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Whatever your reason is for looking for a lover while you are still a student, we are telling you right now that it is a bad idea. We are going to give you a couple of reasons why dating and schooling doesn’t mix well. Having a wonderful relationship while schooling is the exception of the rule not the rule
1. Money
You don’t need a soothsayer to tell you that relationships cost money. It doesn’t matter if you are the boy or the girl and if you are getting into a relationship because of money then by all means get your priorities straightened out. Like we always say, money and love are not the same thing buy they are inseparable. Money is needed to maintain friendship with the same sex, talk more of a lover. You need money to call your lover (yes ladies, you also need to call him), you need money to buy gifts, and you need money for dinner nights….. Have I made my point?
2. Time
You do not have much time while you are in school; you barely have enough time for yourself. Your friends and family are complaining that you do not spend enough time with them and that is not enough for you, you want to add another person that would require twice the time your family and friends are demanding. If you are running on40 hours a day, then by all means let us knowhow you are doing it
3. Drama
The twisted part about dating and schooling is that the drama you get from it makes you to laugh later in life. Just pray you don’t catch your lover cheating on you before your final exams else you would be on the next train to the united states of spillover and trust us; it’s not where you want to go.
4. Time again
These are one of the rare truths that your parents actually tell you. You might find this hard to believe, but it’s the truth. Graduating with good grades is so worth the trouble. And you get to be a lot more attractive with agood degree to the opposite sex. The will literally rain the opposite sex for you.
5. Maturity
Relationships require a certain level maturity and responsibility, and you do not have it. It is kind of insulting to you but it’s the truth. Inas much as dating early can get you preparedwith all the bullsh*t that comes with relationships, it’s actually in your best interestto relax and face your studies for now. If you don’t believe me, imagine how you and your lover would freak out when the beloved misses her period.
Generally, there are exceptions to every rule. No one is too young or too old to find true love.
What do I know; I am just the freak behind a rusty computer.
http://coolpenny./2013/04/29/read-this-before-dating-in-high-school/

Whether it’s your significant other’s sister or his brother’s wife, sisters-in-law can be a force to be reckoned with. Especially when she’s hell-bent on making you miserable.
The most common cause of issues with a sister-in-law is jealousy. Yep, that’s right! The green-eyed monster is usually a cause of whyshe’s acting out against you. It may be that she feels threatened by the relationship you have with your spouse, which is usually the case if it’s your husband’s sister. Because you’re a threat to a valued bond, she will do anything to protect that bond by making your life miserable.
Sisters-in-law can be nasty for reasons we may never understand
Maybe she is the kind of person who wants all the attention to herself and cannot stand itnow that she has to share her spotlight. Maybe she feels like you’re stealing her limelight when your inlaws, friends or spousepraise you or give you some attention. The important thing to remember is that the issue lies with her and not with you.
Grin and bear it
The best strategy is to take away their power.Do not allow your sister-in-law to interfere with your marriage, learn how to play the game and kill her with kindness. Smile at her every chance you get and just be civil and kind. It costs nothing and you end up being the bigger person. A cruel sister-in-law can’t defend herself against unexplained kindness.
Kill her with kindness
Perhaps she ignores you when you talk, makes negative comments about you or gossips about you any chance she gets. Smilebecause she can’t get to you. After all, why should you have to change who you are just to help her with her insecurities? Being cheerful every chance you get and show yoursister-in-law that, no matter what she says ordoes – it won’t have an effect on you. This will drive her insane!
The truth will set you free
If she’s spreading awful rumours, still kill her with kindness – the truth will eventually cometo light and when it does you won’t be the one with egg on your face. The last thing youwant to do is give in to her poisonous behaviour and cause a rift in the family.
Think of dealing with your sister-in-law as agame of chess
You can only control your pieces, how they move in relation to your opponents movements and what happens to them. Onceshe sees that her attempts are futile she’ll be forced to give up. She will finally realise that not all the cruelty in the world could take you down. Continue to maintain your dignity and continue to be the type of woman who madeher feel so insecure in the first place.
It really is that simple. Nothing your sister-in-law says or does should be able to upset you, but only you can make the change. Once your sister-in-law realises she can’t win, then it’s check mate.
http://coolpenny./2013/04/18/dealing-with-a-jealous-sister-in-law/

