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Who Were the Prophet’s Wives?

Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) married 12 wives in his life. When he died he had 9 wives. They have a very special status in the hearts of Muslims as the “Mothers of the Believers,” as the Quran instructs, and they are the source of a great amount of wisdom which they learned while living close to such a great man. Perhaps you’d like to research a bit to find their beautiful stories, so here are their names: Khadijah bint Khuwaylid, Sawdah bint Zam’ah, `A’ishah bint Abi Bakr, Hafsah bint `Umar ibn Al-Khattab, Zaynab bint Khuzaymah, Umm Salama, Zaynab bint Jahsh, Juwayriah bint Al-Harith, Umm Habibah, Safiyah bint Huyay ibn Akhtab, Maymunah bint Al-Harith, Maria the Copt.

Reasons for the Prophet’s Marriages

We can categorize all his marriages under two aspects of his personality:

- Muhammad the man who needed a loving wife, children, and a stable home, so he married Khadijah and remained with only her for 20 years until she died.

- Muhammad the Prophet who married the other wives for reasons pertaining to his duty to deliver the Message to the world. Those particular women were carefully selected, not just haphazardly “acquired” for carnal reasons, as suggested. Here are some of the reasons for which Muhammad married:

1. To pass on Islam to the next generations as a practical legacy
Prophet Muhammad is the only prophet without any privacy, and with a meticulously preserved tradition in speech and actions in all minute details of his public and private life. Preserved in the sharp minds of his wives and his Companions, those narrations comprise the “daily life manual” for Muslims to follow until the end of time. The fact that Islam was spread on the shoulders of women and preserved in their hearts is a great honor to the females of this Ummah. The books of authentic Hadith attribute more than 3,000 narrations and Prophetic traditions to his wives alone.

2. To cement the relations of the budding nation
In a tribal society, it was customary to seal treaties through marrying into tribes. Muhammad’s closest Companions later became the four caliphs who led Islam at the critical stage after his death. Two of them were the fathers of his wives `A’ishah (daughter of Abu Bakr) and Hafsa (daughter of `Umar); the other two married his daughters (`Uthman married Ruqayyah and Zaynab in succession, and `Ali married Fatimah).

3. To teach Muslims compassion with women
He taught them to be compassionate not just to the young and beautiful maidens, but more so to the weak and destitute widows, divorcees, orphans, and elderly women. Islam teaches that women are to be respected, protected, and cared for by their men folk. They’re not to be cast out to face a harsh life alone while able men around them just pity them and do nothing to help, or worse, use their weakness to take them as mistresses!

4. To offer a practical role model to Muslims until the end of time
Although many believing women often approached Muhammad offering him themselves in marriage, he politely turned down their offers. Most of his wives after the death of Khadijah were old, devoid of beauty, and previously married, except `A’ishah, who was the only young virgin. He married from other nations and religions; some were the daughters of his worst enemies, and his marriage to one woman won all her people into Islam. Regardless of his neutral feelings towards many of them, he was a model example of equal justice and kindness to them all, and he would never discriminate among them.

Stages of the Prophet’s (peace and blessings be upon him) Married Life

First, let’s remember that Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) led a life supported only by the bare minimum of necessities. His wives were not idly wasting away the hours in a luxurious harem but led a life of labor and sacrifice, while he was mostly busy away from home overseeing his numerous duties as a Prophet. So, obviously, lust was not a factor, as he wasn’t even at home most of the time. Further, most of his marriages occurred at an age when lust is not a major factor in any man’s life:

1. He remained single until age 25.

2. From age 25 to 50 he was faithful to only one wife, Khadijah, who bore all his children except one. She was 15 years older than him, with children from two previous marriages. She was his greatest ally when he received the Call at age 40 until she died when he was 50 years old. He remained in love with her until he died and often talked of his life with her with great nostalgia.

3. Between ages 50 and 52 he remained unmarried and mourning his late beloved wife. He lived alone with his daughters.

4. Between ages 53 and 60 he married all his other wives for many noble reasons detailed below. It’s unimaginable for a man to suddenly turn lustful at this age, especially as he was constantly traveling, with bloodthirsty enemies on his heels.

