₦airaland Forum

saweide:
Pls something is really bothering my mind and I pray I will find good advice here.

I reside in Port-Harcourt about 1 and half years ago Iost my cousin. He died of heart attack. After his death, his wife has been getting closer to me, always calling me and visiting me and am still single. I have had failed relationships in the past. I have been so unlucky with the kind of ladies I met. They are always violent and disrespectful which I dislike so much.

But during my cousins lifetime, she was so good, cool and caring to my cousin and they never had any misunderstanding and they married for just 6 years here in Port Harcourt before he died and they never had a child due to infertility on the side of the cousin. But now everyone like friends and family knows me and scared if I should make advances to her if they won't be saying things against me or should I just forget and look for another lady to marry.

Pls i need ur serious advise. She has fallen in love with me already.

My brother don't bother what people will say o, till death do us part! She is single and free, marry her. Better woman scarce

Hahaha army dey cut soap give kabiyesi
Everybody dey protect him belle


Whether you like Asari or not, what he said is the simple truth!

The high ranking military personnel are all involved in oil theft.

Rivers native fisherman soup

I hope this is not targeted against the Igbos. Because there are countless buildings like this all over lagos...

Praktikals1000:
I am Igbo. I was a staunch supporter of Peter Obi, but I have now seen the light. God bless the Jagaban of Nigeria.

Same here!

COAS must go to SW!

I'm not SW o, but that's just the natural order.

I'm a Christian and I see nothing wrong with what elrufia said.

The decision of a Muslim Muslim ticket was purely strategic to win elections. Minority Minority can not win.

Stop eating sugar.

Avoid alcohol and simple carbs like bread an white rice.

Work out.

Opu Alabo, calm down o

N3TRAL:
There's nothing sweeter than banging a:

1. Pretty virgin Fulani Muslim girl as a southern Christian.

2. Pretty female army, Navy or air force personnel as an NYSC member.

3. Pretty female police officer as a civilian with no strings attached.

4. Pretty class representative who scolds you for not being serious.

In the first scenario you risk being decapitated. In the second experience, you're making someone who punishes others of status moan and beg you.

Congratulations to me🥇🏅🥇
I've experienced number 1,2 and 4.

With the useful information from Sahara Reporters, I'll achieve number 3 soon.

Congratulations bro but you are mad, I hope you know this?

Zionmdde:
Rivers state that is being ruled by proxy?
U mean fubara made the appointment or wike handed the list over to him?

Rubbish

How my people let this happen in Rivers State still baffles me

Why Tinubu couldn't let go of his personal interest and support this man is something I will never understand [color=#990000][/color]

Reno on drugs again

Samantha124:
Tell her the truth and if possible, get a divorce and move on with those other ladies that you're already cheating on her with.

Set her free while she's still young and you guys don't have a child... The sooner you do it, the easier it's gonna be for her to move on.

As harsh as hou sound, this maybe the only cure to his stupidity. He is a boy not mature enough for marriage

Mokole2023:
Dear Nlders,

I cant say if this problem is peculiar and I would sincerely appreciate mature comments and suggestions.

My marriage is just about a year old though I had an on/off online friendship with my now-wifey since 2017 before we decided to get serious late 2021. Our physical courtship was kinda brief - about 6 months - while we both resided in the same state but different Cities (about 3hrs apart).

I used to be very sexually active in my previous relationships - trust me when i say I'm quite good in bed - but with my now-wifey, I decided to limit the sex part cos i felt at a man's age (tho my sisters also advised same) that there r other things to look out for in a woman. So basically, we did not get too intimate during courtship. Worryingly, even the few times we did it, I rarely got to orgasm cos she couldn't match my stamina.

Fast forwards to 1 month into the marriage, I was diagnosed with High blood pressure which the doctors advised BP drugs might affect my libido but it will later regulate/normalize. Then the problems started! First, I get aroused normally with good turgidity enough to penetrate my Wifey's tight "body" but I tend to loose erection after some mins of thrusting and that's the end. Never comes back on again. Few times I was able to finish but that's not without alot of mental imagination to make me finish ontime.

Very worryingly for me, I decided to check myself with other women and dear readers, I achieved stronger turgidity and no fail moment. That was my first shock.

Summarily, my wife and I still dont live together but this situation has gone worse now. I got no sexual feelings towards her and na by force we dey manage run 1 round in weeks. Meanwhile, I get sex requests from other girls on a daily. I'm very sad about this situation especially when i look at my wife because she ought to be enjoying this thicke alone forever.

As a man, you can imagine how you'd feel when your woman feels ur impotent while other women are bugging you for your time.

Various extreme thoughts have crossed my mind and I'm seriously bothered which isn't even good for my health. Should i confess to my wife?

I await your responses, suggestions and advice.

Many thanks,

Until you see your wife with another man, that is when you will get your senses back. You boys are not ready for the commitment call marriage, why not stay single??

How would you feel if your wife decides to test if she's sexually appealing to other men?

