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I SEE A LOT OF IGNORANT COMMENTS HERE AND I SHAKE MY HEAD.

WHAT HE MENTIONED ARE NOT THE 'cure' FOR COVID-19.....BUT FOR BOOSTING YOUR IMMUNITY. In case you did not see it well, yes IMMUNITY BOOSTING.

When your immunity is boosted, your body is able to fight sicknesses and diseases when infected or equip your body with the ability to not get it at all.

When you were vaccinated against polio as a baby..that was your immunity. You legs didn't become deformed, right?

All it would take is a VISIT TO USEFUL VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE. There are a lot of videos listing foods that boost immunity. Try and avail yourselves of such and not just coming online to chat and upload pictures.

Make good use of the internet!

primesoccer:
I met my girlfriend about 2yrs ago and we've been doing pretty fine. Before we met, she was in an abusive relationship and she had to quit.

In trying to understand ourselves, we've had to agree and disagree on some things, which I believe is normal. I love her and she loves me too.

I won't say I have the cash, but I'm always there to support her when she has a very pressing issue. Aside that, I take her out, we go shopping, and lots more...

She is this type of lady that if you try to correct her (in a very respectful manner) she will just get angry and may not even talk to you for even 2 days. Anger is a big part of her life. I respect her a lot and have never used abusive words on her.

When we just met, she was kind. She hardly comes to see me without buying something, even if it's N50 corn...a gesture that I appreciate so much. About a year into the relationship, her character changed. She became somewhat stingy. But I didn't take it to mean anything because I hate to even depend on anybody for anything. It didn't stop me from supporting her and doing the much I can for her.

She doesn't ever allow me touch her phone. What she does now is that whenever I'm to see and spend time with her, she turns off her data. She rejects some calls when we are together. As someone who wants peace at all times, I've sat her down to tell her my observations and ask what the matter was. But she told me nothing was the matter.

So, I decided to buy a new SIM card. I started chatting her as a stranger. She chats with me (the stranger) till even 2am. She has opened up everything about herself to the stranger. Her name, where she's from, what she does, where she lives and lots more. I'm just wondering why someone who just chatted you today is already getting to know everything about you.

Now to the reason I opened this thread: she told the stranger guy that she isn't in any relationship. Though, she added that she just met a Guy last week through her friend and they are both trying to work things out. She even sent the picture of the new guy to this stranger.

I'm still wondering why she will do a thing like that. I'm not in her life to waste her time. She is very aware of that. I told her last December that we shall go see her people this year and seal everything, but she told me that we still have time and no need for the rush.

Personally, I had no reasons to suspect her of possibly cheating, but her actions when we are together made me get a new SIM card and started chatting her up anonymously.

On my part, I'm a guy that ladies even open up to me that they like me. They also say I'm very intelligent and all that. I'm very transparent to her. I don't hide nothing from her. I can leave my phone with her without any fear because I don't have anything to hide.

I've never had anything to do with any lady since I met her. I so much believe in keeping your body and soul to just the person you are with...whether relationship or marriage. If you can't do that, why not just tell the person that you are not interested again than going your way to deny the person before another guy.

Ladies and gents, why on earth will a man or woman do this to someone who had dedicated his or her all to you?

I will gladly welcome your contributions, including bashing...

Addition: I am business oriented. To make her depend less on any man for money, I have created a passive income source for her that generates about 20k for her monthly

With all you've written here, ARE YOU SERIOUSLY WAITING FOR AN ADVICE from anyone here?? If you are, you must be the funniest, most unbelievable jokester in the world.
Aside the uncultured attitude, you seem to care less about having a wife who never listens to correction. Well, you better ask your predecessors with such wives how they're coping. You seem to be immature for marriage yourself since you want to hang on your neck a lifelong headache. If you don't pity yourself, spare your family.

As for the other side, You already have confirmed FOR YOURSELF(no friend told you) what the lady is all about..and all you could come up with is asking us(or is it me) what I think?
OK...I'll tell you what I think. "He who is forewarned/fortunate to foresee a pending doom but acts like the proverbial 'pigs drowned in the sea', should not blame his Chi when disaster strikes.

