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maynation:
what na

Try me instead

maynation:
The first guy is so cute in case you read this when you are finally freed plz hook me up.

na wa for you oo

so this true after all. How can you be found with credit cards not bearing your name and still deny ? Where is that his mummy and aunt. ?

Useless politicians

Choose the most suitable time and just tell her I am going to juju house to find out.

Sound very serious about it and there you go. Confessions will roll

Lewaluv:
You are over reacting. If you dont trust her why are you with her?

I can't be foolish to trust someone who looks very promiscuous. Of course I wouldn't know that if I didn't date her

joceey:
If she continue to keep malice with you, without realizing that she is wrong I think she has alternative.....thats someone else.....just be calm and allow things to unfold itself....i wish you best of luck

I'm done with it. I have seen too much signs already

Originalsly:
Bro... from your thread and comments... that babe is playing you all along. You did well to drop her... but I don't think you should tag all Nigerian girls as being deceitful. .. women are the same worldwide... you just have to be careful and watch for signs.
Flight to Abuja... did she ask you to buy the ticket?...I guess not...she wanted the cash. Did the loan request come up before you made sales?...I guess not... she requested the cash when she knew you had it. As soon as you said no...you can't afford it a mysterious friend suddenly made it available? ..that was a lie... said that to make you feel jealous and hopefully tell her to refund him and you will give it to her. Suddenly she had to cancel the flight?...that was a lie. Staying the night at a friend because bla bla bla?... another story. Waiting to get her own place?...a lie....waiting to move in with another guy. Bro.... she is doing runs.... you are the base... give her like a week or two... tell her she has to go. Keep playing around playing Mr Nice Guy.... she'll give you something to lead you to your grave.

This is way off. Trust me on that

Lies.


Being alone saves me from more stress people might put me. It saves alot of nonsense that come from doing that.
The other points might be valid

Fake life people

robotix:
What I do now is just hide myself... You know your worth and in a world where sorrow hangs in the air, you are a gold and any girl with the right sense will surely appreciate you.

Treat a girl too nicely, and you will be called a weakling, immature, pest, too nice... read the link below bro

https://www.nairaland.com/396243/how-maintain-control-woman

But can we change who we really are at heart?

How come I never came about such a thread ? I think on the last relationship (the one I engaged before cancellation) , I exhibited the three types at a stage before things got out of hand.

This recent relationship looks more like the artificial control. God bless you for this.

LogoDWhiz:
Is this the first time such is happening? If yes, then you are overreacting.
Let it slide, but let her know it is wrong and make her know the dangers therein.

Make up and get back together, you can be indirectly pushing her out with the unnecessary nagging. Move on and be a man.

Even though she might still stay with me until she moves to her new place, trust me I wouldn't even allow anything because I can't say everything down here and I see more reasons I have to let it go.

Pemmy15:
Sorry eh...you seem like a decent and serious minded guy...truly her loss, but good you got a clearer picture of her before walking down the aisle. I always wonder why good guys always end up with the wrong kind of women and good girls end up with heartbreakers, and then their experience will end up changing them. It takes the grace of God for two good and well suited people to find each other...I swear. Maybe considering you just came out of a broken engagement and now this you should take time before starting another relationship...like reevaluate your type cos maybe you're attracting the same type that doesn't really suit you and what you're seeking.

This is my problem . I have tried my best but maybe it is not good enough. Or maybe the surrounding I find myself. But I'm really tired

robotix:
oh my brother, I completely understand... do not spill the beans. I am in same shoes as yourself. I am also tired, I am fed up. I have had series of thought not to even marry. The strangest thing is that they don't like a guy who treats them right... THEY DON'T forget anyone who would come here and tell you otherwise.

From your past post and recent ones, I can deduce you Mr. Nice guy, the kind they don't appreciate. Shall we now turn monsters and start deceiving them? Certainly not!

To be honest, I have given up on them.

Certainly not because we don't have such a conscience that will carry it. Instead, regrets after doing them. So we just be ourselves until we find the right one who really love us in the right way and purpose

robotix:
I wouldn't mind if you tell us why you broke it of as in how it ended. I know a lot of guys will learn from it but it is okay if you don't feel like sharing any details.

