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The article is actually true on the surface - as in it has an element of truth in it. But like every other thing that is ill gotten or has some scheme or deceit attached -wouldn't hold waters. Yes they do get married and sometimes it seems all perfect and all but the question is how well will the marriages stand the test of time?

A trifling individual who does not have morals or values cannot pretend for long. There's nothing you do in life (good or bad) that does not catch up with you. A lady who does not have anything spiritually or intellectually cannot offer much-as you cannot give what you do not have.

Marriage goes beyond the wedding day and the bedroom -which involves the emotional and the social skills . It has to be sustained mainly by the spiritual .Our lives are in phases - just as the baker knows the right amount of ingredients for a cake to come out right and not in crumbles- is how the phases of our lives prepare us for the next stage.If you don't prepare yourself for that stage you would be working extra hard to make up for it.

So to the good girl. Keep being good- like my grandma would say - you are fetching your water down' . Doing good pays of. You, your relationship, family, kids would reap thereof . Gal 6:9. In the areas good girls could be lacking such as the social and emotional could easily be worked on.

Do not be too much in a hurry - let the potter mold you into his desired plan - whilst his doing this get busy.

I don't think it's a big deal if they are friends' . If my supposed partner' sees it as a big deal - I would just wait and do the dishes myself to avoid all the insult or drama. It's called picking battles.

Hmm...

Lol... Time for everything. Time to be born and time to die.

chingyjant: I said same thing about Nigerians abusing the word MILLION with reckless abandon.That house should go for around 400 to 450 k considering the fact that the house might be a Holiday Home for the dude.That house is not really a porshe house when you are talking of houses in Cali.Its a house a couple with good paying job and good credit can afford.People back home in Naija seeing the house feels its a luxury home.Its just a normal home but i still appreciate his sense of buying a home here in the US cos its an investment worth it

This is not an issue of luxury or no luxury. In the real estate market anywhere in the world including Nigeria you can never under play the power of location. You can have a raggedy looking box like house in a prime position going for millions while you get a good looking mansion in an okay location in hundreds. Take New York/ Boston and Houston/Atlanta for example. Concerning your point about vacation homes- they actually cost more depending on location again. That's why you have people sub leasing and all. It's only in our thinking' that you can come to the conclusion that spending so much on a vacation home is not too much of a wise investment - but you can't come to that conclusion for others.

deenee: The house is no where worth 5 million USD. The house is around USD150-250k circa and probably on a mortgage. I have just made inquiries from a friend that stays within the area.

I am quite happy that he has a house in the U.S but let's get our facts right please. USD 5 million translates to 750 million naira or three quarters of a billion. That is 5 times the market value of their house in Nigeria. The problem is that a lot of us Nigerians don't see a million naira as anything again (I witnessed this over the christmas holiday which I spent in Nigeria). However, in the US, one million is a lot. I also doubt if the lad can shell out that kind of money on a house in America when he is based in Nigeria, unless I am missing something here

All the best!

This is a joke if you say this house is 150-250 USD. Come on now... Even if your friend misinforms you - think it through or better still just google it yourself before stating it like its a fact. This is not rocket science. There are different things that factor into the prices of a house. Location, size , the builder, e.t.c . Lol at 150k shu- that sure doesn't look like a house in southwest Houston! And about being on a mortgage- that is also not necessarily true sir.

tjskii: Lovely home,but lik I kip tellin peopl less is more,we too dey lik to clutter up our homes in d name of interior decor

I was thinking the same thing. Jeez there's a lot going on....

Gabry: Poster, I had this problem before and we both had settle it.

Since you have alot of loan money (or why cant he take a loan hisself?  ) and u seem to be giving it to him and also spending it on your school, why not you both sit down and discuss on how can you both achieve his success?

Like maybe he wants to open a business? Than u could sort of borrow him some cash to open the business and than he would pay you back when he makes some money out of it.

I understand how you feel cause I was in your situation. Its not their fault that they are broke. Its just that opportunities did not seem to come his way and thats all. If you leave him, I dont know if you could find a nice guy like him or not in the future.

In my case, what I did was I took loan from the bank (cause he is a foreignor so he could not get a loan. It was a risky thing to do cause anything could have happen. He might just ran away with the money and stuff like that but that time I have made up my mind that no matter what happen, I will help him to be successfull because of my love for him. Thats all. ) and we somehow rent cheap houses from landlords and landladies for a start and rent it at a slightly higher price to other people. When he has enough, than he took the money and started off buying and selling computer spare parts and fixing mobiles for people. He payed the loan back and now he id doing almost all the spending.