5. At age 60, Allah revealed to him verse preventing him from marrying any more until he died, which was at age 63. The Quran says what means:

{It is not lawful for you (to marry other) women after this, nor to change them for other wives.} (Al-Ahzab 33:52)

Why Is the Exception of Polygamy Allowed in Islam?

The exception is made for many reasons, but let’s note only one here, addressing your concern that Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) “had intercourse outside of wedlock.”

In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses or multiple extra-marital affairs. Women in this case are degraded to mere sex objects with absolutely no rights; they’re usually on the losing end of such liaisons. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife so that women can retain their lawful rights and lead an honorable, dignified, and respectable life.

If every adult American man married only one woman, there would still be more than 25 million women in the United States who would not be able to get husbands, at least considering that—according to latest statistics—10 percent of the American population is gay! That’s close to 30 million people!

Thus the only option for a woman who cannot find a husband is either to marry a married man or to become “public property.” Islam gives women the honorable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second. At least one of the reasons Islam has permitted limited polygamy is to protect the modesty of women!


Islam’s Straightforward Approach in Problem Solving

In Islam, problems are supposed to be faced and solved—not ignored! So, rather than requiring hypocritical compliance, Islam provides legitimate and clean solutions to the problems of individuals and societies. There is no doubt that the second wife legally married and treated kindly is better off than a mistress without any legal rights. Through practical example, Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) as the guide of Muslims has set the applicable rules for this aspect of human relations in order not to leave anything for speculation.

Islam Didn’t Invent Polygamy but Only Regulated It—in Favor of Women!

From the above accounts, we can clearly see that Prophets—including Muhammad—were allowed to be more polygamous than their followers, not just for carnal reasons, but for political and religious reasons pertaining to their call. Consequently, it is groundless to wonder why Muslims can’t marry 12 wives like their prophet, just as it is groundless to wonder why Jews and Christians can’t marry 700 like theirs! Islam didn’t invent polygamy; Islam only made polygamy more humane, instituting equal rights for all wives. And even so, Muslim women are not forced to accept this and may put a condition against it in their marriage contract.



The Quran Is the Only Holy Book That Actually Says “Marry Only One”

Images of “sheikhs with harems” are not consistent with Islam, as, in fact, the general rule in Islam is monogamy not polygamy. the Quran says what means:

{Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one.} (An-Nisaa’ 3:3)

Polygamy in Islam is not recommended; it is only permitted under certain guidelines. Permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of passion. It is, rather, associated with compassion toward widows and orphans.

Before the Quran was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygamy, and many men had more than four wives. Islam put an upper limit of four wives, permitting a man to marry more than once, only on the condition that he deal justly with all of them. Yet the same verse points out:
{Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women} (Al-Nisaa’ 3:129)

Therefore polygamy is not a rule but an exception.

Salam Amy,

Thank you for the ongoing dialogue with our page. We enjoy bouncing ideas back and forth with you, as it seems you’re researching Islam diligently.

Women are often brought into the picture when discussing Islam because their status—if not studied thoroughly and objectively—is severely misunderstood. Under those inaccurate assumptions, Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is often accused of practicing and encouraging unjust treatment of women, while the truth is actually the opposite—as I hope you will see after reading this answer.

I’m encouraged by your thoughtful, questioning nature to attempt to crystallize the true picture of this great man. Let’s take an objective peek into his life, to examine whether or not Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is that repelling womanizer. But first let’s go a little further back in history to look at the domestic lives of other prophets preceding Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and what their Scriptures tell us about their stance towards the polygamy issue:

Other Prophets Practiced Polygamy

The fact that only Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is accused of polygamy is rather surprising, since this is a privilege enjoyed by prophets before him. Their wives and concubines came in great numbers, too! The Torah, the Bible, and the Quran tell of some of them; the rest are not mentioned so we don’t know, but among the ones who were polygamous we can count Prophets Ibrahim (Abraham), Ya`qub (Jacob), Dawud (David), and Sulayman (Solomon). The Scriptures talk of polygamy as a “favor” bestowed upon them from the Lord.

