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The reality is that, you cant talk about development withiout first addressing the social aspect of the society. The largest share of our problems are embedded in our cultures and traditions, which promote greed, unapologetic corruption and individual tendency to dominate others.

People forget that their leaders are reflections of their society, they were once private citizens like the messes. Whatever they are doing there, you can actually do the same or even worse because that is how society molded us. In a society where the future is not certain, people will steal enough at any giving opportunity to secure their future and their generations to come. Until we remove the reason to steal or tendency to accumulate wealth, Nigeria may never progress in centuries to come.

1. Take care of children between 0-18 years of age, including their education and montky stipend.

2. Take care of elders over 65 years including their medications, monthly allowance and burials.

3. Pay unemployment allowance until people find jobs.

4. Having more than 2 children should be a crime that attract jail term.

5. Individual ownership of properties should be restricted to a larger extent.

6. Every citizen earning income must pay a certain percentage according to their incomes as tax.

7. Food should the least worries of an average citizen. Civil organisations, religions, foreign aids, philanthropists, etc should be encouraged to donate solely to Foods bank where people who needed it can get it free.

8. The country must embrace a true federalism along with ethnic nationalities.

9. Leaders should emerge through ranking from civil service and not through democracy.

10. Leadership should be seen as nothing other than service to humanity, and there must be transparency in carrying out these duties.

If we can manage do the above, everything will change for good within a decade.

ReekyMass:
Hi, Guys!

Sincerely, I'm a bit confused here. My younger brother, the last born of the family wants to come over to the city to live with me.

My kid bro just graduated from secondary sch last year July. He is actually my step brother, as my mum had to remarry a year later after the passing of my dad many years ago. This brother is the only child my mum has for the Man.

The man is a retired state govt teacher, my mum is his second wife. He's not being responsible over the years and this has caused lots of issues between himself and my mum. Sometimes, if not most times, I'll always have to step in to broker peace between them.

My mum abandoned us to marry this man. At some point she even had to send my blood sister away from the man's house. My kid sister was just four years and needed the presence of a mother in her life, but since my mum so much cherished her new husband at the time, she said that my kid sister wouldn't live with her. So she had to send my sister to stay with our grandma(maternal). I felt so sad about this. Today same sister is married with two kids.

My mum never supported any of us through sch. We are four, plus this step brother of mine, five in total. As a matter of fact, while I was leaving for the city after the completion of my university education, she was nowhere to be found because I was in some financial mess at the time and I needed her to support me financially so I can go to city to hussle. I also wanted her to give me that motherly blessings and pray for my success as I embark on the journey for success. But she was nowhere to be found.

I managed to source for funds and left the village for the city. I'm not four years here. I send her money almost every week. I also send her mother(my grandma) money and ensure I take good care of her since she's the only grandparent I have now.

There's almost no time I speak with my mum that she doesn't come up with one financial complaint or the other. Sometimes I avoid her calls for weeks. It's not like I'm doing well here in the city, but I keep meeting her needs. I don't complain to her even when I'm down. I already know she can't help me, so what's the point complaining?. She can have money Hidden somewhere while you're in dire need of it, but she won't tell or give u. She can be doing business and making money secretly without telling you. Sometimes I only get to hear about such businesses from outsiders. She does this so we wouldn't ask her for any help. She never bought us even a notebook or Pen while we were in sch.

Now she wants my kid Bro to come live with me. Living with me isn't a problem. But my mum already spoilt my step brother. He was so pampered as a child and he often disrespects my mum. They asked him to learn Barbing. After sch, he would go there and return in the evenings. But this boy wasn't consistent. At some point, he even stopped. Our mum instructed him to go back and continue, but he refused. His father is so weak and can't discipline him. Four years back, same brother went to live with my immediate younger brother in Lagos and after two weeks he said he wants to go back to the village just like that.

I want him to further his studies but I don't have the resources yet. I want his father to take up that responsibility first, while I also support.
He knows I'm very strict and he can't be disrespectful to me. But my mum already corrupted him. If he comes and I start to discipline and disciple him, it would look like I'm antagonizing him because he's my step brother.

