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princeemmma:
Have you seen any parent do this when there baby have hiccup, do you think it works?

Somehow, it works. I can't explain the myth or theory supporting it.

CoronaVirusPro:
Hunger will reset those employees.

30 days max! They will resume work by themselves.

Despite the tremendous efforts of His Excellency, President Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu (GCFR) in piloting the nation to greater heights, it is saddening that, the local institutions within the territory of Nigeria are sabotaging his efforts.

Hunger is part of life.

Kobojunkie:
As I said, I thank God for sparing me from this sort of blindness that is religion!

Regrettably, I completely understand. Your life is ultimately your decision.

Great conversation anyway.

Thanks for sharing your views.

Kobojunkie:
See what I mean... Christianity, religion as a whole, is a special kind of blindness that defies logic!

2. All I can advice you to do is that you open your eyes for the first time in your deluded life to what is right in front of you.

If the curse that you mean is : "in pain you shall bring forth children". You need to understand that no child birth occurred before this statement by God. God had to let Eve and Adam leave Eden to cater for themselves. He ordered them to multiply and gave the man a Di..ck and the woman pu...ssy; he created them with reproductive system so he planned that man will knack woman belle with his di..ck and sperm and she will conceive, go into labor and be delivered of babies.

It is not a curse, it is the way for man and woman to fulfill the directive of God to go and multiply. We're you expecting man to be commanding Children to come forth by magic to multiply or how?

Christianity isn't blindness, it is a way of life. You don't have to be a Christian but you better be a Christian. My eyes are wide open, I love being a Christian.

Try to become a Christian or Moslem. It will help you.

Thank you.

Mayeldah:
The concept of submission in this business/political examples given is what we want you to pick out here, no one is asking that you pay your woman for her contributions to the home
Your partner is not a prostitute even when you reward her for the care and comforts she brings to the relationship.

Did you read what I responded to based on my position that you quoted? I guess you didn't.

My wife is not a prostitute because she wouldn't expect me to pay her for her skills and attributes.

She only wants to be appreciated, loved and cared for. There is room for appreciation of my wife with my resources, words, care and attention. I only have a challenge when she feels I must pay or reward her for her skills and attributes and she commands me to do so.

Kobojunkie:
It is these sickening delusions of yours that make me thank God everyday that I am not a Christian!

God cursed marriage and childbearing in Genesis 3 vs 16 . He washed his hands of both, leaving it to the world of men. He cursed a woman in marriage saying though she would desire her husband, the husband would blindly rule over her in marriage. Christians completely ignore all that is stated so they can instead assert that God is glorified in the marriages and lives subject to God's curse.
Jesus Christ came along and declared that your marriages are of this world and not of the Kingdom of God - Luke 20 vs 34 -36. Affirming God's original claim that He no longer has His hands or desire on the marriages of men, yet Christians continue to insist, even 2000 years after that God glories in their marriages which are submitted to the curse of sin. This kind of blindness, dem no dey buy am for the market at all!

2. Yet more delusional gibberish!

Amazing, so are not a Christian. Hmm, you need Jesus in your life.

Anyway, let's address the issues you have raised.

God did not curse marriage and child bearing; God did not wash his hands off both and left it for men. No!

God is the author and finisher of marriage. He ordained and master minded it and he made it excellent. He gave a blue print of it but the world is trying to twist marriage to become whatever they wish.

God did not order the man to rule blindly over woman in marriage. No! God declared than the husband would rule above his wife.

Gen 3:16 - I will surely multiply your pain in childbearing; in pain you shall bring forth children. Your desire shall be contrary to husband, but he shall rule over you.”

Jesus never affirmed the , supposed, position of God that God is no longer involved in marriage. Who brainwashed you to this extent? You have been broken and you really need help ASAP.

You don't have to get married, of you are not ready. You should not even get married in this state. The marriage will be a disaster.

You need to be schooled and lectured on marriage, largely from God's perspective. I understand your challenge now and I feel terribly sorry about the situation. But it is not hopeless if you are willing to let go and give in to Godly teachings about marriage.

What the feminist movement should advocate is not equality with your husband. You should rather advocate equity in the society so that every one, both men and women, can have what is required to be successful in life, endeavors and marriages. Everyone will be happy, satisfied and fulfilled in marriage with equity guaranteed.

Kobojunkie:
1. That is a foolish summation on your part. In the Kingdom of God, Jesus Christ introduced the Holy Spirit — the Spirit of Truth — as a Helper to those who belong to Him. Are you somehow suggesting that equally means that the Holy Spirit is meant to take a back seat in the lives of the followers of Jesus Christ?