First Kings 11:1-3 indicates that King Solomon had 700 hundred wives and 300 hundred concubines! In sealing treaties in ancient days, it was customary for a lesser king to give his daughter in marriage to the greater king. Every time a new treaty was sealed, Solomon ended up with yet another wife. These wives were considered “tokens of friendship” and “sealed” the relationship between the two kings. (Reasoning from the Scriptures on 1 Kings)

Scripture indicates that David also acquired wives and concubines, David’s blessings, including his wives, were given to him as a result of God’s favor (2 Sam. 5:12-13; 12:8; D & C 132:39). Scriptural records say that the Lord did command some of his ancient saints to practice plural marriage. Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob—among others (D & C 132)—conformed to this ennobling and exalting principle; the whole history of ancient Israel was one in which plurality of wives was a divinely accepted and approved order of matrimony. Those who entered this order at the Lord’s command, and who kept the laws and conditions appertaining to it, have gained for themselves eternal exaltation in the highest heaven of the celestial world. ( Mormon Doctrine of Plural Marriage p. 578)

This is the question from a christian:

I have a question regarding marriage and the wives of Muhammad. Why is it that, if Islam only permits up to four wives, and even then does not encourage it, Muhammad took nine wives? Also, one of his wives was only seven years old when he married her, and nine when he consummated the marriage, according to your Web site. This seems to me akin to child molestation! Also, one of his children was not from one of his wives, but from one of his “right-hand possessions” to quote your own Web site. Why is a woman called a possession? Is this a concubine? Why did he have intercourse outside of wedlock? Weren’t nine women enough for him? Muhammad’s own lifestyle seems to contradict the very teachings Islam claims regarding marriage and women.

Answer follows:

OLAADEGBU:
What evidence? The fact is that Saudi Arabia didn't take Syrians in as refugees but to work as servants.

what did you understand from that link please?

ProphetUdeme:
is this the religion that i could be converted to? Your role model prophet was paedophile, raped children, stole from the poor, got married to thousand women, a religion full of lust and violence, a religion that promises you 72 virgin to be defiling with in allah's unholy heaven. recently your allahu akbar god disappointed you by overthrowing a crane that killed countless of your muslim colleagues while they went to worship him. Chai what a religion. Truthman2013, yazach, rilwon, rilwayne001, demmzy15, vedaxcool etc. you guys need help to come to Christ and be set free from Islam the foundation of lies.
For your information i read in surah were your god promises hell fire to all muslims. If you doubt me, Ask parisbookaddict. Shameless people. Animals

when are you going to grow up?

parisbookaddict:
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The fall of Europe has entered full throttle, they reJect God thE father and his son, they now have to contend with Islamic allah.

Majority of Europe will be dominated by muslims 50years from now, I hope it never happens but the current trend shows it will, what a pity.

Has anyone of the European parliamentarians asked themselves why the muslims are not going to other Persian, middle eastern, north African and gulf Arab states, eg Saudi Arabic where their prophet is buried, Qatar, Iran, Lebanon, Kuwait, Jordan, Yemen, UAE, turkey which is just by Syria and Iraq, and why have these Islamic countries not made effort to help their fellow muslims. They know what they are doing.
Empiree, YazAch, rilwanye001, mustymatic EzioAuditore abduljabbar4 tartar9 profdombledor 9jaforlife Abuamam tola9ja ThelightOfIslam tbaba1234 Sweetnecta
vedaxcool etc u can try and answer that. Why are these immigrants not going to their brothers in other Islamic countries.

The refugee crisis is a terrible thing, but muslims brought It on themselves, the violence and unforgiving nature of their religion ensures such conflicts will keep happening. The innocent blood they and their father shed is coming back to hunt them, isaiah even prophesied this conflicts and genesis said that the children of ishmael will be in conflict with themselves/brothers as well as roam like wild donkeys. Emphasis on like, it didn't say they "are" wild donkeys unlike the quran that calls Jews pigs and monkeys and Christians cattle.

Do u know that the quran says that mecca will be destroyed when Christ returns. Of course it will( empiree correct me if I am wrong about this) because they are drunk with the blood of the Christian martyrs as prophesied in revelations. They apotheosize the kabba and adore it, its idolatry and an abomination to the Lord.
It will be destroyed and yet muslims still think a mass murderer was a prophet. Walid shoebat was studying the bible and the quran to see how to defend his muslim believes and then discovered he was on the wrong side. I pray a muslim reading this will see how problematic and vile true Islam is.