Again, and most importantly, I'm not working now, I'm just managing myself, hustling here and there just to survive. Sometimes I don't even get what to eat. I mange myself. Due to this, I wouldn't want to add another burden to myself. He eats a lot and if he comes here, it will now look like I'm starving him. My mum knows I'm just managing my life. I asked him to be a bit more patient and stay back in the village till I get something tangible to do, so I can take care of him when he comes to town, but he's insisting that he's already tired of staying in the village.

Considering what he did when he visited my immediate younger brother the other time, he wouldn't be able to go back there again.

I don't think you are serious person in this life, you are broke and struggling to even feed yourself, yet you are contemplating on bringing a grown up boy to join you in this condition?

You should only bring him if you have a job for him or you are capable of feeding and providing his needs.

Orlandoo:
I agree with you. It wasn't much like this before 2015 when the majority can still afford basic things of life. Nowadays, hunger has made people sell their birthright because of pot of porridge.

Exactly, even if you are poor, everyone, including your rich family members and friends will respect you if you don't have any reason to ask them for help. Once you start asking people for help, you becomes element of ridiculous in their eyes.

Developed countries had forseen this disparity centuries ago, reason they make sure that vulnerable people ( children, elders, unemployed people, people with disabilities, etc) in their societies must be taking care of. The dumb Africans, especially Nigerians will rather embezzled the allocation meant for the poor, so that the same poor will crawl at their feets to beg for crumbs.

Orlandoo:
I see this happening a lot in Igbo families. Your family members don't care how you made the money so far you are 'representing'.

Not only Igbos, it happens everywhere. Money is the back bone of everything in life. With Money, you don't necessarily have to be nice to your family members, even if you treat them like trash, they will still relate well with you and pick you over the poor ones.

Our society should be build in such a way that even the poor people will have privilege of taking care of their basic needs withiout needing to beg anyone for crumbs. People should also be educated to have fewers children they can easily carter for.

Putindbutt:
If giving such funds to victims who lost lives and properties was reckless, then pray that such incident happens to you and your family.

And if Govt didn't do, it's same unfortunate people that would still pick on Govt for not intervening.

If the Governor pocketed the money and was later exposed, it has only discredited his reputation. His Presidential ambition has already taken a hit.

Having seen the effect of the blast, 5Bn is more than enough to settle the victims.

30Bn they gave him looks like political settlement or reckless spending on the part of federal government.

Putindbutt:
If you're envious of the 30billion for Oyo victims, then I advice you to go and blast your legs off or pray that such an unfortunate incident happens to you, so that Govt can give such money to your family to take care of you. Geddifok out of my face.

Lolz, you are beyond redemption if you don't see anything wrong with that reckless spending of tax payer money.

30Bn for how many houses and properties? Anyway the guy man already carried them handicap by keeping it for personal use.

With this kind of leaders and the masses, I fear Nigeria may remain underdeveloped till thy kingdom come.

Putindbutt:
But ignorant wailers and Bitter Obidients are crying about the tax reforms that will further strengthen the Education sector. The problem with these wailers is that they hardly read, do their own findings or read policy documents. They simply log onto social media, pick up whatever narratives that suit them and start repeating it WITHOUT THINKING AND VERIFYING.

Have you seen ASUU come out to condemn the tax laws?. Sensible people are only laughing at the ignorant mobs crying about the tax laws they know absolutely nothing about. Poor people crying over a policy that will benefit the poor.

That was how they were also misleading the public that TETFUND will be eliminated under the new tax law. All manner of lies and misinformation against the tax law. Indeed, politics has exposed the level of HighQ of an average Nigerian.

Are you indeed rejoicing over this shameful of a thing?

The same government that gave Gov. Makinde a hooping 30Bn as intervention fund for the victims of bomb plast in Oyo state? The same country that ordinary governor budgeted over 60Bn to renovate government House?

Politicians has finished this country patapata.

43Ronin:
Why naija dey defend like b**ch? These morocco guys are not so good, mali played them hands down na

After seeing what they did in last edition final against the host Ivory Coast, I wonder what anyone expect from them. Eagles are always psychologically poor against the host nations. They lack confidence and wills to face the host.

Watch this match with free mind, desist from watching it if you have HBP or related heart diseases.