I think a lot of this comes from the kind of club they have (it's more of a FAMILY than a club) and the manager they have.
He is a humble man who seems to be more than just a manager with the team..the way he relates with them..he seems more like a friend than a boss.
The drive in the team feels like when you want to play your all for someone you respect/for a club that is practically family.
No one is competing for superiority. You just want to win as a team.
No wonder I love them.

Girlwhocares:
He's highly intelligent which is a great turn on for me in any relationship,we never dated,but we were good friends!
The issue of us getting married was as a result of making his intention known to my people which they accepted all cos he was a good guy whom my mum said he knows he will never treat me wrong!
Yes,i accepted to marry him not for love cos all through our friendship i never see us as lovers but i thought i will overcome all the anxieties and will grow to love him as we grow together(what my mum made me understand)now
I have been struggling with feelings of loving him and its isnt just adding up.

Since your mum seems to already know you had no feelings for him(reason she told you that you would grow to love him?), I suggest you talk to your mum. Sit her down privately and speak at length with her. She needs to know what's going on with you and how it's been/how you feel. I'm assuming she is one of those mums who wouldn't scold you or shout on you but will listen calmly.
Secondly, if you have a spiritual figure(a true Christian couple whose marriage have stood the long test of time and are trustworthy), you can share with them.
It's always healthy to let out(to the right people) what's troubling you so one doesn't end up falling into depression.
Third, you could visit a marriage councillor with your mum.
Note: don't try in any way to hide anything when asked questions. Be truthful and say your true feelings. That's the way you will get the right help. And you need to get this help fast...so start the process.

LordAzubuike:
You're nothing but an illiterate.

Obviously an 'illiterate' would not be able to write if YOU were the least bit educated, you would know that.
Secondly, you seem to fall into the class of people who cannot air their view without relying on insults.. that makes you a crude, uneducated, foulmouthed, untrained and ill-mannered female.

If you have nothing useful to say in a polite manner, you could try keeping quiet and refrain from exposing your terrible character.
Have a good day.

It looks like COMMON SENSE is not put in play by these so-called travellers. This health issue in China isn't enough to give them pause about entering China at this point in time? For what purposes exactly?
They want to endanger their lives as well as others'?

Why are we so desperate to travel out in this country?
Any serious individual or country will curtail the rate at which they travel to China now or suspend it entirely.

China is the one preventing you from entering instead of the other way around.

'Common sense' is indeed NOT common!

decub:
Your last paragraph is the real deal.

For some cities I know where similar ban took place, it is not for bikes and tricycles at the same time.

It is not in the entire state. That of Lagos is practically the whole state considering the inter-LGA people ply on day to day basis.

Their population is not the same with Lagos.

Don't look at Lagos as capital of a state or a city in a state. You don't implement such policies across board when there are no palliatives. It simply won't yield positive results.

Yeah, I remember the 'local' parts of the state were still allowed keke/bike movement.

It's going to be tough for Lagosians, I agree, but it's going to be good in the short run... soon enough.

quentin06:
fresh air, ? is keke that is respinsible for the rowdiness or bad governance?

Mr, forget keke. If not for the 'developing' (or should I say 'under developed'?) status of the country, that thing shouldn't exist.

To be frank, all these complaints are but for a while. How did you think people residing in states where this already took place felt when it was implemented?
There were VERY FEW buses, of course the prices of the buses you would see were hiked, you would stand under the sun for long minutes before seeing even one bus, other times you would be forced to TREK because you couldn't wait anymore for what seemed like forever.
It was so hard... even though it wasn't funny and there were a lot of complaints, we KNEW this was the SURE WAY to sanitize the state, to safeguard lives and have the environment look like human beings were indeed the inhabitants and not wild animals(with the way non buses were driving like no other human was on the roads except them, even pushing out pedestrians from their side of the walk.)
The trek was difficult but funny enough, good for the health!

But NOW? A breath of fresh air. You're happy to see sanity when you step into traffic. At least you can walk comfortably with no one pushing you into the gutter.
Soon enough EVERYONE will get used to it. More and more buses will come out till it's completely normal again.

