ekina: Gud afternoon Nlers, i heard dis on a radio prog n i thought i should share it here to know ur views; If u are in a fresh relationship abt 2wks old n ur gf/bf tells u dat he/she is HIV positive, would u continue or quit d relationship n what are your reasons?
PS: Consider the fact that he/she was sincere to tell you the truth quite early n dat there is a strong move to stop d stigmatizatn of HIV+ patients.

I will quit like a dog on fire.

mekaboy: Lol, In a situation where ur wife permits u to have a one night stand with an escort, will it be considered cheating? Or adultery? I know some women will permit their husbands to have a one night stand to spice up the sexual experience of the marriage or to help the man cool off in a long distance.

Cheating ? No. Adultery ? Yes.

haitto99: itz a serious cause for concern,some girls wld even pray dat their future mother-in- law shld be dead before dey meet their partner,,as for me any lady dat can meet,flow,respect,obey d woman dat made me wat I am shld park well o

Because they know what their own mothers have done and are doing to their brothers' wives, to their fathers' siblings and they also know the devilish things silently waiting in their own hearts to do to their inlaws.

TheCharisma: So we met two years ago, and he said he was 23. I just looked at his passport, and it turns out he's 25!!!!!!!!!!!! What should I do?

So you have nevered lied to men when dating or those that were in a relationship with you, eh ?

My friend please go and find something better to do and stop wasting people's time here.

datnycegurl: i am a 21 years old girl in the university, i met this dude online though he is also a student of my school but in his final year and i am currently doing my IT which is suppose to be for three months and about rounding up, we were just friends at first then we became close coz we were always talking on phone almost like everyday and also sending texts to each other by doing this we got closer to each other and i fell deeply in love with him even though they were so many other guys asking me out all i wanted was him and he did afterwards. but my problem is that i am not sure is really into me as i do because we hardly talk nowadays, i would send him messages but he as not replied for a week now, i get he is very busy because of his exams and project and i am also because of work but all i am asking is a little attention to show that he cares, and i am so scared for my self because i might just loose it and see every other guy like him and might not want to date again. i need help what do you guys think!!!!!!!!!!!

Seems he was mostly interested in entering your "well". Learn from this and move on.

RedBenson: One obvious way to know your husband/boyfriend is cheating on you is when he constantly telling you he doesn't have money when you approach unlike before. It's a big lie! He has, may be spending it outside with the fuccking mates.

My question is, WHY? Is it that the wife/girlfriend now becomes less important to be spent on?

Because he needs the money to spend on the other woman, duh. Do you know how money hungry a Nigerian woman is, let alone 2 Nigerian women ? You want the poor guy to go bankrupt ?

dsgirl: I'm back again with my serious need for advice.
I have been engaged for a while now and i have started planning my wedding which was to come up in October. The problem now is that I just broke up with my fiancée last night.
We had an argument over him betraying me. I told him about what my family is saying about the wedding arrangement and told him not to say anything to this parents yet because my family haven't concluded, that I was just filling him in to know how its going. After about a week he told me that he told his dad what I said. I got really upset saying we had an agreement, he was not suppose to go tell anyone without letting me know. Its not the fact that he told his dad that im mad at but the fact that I specifically begged him not to say anything to anyone yet and we agreed on it and now he went behind me to tell someone without talking to me first, that got me pissed. After a long argument for two days he said I should keep my words and not tell him anything any more. I got really upset and told him I was done with him, done with the wedding plans and that he should go to hell and I hung up.
He called back to confirm I meant with I said and when I would not repeat it, he called me a coward n bla bla bla and because I am not a coward, i told him that I meant everything I said, that we were done and over. He said he wished me well and he prayed that God would provide my own man for me
Now, he hasn't called and I have not called, not that im expecting him to call me because i know he wont, but my mind is so running marathon now, don't know what to do and that's why im here.
I have made reservations here and there, don't know if to go and collect my money back...(I have limited days to wait)
I haven't said anything to any member of my family because I really do not know what to say and how to say it so as not to look stupid
I want to call him but with all that is on ground, the arguments, misunderstanding over the phone i'm having double mind about this marriage already
one thing stands though, i love him, he has been the closest person to me and its hard to let go.

pls advise me.
I can give more info if you need.

You were immature and not ready for marriage.

cynthiapaul: Gdmrning NLs, havn't really been frequent here bt I do check-in once in a while. I cheated on my man I met wen I was in my 200 level whil him was in his final year, we've been dating 4 close to 5yrs now n to be frank cos heaven will bear me witness dat dat was my first act of cheat since I met him, I knw ppl do tins n wen caught, terms it der first tym bt pls I v honestly come her dz morning to share my pain n get ur advice so to me der isn't need to lie but to be frank with u all, I was neva doing it with my mind cos all d way I still loved n had my love at heart. He neva caught me on d act bt wen he started suspecting me, he demanded dat I tell him d truth if I had ever cheated on him dat he wud 4gv me rada dan him hear it outsyd, cos of d same love, I had to confess to him though I had earlier stopped d act b4 he asked cos d fling didn't last to a month cos I saw my self feeling every eyes of my love on me. But since den my r/ship has not known peace again. In as much as he still shows me love n care bt I don't know wot to tink but God knows I v sworn neva to do dat again nomata d circumstance cos I v become more prayerful in other to help myself too. Pls I need ur advice on wot to do n wot u tink abt dz cos I still love him like mad n dnt tink I can eva love anoda man like dt bt dz I know mite be his fear cos he mite not know wot or wot not to blv. Pls my frnds I need ur advice. Thank you.

