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@OP,

personally, i think you're just selfish (high-fliers are usually selfish people)

let me break it down for you...
-you didn't love the lady u married but she was an available source of ejaculation for you when you were still struggling. you knocked her up and had to marry her probably because you didnt want to loose the respect of your parents
-because your wife's English is not good, you consider her not good for your rep in your social circles
-you're cheating on her with a young girl who should have a good life ahead of her but you're destroying her life gradually by holding on to her rather than allow her find a better man than your damaged self

the problem is not your wife, its you and i think your kids will be better off without you in their lives

Lagos to Abuja then Abuja to Warri

@OP,

if the message you were trying to quote in your post is an email that you received from FB after you logged into your account, it is a normal security layer set up by FB to help check unauthorized log in. the idea is to encourage people to note the devices they use in accessing their FB account.

if you access from your mobile and PC, make sure they are both registered to access your account and you wont receive that notification again


if you are still in doubt, change your FB password...

Gsmxpert: It is 100% possible to chnage pin, imei and bsn on both new and old security. Leave rtas out of this.

and pin can be blocked from accessing bis though normal calls will work.

Oga, pls confirm you have changed the PIN of the BB device that Bluetooth put out there for you to show your skills with

i doubt very much if you're a gsm expert

i am of the opinion that a couple (if a xtian couple) should be ONE as specified by the bible and thus they should keep their own counsel. if they have to involve either side of their family in any matter, it should by mutual consent and agreement.

that said, there are many dis-united couples out there where the relationship is so bad they should even not be living together and that's where wisdom comes in.

if you know your husband/wife no longer has your interest at heart because of the issues you have, seek counsel from professionals who are totally neutral and have no vested interest. if you go and start seeking advise from your family, you will be polarizing your marriage further and making matters worse for yourself

PHIPEX: I pity Sanusi, this man will come for his pound of flesh. But it's sad to lose ur investment due to d policies of a political appointtee.

nah...there's no pound of flesh he's coming for. his case will still be prosecuted. the lawyers who handled it before now did a shoddy job and have been shown up by the court. EFCC still has the prerogative of restarting the process

Koolking: You speak like an IT savvy person. Are you a BB Master? You might be right but I don't believe in the exclusive security of any IT toy. Anything is still possible. I dont subscribe to impossibility in IT space

you speak like someone who is not IT savvy

good post and i hope the message gets really high up so that efforts can be intensified to improve patrolling rather than road blocking

but how did the writer arrive at those monetary figures. i believe the policemen will not disclose how much they make from their extortion

all in all, nice job

i'm missing a few things:- an aggressive drive by the CBN to help/encourage businesses (shops, eateries etc) set up their POS terminals. i was hoping to see a massive deployment of POS terminals especially now that data access has become pretty affordable and most of the POS terminals run on rechargeable batteries

another thing is expanded inter-bank transactions for all cadre of customers. i know GTB, FBN, UBA and a few other banks are leading the way on this but some banks are still foot dragging

i really think the CASH-LESS (not cashless) initiative is a worthwhile thing.

it is not POSSIBLE to change the PIN of a BB

it is possible to block a pin from accessing BIS but the process is long and winding especially if you are not in North America. it requires a mix of RIMM and network service companies to implement. that said, once you block a BB pin, it is impossible to trace it because it wont be able to access data service

bennyraz: The key to a prosperous relationship is laying down rules & regulation. Its highly paramount especially with the Era of girls we have this days. Here are the rules i set for my Ex Gf

1. Don't nag me no matter the situation
2. Don't ever call me and ask me for credit
3. Don't ever touch my phone if i don't permit you
4. Never in any way ridicule or insult any member of my family (it might warrant a slap)
5. Don't load my phone with useless i love u text message (love no be money)
6. I look at other women's behind. Don't ever distract me from looking
7. When we are talking, you voice shouldn't overshadow my voice
8. When i call you and ask you where are you, don't ever tell me you are at somewhere
9. Don't ever ask me money for weavon, wigs, attachments, pant, bra
10. Don't ever call my name in public. Call me sweetie pie.

