone is a lunatic, s/he doesn't just react to nothing, there most be an action before a reaction.

The question is what is she reacting to?

Now the way people react differs, that's their component, its the way they are created. So why don't we sit down and figure out ourselves how or what our partners' components are, it will help us a long way. And when we have figured it out, won't it be plain selfish to repeatedly do things that our partners' would react negatively to? If you can't figure this out, you have no business being in a relationship.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 9:15pm On Oct 28, 2013
Royal Roy: My thoughts exactly.
Each adult should take responsibility for their behavior and not blame it on someone else.

If the fiancée refuse to stop been mad at every single issue then you the Op should move on.

People rarely change, they only become a clearer version of what they truely are.
oh please, I expect you to know better than this! You of all people should know better.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f):
igbonla: You are running away from taking responsibility for your behavior, it has nothing to do with what the guy did but everything to do with how your reactions/responses.
Stop giving people so much power over your emotions; life will always throw mean and sometimes deadly punches at us, how we respond determines our success or failure.
I don't understand what "responsibility" I should take. And this is not about me. The rest of the things you are saying are completely out of point.

People don't just react to nothing, they react to actions. While you don't give any Tom and Jerry the right over your emotions, I agree with that. No one is obligated to us, i agree but when a certain person occupies a certain position or space in our lives s/he is obligated to us.

The guy should take responsibility for his actions too that provoke this lady. If this guy is engaged to this lady, he is obligated to her, to treat her right at all times but if he doesn't, the lady has every right to be angry.

Its not everything that's the lady's fault. That he first complained doesn't make him innocent!

Secondly, people's temperament differs, so are their horoscopes. Find out where your partner falls in. If you don't know all these, then you shouldn't advice people on behavioural issues, cos you are not qualified to do so.
FamilyRe: I Think I Need Some Genuine Help. Please Open This. by vivianc(f): 5:09pm On Oct 27, 2013
*Reads through the posts and thinking out loud* The typical "good guy?" nah, not my kind. So boring..............

@op: you need the typical "good girl." Good luck with that.
FamilyRe: My Fiancée is too Temperamental...Help!!! by vivianc(f): 4:56pm On Oct 27, 2013
haryor1986: Hello NL, my fiancee angrys over little tins too much. She don't want to overlook tins @ all. When she s angry, she raises her voice so high that am begining to dislike her attitude because am a calm guy and don't get easily angered. But she won't listen 2 me am fed up. Wat ways can I handle dis situation. God bless u... Hapi sunday
What is it that you always do to her that makes her so angry? Have you searched yourself? Or is she a lunatic? Why don't you just reassess yourself and make her happy for once!

Humans have different temperament, so don't expect her to be like you! You might be the type that surpresses his anger, that's your temperament, not hers!

I'm the type that voices my anger out depending on who is involved. I was getting close to this guy that felt and complained that I get angry all the time. One day I sat down and reflected on things and I realised that yes, i have been angry alot in that friendship but the truth of the matter is the guy does so many things so wrong and he expects me to suck it up. I called him, sat him down and talked to him. I'm not a lunatic but clearly he has turned me into one. He brings out the worst in me and I told him it was best he is no longer in my life anymore.

So what am I saying? This could be your fault! It could be that you do so many things so wrong! What do expect? For her to suck it up and smile and give you a gold medal? You bring out the worst in her, so its either you find a way to turn things around or you take a walk.
FamilyRe: Is Cheating Normal For Men? by vivianc(f): 4:35pm On Oct 27, 2013
Errm, I'm hardly qualified to advise you o, cos i'm not married, so I have no idea how it feels for your husband to cheat on you.

I'm just gonna answer your few questions:

1. Cheating is not normal and can never be normal. But we live in a world where nothing is normal anymore.
98% of men cheat! That's the raw truth! It doesn't matter how perfect life seems on nairaland or how perfect everybody seems here, but take a walk around your relevant environment and see for yourself. That guy somewhere you think doesn't cheat hasn't been caught, yet!

2. No, asking for a total faithfulness is not asking for too much. It is not your fault that your hubby cheats, it is his fault!

There are no specific ways to deal with unfaithfulness. However you choose to deal with it hurts so bad!

Women are wired differently! So how are you wired? How strong are you emotionally to swallow that your loving husband cheats? You mustn't deal with this if you don't want to.

So I say you have 2 options; work it out or walk out.

Good luck ma'am.
FamilyRe: His Wife Asking For His Facebook Password. by vivianc(f): 4:15pm On Oct 27, 2013
Most marriages these days are jokes of the century!

What's the big deal about facebook and passwords? As in really? Is she not your wife? If you don't have anything to hide why don't you just give her the password. Does feminism make her less of a woman? Or a human? Part of your job as a husband/wife is to make your partner feel secure, so why don't you just do it! Or you rather raise unnecessary dust? Because of facebook? Facebook kwa? Just ordinary facebook o? What are you doing on facebook that you don't want her to know? Smh

Make her feel secure! It is your duty!
Nairaland GeneralRe: Vote Of No Confidence On Sexkillz by vivianc(f): 3:56pm On Oct 19, 2013
*Long hiss* Arrant nonsense:::::::::
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 8:13am On Oct 19, 2013
toshmann: ighotaghi ihe m mean-iri. . . asi m awu m virgin na uwa m mbu grin
mana taa, virgin gbakwaa oku cheesy . . . . that m na agba virgin atlantic aputaghi na m wu virgin. . . . . ndi bi na virginia awubeghi virgin ma afokwa toshmann nwa mama cool
nne biko ngwa osetiala . . . shhhhh . . gbanyuo oku . . . . ofuwa gi uto. . . . . .otowa gi ufu. . . . ofuwa gi ufu gi gwa m ka m weputa ya, inugo . ujo atula gi, the thing enweghi okpukpu nu na ya. . . .irukwuruuuu-irukwuru- - - - uzeeeeeeee.. . . . . . . (lights out)
grin grin Hia! Kedu udika iku nkwa bu nke a? Biko biko biko park-igodi one side jera. Gosi m your mma aha first ka m weigh-yie the thing.