You are someone with a good heart, focused and love to treat women right... the sad thing is that most Nigerian girls don't appreciate this kind of personality.

The ones who would appreciate your type have had enough experience forking around and so they are tired and want to settle down. It is sad. I have a female friend from here whom I do tell my experience. I told her that if you were not close to me, you would think that guys are deliberately hating on girls but you see my tales are not made up but from REAL LIFE experiences...

Our case are like the coming of christ wherein the people refuse to accept him because he is diguised in a figure they do not have in mind.

we are like opportunity wrapped and dumped in a piece of garbage and so,they often end up not knowing what our hearts hold. These same girls will go on to meet players, womanizers, domestic violators, philanderers and they will stick to them, call them heros and all what nots.

It is a sad situation bro...

I swear you brought this out from me. Experience remain the best teacher.

These post is making alot of sense she, but I always thought we isoko originated from Benins or Yoruba because even in terms of genes , I can concur alot

Iamdmentor1:
Seun certainly has an explanation for this

He always does

Africa

This makes alot of sense

tifany89:
Yeah but u made d mistake of asking her to be ur gf while she was still indebted to u. She could v agreed knowing fully well that you wouldn't request for the money again and am sure that is what happened. All through the times the going was good am sure u never bothered to ask her about the money. You just remembered she owes u coz u guys are no more together.

No bro. When the times was going good, I still asked her for it. Only that I asked for a fraction of it saying she should use the rest to get something else she needed.

Well that money isn't really so important anymore; I just only have been saving myself from the others I would have done

robotix:
I believe this lady is one you celebrated on nairaland some months ago with engagement. I must confess that I respect you in a way.

You should have told those guys saying let it slide that she is engaged to you already. My brother, sit her down and make your stance. Men don't give out money like that without having a back up plan and you know it.

What surprises me is the way they say let it slide... let it slide and you will marry a woman that still keep in touch with her toasters. One disgusting thing I HATE about Nigerian girls are things such as this. Why accept "gift" from a toaster who has vested interest in you when you already have a man engaged to?

ALL Nigerian GIRL DO THIS and some do get forked in the process.

Take my advise... you are already engaged to this girl and so tell her to define where she wants to be. What if something happens to your business tomorrow ( God forbid),she will run off to meet her toasters to satisfy her thirst?

You may just have a slight discussion with her BUT keep your eyes pilled. Receiving such money from the guy has given him HOPE (it is same with guys in this situation)

Story for another day bro. It's totally a different person. I am really fed up with Nigerian girls.

They can really go a long way in pretending just to get to their ultimate goal but God or Nature will continue to expose them because I don't deserve them.

mctowel01:
Bro, hope in future years, you won't say you didn't see the signs. When challenges occur in the family and your wife begins to say she can't do this or that, know you were shown the signs. Man to man, we all know that no guy just spends luxury on another woman without other hidden intentions. This does not look good.
Edit.
Just saw your conclusion. A failed relationship is better than a failed marriage.

yes o brother. same reasons I broke off my engagement I had earlier this year

mctowel01:
WebSurfer .
Bro. Hope this isn't the same girl you re having issues with?

my dear, it is a very long story

I tire for this country mehn

tifany89:
Bro i know it's hard but just forget that money except u want to use other means of collecting it coz truth is she wouldn't pay u. But since she has been staying with u does dat mean she didn't get her own place again? It's always almost impossible for a girl to pay u back a loan not to talk of ur gf

I have forgotten about it though it's
Quite a little painful. I didn't really plan on giving her just that someone paid me that very day for sales I made the previous day so I had the money at home when she asked. And since we weren't dating yet, I felt she would really pay back

pocohantas:
Are you not the one that got engaged this year??

my dear , it's a very long story

Trust me this shiit happens alot..

Same almost happened to me this year

tifany89:
Probably she agreed to ur advances out of necessity because she needed a place to stay. But it's okay sha, all things work together for good

It hurts to be a good person though.

You won't believe she insisted to get her place, asked me to borrow her some money 50k to complete what she had promising to pay month end (this past month). This was before we started dating.
Right now it seems like she doesn't want to pay anymore.

I still don't trust these girls sha... call me whatever you like but these girls no be them .


Tomorrow you fit hear another story say na men dey behind am