Triton1996: MTN Top Executive, Lynda Saint-Nwafor, Fingered In Veteran Actor, Saint Obi’s Death
TRIXX NG reports that Nigerian Tech-Commercial expert and the Chief Enterprise Business Officer at MTN Nigeria PLC, Lynda Saint-Nwafor has been fingered in the death of her ex-husband, Saint Obi, who is also a veteran actor.
In a revelation by a veteran actor, Zik Zulu Okafor, it was revealed that some of the thing that led to the illness of Saint Obi was caused by his ex-wife, Lynda Saint-Nwafor who allegedly maltreated him to the extent of keeping his children away from him.
In the lengthy revelation, Lynda Saint-Nwafor was accused of using her influence against Saint Obi and when her family members attacked the deceased actor, she supported them. Read statement below
“His social life was blunted. Perhaps by his reticent disposition.His persona, two dimensional. To a distant public, he was upscale and cool. His manly bearing spoke loud. His onscreen image ironically amplified some idiosyncrasies; heroics, romantic adventures and traits that did not gel with the mortal privacy that eerily define his quiet and lonely life.
“Saint Obi, real name, Obinna Nwafor, was shy, almost bordering on timidity and insecurity. He cherished the pleasantly tranquil interactions among a few friends. He would vanish at any outburst that could upset the poise of such small meetings. As he repeatedly told me, he just wanted to live a cool, quiet and fulfilled life. But, has he lived this cool and fulfilled life he envisioned ? I have my doubts.
“I tell Saint’s story here with painful tears in my eyes; because he was a star, a super star whose life turned out a gleam of irony . Yet, it was this stardom that fetched him his much professed financially strong and powerful wife . And their wedding, that solemn ritual of love, would drastically alter the cause of his life and tragically yank him off the creative community that threw him up for the wife to capture and indeed conquer.
“Their marriage was at best a dramatisation of love. It was quick. He barely told us that he found a wife. Then, the marriage happened. It was something of a mystique, only those involved understood the histrionics that played out . None of us who were his closest pals, who walked with him through the crucible to the crest of his career in Nollywood, was invited. The distance between us and the guy I admirably called Saint of the Storm had begun. This gulf would widen with each year. We saw him perhaps once in a year after this marriage.
“And life actually seemed to have given him a fair shake of the dice. He dressed well, drove big cars and even his skin, in literal lingo, spelt wellness.
“The Saint would be blessed with three beautiful children. But not one occasion were his friends in Nollywood invited for christening or birthday. We were told that his wife was of the topmost hierarchy in telecom giant, MTN . But even if their celebrations were designed to be a rendezvous of the elites of the technocracies that his wife chiefly belonged, you expected that Saint would reach out to a few of his fellow creatives, for even if they would herald his small beginnings, there could be no tinge of shame to it because we all have our journeys and our stories. And even at that, the actor or cineaste in Nollywood is by no means poor.
“But more tragic is the fact that his marriage did not only take away Obinna from his friends, it took him away from Nollywood. Saint stopped acting, absconded from his career and perhaps his calling.
“It would seem prognostic now. Yes, because I recall leaving my house in Lagos Mainland for his massive office in Lekki, Victoria Island, Lagos. It was about six years ago. There, I demanded to know why my friend abandoned our industry. He told me with his usual shy expressions that he wanted to focus on some other businesses and also to work behind the camera. Because his visage was unconvincing to me, I told him in stark terms, that whatever his new vision and pursuits, he must not abandon the trade that made him who he was.
“It took another three years for Saint to return to his homies. But when he did, some of the deeply disappointed ones sniggered behind him. This was because the simmering rumours of cracks in his marriage had hit home. And though secretive in his ways, he knew it was time to open up. And he did. “I do not know why my wife’s siblings see me as a gold digger. They confront me, harass and fight me in my own matrimony. And my wife did nothing to stop them. I work hard, I earn my money. I have never depended on my wife”, he lamented, eyes blurred with tears. You could tell he was in deep pain. By the next visit, the Saint returned with a deep cut from knife on his left eye. His wife’s brothers, he said, scaled the wall fence of their house to attack him. They were captured by hidden closed-circuit television, CCTV, installed for surveillance and security, he revealed.