So endure, good things don't come easy. You'll sweat it, but you'll enjoy the harvest.

Only hoping that Lagos will INDEED become sane after this, because Lagos?? Another place on earth entirely. LOL

Davash222:
There’s nothing like a ‘Honest Girl’, especially in Nigeria.
She’s just manipulating you emotionally. Don’t fall for all these blackmails from Nigerian girls.

Imagine, she said she has forgiven you?? For what??
Obviously, you’re too immature to be in a relationship with a Nigerian girl.

This mentality never fetches anything good.
What you desire, you might never get because you don't even believe you CAN have it.

That the most you have seen have broken trust or made you wary DOES NOT MEAN THAT THAT LESSER PERCENTAGE YOU HAVE BEEN LONGING/PRAYING FOR DOESN'T EXIST.

Your 'I already know who you are' and 'You're no different from them' is a GUARANTEE it will elude you.

Reading strategy?
By the time one has written both WASSCE and SSCE, you have already covered your scheme/everything you've been taught for exam purposes.

My strategy?
I attended JAMB classes.
But the most important....Read past question papers- not just one year or two but year by year by year.
On exam day? Got a very pleasant shock- you wouldn't believe I was writing an exam...smiling from the beginning till the end.
Why?
Saw a good number of the past questions I studied... I mean up to 15-20 EXACTLY as they were in the past question paper for each subject.
My success?
I did not disregard the importance of past questions solving/running through as many as I could.

What JAMB is after isn't how intelligent you are BUT how fast you are with your brain in limited time.

Lekside442:
Thanks alot bro..you really talk alot of sense...but I really love her soo much..but this only sickness she got about getting angry on unnecessary issue..and she’d always act like she’s on the right...she’d be at fault and she’d want me to be the one plead...imagine that bro.

This here is one of the reasons it's useless to give out advice to some people.
I keep saying it and it happens over and over again: why in the world do people ask for advice here on nairaland when they have already made up their minds to follow their own thoughts and feelings? Is it to waste everyone's time or to have a false sense of gratification that they asked for help anyway?

ONE THING ABOUT ASKING AND GIVING ADVICE IS THAT AT THE END OF THE DAY, IT IS THE @op THAT WILL DECIDE IF SHE WILL HEED ALL THESE MEANINGFUL ADVICE.
ANYONE WHO HAS MADE UP THEIR MINDS ON ANYTHING, EVEN IF YOU LIKE, ADVICE FROM TODAY TILL FOREVER, THEY WILL DO THAT WHICH IS IN THEIR OWN MINDS.
So.@op,. It's your decision to either heed these advice or not. No one will physically force you to.
The bed you make for yourself is what you'll lie on.
I DO NOT KNOW HOW ANYONE WON'T SEE THE HANDWRITING ON THE WALL or WANT TO ENTANGLE THEMSELVES IN UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS IN THEIR YOUNG AGE...WHERE INSTEAD OF BEING HAPPY AND ENJOY THEIR YOUTH WITH SOMEONE WHO VALUES THEM, THEY WANT TO AGE 10 times faster THAN THEIR REAL AGES...and they call it Love. Smh.

I DO NOT KNOW THE PERSON IN QUESTION NOR AM I INTERESTED..BUT I MUST SAY THIS:

IF WHAT IS SAID IN THE AUDIO IS DIFFERENT FROM WHAT WAS PEDDLED BY THAT BLOGGER AND POSTED ON A BIG SITE AS NAIRALAND, THEREBY PROPAGATING UNTRUTH, THIS POST SHOULD BE PULLED DOWN BY THE MODERATORS.

NAIRALAND IS A SITE THAT IS BEING VISITED BY A LOT OF PEOPLE BOTH LOCALLY AND INTERNATIONALLY. IT SHOULD NOT BE REDUCED TO A GOSSIP SITE, OR ONE OF THOSE SITES WHICH RELY ON FALSE, SENSATIONAL TOPICS FOR THE SOLE REASON OF PULLING CROWD.

DO NOT DISCREDIT THIS SITE.