Disclaimer: If you and your spouse are besties, you may be offended by this. Too fucking bad.
I hear a lot of people say their spouse is their best friend. On Facebook, there are a myriad of posts announcing “On this day blah, blah years ago, I married my best friend.” I just can’t relate. First of all, I’m not twelve anymore. I can’t afford to have only one best friend. My friends have spouses, kids, jobs and other friends. I’d be very lonely if I waited for my one best friend to be available………and quite frankly……..a bit pathetic and needy. Can we say Single White Female? (Look it up if you don’t get the reference.) I have several really great friends. I don’t live in the right state to be married to more than one of them. So I’m out on legality alone.
Let’s get down to it. None of my great friends have joysticks. Some of them carry their spouses balls around from time to time, but that’s it. After my own experiences with guys I thought were my best friends, I realizethat a true-best friendship between men and women is really not possible (sexual tension is a bummer). I know someone will disagree with that, but I’m here to tell you….”I’m right and you’re wrong.” The exception would be if one is a homosexual. So at this point, my husband has a penis and is absolutely not a homosexual. So far, the friend thing is looking bleak.
Vacations with friends can be great. I’m still friends with the ones I’ve traveled with. We returned to our corners. My friends would agree. They don’t want to live with me either. Needless to say, my husband and I go on vacation with friends to get away from each other. Plus, we can’t afford more than one house and who’d be stuck with the kids? Friends also share clothing, shoes and jewelry. I wouldn’t be married to a man I could do this with. And the tampon thing………. total deal breaker if he had his own supply.
When I need to vent about married life, I bitch with my best friends. That so would notwork if that person was my husband. I think I know whose fucking side he’d be on. My friends are great. They tell it like it is and give me their unbiased opinions about crap. My husband needs to tell me what I want to hearand give me my opinion. I’m his damn wife. He better be biased. Friends also show an interest in your stuff, or at least pretend to. We aren’t dating anymore. I don’t give a crap about his high score on XBox and he doesn’t give a shit about my recent decoupage project.
I enjoy my friendships because I have a husband to come home to. I enjoy my husband because I have great friends to be myself with. The bottom line is: I can never befriends with my spouse. There are too many factors working against us. Besides, I don’t have sex with my friends and I’m not willing to trade the best fucking, non-love making, mind-blowing sex of my life for friendship. We’re married. Isn’t that good enough!??!!

http://coolpenny./2013/04/12/hes-not-my-friend-hes-my-husband/

Just last night I was at a concert having the time of my life. Loud music. My favorite artists. And my friends. Every hip hop artist yelled “SINGLE LADIES SCREAM!!!” just joining in the crowd I must’ve screamed too loud. Once I charged my iPhone, and got a text that says I need to talk to you. Coming from a man or woman I don’t think that’s good on any level. My love broke up with me. Over a small issue that he has with himself that he won’t change. Yes it’s heart breaking. It seems life altering but I know I’ll make it. Us ladies have to appreciate ourselves. Don’t be so eager to jump into a relationship. I called myself taking it really slow. But just as women have standards I think we should have limits too. You say he must make x amount of money. But what’s his limitation? If he makes more than you require is there a limit on how he spends it or where? Just because he makes it doesn’t mean he will spend it on you. You say he mustn’t have any children. OK but what if he doesn’t want kids ever and you dream of a family? Let everything be known before you fall in too deep and end up in love with the image of someone else. And take responsibility for your actions as well. I will admit I believe I loved him since our first date. Sounds cliche? Dumb? Oh well love is crazy. But me looking forward to the future may have added a little too much rose tint to my glasses. I didn’t say anything about our future but I know my actions showed it. Whatever he needed I made time. I always considered his feelings. I always wanted to make sure he was happy, safe and comfortable. But maybe I went over the top as far as feelings. I’m only twenty and some change. I’ll just try to live freely and enjoy myself. God makes things happen for a reason. I have goals. Goals outside of my hometown Saint Louis. Which long distance would cause havoc in a relationship so I’ll say that Georgia or California (my dream states) may be calling me soon. Hopefully. Everything happens for a reason and I’m praying my reason is a opportunity.