That's just stupid and disrespectful. I'm not sure this is her biological father

Cancel naira redesign policy.

Remove subsidiary which will make Nigeria extremely hard.

Expand lagos commerce.

Push for restructuring to regional govt.

Anyone marrying a girl less than 26 should not seek her contribution.

Even u as a man were not financially stable enough to support a wedding bill at that age.

Her parents should be the ones contributing.

I lost my younger brother in 2019. Unexpectedly.

He was murdered by sars.

The pain never goes away, you just have to learn to live with it.

Give yourself not more than 10minutes to cry daily.
Immerse yourself into something productive to divert your mind from the loss.

seniorgozman:
Posting any girl on line will spoil things for you as a man

It's even worse for the girl

Only a senseless girl will allow a bf post her on social media.

JDistribute:
The D is the major reason why most white women go for basic black dudes, the other reason is that their men don't like fat women.

Fact, black men only get tge white woman white men don't want.

If you ask a high value white girl honestly she tell you it's considered a minus if you get hit on by only black guys... our men should drop this slave mentality and knave the white woman alone!

We can't keep handing out our best for nothing in return

It is not in our interest for our black men to marry white women!

Especially for us Africans.

When a white woman marries our men, they get the best and most successful! And what do we get in return? A fat high School drop out that no whiteman wants! You cheat on her once and she leaves with half of your networth plus child support payment. African women are more forgiving, they don't divorce for cheating!

Celepope:
Hey you rat. I’m not the cause of your misfortune. I can’t remember referring to you. Mannerless and untrained nitwit

You have nmanners yet you referred to someone's daughter and future wife as a where? Before you do that next time remember your mother is a woman

Fineman2:
My name is John. I am 35 years old. I lost my first wife in 2020, so I remarried in 2021 so that my daughter can grow up with a motherly love.

However, my new wife has made it a point of duty to always maltreat my daughter.

Each time, I want to interfere, she tells me to stay out of it. I know I should stand up for my daughter but I am in love with this woman because she came into my life when I needed someone the most.

I reached out to the family of my late wife last month to allow my daughter to stay with them while I send money for her upkeep, but they refused. They said my daughter cannot grow up without a mother and still grow up without the presence of a father in her life.

I have had several conversations with my wife and I have begged her to accommodate my daughter since she is yet to conceive but she told me to get rid of her from the house.

She practically complains about everything my daughter does. I am unhappy about this but at the moment, I am caught in between the woman I love and my beloved daughter.

Please what should I do?

Pls can I have your daughter? I have 5 daughters. She'll live well with me. Poor little angel, only God knows what happens to her when you are not around, how her mother must be turning in her grave :'

Yoruba culture.

Hotwest:
I use to fancy the female body before but recently I now see their boobs easily and most of these their cow like shapes. I no come dey like woman again

Their body somehow disgust me when I strip them naked...They only look good on clothes...Strip a typical Nigerian girl with 60watts bulb on u won't enjoy the sight of the full naked body

Guy fùçk your follow man pls, allow us hear word

VCMoneyInsights:
Life is hard. Here in Naija . And everywhere else (forget the snow stories and pretend affluence).

You must work hard to get anywhere if you don’t inherit or fraudulently acquire wealth.

No one will hand you the life you dreamt of because you’re depressed, burdened with family, or getting by on measly pay.

You have to make practical moves. After all, you’re already holed up in a dead-end career, the opposite of careers with a high barrier of entry.

Tech shouldn’t be your problem right now. You’re not cut out for it.

Going into a career path because you heard it’s hot and a way to get out of poverty is probably a bad idea.

I see you love driving. So, why not build a career around driving?

Getting a car shouldn’t be a problem. Get off your high horse and speak to everyone you know about getting a car for hire purchase or daily remittance. Talk to people at work, churches, mosques, conferences and family meetings.

You should find someone willing to give you a car sooner than later.

When you have your car, work hard. Be honest and reliable.

Don’t try to outsmart your benefactor. Most Naija people have low integrity. Be different.

From what you make and save, learn how to drive trucks as well.

Then start working towards migration — the United States , the United Kingdom, and Canada.

Get up and start today. To lie down and do nothing is to be crippled fast.

All the best, family man!

PS: If you talk to everyone you know offline and still can’t get a car, maybe you can look towards Moove. I heard they have a vehicle financing scheme. Haven’t used them. Can’t say much about them. But you should look their way and see.

I just like the way you sound man, i wish I had a brother like you honestly. My only brother is always full of excuses without achieving anything tangible, us his younger sisters have to do everything for him *sigh*

*sigh* Nigeria will just be happening to hard working folks anyhow.

1. Get a second hustle, maybe higher purchase for Uber but that may affect your work hours.

2. Don't impregnate your wife, not even by mistake PLEASE.

3. Keep your japa hopes alive. Your wife should get necessary training try for care giver visa in uk or Canada.

4. If your sister is an adult she should start supporting herself pls. Even if it's to sell pant and bra or groundnut!

Jakumo:
Please just stop teasing us here. I go report you to my pastor o.