“He reported them at the police station and subsequently acquired a gun to defend himself. This effectively marked the beginning of the end of his marriage and perhaps Saint Obi’s long walk to a sad end. He moved out of his marital home to a new house to begin the reconstruction of his destiny, alone without his wife and worse still without his three beautiful children.
“Meanwhile, his wife went to the police to defend her siblings using her financial power to manipulate the cause of justice, Saint stated unequivocally. The wife also sued for divorce, not in Lagos, but in Ogun state. As Saint put it, “It was to make the journey difficult for me. But I will not bend neither will I break. I will fight with my last blood to take custody of my children. They love me and they know it will be hard for me to live without them.The divorce is not an issue. My marriage has long been over”, he said with a mix of courage and a quaky heart that betrayed his distress.
“About mid last year, however, Obinna took ill. But he told no one. He simply became scarce. He was in and out of hospital, we would later learn. He sold two of his three big SUVs to take proper care of his health and to acquire six camry cars he’d use for Uber. But his vanishing health continued unabated. He seemed to have a premonition of his own passing as he wept repeatedly about not seeing his children. He emaciated. Life took a grim picture. When I saw him by chance in January 2023, the dude called Saint looked 15 years older than his age. His macho cut had shrunk. His fat wallet was gone. What was left was only his fat will. His eyes seemed lost in their socket. This would be the last time I would see him.
“Saint snuck out of Lagos to hang in with his sister in Jos. He told no one. But a month ago, in April precisely, the once delightful actor who brought joy to many a home broke his icy silence. He called our mutual friend in US to give him a devastating message. He was on a deathbed, he said and wanted our friend to pray for him. “It’s not looking good, pray, pray for me”, he appealed passionately.
“His next call came on May 1, 2023. This time to his mentor, the man who made him a star with his productions, Zeb Ejiro, OON. He told him with a wavering voice that he had had three surgeries but was still in hospital in Jos. He averred again that his situation was not looking good, that he is also in a deep pain, distressed that he could not see his children. But still he begged him not to tell anyone about his ailment. Such was the life of this creative hermit, a lonely trouper. I was the first to hear the news of his death late on Sunday, May 7. Having confirmed it, I called Zeb Ejiro.
“I have a very bad news my brother, Zeb”, I began.“What is it, what is it, Zik Zulu?”, he asked anxiously. “A big star has fallen in Nollywood”. Zeb broke down in tears. I hadn’t said who it was. But sobbing helplessly now, he said, “Don’t tell me it is Saint Obi”. Sadly, Zeb was right. May his soul find peace.”
So many ungoverned areas in Nigeria for criminals to take advantage of. That's why many of us choose to remain in Lagos. We even like as e tight sef. Everyone knows what's going on.
In my native village, we heard two monarchs are fighting each other over land. People caught in the crossfire are counting their losses and licking their wounds. Some are even dead sef.
adefitim: Top 10 Biggest Supermarket in Nigeria and their owners....if you have Objections to this post please state it in a sane and reasonable manner. 👍
Insightful... What are your sources [or references] for this list?
Sepukku: The young man you see there became a very popular journalist in Nigerian I believe. The white girl turned out to be a lesbian lady which is why even then she was making moves at the ghanaian girl who looked very naive.
The Ethiopian boy was pretty much a victim of the education of his time where there existed this philosophy of the "true negro" type and the so called "Hamitic" peoples. This however has been debunked and ethiopians now embrace their African identity more strongly than back then
Unfortunately this is the case. They are preoccupied with the present difficulties their economy is facing and only a handful are students of history.
@The bolded... She was a lesbian, Really?
When I first watched that video, I detected a triggering of bewilderment from the white girl as the then Nigerian school boy tackled her on all fronts. She had that bewildered look of "who is this cocky teenage bastard?"
I'm not surprised that he became a Nigerian journalist. He had that eloquence around him for a boy of his age. Oh! I just found out he passed on in 2018.
Debate Participants: Amelia Addae, Gold Coast (whereabouts unknown); Susan Rennie, South Africa (became a scholar and author, see "A Feminist Tarot"; Mr. Mesfin Binega, Ethiopia (became a military figure); Mr. Boniface Offokaja, Nigeria (became a broadcaster).