He bought a house in Naija and in Malaysia and he bought a car here. Very soon, we are planning to buy a car for his parents so things are working out fine here.

At times, u just have to put your butt in in order to make your man successfull. Provide him with lots of support! That would be very very important and also you both have to plan well with every step u both take especially the first steps.


Good luck.

I actually like your story. Your man had a vision and you were there to support him. Some guys just don't have that drive to excel and it would be risky supporting such. So I guess it's know thyself and thy man.

I think green- it's free money not my hard earned money so I could gamble with it.

ayswags: am not hating but dis house doesnt match up to his status. it is a house which a common man living in america can afford their house in omole is better,and i dont think he is the owner looks lyk he is paying a courtsey call

True but did you put the location into consideration ? I guess not.

49cents: wow...i am speechless i don't even know where to start.....

This generation has a sex culture that it is totally inhuman.

Sex today is far removed from affection the way faith is far removed from our daily lives. If you truly love someone the issues of sexual compatibility would be resolved, mind you sexual incompatibility is a problem that originated from pre-marital sexual indulgence which results in individuals acquiring all sorts of sexual characteristics most times unwholesome.

We have complicated our existence by not obeying our hearts, thus the instincts govern and that now is what we live by: satisfaction of the instincts like some beast. Sex is suppossed to be "unitive", forming chords between two persons who have decided to be companions for life's journey.

As regards the physics, chemistry and biology of sex you and your spouse have a life-time to perfect this awesome act...what is key is an openess in communication and proper perception of sex.
I know couples who have had great sex premaritally and thought that was strong enough to get married and today that are so divorced......like lil wayne we need to learn to love

Very well said and I totally agree.Couldn't have said it better.

Lol- would be upset but I wouldn't whoop the child. I would educate them on showing love and appreciation without being destructive. By the way I did something similar as a child to a dear uncle. He just printed out his business cards - and they looked so good. I wrote in my raggedy writing then' Mr. clown on all the cards Dude was pissed mehn but couldn't do anything to me cos my pops was around- and no one dares to touch me when his there. That was my saving grace that day

Baba modupe

Bludeville: I for one would NEVER marry a man who is still tied to his parents apron strings. It is very wrong for a man to put anybody before his immediate family, even the bible said a man shall LEAVE his family and be joined to his wife and they two shall become one. So any man who allows his 'meddlesome' family to mess with his real family is not only a weakling But Also not worth getting married to. And any lady who doesn't know to some extent the nature of her in laws before getting married is also a slacker. What is courtship for? In my books, it's not only the man that should be evaluated during courtship.

In context the bible says that but in reality you have to strike a balance and draw boundaries. There is also no amount of knowing your in laws that would prepare you enough for the entire journey . Situations arise and you would be surprised how people bend under pressure.

Hmm na wa o

Almighty Father I thank you I thank you I thank you I thank you I thank you o I thank you o

Hmm- the intention is good and borne out of Love. The end result is what scares me. When and if you do anything for him- do it expecting nothing in return . This way you wouldn't be hurt if things go downhill . Being supportive now is great- the time for splurging would eventually come- that is if his intentions are sincere. Just be careful and pay attention to your instincts.

Hmm

Chimamanda

I will lift my voice and I will sing Holy, Holy
To my Lord and Savior, my God and king
I will sing Holy, Holy

I will praise the lamb of God who sits upon the throne
I will worship Him and give the praise to Him alone
He who was and is and is to come
I will sing before His throne forever, forever

All the angels sing and they bow down, and they sing Holy, Holy
We, Your sons and daughters, we praise You now
And we cry Holy, Holy
Holy, Holy

Thank you Jesus

Thank You most gracious father

<3<3<3 loving this

Be exalted, O God, above the heavens; let your glory be over all the earth.

chikeorji123: 3yrs relationship.
100k monthly salary right?.
Living in port-harcourt.'expensive city'
Have a lady 'love her so so much' like romeo & juliet' right?..
She's HND holder? that mean 'she can get a job to support ur 100k.

Then aunty want u at uk to start hussling 'not a standby job' or ls it a gurranttened job?.As u can see l'm into some BODMAS here so answer my last question for me to finalize my response... Uk ni Uk nu..

Lol...

Awesome God
How great thou art
You are God
Mighty are your miracles
I stand in awe of your holy name
Lord I bow and worship you.

Awesome God
How great thou art
You are God
Mighty are your miracles
I stand in awe of your holy name
Lord I bow and worship you.

To you be all the glory.