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Iranoladun: For pre-natal testing of babies to determine their genotype try O & G dept of LUTH, Idi - Araba, Lagos, UCH, Ibadan, OAUTH Ile Ife, UNIBEN teaching hospital and a host of other teaching hospitals in Nigeria.

If you're truly in love genotype will be the last thing on your mind. I'm AS and my hubby is AC; we don't have any SC and I always thank I did not allow genotype deprive me of a wonderful marriage. God knows I will marry my husband a thousand times over (my only regret is not marrying him early enough).

All the people talking about genotype testing even before dating; I wish you luck in getting a wonderful partner. With the advent of technology, I will rather marry whom I love and who equally loves me than getting someone with a genotype AA that is a devil re-incarnate! There are worst disease one can develop in life aside Sickle cell disease o jare!

Your blessed!

Thankful

Monicasque: loosing anything in life be it love, money, work, friends, family etc can be traumatic and bouncing back can proove to be a difficult task but one thing we have to understand is that loss is part of life and there is nothing we can do about. We can never avoid it because even if you would avoid relationships for the fear of break ups, there are other things you will still loose in life like the death of a loved one, bzns not working out etc so the best thing is to to always remember that as much as you can loose anything in life, through it all the one thing you can never loose is yourself so after a break up dust yourself and move on. Never try killing yourself for someone who left you, people lv for a reason and you must learn to let go. No need to go all mad about it as that is not the first or the last thing you will ever loose in life

Well said- I like it that you relate loss to other things and not just relationships. Loosing some times in life is inevitable but if one doesn't give up there would be several wins .

Lol at the bald guy with the lawn mower

[quote author=tpia@]^madam, i suppose i am the reason for your frustration in life.

be that as it may, i suggest you face the op with whatever sorry advice you have for her, instead of sitting on your haunches waiting for me to "be in the same situation". I dont see why the notion of examining yourself is such a scary one for you, care to share?


misery loves company, i know, but i doubt i have ever given the impression i would come online and do e wa bamidasi after being continually scammed by men, without looking at myself first.

believe it or not, life does go on, and not everyone is frustrated like you.

this is how you are when you dont have God, yet you insist on being a law unto yourself. Then when you reap the consequences, you start whining and looking for who will join you in your miserable state.

and dont be trying your witchery with me, because you will encounter a CAPITAL FAIL.[/quote]Come on now stop being a joker- get serious okay. Nobody wishes you bad sweets- if you read carefully I actually hoped for bad not to happen. I don't know you and even if I did I wouldn't get in a thug of words with you- not my style. I assume you are grown and if your not I am. Hence the expectation to act as an adult. With that being said I rest my case

Over the mountains and the sea
Your river runs with love for me
And I will open up my heart
And let the Healer set me free

I’m happy to be in the truth
And I will daily lift my hands
For I will always sing of when Your love came down

I could sing of your love forever
I could sing of your love forever
I could sing of your love forever
I could sing of your love forever

Oh I feel like dancing
It’s foolishness I know
But when the world has seen the Light
They will dance with joy like we’re dancing now

[quote author=tpia@]^ people like you are the reason why the op keeps getting scammed by men.

You give her bad advice and prevent her from listening to those who dont.

Well, its up to her if she wants to examine herself or not, like i said, there's always two sides to every story.[/quote]Like I said earlier I hear you. Advice would do more good than bad if it is truly honest. If the same applies to you when you find yourself in that position- then I fault you not' but if you act otherwise like most advisors do - I shake my head and sympathize with you.

[quote author=tpia@]nobody is saying life does not throw curveballs.





no one is arguing with this either.





if a lady keeps attracting men who she says are the wrong type for her, then she needs to look inwards and figure out exactly why she's attracting these men.

if this has happened not once, twice, but three times and she still says the fault is 100% with the males, then it only means she's avoiding looking at the real issue. And she hasnt told the whole story, only one side of it.

if you keep running into sales people who are trying to rip you off in the market, then surely that means word has gotten out that you're an easy target? If you notice something like that then you're supposed to find ways to protect yourself from being ripped off, eg stop trusting people easily or stop allowing people to take advantage of you?





as far as i can see on this thread, empathy is what people have offered her.[/quote]I hear you- I pray you never fall into the hands of these scammers. Like I said no matter how well you are at playing the game of life- life still happens. I cannot count how many stories of innocent people who for the most part do the right thing and are still scammed - but like I always tell them though it rains the sun would shine again. If you have never gone through those times it's best to keep watch and pray not run your mouth as to how well you can be. Another thing you must understand is that people have different personalities and you cannot always attribute what one attracts to whom they are. A guy would approach any girl it's up to her to give the green light or the red. And trust me no matter how much you feel you have your guards up you still need to watch and pray!

At highlife10 that's life and like others have previously said the tide would turn - just be patient and stay focused - God would give you the desires of your heart. I don't think you did anything wrong except being intimate with a guy you are not married to- but no one is above mistakes. Our righteousness are like a filthy rag before God. You did nothing wrong loving the ones who claimed to love you- don't be weary in doing in due season you would reap if you don't faint. Do not give up on love- because it is indeed a beautiful thing. Like you have mentioned earlier- focus on you- your career, your emotional health and on developing your self in all areas. Love and things have a way of finding us when we least expect it. And I'm certain yours wouldn't be an exception.

And to you Mrbrownjay- my first reaction after reading your post was to rain down on you but then again I would be fighting another's battle- a lost cause for that matter. It behooves me as to how your thinking could be so myopic. I bet you would claim to be speaking the so called truth. My dear in life no matter how careful you are, no matter how obedient you are to the rules, no matter how much you think you have everything on lock down- things can always go the opposite direction. Some people in life are honest others dont give a crap. The most important thing is doing the right thing and believeing that all would work out for your good. The fact that a lady ends up with all 3 dog men' doesnt necessarily' mean she's a dog attractor. There is a great chance of me running into 3 sales people in a market who would try to rip me off before meeting a honest sales person- that doesn't make me the problem customer.