Sepukku: I love that clip from Youtube, it demonstrated the eloquence of the Nigerian mindset at that period(especially form the southern part of the country) of history compared to other Africans and is truly a gem that should be shared as much as possible.
You've seen the 1957 video too? That Nigerian boy made me proud as he spoke eloquently in the defence of Black South Africans. The white school girl too was naive but she spoke with a commanding conviction that made the debate worth listening to. The Ethiopian boy was busy saying he is NOT a Black African in one instance and the Nigerian boy took a sarcastic swipe at him. The consciousness was high back then because folks read hardcopy books and went to libraries and museums, etc, without too much distractions that the young ones are subjected to today.
I belong to that older generation that read good books and fortunately, my family library had large volumes of encyclopaedia and international magazines, so I was fired up with the knowledge of the struggles of Black South Africans and the ANC, SWAPO, and Rhodesia [now Zimbabwe]. We treated South Africans, Namibians and Zimbabweans specially with love back in the day.
Most of the post-apartheid born generation of the 1990s within and outside South Africa do NOT even care to know much about the struggles that Africans made to support indigenous Black South Africans, and I see exchanges of stereotypes and insults here and elsewhere online which shouldn't be. For me, it's a thing of pride for me that young SA folks are here on NL and can interact in real time with Nigerians and other global citizens but it MUST be constructive engagements with some bants here and there... NOT outright insults.
Sepukku: ANy right thinking person can detect that the video is pure rubbish and wouldn't pass any test of scrutiny.
Study the dutch calvanist ideologies that were very strong in White Boer south african history and you will get your answers on where this thought process comes from.
Indeed... I remember watching a late 1950s school debate featuring 4 African school students in the U.S. [which was uploaded online] and a white school girl from South African was vehemently propagating the doctrine of "whites came to South Africa before the Bantus," so I'm NOT too surprised by the white dude's rants in that video.
During the debate, the eloquent Black school boy of 16 years who incidentally was from Nigeria took her up and tore the white South Afrcan school girl's supremacist points of view to shreds by citing the historical study of a British historian on how the Bantus and Boers arrived in what is now South Africa. So, there was media propaganda and indoctrination of kids in SA schools back then, but the REST of Africa and indeed the world knew what was going on in South Africa to Black South Africans whose's lands were forcibly taken from them by the white settlers.
Sepukku: THe stupidity of this whole entire analysis is nauseating and pseudo scientific. Having Khoi phenotypes does not indicate the level of Khoi ancestry in a given population of Bantu south africans. Only a sample testing of populations would indicate this and the results continue to point to levels 25% Khoi ancestry in Bantu populations.
Do you know what gene introgression is? No matter how much khoisan females joined the Bantu groups the population would still continue to have higher bantu genes in them because each time they married and bore children the Bantu genes would be reintroduced back into the population or in other words introgressed back into the population.
You really need to stop listening to your old gogo tales neh!
madukwe1: Why are our girls the only ones embracing our culture?
A lady on twitter by name Audrey SkhoSana recently posted a nude pix of herself with a tagline: "I'm embracing my culture and diversity with pride".
No doubts that this are the kind of cultures liked by our men, many showed appreciation for her post and urge others to be part of this in other to bring back our culture and sanity cos they believe when they see too much of it walking on the street, they loose urge but when the covering is so locked up in cloths then they want to take adventure.
Some saw it as inappropriate and shame to women.
Am just tired of this country #southafricadaughter
Bump.
She's an Ndebele from Zimbabwe though. Ndebeles migrated from the Zulu region of South Africa in the 1800s as a result of war and displacement.
Lionessza6: The Imfecane story for me is is another one that is questionable; just like the Central African migration of the bantus to the South and the timing ofcourse . Both are always the talking points of colonisers when they want to justify mass murder and colonisation of Africa... suspicious. They are the ones who know how many people were killed, but they dont know in which area of the South and where all these bodies were buried . Suspiciously; they are always around when the history of Africa turns bad ; the mass murders are recorded by them and the invasions as well......busy bodies ...very caring colonisers . This is the same justification they use to explain why they almost wiped out Australians and Americans ; some tribes were causing problems and there were just too many uncivilized hooligans in those regions. My favourite is the discovery of America by Columbus ; the discovery of an occupied territory. The only difference is that they could easily get away with these lies over there because there are very few descendants of those people, whereas here it's not so easy , so they have to constantly edit they BS when they get exposed.