200 level where ? In which school ? University of housegirlism ?

Seriously, if this is not another Niaraland fabrication post then you are giving our tertiary institution a bad name which is worse than your problem.

ashmanpolo: 1) Figure 8 girl, fine but a lil bad character
2) Chinese shape as in with a flat asss and just exteremely round but a very good character. Guys what's your spec?

Figure 8 oooh. At least there is hope that she change her character.

What can you do with a flat as a pan ass ? Nothing. With her good character when you want to get down to business and you see the flat ass you will have the bad character then.

bin gbagbo: she is pretty
good character
and above all working.
The only problem my brother has with this her fiancee is the fact that she seldom takes her bath.
sometimes, only twice a week.
when my brother complains too, shee will cry the whole day.
Becase of this behaviour, she is always smelling "fish-fish".
Is she a marriage material?

Something smells fishy.

MR AKPORS: I have spent money on this bich than even my mama.
I rented a house for her, furnished the house, pay her junior brother's school fees
and when i got in return? she cheated on me.
i caught her pants down, red handed.
Now, i want to get back all i have given her.
Furniture, tv, clothing, laptop, BB, Panties and bras.
I have already gone to uninstall the DSTV satellite dish, and i am planning to go for the rest this evening.
Should i go ahead?

Even the panties ? Nna wetin.

emmboy: I'm so confused as anybody would because my girlfriend prefers telling her problems to my friend rather than telling me first. I get to know about her problems via my friend only. Just last week again she told my friend she had a minor accident telling him not to tell me under the pretex of not wanting to hurt my feelings or make me feel disturbed about her...infact I'm the man and I've got to know anything about her both good or ugly. Anytime my friend tells me she called or asked them to meet without my knowledge, I just feel down and angry cos she should confide in me first and not my friend. I'm so tired of all these so I talked to her tried to talk some senses into her brain that not telling me things she's supposed to tell me is really hurting me beyond her imagination, I made her understand that not telling me in other not to hurt my feelings is what's actually hurting me. Just today, I was with my friend in the bank, she called him again for same thing not contrary to that. I trust my friend but I think sometimes one has to be very careful with girlfriend and friends ish... So please peeps, what do you think about this. I just need pieces of advice from mature minds. Thanks.

looks like she likes your friend and is using her "problems" as a ruse to get close to him. Sorry.

I have been the recipient of such ruses in the past so i can smell it a mile away. Emotional relationship - > physical relationship.

brideandgroom: Goodday nairalanders. It is M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ pleasure sharing M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ concerns with you having followed this forum for a while. I happen 2 be the only child of M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ parent and God has been faithful 2 us. I graduated,went for M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ masters and got a job with a bank. But M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ major challenge is that I Ђλ√ǝ̩̩̩̥ been in a relationship that is tilting towards marriage and right now, I got a job in the same bank M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ fiance works. Apparently, one of us has to go! Deep down in me, I A̶̲̥̅♏ troubled, lookin at M̶̲̥̅̊y̶̲̥̅̊ parent, I A̶̲̥̅♏ scared of resigning. Kindly advice me on what to do. Thanks

I could have sworn that i have come across this question before. Anyways, just in case you are not trolling like a lot of posters here, my advice to you is do not leave your job till you guys get married. Afterwards you guys can decide which of you has to leave.

dokia: Nigerian american girl is a special case, they are basically american girls with Nigerian parents, so they know a little bit of the nigerian culture. They will want the best of both worlds. What this means is, they want you to be a traditional Nigerian man (pay for everything) but when it comes to doing things in the house they want to be american girls!! dis one na 80/20 relationship!

Has anyone else noticed this?!

Yes. But ^^^^^ that also applies to Nigeria born women who have spent more more than a few weeks abroad. Enough time for their eyes to be wide opeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

Subomi-luv:
Am not going to argue with a fool. You are free to think whatever you want ok and give advice to someone who gives a Shyte. Goodbye

No one expects you to argue with yourself. The more important thing is that you stop making foolish statements like you have done here and you come across as one of those "Kpele Kpele (local)" girls. It's no wonder the black men you come across don't treat you well and you foolishly thought all black women receive the same treatment. No it's local girls like you.
Please take my previous advice and try not to procreate.

Subomi-luv:
Bitterness. I have no bitterness for any blk man. My dad is blk, my bro is blk, my bf is blk so wat is ur point. I have merely asked a question from my observations yet you have come with utter rubbish to be honest. Did i say i hate blk men?

Ok then if you are not bitter then you must be foolish, to be honest. No sensible person will reach such bullshit conclusion about an entire race.