Please think outside the box and be more empathetic .

Peace of mind

mekaboy: Yeah I understand. But its easier to be interested in your partner alone when you had others. You know that wild romantic fire burns out with time in marriage. And when it does a woman who has had partners before marriage will just know that they are all the same out there so its jst to sit tight and go with time. But a virgin will be left with doubt and thoughts, wondering what happened, wondering if there was another way or something diff out there.

I disagree with you ...

mekaboy: You ever heard the saying " I have been there done that?"

Ok, when parents try to advise young people on stuff, like parties, relationships etc. The young bloods feel like the parents don't understand. They can't see things from the point of view of the parents. That is because they are only experiencing on phase of life. But the parent has been young before and is also old, so what trips the young people won't trip them.


A virgin will keep wondering what's out there. But one who has seen or experienced knows both sides, and is not tripped anymore.

I see where you are coming from and you do have a point to a certain degree but you need to understand that your principle does not apply to everyone - not even to the majority. Some people are curious about certain things others are not. You could have a suitcase plated in gold next to me and I wouldn't give a rat tat trying to figure out what is inside of it whereas another person would do anything to take a peek into the suitcase

Been there done that saying in my opinion applies to what I take/took interest in. If my interest is/was in Iranu'- having flings' then I could say been there done that if it is not then that statement wouldn't apply to me - especially if I'm only interested in my partner and no one else. I hope you get it.

Thank you Jesus

mekaboy: So human being automatically seize to be human the moment they get married? We carry our human nature into every institution we find ourselves. That includes the desire to explore and try new things.

The same reason we want to travel to new places, eat new food, try the stuff.

If I have 3 shoes, and I have won all 3, I can easily choose which to wear any day. But if I have only won 1, I will constantly wonder what it would like like wearing the others.

I am saying men who marry virgins should appreciate them, because they are more vulnerable to temptation of lust.

A lady who has tasted one or two men before marriage can simply say they r all the same. So if she quarrels with her husband her primary frustration comes from the issue that caused the
quarrel.

But when one that married as a virgin is quarreling with her husband. It will be a combination of the problem at hand and the temptation to know how another man taste.

Again I say you are speaking gibberish. Using your examples- if I have three pairs of shoes - there is a possibility that I wear one and stay content with that one, another possibility could be moving on to the next shoe. But my dear you cannot compare shoes to convenant/ lifetime relationships. In as much as you have experienced relationship with your siblings and chopped the whoopings of your mother- I do not expect you to say you are curious to taste the koboko of another mother right

You can never have everything you see and desire. There would always be another chic who looks hotter than your wife likewise another man who understands and listens to you more than your husband - so it's important to be content with what you have, draw relationship boundaries and train your mind in the direction you desire and want it to go.

Let me also add that the desire to try new things is human in some and not in all- there are people who do the same ish over and over again and don't desire change- they are also human!

Wth! Relating the human being/heart/mind' to different phone brands Bunch of gibberish !!!

Lol- I think it's funny how the guys agree to this post

I cry Abba Father hallowed be your name hallowed be your name hallowed be your name

mydex93: Shows the high level of maturity she's got

You can say that again and again. I'm all smiles for her right now . I LOVE the way she answered her questions maturely. She says a lot in a few words AKA go figure

gothrones: ^
No it is not! It may seem so but it is not. We are both getting lots of benefits from the relationship. But marriage, no way.

God help you if a baby comes out of your many benefits- then the gods would be striking you dead just as you have pronounced with your own mouth !

ooua: Wunmi what's your own, so she should remain single. You dont know what its like to be single. If she like let her remarry 100+ times it is non of your biz. You never liked her and ofcours your liking or not liking her is irrelivant. Please let her be. I thought you are enlightened this your post shows how timid you are.

All of these based on a tweet of how many words that one can draw out several assumptions from.

Or am I missing something- have you considered the possibility of the vindication being for Wummi herself ( maybe' she knew and was accused for something you and I didn't know that suddenly came out in the open )

And then you add to it enlightenment and timid. Come on now- enlightened to and timid about what exactly?

My point being-relax, don't be quick to draw out conclusions especially when the facts are not clearly stated.

Lol- na wa o. The comments on here have me reading the tweet over and over again.

Please my people lets look up the meaning of vindicate if we are not too sure. To vindicate is to clear off accusation, blame...

In my opinion, nothing in that tweet indicates Wummi not wanting Stella to move on !!!

Thank you tourgist for the correct application of that word - vindicate

fairy tales ...

Hmm - interesting! God help us.

In my opinion there are highs and lows of love. It's either you choose to or you choose not to love. But once you choose to-you cannot suddenly stop "LOVING" them.

Loving' someone for two years and suddenly calling it quits for no just cause is certainly not an act of love.

Love shouldn't waiver irregardless of what. One can choose to walk away if the need arises but should never take back their love.

But then again we all interpret the word - Love differently

Awesome God. An incredible God deserves incredible praise !!!

190: The Nigerian girl is the one fooling herself

As long as she ent white - then she's the one fooling herself

Lol it's funny I can tell its you when I read your post without even looking at your name

Wow! Very inspiring !!!

Word !!!

Thank you Jesus for your blood !

Thank you for peace.

Happy birthday !!!

[quote author=Dolly-Parton]Exactly my thoughts, and he proposed to her while they were not dating and she said yes... who type of girl does that.
I hope they have a good life together.[/quote]Dont be quick to Judge. Not everyone follows the norm- # outliers.

I lift my hands in total praise to you....