“See, breaking up is hard to move along is even harder
It’s over she got colder now can’t locate where her heart is
And I’m just being honest, since we not even talking
My mind won’t let you go
Shit even considered stalking naw
You know I be teasin’ though
You know that my ego won’t
Thought this was forever love
Guess that was just seasonal”

Wale- the breakup song.

Fast forward to today. I have gained more confidence, met more peopl and I have had more time to involve myself in my passion of writing. The people I have met and encountered I never would’ve thought would happen at a young age of 24. So was i hurt by being dumped? Yes as anyone would be. But do I hate him? No. Was he a bad person? Not at all. It just wasn’t meant. All I can say is Thank You because that was truly a blessing in disguise.

http://coolpenny./2013/04/04/he-dumped-me-thank-god/

Stay together for the sake of the kids? Generations of miserable parents followed that advice, hoping their sacrifices would payoff for their children in the end. Many still believe that it’s the only option for parents stuck in a dead-end marriage.
Based on my own personal experience, I haveanother perspective. Having been raised by parents that chose to stay together in a miserable marriage, I opt in on the other side. For me, parental divorce is preferable to years of living in a home where parents fight,disrespect one another and children are surrounded by sadness and anger. That’s the world I grew up in and the scars are still withme today, many decades later.
I believe that staying in a marriage only for the kids is a physical choice that doesn’t touch upon the emotional and psychological pain children endure when their parents are a couple in name only. In that environment, there is no positive role model for children to see how marriage can and should be lived. Infact, it makes marriage appear to be something dreaded or to be avoided.
Happiness, harmony, cooperation, respect and joy are all absent when parents are emotionally divorced while still living together. Children feel it, are confused by it and too often blame themselves for their parents’ unhappiness. Consequently, they grow up anxious and guilt-ridden, experiencing little peace in childhood. In many ways, the scars are much the same as for children who experience a poorly handleddivorce.
In my opinion, parents who find themselves in an ongoing unhappy marriage who consciously choose to create a child-centereddivorce are providing a much better option and outcome for everyone in the family.
My own parents should have divorced early intheir marriage. They were both miserable together, had little respect for one another, and raised two children in a home fraught with anger, tension, frequent loud argumentsand discord.
I remember my mother asking me one day whether she should divorce Dad. “No,” I cried. I wanted a Mom and a Dad like all the other kids. Although my childhood was miserable and filled with insecurity, I feared what life would be like if my parents were divorced. Mom didn’t have the courage to do it anyway. Those were vastly different times, especially for women, and she continued in her unhappy marriage for decades longer.
Today, looking back, I feel that was an unfortunate mistake. Neither of my parents were bad people. They were both just totally mismatched in a bad marriage. Their communication skills were miserably lacking and they were wrapped up in winning every battle at all costs. The real cost, of course, wasthe well-being of their children. I believe that each of my parents would have been happierand more fulfilled had they parted ways and remained single or chosen another partner.
That’s why I chose the other route when my own marriage was failing. Because of my childhood experiences, however, I intuitively understood what not to do in divorce. I intentionally worked to create what I call a child-centered divorce. My “was-band” and I co-parented cooperatively, shared the important parenting decisions and maintained a positive relationship for the decade to follow when my son grew from ten to twenty years old. Most gratifying for me was the satisfaction of having my now adult son acknowledge the merits of my co-parenting philosophy and choices.
More than a decade after my divorce, I wrote the book that shared my unique approach to breaking the divorce news to my son. As a grown adult, he is a strong supporter of my child-centered divorce network and wrote the forward to my digital guidebook, How do I tell the kids about the Divorce? A Create A Storybook Guide to Prepare Children– with Love! How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love!
Fortunately, despite my painful childhood, I still believe in marriage and have since happily remarried myself. My advice to unhappily married parents can be summed up succinctly:
If parents have the maturity and determination to get professional assistance before divorce, learn how to positively reconnect and renew their commitment to marriage, that is undeniably ideal. The entire family will benefit and the healing will be a blessing to all.
However, if children are being raised in a warzone or in the silence and apathy of a dead marriage, divorce may open the door to a healthier, happier future for parents and children alike. But parental divorce in itself is never a solution. To give children the best outcome parents must consciously work on creating a cooperative child-centered divorce that puts the children’s psychological well-being first as the basis for all parenting decisions!
http://coolpenny./2013/04/03/divorce-or-stay-parents-must-put-kids-first-either-way/