I STILL REMEMBER THOSE BEAUTIFUL YEARS YOU COULD RELY ON NAIRALAND FOR AUTHENTIC NEWS.

Please advise on the best laptops to buy within price ranges of #50,000- #80,000, and which brand(s) is the best with specs that do not fall short from those within price ranges of #100,000 and above.

It's not a matter of charging....
How quickly does it discharge?? Just asking.

Meanwhile, it's not a new thing for new products to make waves as soon as they reach the market. The real test will be after a little while.. comparisons will be done by their users.

Nigerians and their extreme hype for anything new.

don4real18:
Hmm... Forged results or they graduated from a school that is unaccredited?
In other news, I don't like the new Nairaland design. Seun, what were you thinking when you allowed them change it?

Thought I was the only one seeing it since I saw no comment(s) addressing it.
This looks outdated for want of a better word.
The previous one is so much better and modern... unless nairaland wants to go back to the fore ages.

One thing I see is people complaining of the phones prices and comparing it with its counterparts, yet praising its admirable specs compared to others.

I do not know about the phone/its specs, but generally speaking, till people realize that with quality products come the willingness to pay equal sum for satisfactory services, we will keep having substandard products in our markets, cos almost every trader knows Nigerians are not willing to pay for quality products.

Edet08:
Shut up...

why shutting someone else up??
Even YOU.....
Going by our use of English... If he wrote 'pretence', he is absolutely correct.
Nigeria was colonized by the British not America.
Same way we use 'honour'(British) and not 'honor'(American).

Some replies I'm seeing here are shocking to say the least.
A man proposes a relationship to a lady...she declines(for reasons best known to her). It has become an offense?? Really?
A person has EVERY right to either accept or reject a proposal. Is it not better to be turned down than to be accepted because you have money or for other selfish reasons, be used and later dumped?
She probably had no feelings for the OP..or would he prefer she knowingly started a loveless relationship with him, get everything she wanted and exited?
Most times I wonder the kind of youths we have in this present day...who see it as a terrible thing to be turned down relationship-wise. It's NOT A RULE to be accepted by every lady. Grow up.

@OP...it's your money. I see no reason to be asking us whether to help a person or not. A generous personality will never count how many people have 'wronged' him before extending help. You should be a giver (as much as you can afford) to EVERYONE.

Human beings really should aspire to have the heart of Christ. The angry venom being poured on here is nothing to emulate.

Elliot2:
Don't ever give her! Don't! Take this advice. Look, I have learnt these things the hard way. Nobody has the right to treat you badly and still expect your forgiveness easily with emotional blackmail when they are not remorseful. Look,she is not genuine here,and even if she is,let this be a consequence of her actions. Truth is,when she turned you down, she had a standard she felt you weren't, and prolly now, you are her standard while some other guy is not. For the sake of that guy somewhere she will maltreat cos of you—don't give her. But if you will give her,don't ask her amount, give her what you can freely give. Don't let her call amount o,these girls no get joy o.

How on earth was he treated badly? Declining a relationship proposal has become something to be forgiven for? People are something else.

And some people on this site were criticizing Flavour for showing love toward his adopted son...wonder when kissing a boy on the forehead became something to critique.

You should instead pray to show affection toward your own children in future... If you had an abusive or loveless childhood, ask God to fill you with love so you can shower it on your kids thereby correcting the mistakes of our fathers.

These stories are indeed so sad... So very sad. African fathers need to understand that showing love is not a sign of weakness. You can be a loving father and raise disciplined children too.

NaBanga:
Something has always disturbed me about Flavour's closeness to the little boy. I know other men who have adopted children, and I have not had those feelings. But in this particular case, I am worried for the child's safety. Please pray this child is not being abused in any way.

purify your mind. Don't be a weird thinker.

Flavour connected with the boy right from the moment they first met. If you watch their interactions, it's like meeting someone you were destined to meet...no awkwardness, no shyness, no self consciousness. It's like they had known each other a long time ago.
Semah loves flavour (let's just say he doesn't joke with his idol now turned father).