Guys its important to set rules in your relationship cuz nigerian girls are born stubborn. Let me hear ur rules guys!

how is this working out for you? i'm sure you should not be too surprised you have an ex-gf

Abeyjide: gradually cominback to take ova wat was politicaly snached from him.time wil tel

he is not taking back anything. he is guilty of most of the charges its just that the useless lawyers in this country are messing up the whole thing and that is why the pronouncements of the Judge in dismissing this particular charade is heart warming

this is by far the best narrative by a court. clearly pointing out the incompetence of the fat fools who call themselves SAN

all the tax payers monies that have been wasted on them in running this case is now lost and the process has to be restarted...its a shame

this guy is just about to set himself up. he will loose his company soon enough if he goes ahead with that listing

if he is not qualified enough, respected enough to be the chairman of a company he created to list on LSE, then he is sure to be pushed out by the smarter, more educated people he begs to join his company's board.

the British will take the company from him surely....control of the largest cement production from africa..something they could not do during the slave trade era has now been handed over to them on a platter of platinum

Deblow: Am a fone freak; I used to own a bold 3 and a samsung galaxy tab. I discovered the android is a heavy data consumer but highly efficient and fast. .....

So far, d only difference I have been able to spot btw my bb 9810 and my galaxy is that some youtube movies will not be "available" on d bb but same will play on d android. I need someone to explain this to me. I pay N1500/month bb plan and in a 3g coverage area. Thanks

In Nigeria, unless you're on a network with >3G data and you're in a strong signal environment, YouTube videos tend to not play smoothly but that is generally a Nigerian GSM problem. i know i can play YouTube videos on the glo 3.5G network with minimal buffering

another thing is that YouTube might not make a video available to you if your location is set to a country where they do not want the video shown whereas your android might be accessing the same link as if you are in a different country where the video is accessible. if a video says not available, check the country of access as shown by your device

joanana: Your partner should contribute her own quota buy dont make look like it is either she contributes or nofin. She merely a helper. Do ur duties as a man n she will assist you!
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RUBBISH...what type of mumu help is that? in this complicated and increasingly difficult world we live in? if a woman is not able to earn a substantial income, i can understand but if she's a well educated professional working at a decent job with good income, there's nothing like helper. she's a tag team partner and everybody has to pull their weight OR NOTHING

afrodoc: i am surprised by some of the responses here.so she believes the husband's money should me for THEM while her own money remains for HER alone?
d husband should pay for housing,feeding,health education and everything else while she does EXACTLY WHAT with her money? how selfish can some people be?
whats almost certain is this girl doesn't love,at least not as much as you think.this is not about culture because in most nigerian homes now and even back to the 80s mothers have contributed significantly and in some cases a major portion of the family upkeep.
this is just one selfish person who wants to have a FREE RIDE.....and in a fancy car too.you said u have explained to her and i am guessing she is educated.if she is in her 20s,educated and she claims to love you and she is still being stubborn after you explained to her.....DITCH her like a bad habit!
i heard about a guy who was doing ultimate warrior d way ur fiancee wants you to do while his wife was saving her money.later on d wife secretly bought d house and became landlady while d unsuspecting husband kept on paying rent!
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p.s most nigerian ladies are not like that,they don't joke with taking care of their families

you have put it succintly. any averagely educated woman who tells you your money is our money but her own money is her money is just a wicked and selfish person and it has nothing to do with culture.

i know of a couple...the husband was badly burnt in the 2008 economic and stock market crash in Nigeria and he has been struggling with paying loans and maintaining his stock portfolio to wade through the downturn. he was already in that situation by the time they got married. the woman earns a significant income from her job with a top multi-national bank but keeps all her money to herself. she has not helped the guy with a penny to offset his loans. she keeps her money in fixed deposit and treasury bills, always shopping for shoes and clothes and travelling for vacation every year. she would rather offer to buy his ticket for them to go abroad for a holiday than put her money in the family pot.

so OP, dont fall for that cultural BS...men were saddled with the responsibility for providing for the family because historically, men were empowered with education and the means to earn a living whilst women were expected to be domesticated. they made noise about inequality and all what not but now that they are now equally empowered, they now dont want to accept the responsibility that comes with that power

why would a woman spend 12hrs of her time working at a job, 10hrs sleeping, eating, taking her bath etc. thats 22hrs spent on herself and 2hrs available to spend on issues that have something to do with me and i get to pay for her 24hrs of existence in a day? that's the height of inequity!

fork adict: Common man. It aint that simple. You really think that all phone users recharge daily? Besides who told you that every nigerian must buy a satchet of water? There are many alternative sources of drinking water. Borehole, well, tap, stream etc.

all phone users dont recharge everyday. some dont even recharge for weeks. some recharge multiple thousands a day, week or in the month. that is why it is called mathematical averaging.

onye_ngbu*:
Sooooo simplistic!!