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Christians talk before looking for evidence!! Well this will cure your virous
http://www.siasat.com/news/saudi-arabia-receives-2-5-million-syrians-834429/

truthman2013:


The thread is a Joke though, but ProphetUdeme though was wrong by guessing that truthman2013 was you. However, he was right by Including rilwayne in his guess, because it is truly I (rilwayne001).

This moniker was created with the motive of countering the lies been spread by the notorious belligerent old man named truthman2012 a.k.a bassilico. And also to clear some misconception that the Quran endorses violence.

He was met with a fierce refutal on this thread after boasting that no one can address his lies. I later challenged hm to a debate and ever since then, he went offline.

Nevertheless, that particular prohetUdeme's thread needd to be in the recycle bin or in the joke section as you've rightly opined.

Salaam alaikum dear brother.

truthman..

Wa alaikum salam warahmotullah.

Could this be from a sane entity?

I just noticed that someone mentioned my monika and that of my brother rilwayn, so I opened the thread and I was wondering if a sane creature could thought of this and even posted it on social media.

But I can just stop laughing and I think I should make my brothers share from this laughing stock

Please check this thread
https://www.nairaland.com/2587536/muslim-lady-alhaja-amina-dies/1

I think seun should move it to joke section

So funny

tola9ja, vedaxcool Empiree, Rilwayne001 Demmzy15

OLAADEGBU:
Who is brave between these two mothers?

Grow up man

OLAADEGBU:
Who do you support?

Grow up now

tola9ja:
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My brother you got that idiot

It seems OLADEEGBU is boasting of Israel as if it belongs to Christians
What will you want Jews to say?
Mr man you have no say there

parisbookaddict:
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The fall of Europe has entered full throttle, they reJect God thE father and his son, they now have to contend with Islamic allah.

Majority of Europe will be dominated by muslims 50years from now, I hope it never happens but the current trend shows it will, what a pity.

Has anyone of the European parliamentarians asked themselves why the muslims are not going to other Persian, middle eastern, north African and gulf Arab states, eg Saudi Arabic where their prophet is buried, Qatar, Iran, Lebanon, Kuwait, Jordan, Yemen, UAE, turkey which is just by Syria and Iraq, and why have these Islamic countries not made effort to help their fellow muslims. They know what they are doing.
Empiree, YazAch, rilwanye001, mustymatic EzioAuditore abduljabbar4 tartar9 profdombledor 9jaforlife Abuamam tola9ja ThelightOfIslam tbaba1234 Sweetnecta
vedaxcool etc u can try and answer that. Why are these immigrants not going to their brothers in other Islamic countries.

The refugee crisis is a terrible thing, but muslims brought It on themselves, the violence and unforgiving nature of their religion ensures such conflicts will keep happening. The innocent blood they and their father shed is coming back to hunt them, isaiah even prophesied this conflicts and genesis said that the children of ishmael will be in conflict with themselves/brothers as well as roam like wild donkeys. Emphasis on like, it didn't say they "are" wild donkeys unlike the quran that calls Jews pigs and monkeys and Christians cattle.

Do u know that the quran says that mecca will be destroyed when Christ returns. Of course it will( empiree correct me if I am wrong about this) because they are drunk with the blood of the Christian martyrs as prophesied in revelations. They apotheosize the kabba and adore it, its idolatry and an abomination to the Lord.
It will be destroyed and yet muslims still think a mass murderer was a prophet. Walid shoebat was studying the bible and the quran to see how to defend his muslim believes and then discovered he was on the wrong side. I pray a muslim reading this will see how problematic and vile true Islam is.

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Dear Madam,
I am using this room to ask you when will you grow up?

Kunlexic:
Dis guy need help...

I agree with you

Pyrrho:
So?

Embrace Islam

parisbookaddict:
So sad
Thats islam for u... the al taqiyyah makes them smile to ur face while they curse u in their hearts.

Cc
Rilwayne001 ayinba01 yazach 9jaforlife empiree

Long time!!! So you are still wandering with your idiocy

And you invited me because of that poo.