Now they are re-writing history again....this time , Africans are not indigenous in Africa . And the Khoe-San are actually white people . The whites are the actual indegenes of Africa . We make take this as a sick joke for now, but wait till they wipe out pictures of Khoisans on the net or pictures of certain African groups and replace them with Ukrainian looking Nazis . And some dunderhead Africans will actually believe this crap in like 30 years time because it will be on our curriculum .
As for the Ndebeles-Zulu issue; what we do know for sure is that conflicts did break out amongst the ruling Zulu class , some people were chased out and some ran away from persecution and some so this chaotic era as a chance to still and bounce ; Zim Ndebeles .
Lionessza6,
That video stunned me a bit because of the brazenness of the white British dude tbh. The white guy was talking revisionist B.S. How can he say Khoisans are white? He must have been smoking ostrich feathers before he granted that interview! Lol
Even modern DNA ancestry tests do not support this dude's claim that Khoisans are whites or of white European descent because even on YouTube, you can easily find ancestry DNA results of Black South Africans.
Granted that in US census data, all North Africans are classified as whites. Yes Berbers and Arabs are white, but the Khoisans of Southern Africa are NOT white in completion!
Thanks for sharing the YouTube video... I never imagined that such nonsense would ever be propagated in recent times.
Eternal vigilance is key!
As for the Ndebeles who are a branch of the Zulus, they were brutal in crushing the Shona people in modern-day Zimbabwe back in the 1800s though. The history of the imfecane and the need to survive and grab new lands must have toughened the Ndebeles.
joinnow: chatgpt The Reed Dance, also known as Umkhosi woMhlanga, is an annual cultural event celebrated by the Zulu people of South Africa. It is a traditional ceremony where young Zulu girls participate to pay homage to the Zulu king and to demonstrate their purity and eligibility for marriage.
During the Reed Dance, the girls perform various traditional dances, including one where they throw their legs high in the air. This particular dance is called "Indlamu," which is a Zulu warrior dance. The purpose of this dance is not specifically related to the Reed Dance itself but is performed as a display of strength, agility, and skill.
The high leg kicks in the Indlamu dance symbolize the girls' energy, grace, and physical prowess. It showcases their abilities and demonstrates their readiness to take on the responsibilities of adulthood and marriage. The dance is also a way for the girls to express their cultural identity and pride in their heritage.
It's important to note that the Reed Dance is a cultural practice with deep roots in Zulu traditions and customs. The specific meaning and symbolism behind certain dance moves may vary within different Zulu communities, but in general, the dance is a celebration of Zulu culture and the transition from girlhood to womanhood.
At just 26 years of age... This dweeb cannot even use his creative imagination, brain, and access to the vast library that the Internet embodies to come up with more creative ways of making money except to scam naive U.S. citizens.
These young ones are criminally inclined and WORSE than the politicians and OLDER folks they often criticise for their own lack of imagination.
sukkot: nice insight from you as usual Chief. The human animal ? Lmao. Well I guess a spiritually inactivated soul is an animal lol. Salute. Oh and I am not fearing that guys activities. I am covered and protected . I have been cooked in the pit to prepare me for the palace. Am well cooked bro lol
KingCold: Bushman genes are to be found on every modern black South African, on average black South Africans tend to be lighter complexioned, shorter, leaner, have sparingly hair like the khoisan, etc, The Xhosa people especially, inherited their high cheekbones
@KingCold, thanks for the great feedbacks from you. I like the fact that a lot of South Africans use the NL forum as well, and can rapidly give firsthand info on any topical event relating to SA.
Wow! A Pedi man in the attached picture with a high cheekbone?
Oh yeah, Nelson Mandela being a prominent Xhosa looked very Khoisan with that high cheekbone.
I remember now that in the year 2019, I watched a couple of DNA test result videos on YouTube uploaded by South Africans and there was no white or European ancestry in the genetic makeup of a very light-skinned SA female academic in that video who had a high percentage of Khoisan genetic marker.
Southern Africa is simply amazing in terms of a rich genetic pool.