“How can someone like you still be single?” How many of you have heard that question atfamily gatherings, a party with friends, or during a work event leaving you with that feeling of being, “the last single girl on the block.” This question may lead you to ask other questions that become an internal dialogue, “If I am so wonderful, how come I’m still single?” or, “Why does my singleness matter to so many people?” Through working with my clients, I have found that the extent, to which you allow the “last girl” label to define you, can affect your ability to move forward and find love.
What’s behind your feelings?
In today’s world 1 out of 4 adult women havenever been married, and that statistic is on the rise. Consequently, the desire to meet andget married is still a priority for most single women today. You may have heard or read claims that unmarried women have been so busy managing their careers they somehow didn’t have time to look up and notice the flotilla of single, marriageminded men floating right by them.
There are many opinions about how still single women are, “too selective, or promiscuous, or self-involved, or inflexible” toseek out and recognize a marriage minded guy. For some this might be very accurate. However, there are those who have tried andfound themselves still single even after searching for so long. Faced with the fact that roughly 50% of adults are married; you may believe that by a certain age, you should be paired off.
The media can add to this expectation by “selling” us the couple concept. It would be difficult to avoid all those smiling happy couples coming at you from the TV, movies, magazine, and advertisements – even if you wanted to.
Friends and family
The pressure to get married is often compounded by family and friends, which begs the question, why does your “singleness” matter to so many people? These people love you and want you to be happy and fulfilled. They have found their happiness by being in a relationship, so they believe the same will be true for you. Parents, friends and well-meaning relatives may ask you about that “terrific guy” you dated a zillion years ago; or the one who “got away”.
They may talk about siblings who have children or their friends with grandchildren to let you know they are more than ready to place their order. These conversations can leave you feeling that no matter what else you have achieved in other areas of your life, if you are still single, the slate is wiped clean of those accomplishments.
How this pressure turns inward
Amongst all the external pressure is the internal realization that you are still on your quest to find love. Many, if not all of your single friends are moving on, finding love and getting married. If you have been the lastsingle girl at more than one wedding; it can begin to affect your self-confidence, no matter how much of it you started with. The circumstance of watching yet another one of your friends become happily married while still desiring to meet your ideal mate can feel isolating at times. When this happens, it can be helpful to.......... Due to space, Pls kindly read more of this @ http://coolpenny./2013/04/02/feeling-like-the-last-single-girl-on-the-block/

Tips and Warnings

Every time you go out with your boyfriend you have to deal with his friends? Is it a pain because whenever he is not around you don’t know how to star a conversation or what to say? That is the most normal thing in a relationship but you do have to get to know them because you don’t know how much time you’re going to spend with them, and most important, it is the people your boyfriend care for and spend a lot of time with.

Steps

1 Whatever you talk about be sincere.

2 Act like they are your friends too, don’t be afraid.

3 Ask them about what they do, their hobbies or about their girlfriends

4 Never forget to be discrete

5 Don’t talk about your boyfriend

6 Don’t gossip, guys are not girls.

7 Try to have the best sense of humor, laugh and also tell jokes, you don’t want to act antisocial.

At a party

1 If you feel nervous every time you enter a room full of people you don’t know and most important, are those people are your boyfriend friends?

2 Don’t be, remember you are the girlfriend, the one they have to like and respect but it will always be more fun if they feel like you are a friend instead of a girlfriend.

3 Whenever you find yourself in a situation surrounded by your boyfriend friend and he is not around don’t act like you are looking for him (remember he wrote you to both socialize not to be glued to each other), instead, act friendly, go for a drink and ask about how the day was or how was last night party,tell a joke, talk about an article you read or about news you just heard, and then continue talking, they will eventually ask you something or tell you something.