Allahu Akbar!!! See the truthfulness of the Qura'an what this unbeliever stated here has been mentioned in the Qura'an and it fits them

And We have certainly created for Hell many of the jinn and mankind. They have hearts with which they do not understand, they have eyes with which they do not see, and they have ears with which they do not hear. Those are like livestock; rather, they are more astray. It is they who are the heedless. Sura 7:179

While people like ifean, malvisguy etc are ranting and wallowing in their stupid hatred for the only Acceptable religion by God(Allah), some reasonable people are being blessed with Al-Islam

Source:http://www.tori.ng/news/7536/shocking-pastor-and-his-480-church-members-convert.html

At this junction, I wan't to use this medium to invite the op firstEVA and others to Islam and become a priceless, beautiful, respected, most cherished and valuable human being like our Muslim sisters

Please say Ameen
May Almighty Allah in His infinite mercy bless our Muslim Sister using Hijjab.

Muslim Sisters that are yet to be using Hijjab I have a good news for you
Please you are far far beautiful in Hijjab than any creature on the surface of the earth. May Allahmake it easy for you

Elxandre:
Be deceiving yourselves..
Those Muslims girls dating are what?

The moment you have intimate intentions, that person is called a boyfriend/girlfriend, sexual relations involved or not.

If you have a Muslims as girl friend, this doesn't and will never means it is allowed in Islam. BF/GF is totally prohibited in Islam

Will an adulterous christian justify adultery is allowed in Christianity?

Please Islam is according to Qura'an and Authentic Hadith not according to behavior a an entity

When some idiots are busy making fool of themselves thinking that they are attacking Islam and Muslim, people still embrace islam.
Firstly, I would like to say how beautiful it has been to receive hundreds of messages of joy and ad’aiya at the news of my mother embracing Islam. Many of you have asked me ‘How?’ and ‘What happened?’ And so grab a cup of something…here is my mother’s story…

I embraced Islam in 1999. As a new Muslim, I lacked hikmah (wisdom) in how I dealt with my mother. I so badly wanted her to taste the sweetness of emaan but gave her dawah in quite a harsh ‘black and white’ manner. Needless to say, it put her off and her previous negative view of Islam only intensified.

Our relationship over the following 16 years has been a very turbulent one. There were many arguments, she criticised my decision to become Muslim, and couldn’t understand how I would leave my ‘trendy’ ways to don the full hijab. She thought I was going through a phase and later described my action as ‘pure madness’. Many years went by where she wouldn’t speak to me or if she did, she spoke to me with such icy contempt as though I was a stranger.

Mid 2004, I discovered I was pregnant and I hoped that the news of her first grandchild would mend our broken relationship. I remember calling her to break the news, only for her to reply ‘Oh okay’ and then to put the phone down! A few weeks later, I received a letter that made me tremble and cry such heart-wrenching tears. In her letter, she cursed the Prophet (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam), she ripped Islam to shreds and she spoke of her ‘hatred’ towards myself and my chosen way of life. I broke down just wanting to be close to my mother and for her to be happy with who I was and the news of her first grandchild. My husband turned to me and told me to be patient; that one day my mother would become Muslim. ‘Just be patient – one day you’ll look back at this day’, he advised me.

Alhamdulillah, my first child; a girl was born and subhanaAllah it did initially soften her heart. She visited us and was so happy – it’s amazing what grandchildren can do to a hardened heart subhanaAllah. Little did I know back then that this little baby would one day say something that would deeply touch her grandmother’s heart causing her to take the step and thus becoming a Muslim.

Over the years we tried to mend our relationship. Sometimes things would go well. Other times, we would go for months and years without talking. She would often curse the Prophet (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam) to deliberately hurt me. Despite the pain, I tried to keep in contact for fear of severing the ties of kinship and earning Allah’s wrath.
Then something changed. In 2011, I set up a charity called Solace for revert sisters in difficulty and during that busy first year with my amazing team, we began to support revert sisters around the world. I begged Allah to guide my mother and to relieve me of the distress of the thought of her dying as a non muslim. I spoke to Allah and told Him that He promised the believer’s distresses and difficulties would be relieved so long as they were at the service of their Muslim brother or sister – helping them; relieving them of their own difficulties. I would often ask Allah mentioning this hadith in my ad’aiya and that He would accept my work in Solace for His Sake and relieve me of my distress by guiding my mother to His Perfect and Beautiful deen.

Alhamdulillah, purely by the generosity of Allah azza wa jaal, I was blessed to go on hajj that year. Under the scorching heat of Arafah, I begged Allah to guide my immediate family to Islam…particularly my mother. Upon returning from hajj I had a dream that I was in the haraam with my mother and hoped that the beautiful dream would one day become a reality.