2. Which Satan again? Why can't you people stop yourselves from using every opportunity you get to proclaim your fervor for the demons that haunt you? The story speaks of a serpent, and you already jumped to calling on Satan? Jeez!

According to the account, there was no sharing of blame to be had since they were both culpable— even the snake was held responsible for what happened. So, I am not sure why these desperate attempts to twist the story when it is not needed.

Again, Eve was Adam's equal before Eve and Adam sinned against God and remained Adam's equal even after God placed the curse on women in marriage. The curse made it appear as though they were not.

It is interesting to see you talk about the Bible records, that insinuates that you are Christian.

No wonder you dodged the questions I put to you earlier. You really need deep understanding of the concept of marriage according to God.

Do you know that the Holy Spirit operates in the life of christians to the extent that you allow him operate? The Holy Spirit can actually take the lead in your life, if you allow him, and you can equally take the lead and take responsibility for the consequences. That does not mean the the Holy Spirit was not with you, in fact you were in the situation together but you chose to take the lead and he followed, as powerful as he is.

The serpent was possessed by the Satan, read your Bible again. Hence the serpent, in the case, that convinced Eve to take from the fruit of the three of knowledge of good and evil, against God's will, is satan/devil.

What curse did God place on women that made it look like woman is not equal to man? Can you share it.

Eve was made from man unlike every creation of God. God had to cause man to sleep and pull his rib and make a woman with it. Don't you think there was a lesson God was trying to communicate to us all. My lady, Adam and Eve were all God's creation but Adam was not Eve's equal, even in the garden of Eden.

God had to challenge Adam directly, not Eve, when he realized what they have done. The silly Adam could only respond that it was the woman he created for him that gave him the fruit to eat.

Man and Woman are equal before God and everyone but in marriage, the husband is not equal to his wife before God. There is a reason for that and you have to ask God to explain to you the reason.

Jeon:
Yeah, even if she's sucking your blood and hanging the destiny of yours. She deserves it.

Yes she deserves it - respect.

Jeon:
All Men's mothers are good. And Men see their moms as an Angel, even if she's the general master in the coven .

That is respect for mothers. The mother earned and deserves his respect.

Even if anyone will describe her as the worst mother on earth, the fact that she birthed me and raised me earned her my respect.

Magnoliaa:
Honestly. Ask them what submission is and they'll tell you the most basic, prerequisite interpersonal qualities for a successful marriage that husband and wife should both have.

Ask them what not being submissive is and they'll describe a badly behaved woman, which is simply her temperament and that nobody, not her family or children or boss should put up with.


They'll bring the definitions of other things and be substituting it for submission.

Please tell us your definition of submission or submissive woman.

Kobojunkie:
Precisely!

Tell us your definition of submission or a submissive man.

udede:
I need a lady that want to go into contract marriage with me for some years. The aim is to have children but if along the line we realized that we are compatible enough to spend the rest of our lives together in love, then so be it.

I also need advice on this from people who are into it.

All the single ladies, come in here and price udede

Kobojunkie:
I see this is all about preprogramming and nothing more!

Please tell us who has been writing the pre-programme or program?

Who created the concept and idea of marriage?

Do you know more about marriage than the original program writer of marriage?

Who created you, as a whole person?

Tell us!

Kobojunkie:
1. A man should have the same responsibilities towards the wife that a submissive woman should equally have towards her husband implying both are to submit to each other. However, you then argue, illogically, that the man is not to submit but to assert himself above the woman in an unexplained twist which you blame on culture and religion, both of them known to be illogical in orientation.

2. Again, Culture and religion are both illogical constructs. If you intend to add that bit regardless, why should you be allowed that privilege? Please stop mentioning God abeg! I expect you to try to use your brain here.

3. Stop rambling and focus abeg! Why should a man who you indicate should exude the very same submissive factors that a submissive woman ought to not be expected to equally submit to the woman?

Again, permit me to correct you: a wife should be submissive to her husband but the husband should not be submissive to his wife.

He can respect, adore, protect, love and project her but never be submissive to her. It is unacceptable and unconventional.

Where a man is submissive to his wife, disaster is waiting to happen when the man realizes who he is: a lion tamed and relegated by a she-goat.

Kobojunkie:
So marriage is business/political agreement after all, is that it? Then like businesses do, it makes absolute sense that a man should be willing to pay full value for the kind of skills/attributes he desires in his woman, right?
@Wallade, see, this guy makes more sense by insisting it should be treated more like businesses where you pay to have your wrench added to the equation rather than assert it by illogical ways such as culture or religion.

If I have to pay, full, half or whatever value, for the kind of skills or attributes I desire in a woman that I married, then she is not different from a prostitute.

That is not a wife, that woman is a prostitute and yes, she deserves to be paid in full for her skills.