Ihugo ihe mji na acho iga eluigwe? Ebe ahu ka umu nwoke mara nma ma nwekwaa ego no. Ha ma ka esi elete nwanyi ufoma, you know? Obughi this your bambambam 1 minute.
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 7:50am On Oct 19, 2013
toshmann: o biri na aja ocha ( e go end for white sand) n/b white sand symbolic of burial . . grin
Aja ocha in Igbo is not white sand, its clay sand.
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 10:28pm On Oct 18, 2013
toshmann: [size=18pt]heyi[/size]

olee ihe m nu ebe a n'emekwanu? shocked . . . my special one need-iri my presence m nuru here n'ele anya angry

Vibrant-Vivi. . . from today on, igaghi atu oyi again. . . iseeeee.
udiri oyi a na atu gi awughi ihe eji blanket emechi grin
and ihe ahu na ama gi jigijigi awughi true jigijigi grin . . . ihe ahu wu something else. . . aha ya wu irukwuru-irukwuru grin
ama m the thing . . o na eme m pieces cheesy
infact ahu emewela m irukwuru-irukwuru right now cheesy
vivacious vivendy biko bia kam meelaa go oyi a before agaba and co eburu wahala ha bata wink
Tosh Tosh! Toshnwanyi! Tosh nwa bobo! Tosh umu nwa! Guy keduzi nke ichoro ka anyi mee quickie? Ka anyi mezie ya sharp sharp before Agaba and co abata ek kwa?
Ama m na echegharigo m but anaghi m eme udiri quickie a, ana m e-take-i my time hazie things ofuma. grin grin

Erm, okwa isi na ibu virgin? Anaghi m emekwa virgin guys o. Ha amaghi ka esi aku nkwa. grin grin
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 8:14pm On Oct 18, 2013
toshmann: Ezigbo nwanne m nwanyi Mara mma nke ukwu, ihe a wu oru aka ndi iro m. embarassed
Otu a ka ha si n'agaghari n'agba ashiri megide m. Ha na emere m Anya ufu maka na m wu bobo cool

Ihe ndi a wu ashi. Muwa wu Toshmann nwa mama wu ezigbo mmadu. Kemgbe nne jiri mu m, amaghi m ihe gbasara nwayi, awu m virgin, n'eche patiently for my special one.
And thank god my special one abiala cheesy
Welcome wink kiss
grin grin Inweghi nsogbu. I believe you.

Biko nu, oyi a na atu m ona atukwa ndi ozo? Anwuolam here! Eyirikwo m efe kariri 10, werekwa blanket cover onwe m but still ahu ka na ama m jigijigi. E-need-iri m iku nkwa kpu oku n'onu na abalia but ejego m confession wee kwe onye uko chukwu nkwa na ma agaghi eme ihe ojoor ozo.

But come to think of it, e-needi-kwaranum permanent standby heater, eh? Nke a mna ezurutu n'ohi sometimes eh, ona adikwa uto o but vely vely lisky. Aga m elebara okwu a anya tupu oyi atugbuo m na obodo.
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 4:42pm On Oct 18, 2013
Prettielle: umunnem ndeewo nuo! Obi dim hapi ino n'etiti unu..unu omere olea?
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 4:39pm On Oct 18, 2013
Prettielle: umunnem ndeewo nuo! Obi dim hapi ino n'etiti unu..unu omere olea?
Nwanyi mara nma nnooooo. Kedu ka imere?


@Agaba, gini ka ichoro igosim? Obu akpa ego? As for ihe ine eri na ukwu sara mbara. I'm not of this world anymore, obi m no n'eluigwe where there are cute and rich guys. Ike mu na umu uwa agwula m biko.
FamilyRe: Ladies , This Is How To Calculate Your Bride Price ! by vivianc(f): 2:56pm On Oct 18, 2013
let me calculate mine sharperly grin grin

jonaji: LADIES: KNOW YOUR BRIDE PRICE ...

Medium height (fair or yellow) = 180k

Beautiful = plus 100k
Curvy hips = plus 150k
Curvy non saggy boobs = plus 60k
Slim= plus 30k
Short hair = minus 15k
Flat tommy = plus 30k
Great smiles = plus 30k

Do your calculations well guys!!! I hope
You don't owe your in-law in the
Process.
>>>Guys start saving now... Lol
Someone should punch the calculator for me abeg, the thing reach 600k. Na chicken change na. grin grin grin
CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 7:39am On Oct 18, 2013
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CultureRe: Igbo Kwenu! Kwezuo Nu! Join Us If You're Proud To Be An Igbo Guy/lady by vivianc(f): 7:37am On Oct 18, 2013
agabaI23: Bia Vivi nwanyioma,
Inweghi nsogbu. Agaghi m ekwe ka kreami na Tosh duba gi n'onwunwa. Nnoo oo!
Imela nwoke oma! Biko enyekwene ha chance o, if not ihe emebie. Ajoghi idaba n'onwunwa o biko. Ajoro m iga eluigwe maka na anuru m na cute rich guys no dia.


Kream Diva baby di uko! Baby na ashoku ka oku eletiriki, kedu ka imere? Words on the street bu na ara gi ka kwu oto ka cigar. So ihe nile a nwoke a na ami the thing, ochobeghi ida kpodo isi na ala eh kwa? Idikwa sure na ona ami the thing ofuma?

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