Even the middle class dont buy #100 recharge card everyday! Even me sef

and what of those who recharge more than 1000 naira a day regularly?

if you know mathematical averaging, you wont call the analysis simplistic

oya lets do the math

population=160 million
90% leave on less than $2 a day=144 million live on 320 naira a day
pure water=10 per sachet
average recharge per day = 100naira
no of GSM users=90million

if all the 144million people buy only one sachet of pure water in a day, thats 1.44b naira turnover in a day
if all the 90million GSM subscribers recharge 100naira a day, that's 9b naira turnover in a day


is there anything else that needs to be said?

@OP,

don't listen to all the posts soliciting for your money to invest in their fake businesses.

if you don't know what you can do with your 500k. put it in a savings account and don't expect any fantastic interest on it you're at least sure its your money and its in your hand

those guys are just clowns

i agree with you and i fee the same way you do. i have lost 2 BBs in the last year. both are currently being used right now by either the original thief or the person that bought it from them

its just that its not organized but i believe it might be possible to get RIM to block the device permanently from ever using BIS but then again, once you do that there's never going to be a chance to track the person using your BB

note that the thief might sell it to another person and you wont be able to ever find the thief

my advise right now will be for you to always install BB Protect on any future BB you own. it makes it easier now to track your BB

@OP,

do your job to the best of your ability and consciously choose not to read any special meaning into her opposing stance to you. she was enjoying your attention before you asked her out and now that you have withdrawn same, she has decided to get your attention even if it is a negative attention

the best thing you can do is deliver top-notch work and be above board. if she criticizes your work, deal with the technical issues with facts and logic and ignore any personal insinuations or attacks. she'll get the message faster that way

as long as you keep counting her as part of your detractors, you'll never get your power back

i think the problem is the lack of understanding of some historical philosophy

Men have been traditionally saddled with the responsibility of providing for the family because history and culture empowered them and made women totally dependent on them. in history, traditionally survival and work required enourmous physical strength which women lacked or were believed to lack

now the world has changed and work does not necessarily require physical strength, women can work just as long as men. women fought for liberation and empowerment, the right to work and be ranked equally as men

unfortunately, with the economic power now shared equally, women have refused to accept that the responsibilities that come with that power must also be shared equally

when the man used to be the only one who worked, whatever he earns becomes the family pot by which the family willl run. now a woman who goes out to work 12-16hrs a day just like her husband wants to keep her own earnings for herself alone whilst her husband's money is used to buy rice and beans for the family. at the end of the year her husband has been able to save only 5% of his income while she has been able to save about 95% of hers and she goes about bragging that she has more money than her husband

i believe that is wrong and that is where the problem comes from.

any coalition of equals will still need to have a leader. it can be the man or the woman. if a woman wants to be the head of the family because she has the capacity to earn more, she just has to look for a man who is naturally docile and will not have a problem with that scenario rather than try to force-fit a guy who does not want to be subservient husband.

if a couple decides that the woman will be the leader because she earns more, then so be it but that will be premised on the fact that all monies that accrue to the family through the couple is put on the table, the use is discussed but the final call is made by the woman and the same applies for a traditional scenario

dabrake:
bro, are you Styl-Plus?

no, fashion+minus

Samafroxy22:
please what does she mean by telling me she want to be MY FRIEND AS A GIRL?

let me spell it out to you dum dum

you're a wuss and you wont be able to tap that until you get a real mojo going

Dude,

if you're younger than 30 and you seriously believe you're not ready to settle down, let the ladies know.

if you are clear that you want to marry one of them, make up your mind which one and let the other go so she can move on with her life then gradually start prepping yourself for life with the lady of your choice but running your sexcapades by the side

when your eye don clear, you have your wife to be ready and waiting for you. , shikena

i dont think its impossible. but since 99.99% of women wil not do what the lady did, they'll never experience what she experienced

but of course, they have to comfort themselves by saying only very few men will do what the guy did