That your male family members are black does not mean you are not bitter towards black men. I mean, must one be non-black or have non-black male family members to be bitter towards the black man ?

No you did not say you hate black man but I also did not say you said you hated black men. Please, till you cure your foolishness try not to procreate.

damilola_luv: Actually other men do defend their women more, unfortunately that is the cold, sad truth

Because you say so doesn't mean it's true. This is one of those ignorant generalizations that people make because they are pissed off with a particular sex.

Yornandrew: are there any benefits of cheating on your spouse under any condition

If there is no benefit then why would people cheat in the first place ? Do people do things that do not benefit them ?

Subomi-luv:
If they bash white women, White men will get upset and will defend them
If they bash asian women, asian men will get upset and will defend them
If they bash latina women, latino men will get upset and will defend them
If they bash arab women, arab men will get upset and will defend them
BUT if they bash black women, they well feel better about themselves (self esteem boost) and No one will challenge them since black guys don't care. In other words, black women are just easy targets since they don't have anyone protecting them, even black men will add to the bashing which is quite sad :-(

It is the MANS job to protect his WOMAN. A woman should not be the one protecting both of them.

This is just a load of BS. The white man doesn't defend his woman any more than the asian man or the black man. Please try and deal with your bitterness towards the black man.

4words: My primary school teacher once said if yesterday was tomorrow, today would have been friday. What day did she make that statement? Please your answer would be appreciated.

Wednesday.

chronique:

lolz. U're not serious man. I hope u know there's more to having the woman of ur dreams other than her being pretty,curvy & havin a nice height. What about intelligence,her speech/manner of talkin(she doesnt sound polished),religion,carriage/personality & all that? With maturity,you'll realise that not every pretty girl is meant for you.

Bro, where did i suggest otherwise ?

The order of things is girl meets guy's physical requirements then guy decides if, as you stated " What about intelligence,her speech/manner of talkin(she doesnt sound polished),religion,carriage/personality & all that? " is what he can leave with.

So again, quit wasting this girl's time and give other single guys the chance to see if she is their "Eve".

chronique: I got this girl who really wants me to date her but unfortunately,we're nt compactible. She's pretty,got nice curves & good height but she's not my type. I've told her we can only be friends but the way she keeps buzzing me tells me something else. My days of being a bad boy are well over & behind me and as such,I'm not thinking of having a fling with her. I wanna date someone I love,get married,start a family & live a responsible life. But truly,how do I do this? Dont want to make her feel bad by telling her she's not my type.

Bro, quit wasting her time and just tell her the truth, that you are into guys. There are lots of single guys looking for the nice curves, good height and pretty woman.

mjfcb: . You have misquote me dear and mind you am not a dumb. Insulting someone online and am very sure you can beats me up whenever I step on your toes in your street's.

Not dumb but you need serious help and you also need to GTFU.

Ozegbe: 99% girls are in a relationship, while 97% guys are single..The question is; Who is actually dating these girls

The 99% are dating the 3% of men that are NOT single or majority of the 99% are lesbians/Bi.

bin gbagbo: "Hi, sweerie, i know this may come as a shock, but i mean it.I am deeply in love with you and will do anything to snatch you from my sister.Try my love, and you wont regret it.much kisses"

Ever since, anytime he sees me, he will make advances at me.He has started giving me money and gifts.I dont like what he is doing, but i am scared i will loose his sister too.
please help me

If you are taking his money and gifts then why won't you try his love ? Try his love na.

The tree is very green and looks healthy so I give it an 8. If you werent blocking some part of it and moved away, it could have been a 9.

linda_1: Should Couples Have Individual Or Joint Bank Accounts? why??

There is no right or wrong choice here. Whichever one works best for your relationship is what you used go with.

Priceless95: I heard dis frm my cousin,it is happenin 2 her friend dis is d story:been in a relationship wit her boyfriend 4 2years dey both use to live in lagos but she just got a job in benin&lack of communicatn&commitment seems to be d problem.dey cannt afford 2 c regulary &dis also cause problems 4 dem,lately dey ben talkn about breaking up but d dey r scared of been lonely .dey r in der early thirties.what do you think dey shld do because i knw dey r in luv wit each other

Both of them have to seat down and see if things can be worked out. No one here can tell you what she should do.

FrontPageLawyer: some of the most unattractive men in the world are flanked by an army of beautiful women. The basis to this anomaly? Simple, they’re probably rich. Many women chase rich men solely for the money, while others don’t need the cash, they are independent, but still are attracted to the power and stature that comes with wealth.

Another reason why men should thrive to be successful.

Jubal01: My gf claims she lovs me so mch dat she dsnt get angry wit me. I'l sumtyms do sumtn intentionaly 2 ofend her, bt al she'l do is 2 say hmmmm & coyly smile. She's kinda 'shy' wen we'r 2geda. Am vry uncom4tabl wit dat. Hw cud a nomal human being only show d emotion of luv? Am confusd abt ha attitude. Pls wat shud i do?

Of course she gets angry and will get angry, she just has more tolerance than you expect her to. You should be happy and not complain.