Eagles are known to be coward against host nations, don't be surprise to see them defending all though tonight. If they place well and beat Morocco, they can win the cup.

Senegal coach is very smart, once his player get a yellow card, he remove them straight away.

Arkmanbuddy:
You clearly don't understand both of my earlier comments that you responded to.

Let me make it clear now, perhaps you need to read slowly:

THE RICH/WEALTHY CAN DO ALL THE THINGS YOU SAID BECAUSE THEY CAN AFFORD IT.

ALSO, THEY'D RATHER BUY ASSETS MORE THAN LIABILITIES !!!!!

If a rich man buys 20 mansions for 20 girlfriends, it's because they can afford it.

If that is the case, then how do you define a poor man, and how do you define a rich man.

How do you define the spending capacity of a man?

How do you know or feel that it is only a wealthy men that buy asset?

Arkmanbuddy:
The rich/wealthy shop in expensive malls because they can afford it. It'd be stupid for someone with no financial backup to do the same. The poor try to do this to impress people. That's my point!

The basis of our argument is that, the rich wore a simple dress, while the poor wears expensive ones. And I made you understand that those clothes you thought is simple might be x5 expensive than the ones wore by the poor you assumed is flamboyance. There are some malls you can't get any shirt less than 50k, while ordinary 15k dress at local shop can make a poor man look expensive in most cases. It only becomes problem when a poor man is trying to compete with the rich.

The rich also spend, stop the misconceptions that every rich man invested every kobo that comes to their accounts. If you know the kind of philanthropy service some rich men render to the society, you won't be talking like this. I have seen many rich people that built houses and buys cars for their girlfriends, will you say they are not wise enough by not investing such money?

Arkmanbuddy:
It is the need to impress, the need to show that one is doing well. The rich don't have anything to prove to anybody, their assets speak for them.

Moreover, the rich would rather spend to buy more income-generating assets than liabilities. The reverse is the case for the poor and middle class.

That is not always true, the rich also spend in different way. That simple T. Shirt you saw on a rich man might be x5 price of the ones you think poor men wore to impress. Rich do their shopping in expensive shops or malls, while poor can easily go to local cheap outlet to shop for clothes.

It is highly delusional to think rich people always invest and don't spend. Poor people don't buy cars or build houses for their girlfriends, it is rich people that does. What is the point of being rich and not spend, do you want to it to heaven?

jaxxy:
u cant easily know the real character of a poor or broke girl.

That adage is only apply to the men, trust me, a good girl will always be a good girl irrespective of her financial status.

Namaster:
"...student girl I met through Michat...this girl is from a poor and idle background...her pos business...rented a good apartment for her....this girl is really extravagant...the girl I intend to marry"




Couldn't stop LAUGHING over here.

Baba "invested" over #2 MILLION on a hookup girl that other guys FORK for #10K.

That guy dull no be small, a girl that is just doing her hookup jeje, na she this brother John go invest wan marry.

100% of girls on that app are runz girls.

plsdisvirginme:
There is this student girl I met through Michat.
We started dating.
I believe in establishing people in life.

I discovered this girl is from a poor and idle background.
They are 7.
The first three daughters all married and they didn't goto school or learn work.
Their parents nothing to write home about.
She is the only that struggle to enter university through her POS business.

Her POS folded and she was left with nothing.
Last year I went for a program, I decided to setup a charging and POS. I entrusted the business in her hand to be balancing me weekly and also to support herself through it.

It was one excuse to another. This busines collapsed under 7 months.
Business I used close to 1.5m to open.
I swallowed the loss and moved on.

I discovered she can sew then I encourage her to open shop. I supported her with everything and she started her fashion shop.
I even rented a good apartment for her.
I discovered this girl is really extravagant with money. She can't save.

Last year Dec I gave her 500k with agreement she will be giving me weekly return.
Uptill now 1 naira I never see.
I discovered she and her sisters open whats app family daily contribution.
I was shocked. .
I asked what for.
She said they want to open business for their parents .

Meanwhile this girl has 2 years plus to finish school.
You are contributing to open business for your parents that have not supported you in school from day 1.