Culture and religion may sound illogical to you but I am so sure that you are not a product of lab experiments or natural man made activities. There is somethings or a lot of things Godly about the existence and creation of you and the perverts that desperately want to change the narrative of marriage.

Why do you want to disregard religion and culture to push, support and buttress your narratives?

Kobojunkie:
These are your words
...
To which I then asked....
Now your response which seems to confirm that indeed the man and women are meant to submit to each other in the relationship even though you keep forcing an illogical wrench in to elevate the man above the woman, against logic.
Again, your response suggests they are both to submit to each other.

2. However, you seem to insist that culture is where the irrational twist to what you stated earlier comes from. Why does this Illogical twist have to be included when it's based on the whims and opinions of entities external to the relationship?

If you don't understand my position, ask for clarification: I never said a man should submit to his wife. I made that clear in all my posts.

Literal definition of submission - ready to conform to the authority or will of others (who deserves or earned it, including your husband); meekly obedient or passive.

Again, what is illogical about the husband being above the wife?

That is in conformity with our culture; that also agrees with the personality of a man. Ultimately, that is God's plan for marriage. Marriage was conceptualized and created by God and the man in marriage is created by God to be above his wife.

You and some perverted folks are the ones trying to change the narratives and project your new kind of marriage which is unacceptable to the majority of the men out there and God almighty.

Kobojunkie:
So both man and woman have to possess and exude the same submissive qualities in order for the relationship to make sense but somehow --- here's the illogical twist--- the man is not to submit to the woman at all?

Respectful to his wife, protects his wife, advice his wife, prays and wish his wife well, listens to his wife even when he differs in opinion, where the difference or conflicting opinion persists, the position of the husband is binding on the wife otherwise, she has become disrespectful.

Submit to the leadership, authority and direction of your captain - husband. There can't be two Captains on a ship except one captain submits to be assistant of the other one.

It is against the culture, religion and personality of most men to submit to his wife or woman.

This is not only applicable to Nigerian man it is applicable to men around the world. You are free to check with other men and prove me wrong.

Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

You made some good observations but you lost my support when you started making condescending remarks about men. Mind you, the men you referred to includes your dad, grandfather, brothers, friends and relations.

Marriages everywhere around the world are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. It has been like that for centuries and will remain like that forever. Love, affection, empathy, compassion, kindness etc are no longer the pry factors that determine marriage. Money, economic power, social influence, material resources are now pry and major factors that determine marriages. That change is majorly influenced by the brides family, society, friends, folks and women that we marry.

Can you stay in marriage, be submissive and respect your husband that is loving, affectionate, empathetic, compassionate, kind and care more about himself but with little or no money, economic power, social influence and material resources?

I want you to answer this question honestly and carefully.

We encourage self awareness for women and men but not to the point that we become disrespectful, insulting and condescending about the male gender, or female gender as the case maybe.

Kobojunkie:
These are all qualities a man should equally have towards his wife though. Yet you repeat them all just so as to asset the man as captain. How come?

I agree that these are qualities the man also needs to exhibit in relationship with his wife but the man should not be submissive to his wife, except if the wife is his boss in the work environment.

In every successful organization, there is hierarchy and line of authority. Everyone needs to understand their roles and hierarchy in the marriage.

The husband is the Chairman of the Board of Directors while the wife is the Managing Director. Marriages that doesn't have that understanding will struggle significantly.

Your husband is your captain, run your decisions by him for approval, concurrence and authority. Respect your husband and every other person will respect him especially when they have a lot of respect for you.

If you understand that concept, your marriage will not struggle.

Magnoliaa:
And there's still nothing gender-specific about this, so I wonder why it's always an advice directed at women.

It is not gender specific however, every successful organization has hierarchy. In the home, the norm is that the man is the chief captain, the wife is the assistant captain while the children are players.

It is only expected that respect flows within this line of authority, top to bottom. Essentially, where conflicting views arise, the husband's will should stand out of respect.

Men are expected to be submissive to their bosses, male or female. Men are expected to be submissive to elders, their fathers and mothers. Men are expected to be respectful to their wife and children but never to be submissive to his wife and children.

omoharry:
I tell you ! See them flying all over the place like birds .

Is that all you see on this thread?

Yinkaolola:
Even if the husband is on the wrong side, he has the final say? Even if he is making an obviously wrong decision, does he also have the final say? I just want to know.

There is a way to correct your husband without making him feel terrible, despised, disrespected or scolded.

There is a way to direct him towards the decision that you prefer and he will take the decision as you wish with pleasure.

epainos:
This thread shows me that Nigerian men are not preparing towards the days our law will favor women more. Ok. Let them be looking for submissive wives they want to put in the back seat. They will only frustrate themselves cos it will happen soon.