4 Don’t forget, female friends are always harder to deal but if you act like you have nothing to loose and talk to them about things you are interested they will like you. Don’t take things too serious.

At a dinner

1 Being at a dinner or in a double date can be very fun, just don’t act too serious and try to laugh.It can be 10 people or 4, doesn’t matter.

2 Try to not talk about you as a couple, but more as yourself.

3 It is easy to talk about movies,books, events, because you are not too many people and discussions can be fun (of course be respectful and easy going)

if there is a friend you don’t like or he/her doesn’t like you…

1 Never be mean or disrespectful, no matter what they say or did.

2 Say hello and change seats or go talk to someone else, you don’t want to be the center of attention and less if the attention is negative.

http://coolpenny./2013/03/29/how-to-get-along-with-your-boyfriends-best-friends/

ndu_chucks: If I didn't know better, I'd conclude that you are brainless buffoon, but I do know that you are suffering from bigory and extreme tribalism, so I'll continue to believe that that is the reason for your poor judgement and interpretation of my posts. Stop pretending to be a dummy, dummy!

Insulting me was a very cheap approach. You should know better.

ndu_chucks: I will have a conversation with you and ignore the emotional effeminates namely, Eze Onlytruth and one xtgozie. Those guys cannot comprehend simple English. I've condemned terrorism including the Kano bombings, yet they continue to ask me to condemn terrorism. Their biafran baggage is weighing them down to the point that I can no longer help them with common sense.

Obinoscopy, I have personally visited 4 major prisons where the so-called Boko Haram suspects are housed (don't ask me for more details ). Most of the prisoners are teenagers and in their early twenties who had nothing to lose and became ready tools to Boko Haram leaders. A substantial number of these prisoners are innocent relatives of BH operatives being hunted down by the Feds.

I sincerely believe that most of those kids in custody should be given Amnesty and rehabilitated. The federal government also needs to pour billions of naira into the region much like they are doing in the SS as part of the MEND Amnesty program, to better the lives of these people and make them less vulnerable to the abuses of Politicians who use them as thugs. If the Federal government gives these unemployed youths without hope, encouragement and the promise of a bright future, that will significantly reduce the pool of foot soldiers available to the dangerous terrorists.


I am more concerned about giving Amnesty to some of the most marginalized Nigerians who are being used by politicians and extremists to do their dirty deeds.

As far as Ansaru and the radicalized people who are operating with impunity in Nigeria goes, GEJ should fight the war which they have brought against Nigeria. We are at war with these people and our President is AWOL. He promised to release the list of Boko Haram sponsors last year, but we are yet to see the list. The dangerous members of BH who are arrested always seem to find their ways out of jail.

I say enough is enough. [/b] Its time to replace this President, preferably before 2015.[b]

BTW: For information on Ansaru, start with this profile by BBC

I was waiting to see where all your corridor comments will lead to. And the bolded showed it all. So go ahead and tell us who's campaign team u are on? U want Johnathan out to instate who?

ndu_chucks: I know that you are not an illiterate so you read what I wrote. Too bad if my position is different from yours, nothing you all say will make us think alike.

Because of your cordiality, I will restate my position in a itemized manner:

(1)I join all well meaning Nigerians in condemning the Kano bombing and all other terrorist acts against Nigerian citizens.

(2)The responsibility for national security lies squarely with the Federal government led by GEJ. I believe it is safe to state that GEJ and his employees have failed miserably in this regard.

(3)The security agents led by GEJ and his national security team are making the national security problem of terrorism worse by using JTF to indiscriminately killing innocent Nigerians in Bornu, South East, and other parts of Nigeria.

(4)The biggest terrorism threat to our country is Ansaru, a group which seems to operate with impunity because of the incompetent national security agencies led by GEJ

(5)Its time to give amnesty to BH and other local disgruntled groups much like was done with MEND. The time has come to face the real threat, Ansaru, squarely. Let's hope GEJ understands this.
You get the picture

I wouldn't say I didn't get the picture u tried to paint.