Samantha124: I haven't taken any ancestry DNA, but I've seen few of those South Africans who did.
It's believed that every black South African has got Khoisan DNA, but the Bantu genes dominate because of years of marriages amongst ourselves and with time, we outnumbered the Khoisan people even though we still do have their DNA from when our ancestors migrated from Central Africa to South Africa and intermarried with the Khoisan people.
Nelson Mandela did had some strong Khoisan genes.
Samantha, I'll bet you are an ambivert and love to read a lot while absorbing a vast universe of information out there. You seem like you studied history and international relations or law while in the Uni?
Oh, wow! That's an interesting feedback you made up there. The Bantu and Khoisan admixture of bloodlines in Southern Africa is indeed very deep.
Did you know that the term hunter-gatherers is a term that is used to describe the Khoisan as well?
My jaw nearly hit the floor the day I first got to know that folks from many West African ethnicities who did ancestry DNA tests with 23and Me, and AncestryDNA, etc, all had the hunter-gatherer genetic marker of less than 1%! Lol.
These DNA tests are indeed unlocking the deep mating secrets of mankind's past.
BrighterThanDay: As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.
After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.
Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.
After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.
Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.
I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.
My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.
I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.
She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.
For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.
Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.
Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.
Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.
When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.
My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.
I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.
Klass99: Fulani . Those people are not nice o, Sukkot. We had a security guard once from the core north at the first property I rented and it came out later that he was a killer and had killed before. He looked just as innocent and harmless like the guard you have described.
And guess what? Tenants treated him nicely too, like you did yours.......but mehn that guy was a green snake under the green grass. Taking people's words and twisting them to jam heads, telling stories and secrets of tenants who were close to and friendly with him.
Please ehn, can you have the guy replaced with an older and matured person? You guys should start over with someone new and let there be boundaries from the get go. Stop the assumptions that he can't do anything and is harmless. Don't you watch true crime stories? What do you think God means when he says the human heart is desperately wicked?
madscientist88: yep thats 4 billion% a meteorite you can see the crust fusion on it,you just mad your self some cool cash over there, meanwhile im here trying to sell mine, Nigeria has no market tho
edit: most space rocks are slightly magnetic in nature,must show crust fusion on the surface,tho most metalic meteorites like the small ones in these pictures have no crust fusion,but chondrite must show.
sukkot: i think it's the economy. It has turned everyone cold. Now this particular guy , it appears you have described his background perfectly because I don't understand why he is not in school. He looks Fulani and speaks Fulani so I think he is Fulani. But he speaks and understands English very well
Aha! Just a quick observation here. I even thought the guard is from the South or Central parts of Nigeria.
Most of those guys are from foreign countries such as Chad, Niger and Mali though, and may not be Fulanis but Touaregs and other ethnicities that look like Fulanis or Hausas. They have been known to rob and kill their employers and then run back to their countries for safety based on media reports over the years.
sukkot: See at this point I don't understand most Nigerians anymore. Every time I offer a helping hand to Nigerians they turn to your enemy. I don't understand the dynamics behind it. The whole interaction just gets very awkward after that . It's like they hate you for " humbling " them. It never fails.
But the ones who have a pure friendly relationship with you? Are the ones you haven't given anything yet. So in my everyday life person to person I try to do charity because charity covers a multitude of sins and givers never lack.
So this is a recent case study. This young guy , a security guard was sent by the company to guard the house I stay. I would say about 19 years old. One night I went grocery shopping and I was going through the gate he runs over from across the street and told me he was hungry. So I said what does he eat ? He said he likes indomie . So I went to my place and brought out like 5 indomie and 3 soft drinks and 2 sardines and gave it to him. He thanked me.
Every 2 days when I go out I would do small grocery shopping for him. Indomie and biscuits and soft drinks sardine or bread. A few times when I go out to get bottled palmwine for myself I would get him palmwine or orijin beer he likes. But I started noticing his entitlement behaviour like on the days when I don't buy him anything he would time when I Am coming home and sit beside my door when he sees me carrying my own groceries and he would be looking at me like he is depressed. And he would Always be watching me to see if I am going grocery shopping and he would hang around the car to see if I would come out with grocery.