I warned her but this fell on her deaf ears.
Now this morning she chatted me that she got her sewing contracts that i should loan her 30k..
This is the girl I invested just 500k in her business this dec on agreement to be giving me weekly return and she never give me 1kobo from it.
Now you are chatting me for 30k loan. ..

And this is the girl I intend to marry.
I have just zero my mind off her to look for better person.

Guys it is a very big error to invest in a student from poor family.

I just learnt my lesson.

Wait wait, did I hear you say you meet her through Michat?

Truly you no be street smart, I won't say more than this.

LordIsaac:
They think Jagaban has a "use and dump" mentality like Fubara. Fubara only became Governor by Wike's "benevolence". Everyone detests betrayal. I can never be in Fubara's camp. He should go finish what he started.

Fubara has every right to go for the second term, no individual is bigger than the state, only people of Rivers State can say he should not go for the second term and not Wike. Wike shouldn't have signed such agreement in the first place if he is a smart politician. He should've pretended to be fine with all his steps and strike him hard toward the tale end of his term.

However, a serial betrayal like Fubara shouldn't have been fighting with at all. If I was to be Wike, I won't even argue with him, all I will do is to use option A4 primary like they did to Ambode in Lagos and denied him the ticket. By using option A4, he can't even bribe or entice Wike loyalists who are the majority, because everyone will openly queue behind his/her candidates. He seem to learn nothing from his boss Tinubu.

But now that he has scattered everything and insulted APC NWC, Fabura may even be giving automatic ticket withiout having to pass through party primary.

Ofunaofu:
The Oyo State Government has since responded by informing Nigerians especially the people of Oyo State and the Bodija explosion victims that the N30 billion is intact.

Rather, Nigerians should question the motive of the Tinubu-led Federal Government for promising N50 billion but releasing only N30 billion while withholding N20 billion.

If you give someone N30b withiout seeing anything he do with it, will you give him addinational money?

Syrine22:
Records can be broken. The Super Eagles will do it.

Super eagles are always poor and useless against the host nations. That was how they started well until they became toothless against the host "Ivory Coast " in the last edition final. I could remember when 10 men black start beat them in Ghana that year.

Unless they remove the mentality of playing against host nation from their heads, I don't see them beating Morocco on Wednesday.

Do people really make money from football bet?

TheStoriesOfMan:
The 3k is not for final consumers ooo

I sell at 1k5h to 2k to wholesalers.

Now you are talking, #500 or #1000 is more realistic than 3k you quoted earlier, because the size of yam you can only harvest from a sack within a season will not be bigger than what you can sell at that price range.

In the South West part of the country, you can get a medium size yam for 1k from retailers.

fineboynl:
Obi is the threats in the south. Thats why they are scared. Without obi they wont even bother with atiku.

Obi won key state like lagos, abuja and rivers. These are the elite and educated states.

Atiku/Obi is the only ticket that can give them head ache. Give obi ticket, they will win massively in the North, give Atiku ticket without Obi, they will win in entire south, North Central and get 25% needed from core North.

TheStoriesOfMan:
See as you write comment as if you haven't heard of it before.

If I never do am, I no go write epistle like this.

I go lie for you?

Dont mind me, I dey hear sack farming before but I never see that kind figure quoted from yam farming before.

I believe you might have been doing it before but selling a tuber for 3k is what I won't agree with you. You cant even sell at that price to the final consumers, let alone wholesales buyers.

TheStoriesOfMan:
Invest in sack farming. If you have a leased land in the village, use it to plant 10,000 sacks of yam, potato or groundnut. Make sure there is a water source nearby.

A 98% harvesting rate can give you a lotta cash.

One tuber of yam is ₦3000.

Therefore, profit is 9800x3000= ₦29,400,000.

Fortunately, getting sacks are quite easy. Get yam setts or cut yam into pieces, prepare the bag by filling with manured soil, rub the yam pieces with wood ash and plant in the bags. Prepare trellises so that the tendrils can grow upright.

Watch more videos on YouTube. Thank me later.

See as you write figures as if you had done it before.

I am only trying to find a correlation between scientific studies and this social norms or assumptions.