But the fact still remains, the attacks on the Igbos, are terrorist attacks.
Not only u have condemned the terrorism in the northern Nigeria, but Ndigbo has in totality condemned and abhorred terrorist and their acts, both in d north and any part of d word in its fullest measure.

I have not seen this thread as a tool to engineer or minister the disintegration of Nigeria as its valuable option. But rather a call on the Fed. Govt. And those concerned to stand on their toes if need be and force a stop on the killings of Ndigbo in the northern parts of Nigeria, and also address d killings of ndigbo in any part of this country to a point where u, me and every Igbo person(s) will say, "at last justice is served".

So young man which I believe u are. Whatever school of thought u belong to, like I care. It has gone beyond tribal interests , to a point where u and those with and without concerns should know, that humans are being killed. So let's not play politics on a table of blood. Cos people will get stained.

The killing of my brothers and sisters in the north and in every part of this country must stop. And must stop now. Because it has gotten to a point where it's no longer the call of the FG.


If u will allow me respond to if Boko Haram should be granted amnesty. It will point us on " who and whom are these terrorists ", since the Federal Government claims they are faceless!

NOTE: the security of our Nation is not "squarely the responsibility of GEJ and its crew" like u above stated. But a collective responsibility of all of us. And I believe that this thead and its OP has taken its role, in playing a part in a collective responsibility of "our national security.


Ndi banyi ekenem unu.
Onye jisike olue ani Eze.

ndu_chucks: Stop pretending to be a dummy, dummy! No one can justify the murder of innocent Nigerians. What we all should be calling for is the arrest, prosecution, and judgement of the terrorists and their sponsors, who are responsible for the killings.

To date, the authorities are yet to arrest and prosecute a single major sponsor of terrorism while those who are arrested either escape or released for lack of evidence. To make matters worse, GEJ's administration's policies call for JTF to continue to terrorize innocent Nigerians and family members of BH further aggravating the situation.

Unlike you, I hold BH members responsible for their terrorism, and also hold GEJ's JTF responsible for indiscriminately killing women and children in Bornu and other places.


Unfortunately for you, your bigotry will not allow you to see that GEJ's JTF is also summarily killing your own people in the East. If you are looking for mass murderers, you may want to investigate the murder of 30 - 40 of your people who were recently found in a river. You'll probably find out that some of GEJ's agencies may have a hand in the affair. mumu

U have been running up and down. And haven't stated ur stand.
What are u actually saying? Cos I never understand u.

Press Release - The Oganiru Ndigbo Foundation (ONF) an umbrella organization of progressive Igbo men and women from all walks of life both at home and in the Diaspora notes with dismay the wanton lust for Igbo blood which has become the signature of the Nigerian State in the last four decades. Most especially we have noted

the frantic efforts by the Boko Haram insurgents and other organization hiding under similar claims to unleash terror on mostly innocent Igbos at every little opportunity.

We state that what took place at the New Road, Sabon Gari, Kano, the Kano State capital on Monday is to say the least unwarranted, quite disgusting, but nonetheless not surprising to us as it is in line with similar patterns in the recent past to attack Igbo interests in different parts of the federation under the guise of fighting a phony religious war.

While the Oganiru Ndigbo Foundation takes exception to this development and calls on the Federal Government to be alert to its duty of protecting the lives and property of every citizen of this country, we warn that failure to stop this orchestrated attacks on Ndigbo will most likely lead this country to a land of no return.

We also express our disappointment at the lame response from the Office of the President that ‘’the Federal Government will not be stampeded, for any reason whatsoever, into abandoning its unrelenting war against terrorists in the country’’. We want to see visible evidence of that unrelenting war. More so, we want the government to move beyond mere rhetoric in its unusual assurance that the ‘Nigerian Government will continue to do all that is required to ensure the safety of lives and property, including continued collaboration with local and international partners and stakeholders to check the menace of terrorism’’.