Father and son have a strong bond... Learn from that and don't think you must be stiff around adopted children just because they aren't your blood.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6f6KCdJPzZM&app=desktop

The world seems to have come to a point where a woman is addressed, respected, graded or associated with (including relationship/marriage) according to how her breast looks like.
Pointed breasts are worshipped and praised while the non pointed ones are body shamed and disrespected.
Some think it's the present generation of young ladies who are at fault...not realizing that our mothers of old, many of them had these kind of breasts when they were young women...and your fathers NEVER body shamed them.
Should a woman whose breasts are not pointed hide herself, her body or be extremely self conscious because of it?
It's time people educated themselves that yes, a 20 something year old could have non pointed body caused by a range of factors of which GENES is one of them.
Why should anyone be ashamed of themselves because their body does not fall into your definition of 'beautiful?'.
Shows how shallow minded people have become.

kennybelle:
What insults, did you hear it? He was infringed on and deserved a free-kick. Why is Atletico always given a Red card in most games against Barca? They can as well be giving Ramos and Suarez cards in all their matches cos they're always indisciplined. We should'nt always shy away from the truth!

Mr man, a protest could have been done without holding a referee by the arm, looking into his eyes and insulting him with such words(involving his mother too)
Like someone said up there, ask yourself the relevant question.

Gone are the days referees suffer insults and maltreatment from players. Now, if you want your career to be a long one, and yourself not to be in FIFA's bad books, you had better treat your every referee with respect.

Having followed the OP's responses to people's replies here, I can deduce these:

Mr OP seems to be a weak-willed man who easily falls for people's manipulations.

He keeps defending the said lady while acting like he is looking for help on his relationship issues.

He's been owned by just the gesture of the lady footing the bills on their first meeting...seems this is all it would take any lady to get him where she wants(cos beauty and brains is not exclusive to just her).

That being said, I have no advice to offer. It's not needed by the OP, with the defence he's already put up. Mr, your life is yours to live, advise yourself with your own mouth.

Have a great day.

uthlaw:
score two goals with head and one penalty is magical,even giroud can do it.... comparing him with a player that dribble, passes,create chances and assist and also score.....if you watch football alot a single player can never mark leo, always starting from the range of 3!

Are you a football observer? Watched Cristiano Ronaldo's matches since years before for different clubs? He doesn't dribble, pass, create chances, assist and also score
Even in Juventus alone he's done all that since sign up.

Be truthful...don't just be a fanatic.

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Just wondering if you guys watch Chinese drama too?

Cos right now, they're doing very well if not better than Korean dramas.

THE STORY OF MINGLAN for example (just finished airing) is a wonderful Chinese drama from beginning till end...no boring moment.

You can check it out.

TRULY, PEOPLE DON'T READ UP ON A TOPIC BEFORE COMMENTING.

The insults you are directing at him should be yours.

emirate0:
Nigeria players and mediocrity. Even Messi won’t do dis . . Spits

Did you even read what he wrote up there??

YOU should be ashamed of yourself.

It's a shameful thing that in this day and age a country's president treats its citizenry according to how he is voted into power.

And even more shameful when said citizens support such actions... Citizens who should be educated and better still enlightened.

Goodluck Jonathan served first term. As incumbent and someone who had done what you could see, you deemed it safer to vote for him than for a former general who had no on- ground achievement except being a one- time army general.

And now, the same general who felt no qualms knocking out an incumbent is angry at any region he got little votes because he thinks he DESERVES their vote?

DID YOU HAVE THE SAME CONSIDERATION TOWARD YOUR PREDECESSOR? Or was it gonna turn into a bloodbath if not in your favour?

Four years gone and I must be intimidated into another vote else I'm thrown away??

Is Nigeria truly practising democracy?? We need to answer this truthfully. Or is it fear of 'vote for so and so to pave way for us next time'?

We keep spouting...
"Freedom of speech"
"Freedom to vote and be voted for"
"Freedom..........."...... Are they just empty words?

If you did not vote for me, that means you thought someone else could do the job better and I have not convinced you of my capability. The reasonable thing to do would be to use my time in office to give you reasons to trust me..and not a deliberate negligence!

The citizens had better save this nation their forefathers were so proud of. No one else will do it for you.