Let's just say this guy got ridiculously stalkerish and so I called him up 4 days ago and asked him has his salary being paid yet? He said yes. Because am thinking all these things he is doing because he is new on the job and has no money and is hungry so I put up with it for like a month.
But once he told me yes that he had being paid, I in a roundabout way told him I don't tolerate the stalking. That he doesn't need to be following me or waiting on me. Anyway since that day this guy just turned into an enemy. Someone who I have been buying groceries for for almost a whole month just turned hostile like that. Now all that time I was buying him grocery he would do ass kissing stuff like when I drop my black trash bag outside my door he would take it to the bin outside for me but since that day the guy just bone my trash bags lol.
Anyway the point here is this ? You create an enemy unknowingly out of those you help - not family members- because I think it is humiliating for them and they despise you for it, so if you are going to offer charity don't offer it to people you have to see on a daily basis. Just find a beggar in the street that you would never see again. Nigerians are funny, they beg you for money but they hate you for giving them that money especially if it is not a life changing amount.
It's like a guy I gave 5000 naira one time and he thought it was an insult, just a regular guy who I don't even know like that, God is my witness, which 5000 is no money but it was just for him to buy beer for the weekend, you can get 15 beers with 5000 when I gave it to him.
So out here on these streets you have to be savage. No more mr nice guy ooo lol. basically if you are not offering guys over 100k just forget it cuz they would hate you. look for a real beggar who would appreciate 5000 or 1000.
Sukkot, how's it going bruv?
Another insightful experience from you!
I have learned over the years to be discretionary when dealing with the human animal. I love to give but would rather do so by giving so that a person can learn to fish. I heard those private security guys in Nigeria earn as little as N20,000 monthly currently.
At 19 years, the teenage guard must learn the art of gratitude and acceptance so he can easily gravitate towards a better employment and situation.
In any event, being an evolved Soul that you are, I want you chat with the guard again like he is your son and remind him about the power of gratitude which would enable him to leapfrog other challenges of life. If he doesn't learn from a person like you, he could join a bad group and bring thieves to rob residents by serving as an informant to armed robbers.
More power to you Sukkot, the "Grandmaster of the entire Lekki Peninsula." Lol.
Skyview01: I used to work in a bank and at month ends, accounts and transaction fees are charged. We have an instruction to reverse fees ONLY if the customers asked for it. Most rich people will 100% of the time ask for a reversal of the smallest amount and lots of the poor people never ask for their money back.
I have seen up to $180 reversible charges in transaction fees in a poor person's account and could have been reversed if they had asked for it but, guess what, they are either too proud, shy or ignorant to ask.
The distinction between being rich and poor goes deep into mentality and build up of individuals.
If you give 20million dollars each to all the young people today aged 20 years, in 25 years, the rich will still be rich and the poor would have squandered the 20 million dollars and still remain poor.
I give to people that are really in need; the motherless babies home, orphanage homes and the likes of that.
Nicely put.
The folks with true wealth think differently than the poor folks or those below the income ladder.
Only full self-awareness induced by pain would make most of the poor folks to change their limiting mindsets.
kwametut: Scholes/Ihuwhatever Blacks South Africans had contacts with whites and that resulted in wars. Only two cities practized slavery in S.A. by enslaving outsiders.
DUTCH EAST INDIA COMPANY 1658-1810 (Not Netherlands, SA was never a Dutch colony)
SA blacks have never sold each other to whites, Europeans imported slaves into Cape Town from Angola they die out due to cold weather, then import from Asia and Mozambique, other parts of East Africa like Zanzibar.
1820-1910 BRITISH RULE British settlers arrived in S.A. in 1820s and settled in PE, where they met Xhosas(Ngunis like Zulus) and Khoisan. By 1860s they reached Durban and imported slaves from India. BRITISH FOUGHT WITH BOERS (Mixture of German, Dutch,French,Scottish settlers and defeated them). Took over the whole of S.A. They employed black soldiers in some wars.
APARTHEID ERA 1948-1990 British handed political power to Boers and controlled the economy (banks and other big industries). Boer were relegated into farming. Then they both decided to oppress all NON WHITES. Racial segregation started and Asians,Africans and coloureds lived side by side while all Europeans lived together, the Jews,Portugese,Italians,Greeks were look down by ANGLO-SAXON NAZI Apartheid era government.
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