Maj196:
Some men just mumu sha oo

I don't think he is a mumu, but he is definitely not a wise man. Those items might means nothing to him but a wise person would think about the impact of such reckless spending on a larger society than just unnecessary show of wealth.

Wotowotoman:
Were Taribo, Oruma, Tijani Babangida, Daniel Amokachi, Sunday Oliseh, Samson Siasia and co not once richer than 99% of Nigerians? You think say e easy to make money last for a lifetime?

Person wey get sense suppose know say e get some kind things wey you no suppose dey spend money on until you reach some kind level. No be to dey follow Osimen dey buy Lamborghini. Osimen is made for life. Boniface is not!

No lie, you don see One million naira for your life? 🤔

Destiny defer, Lamborghini is nothing compare to what he earned annually, and you don't know why or how those guys you mentioned lost their wealth. Aside that, they play in different generations where payment and opportunities defer. Besides, you don't tell people how to spend or manage their wealth, it is poor or primitive way of reasoning.

As for your last paragraph, well, except you are above 40, you might be in primary school or in your mother's womb when I made my first million around 2007 in the days of intercontinental Bank and Skye Bank.

Wotowotoman:
This one wey go buy Lamborghini with the small money wey dey him account. I hope he bounces back sha. With just one more year left on his contract, highly doubtful any big club go wan sign am with all these season ending knee injuries

He is still very young by football age, even if championship club sign him, he will still be richer than 90% Nigerians.

Nijaforward:
Fayose is a disgrace to Ekiti State…is he really a former governor talking like a fool always ?

He is not a fool, he is just playing APC card. He is a well breed politician who understands political game in Migeria. If ADC give obi ticket, Northerners, especially APC stewards and elites who are the majority in the North will gladly mobiloze for Tinubu who has only 4 years to spend. If Atiku get the ticket, majority of southerners will see it as insult, middle belt and APC big boys who has been eying presidency from core North will back Tinubu.

Opposition chances was 2023, and they wasted it due to their arrogance and lack of patient. Though Atiku/Obi ticket can make a significant different but won't still give opposition victory because South vs North rotation of power would still jeopardise their advantage in the entire south. Even majority of Obidients will oppose it and vote another candidate or abstain.

driynexa:
Nigeria Algeria match on twitter here live:-

https://x.com/i/status/2010018423468896770

This is a pay channel with a very short trial.

hotseat:
Wike must be regretting the very day he virtually imposed this ingrate called "Madam Fubara" on the good people of Rivers State.

Most Governors who rebelled against their political godfathers waited patiently until their second term in office before exhibiting their ingratitude.

For "Madam Fubara", like the true Judas Iscariot that he is, began to rebel against his godfather in the very first month of his election.

Fortunately for him, the unsuspecting members of the public fell for his shenanigans of playing the victim card.

They see him as the one being oppressed whereas he is the vintage oppressor.

Instead of examining the factors necessitating the processes for his impending impeachment, they got carried away by sentiments and emotions and their palpable hatred for Wike who they believe is responsible for the actions of the Rivers State House of Assembly.

The only lesson to be learnt is that all intending godfathers may have to review their support for future political godsons so as not to get the Wike treatment.






@hotseat

It happened like that in politics, People don't just turn their back on godfathers but their excess sometimes compelled them to do so. Wike is not an intetelligent politician a bit, an intelligent person would not have started fighting with Fubara in the first place.

Smart Godfathers waited patiently and use their influence or loyalists in the party to denied him the second term ticket. Ambode case is typical example, did you see Tinubu fighting him? Did anyone even knows they were not in good term until he demanded there must be primary with option A4 to be used?

Wike problem is impatient and arrogance, you can't denied someone his constitutional right in the name of politics. Is he a God or own the state that he is demanding a governor should not go for a second term? It is the responsibility of people of Rivers State to do so and not Wike. You have both PDP and APC structure under your control in the state, yet you are still fighting irrational war. To make the matter worse, you started your irrational thing by attacking APC big boys who would've stayed neutral and allow you to deal with your foe who is now at the mercy of presidency silently.

Hezzyluv:
U can't judge football this way. Let's just hope Eagles don't fall our hands.

You are right but won't be an easy match for them if they are to carry the day.