That day will not come, except you separate the North from Nigeria and remove the Moslems from Nigeria. That is very impossible.

eazzzy1:
A submissive woman to me is one who understands and acknowledges hierarchy and structure. One who agrees with the concept of her husband being the head of the family.

It doesn’t mean she doesn’t have her ideas or she sheepishly follows her husband, it means whenever there is a conflict of ideas her husband has the final say even if she doesn’t entirely agrees with him.

A good example of submissiveness is the relationship between the Appeal court and the Supreme Court. You don’t see Appeal court judges pouting when the Supreme Court overturns their decision. That’s Acknowledgement of hierarchy.

No institution can survive without a clearly defined structure and hierarchy, if you don’t want to be a submissive woman, marry a submissive husband. Even in partnerships, there’s always a managing partner who’s the head.

God bless you sir or madam.

CandidAdmin:
One keeps hearing from the men on NL that they want a submissive woman. Almost every thread about relationships and marriage has that word.

Now, over to the men, what's your definition of submissive?
Is it that when you say A, she must obey and not say B?
Or she shouldn't even give her opinion at all?
Or her choices and prefrences don't matter at all just because you want something?

Men!!! Let's discuss.

Question of the day - True or false, Responsibility without Authority is Slavery?

Mynd44
Nlfpmod

A submissive woman is respectful to her husband, protects her husband, advice her husband, prays and wish her husband well, listens to her husband even when she differs in opinion; she finds the best time and approach to communicate her opinion to him and trust me, he will agree with her respectfully too but if he insists, just follow through with caution.

In fact respect is the key word. He is the captain and she is the assistant captain in the home.

israelmao:
For Nigerian currency regain or gain our refineries must work and Dangote Refinery and his cohorts should stop playing politics in commencing operation,round-tripling of dollar and its hoarding must stop.

Your comment hit the nail on the head. Whatever monetary policy Cardoso and co. introduce must be in tandem with fiscal policies of the government to successfully improve living standards and value of the Nigerian currency.

Nigeria must enforce laws against dollarization of the economy. So many transactions are done within Nigeria in dollars and forex. The Nigerian government must discourage this development. The government is also guilty because major transactions and contracts too are awarded in dollars by the government. Properties in real estate, airline ticket sales, solid mineral resources and bulk petroleum products are sold in forex within Nigeria.

The major import item in Nigeria is petroleum products, it is sourced from a major product (crude oil) that we export. We must urgently start local production of petroleum products to reduce, to the barest minimum, the imports of petroleum products. This will reduce over 50% demand for dollars in the I and E window and parallel market.

CBN should terminate all Bureau De Change licenses and declare that business illegal in Nigeria. Anyone who wants to buy or sell forex should approach the commercial and regional banks or deposit money banks. CBN must also regulate and monitor the forex transactions of all deposit money banks to ensure there are no foul practices and perversion in the banks with respect to forex trade. This will bring significant, about 80% - 90%, forex in Nigeria into the I and E Window or under the control of CBN.

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Karmar03:
low key gay man wetin dey worry you...your madness is raise to the power of infinity

Really, I resemble your partner abi. The one we you dey fu.. Ck or the one wey dey fu.. Ck you?

ladybak47:
I am urging the government officials to legalize homosexuality and help curb this predicament of ungenuinely conforming to this useless heterosexual orientation.

Failure to do so will turn us into monsters.and we will wreck any straight man or straight woman to pieces or even kill them

Warning!
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Warning!!!

Your madness is on a long thing

I don't really see any racist behavior on the part of the immigration officer. You took advantage of their system.

You applied for a Visa as a visitor but you also had the intention to birth your child in Canada. I bet he didn't disclose that his wife will be traveling pregnant and almost due for delivery in Canada. The government of Canada does not encourage such practice, you just provided another child for them that they originally didn't plan to have and they now have to cater for the child because whatever the case may be now, they have a Canadian citizen in your care and home.

sholatech:
Babachir just exposed his illiteracy. He doesn't even know requirements of a CBN governor. He is only using his myopic eyeballs at Cardoso's public/fiscal experience. Did you check Cardoso's academic and banking experiences? A former Citibank Board chair?? Economic PHd holder in top foreign school? What's Babachir's Cv like outside Naija local politics?

He mentioned "we farmers" so you should understand his pain with Cardoso. He feels bad with CBN policies on on importation of rice, Anchor Borrowers Program and others. He was obviously a beneficiary of those policies under Buhari.

They want to continue selling substandard rice to us at expensive rates. Everyone trying to exploit others.

netpro:
The cheerleading role of anyone causing nuisance is well known. And we all know how it ends.

We will see as it unfolds.