The next few years would see my mother begin to read about Islam. She was particularly taken by the story of Yusuf Estes and she watched many documentaries about Salahudden (may Allah be pleased with him. Ameen). My mother is an avid reader and she would share the books she was reading about Islam. I could see that her interest had ignited and I decided to back off. I did not want to put pressure on her and instead was there should she have any questions.

She began to develop a closer relationship with my children, particularly my eldest child. They would quite frankly tell her; ‘Mamie (grandma), please become Muslim’. ‘I want you to be in jannah with us’. She would smile and say ‘Who knows? Maybe one day…’

One day she called me and told me her opinion about Islam was changing. She said, ‘I don’t like what I see on the media – they paint Islam with such a negative light. I often find myself defending Islam when people say bad things about Muslims. I asked her whether she believed Islam was the correct way of life and she said she was beginning to but that her two remaining issues remained: the question of Jesus being the son of God or a prophet and how the Prophet (sallalahu alayhi wa sallam) could marry Aishah when she was so young and have so many wives (she was always the feminist and loved feminist literature!) I advised her to carry on reading and researching.

Not long after this, my mother went through some difficult tests. The entire extended family was worried about her and it was then that I spoke to her about the rahma of Allah and the peace that descends upon the heart that acknowledges its Lord. I told her to pray to God in her own way – to just speak to Him. I told her He is the Only One who can provide you with ease and peace.

Over the course of about a year, we would regularly speak. She would take long scenic walks and simply talk to God. She would ask Him for peace and ease and Allah, Ar-Rahman, provided that for her. I told her she can enjoy this sweet peace for the rest of her life when she finds the meaning and purpose to life and I encouraged her to sincerely from the bottom of her heart ask God for guidance and to be open to whatever it is He guides her to. She began to do that and during her walks alone in the beautiful countryside, she would begin her ‘conversation’ with God with ‘Bismillahir rahmanir raheem’ because for some reason it felt good and strangely beautiful (her words). It was then that I turned to my sisters and brothers in Islam – I asked everyone I knew to make dua for her. I did this because none of us know whom Allah truly loves and whose heart and soul is so pure that their dua would be accepted.

After that, she would seem so close to embracing Islam and then she would become distant and quiet. This went on until one day she told me she now believes that Jesus was a prophet and in her words, ‘My daughter – I have no negative feelings towards the Prophet Muhammad – all my concerns are no more. I believe he was a prophet’. It was here that my heart skipped a beat and I asked her what she believed in. She told me she did believe but wasn’t ready yet to become Muslim. I immediately backed off and turned instead to Allah in dua – begging Him to guide her.

In Ramadhan of this year, 2015, my eldest child informed my mother of a series that she has watched nearly 10 times! They begain to talk about it and my daughter advised her to watch it. The series is about the life of Umar bin al-Khattab (produced in Arabic but with English subtitles by MBC). My mother began to watch it and would send us email updates (she lives abroad) telling us how amazing the series is and how questions she had are being answered…one by one.

Last night, we Skyped my mother and it was a regular normal conversation. My children spoke to her as did I. We spoke about the latest happenings in our lives until my mother spoke about the Umar series. She said, ‘I want to tell you something – I now know what has been holding me back (from embracing Islam).’ My heart began to beat fast. Afraid to know the answer, I asked her ‘What is it Mum?’ She looked down and said, ‘Because I feel I don’t deserve it.’ My heart ached for her. It is now that I realise she identified with the life of Umar bin al-Khattab. He too once slandered the Prophet just like she did. He too said bad things just like she did. I replied, ‘Mum, when you look at the life of Umar (RA) did he deserve it? Yet Allah guided him because he knew there was something good in his heart.’ She whispered, ‘That’s true’. It was then that my eldest child turned to her and with tears in her eyes said to her, ‘You’re so dear to me. I want you to become Muslim because I don’t want you to be punished’. My Mum’s eyes filled with tears as did mine. Suddenly out of nowhere she shocked us and said…

‘But don’t you know…when I’m on my own, I talk to God and say, ‘I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship except Allah and that Muhammad is His Final Messenger’. I was shocked. I exclaimed, ‘Are you serious?!’ She replied ‘Yes’. And then I took in a deep breath and asked her, ‘Mum – are you ready to declare that publically in front of us (myself, my husband and the children) right now?’ She took a breath in and said ‘Yes’. I couldn’t believe it. I told my eldest to run and get her father. He ran up the stairs and whilst he was talking to her, I was frantically trying to call a Sheikh to find out if a shahaadah online was acceptable. Looking back I knew the answer would be yes, but at that moment I couldn’t think straight. I couldn’t get hold of him and so I messaged a brother who very kindly (may Allah reward him) spoke to a student of knowledge who said it was fine. I thanked Allah and returned back to my family who were eagerly awaiting the ruling. I signed yes.