But most shocking is the muteness of Igbo leaders from those at the National Assembly to the State Governors who waited until others have condemned the act before making comments. This level of political correctness which has been the lot of Igbo leaders is quite condemnable in the face of this recurrent desire by elements of Islamic fundamentalism to continue maiming and wasting Igbo lives. So shocking is the fact that members of the South East Caucus of the House of Representatives were quiet while Hon. Ibrahim Olaifa (Accord Party/Oyo) was the one who sponsored a motion on the need to end the activities of terrorist groups in Nigeria was adopted for a resolution.

Senator Ike Ekweremadu’s belated call on security agencies to fish out culprits of the crime and that those behind these wicked acts should come to repentance, embrace dialogue, patriotism and respect for human life as prescribed by our laws, cultures and religious faith is to say the least a repetition we are tired of hearing.

We warn that this disregard for lives and most especially the attacks on Igbos across the northern part of this country should be stopped henceforth. We are making every effort to restrain our youths from retaliatory acts as we know such will have a negative impact on an already bad situation. However, our restraining powers will not be there forever, as we too are human. Government should act, and act decisively by employing whatever means necessary to bring these criminals to book and take steps to make this country safe again.

LONG LIVE NDIGBO!!!
FOR AND ON BEHALF OF OGANIRU NDIGBO FOUNDATION

Architect LUCAS UCHE ONUH- President General Dr.GAIUS ONUH NDUKWE- Secretary General
Barrister EMEKA MADUEWESI- Leader

Press Release - The Oganiru Ndigbo Foundation (ONF) an umbrella organization of progressive Igbo men and women from all walks of life both at home and in the Diaspora notes with dismay the wanton lust for Igbo blood which has become the signature of the Nigerian State in the last four decades. Most especially we have noted

the frantic efforts by the Boko Haram insurgents and other organization hiding under similar claims to unleash terror on mostly innocent Igbos at every little opportunity.

We state that what took place at the New Road, Sabon Gari, Kano, the Kano State capital on Monday is to say the least unwarranted, quite disgusting, but nonetheless not surprising to us as it is in line with similar patterns in the recent past to attack Igbo interests in different parts of the federation under the guise of fighting a phony religious war.

While the Oganiru Ndigbo Foundation takes exception to this development and calls on the Federal Government to be alert to its duty of protecting the lives and property of every citizen of this country, we warn that failure to stop this orchestrated attacks on Ndigbo will most likely lead this country to a land of no return.

We also express our disappointment at the lame response from the Office of the President that ‘’the Federal Government will not be stampeded, for any reason whatsoever, into abandoning its unrelenting war against terrorists in the country’’. We want to see visible evidence of that unrelenting war. More so, we want the government to move beyond mere rhetoric in its unusual assurance that the ‘Nigerian Government will continue to do all that is required to ensure the safety of lives and property, including continued collaboration with local and international partners and stakeholders to check the menace of terrorism’’.

But most shocking is the muteness of Igbo leaders from those at the National Assembly to the State Governors who waited until others have condemned the act before making comments. This level of political correctness which has been the lot of Igbo leaders is quite condemnable in the face of this recurrent desire by elements of Islamic fundamentalism to continue maiming and wasting Igbo lives. So shocking is the fact that members of the South East Caucus of the House of Representatives were quiet while Hon. Ibrahim Olaifa (Accord Party/Oyo) was the one who sponsored a motion on the need to end the activities of terrorist groups in Nigeria was adopted for a resolution.

Senator Ike Ekweremadu’s belated call on security agencies to fish out culprits of the crime and that those behind these wicked acts should come to repentance, embrace dialogue, patriotism and respect for human life as prescribed by our laws, cultures and religious faith is to say the least a repetition we are tired of hearing.

We warn that this disregard for lives and most especially the attacks on Igbos across the northern part of this country should be stopped henceforth. We are making every effort to restrain our youths from retaliatory acts as we know such will have a negative impact on an already bad situation. However, our restraining powers will not be there forever, as we too are human. Government should act, and act decisively by employing whatever means necessary to bring these criminals to book and take steps to make this country safe again.