I turned to my mother and asked her if she was ready. She firmly said yes. And I was blessed with the opportunity to hear her repeat the shahaadah – the declaration of faith – in Arabic and then English by repeating after me. We all then started shouting the takbir. My eldest son (aged 7) couldn’t contain himself. He just kept saying ‘ After all this time! After all this time! She’s Muslim.’ My eldest was quiet with tears in her eyes.
It was then that I told my mother what I had been told 16 years ago… ‘Mum, do you know everything has been wiped clean?! You’re like a newborn baby!’ She then broke down and began to shake and sob. After composing herself with red swollen eyes, she looked up towards the sky and whispered, ‘Thank you my Lord’. At that moment, I felt so many emotions envelop me. I was so proud of my Mum – for not only did she embrace Islam but her first words after her shahaadah was that of gratitude to the King of Kings; the Lord of the Heavens and the Earth. I felt so grateful to Allah azza wa jaal for answering my dua and I just felt overwhelming love towards my Lord and this beautiful religion.

I asked her how she felt and she said, ‘I did it with my heart. I wasn’t planning on doing this today, but I did it with my heart. And now I feel free.’

And that is the story of how my mother embraced Islam.

My dear brothers and sisters in Islam, I leave you with the following: By Allah, be confident in your Lord – have full certainty that He will answer your dua in the most Perfect way. Sometimes it may take many years, but never ever lose hope. Whether it is a non-Muslim relative that you deeply hope will become Muslim, or the hope for ease during testing times, or even a matter of the dunya – the first step is in you believing 100% that Allah will answer your call. Allah azza wa jaal tells us in a hadith qudsi, ‘I am as my servant thinks I am’. If you perceive Allah to be a Generous, Kind Lord who will grant you what your heart desires, you will begin to see dua after dua answered in your life. This is the first key.

I thank Allah for guiding my mother to Islam. He knows the tears I have cried at the thought of her dying as a disbeliever. May He keep her strong and steadfast upon Islam. Ameen. I ask Allah to guide the non-Muslim relatives of all my brothers and sisters in Islam. Ameen. Never lose hope – Allah is most certainly Al-Mujeeb…the One who responds…
Alhamdulillah.

Kindly make dua for my mother, Josephine Pintauri. All that I desire now is that she dies as a true believer.

Umm Raiyaan

(Founder and Director of Solace ‘for revert sisters in difficulty’)
w: www.solace.org.uk/
f: https://www.facebook.com/SOLACEforrevertsindifficulty

27th July 2015
- See more at: http://www.eaalim.com/download/index.php/blog/entry/very-moving-story-my-mums-reversion-story-by-umm-raiyaan.html#.dpuf

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I naught a used HTC from us but is not recognizing any other Sim
plead help a naira lander

I think the phone previously used a sprint Sim
thanks

YourMain:
Thank you and you too

May Allah bless us all with Janatu-l-Firdaos

كل عام وأنتم بخير

booqee:
He surely needs Jesus...

Because I'm wondering how one book can both be a cause and a solution to a problem..

abi is it not the same book shekau would read incantations from before beheading or killing pple? abi una no dey see those videos he dey always release? So how can that same book that "gives shekau instruction to kill the unbelievers still be the solution? huh? how possible?
Imposicant!

Don't you notice that is name somehow related to jargon? so stop supporting "the stupidity of apes"(yoruba proverb)

usermane:
Masturbation nullify the fast because it is more like sex which is forbideen during fasting. On the other hand, I partly disagree with Ibrahim 's response above. Deliberate vomiting does not violate the fast because it can't be described as ingestion prohibited during Ramadan.

Salam alaikum:
This answer you provide, is it from you or the Qura'an or the Hadith