LONG LIVE NDIGBO!!!
FOR AND ON BEHALF OF OGANIRU NDIGBO FOUNDATION

Architect LUCAS UCHE ONUH- President General Dr.GAIUS ONUH NDUKWE- Secretary General
Barrister EMEKA MADUEWESI- Leader

When Haiti was struck by a devastating earthquake the world realized that the magnitude of the disaster was beyond the capability of Haitians to cope hence they mounted a massive rescue and relief effort. As we speak, the continuing war in Syria is causing untold hardship on the citizens. This has lead some countries and organizations to offer relief to people who are suffering and cannot help themselves.

The Ezu river disaster and information surrounding the whole matter is daily being revealed to us. It is absolutely clear to any one who cares to follow what is happening in Nigeria that the people are probably helpless, for whatever reason. The question is this; what are we Nigerians abroad, Igbo abroad and Ndi Anambra abroad doing to help those that cannot help themselves. Are we going to be content with Internet postings in the comfort of our homes and just cry crocodile tears?

The issues involved concern all of us as Nigerians either directly or vicariously. The matter of corruption, police brutality and impunity has gone on for too long and will not stop on its own if nothing is done.

 

This is a challenge to the Nigerians abroad to come to the rescue of our kith and kin. This matter transcends  tribe, ethnicity and state.

RIP to all the untimely departed souls

rafindo: .agent of mediocrity very soon we will now be reserving first position for them.pathetic how we encourage mediocrity on the altar of merit.

Well I don't have any comment. My Oga at the top will make it known to u.

Onlytruth: In fact if Soludo decides to contest for Anambra gubernatorial seat next year, I will campaign for him with my own money (whatever it is worth).

This is a promise I will keep.

PDP or no PDP, Soludo ka anyi ga eso!

igweeeeeeeeee. Ude asulu na mba, anu ya na mba.

Torch1: Soludo might be a good candidate but he can't win Anambra under PDP.

Watch out for Ifeanyi Patrick Uba(owner of Capital Oil), he is now selling Kerosene at subsidized rate of ₦50 per litre from one town to another.
I think he is going to be our next governor under APGA!

The man get mouth for Anambra!

i know of ifeanyi's influence on the anambra populace, especially on the low and middle class.
But i disagree with that. Because, nnewi has a great deal of money men, and it won't be fair for them to have money and power at the same time ( ifeanyi came from a community that has d most money men in d state, so de cant have money and power with them)......
All anambra senatorial zones have got their share of power, save anambra north. I will employ dem to choose from that zone.

We have all spoken well on our interest on one gubernatorial candidate or d other........ But my fear still remains, if after any of these gentle men and gurus are elected in office, will they deliver? Or won't de turn out to be the disappointment or mistake like GEJ, Obi, Rochas, Amaechi, Theodore, Elechi and their likes.

dridowu: I need to ask my oga at the top may be i should contest also

oji gi o

Afam4eva: [size=14pt]If i say i'm happy, it's an understatement. Thank God Soludo has decided to run again to salvage the situation in Anambra.[/size]

Afam4eva: [size=14pt]If i say i'm happy, it's an understatement. Thank God Soludo has decided to run again to salvage the situation in Anambra.[/size]

Afam4eva: [size=14pt]If i say i'm happy, it's an understatement. Thank God Soludo has decided to run again to salvage the situation in Anambra.[/size]

what made u think Soludo is d messiah Anambra needs?

Awolowo is Nigrian version of Hitler

T8ksy: What truth? The mere fact that your post wasn't hidden means you are telling porkies.

You guys are just sore losers, jo.

R.I.P Pa Awo- oko ibo!

U be fake.

mikolo80: ARE YOU SURE COS EVIDENCE OF BEING SMART IS COMING OUT NOW INSTEAD OF CRYING IN UR QUIET PLACE LATER. SO NO ANAMBRA OR ANY STATE FOR THAT MATTER DOES NOT HAVE TOO MANY SMART PPL.COWARDS YES,SMART NO

U don't dare any anambra or igbo man. Cos I don't think u are intelligent enough to match their foolishness

No mind Seun na him way.

Billyonaire: Seun, why dont you shut down this site if you hate to hear the truth ? The fact that 90% of posts are hidden is an indication of awareness of truth. What legacy will you leave behind ? ...That you own a communist style forum ?