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Predstan:
Providing Financial support. Is that a dream or an aspiration. On the other hand, the taxes you pay is a contribution to such challenges.

Visit to Mars I dont understand that. If you mean travel to a different country then you are just myopic. Credit card system will allow you travel anywhere in the world and you got vacation paid for by your company. You literally dont need savings if you have a working system.
Do you know what they also call Tax return, that's some sort of savings from your earnings

Predstan:
If your dreams need money to be dream, it's not a dream. All of this you mentioned are not actualized with money.

Give me an example of such dreams that you need money or all of your savings for?

Predstan:
There is no need to have some thousand dollars sitting in your account when you have an insurance that covers your medical bills, you drive the latest car, you live a good house. What else do you need savings for? The only thing immigrants needs savings for is to cater for people that exploit them in Nigeria

easyflex:
You don't really understand how bills rack up in the U.S.

This is a peak into what expenses in a middle class home with 2 kids may look like.

Mortgage = $2100
Cable = $120
WiFi = $70
Phone bill = $80
Water/ sewage = $88
Electricity = $115
Gas(cooking ) = $28

Home insurance= $120
Healthcare insurance = $260
Car Insurance(2 cars) = $145
Home owners Association Dues = $85
Student Loans = $700

Feeding, Groceries, Gas (Petrol), Tolls and Miscellaneous = $400

Total = $4,300

That is approximately $52k yearly, without including taxes.

It may be lower or even higher depending on income, neighborhood, state or lifestyle.

I hope this helps you understand better.

BabaJoe001:
Lol abroad different from abroad. May be those begging you dey Oman.. definitely not in the US or UK. People are making it well over there Stop exargerating .. no one go even get time to dey beg you when they get to the US. ... a friend received 5 million from his Aunt in the US to start a business. I wonder who will give you such in Nigeria and the aunty had only spent 7 years in US .you are definitely sounding like someone that has been denied american VISA 7 times. Lies full this your comment. Enter you US, you will not want to come back again.

ogbonti:
Thanks for this exhaustive analysis of the situation overseas. what is baffling to me is the notion that someone or anyone who travels overseas is seen as a financial messiah to friends and family back home in Nigeria. My father used to tell me as a kid that there is nowhere on God’s green earth where money grow on trees. every amount you spend is earned EXCEPT you are into CRIME, you won a LOTTERY or you got an INHERITANCE. The latter is not applicable to anyone who left Nigeria for a foreign country because there is no inheritance for you from someone who is not related to you

Having said that, the actions or some of us overseas is terrible. Agreed a few of us made it to be comfortable, but a whole bunch of us are struggling too financially. The few successful ones go home to paint a rosy picture that life overseas is a piece of cake - and that if you have relatives overseas who are not supporting you means they are stingy and wicked BUT what they won’t tell you is that most of them are into a criminal enterprise or simply sailing under false colors (borrowing from credit cards to impress) or probably became legitimately comfortable financially but makes it seem effortless and easy, it isn’t

HOWEVER - i believe in giving wisely because the bible tells us “blessed is the hand that gives than the hands that takes” but never do so to the detriment of your comfort and future

For example, if you make $4,000 a month after tax (at least that is a decent earning in states that not california, new york or new england area, and you can pay all yours bills and live on $3,000 nothing stops you from giving out $100 to a family members and $100 to a friend once every other month- if you can save $800 a month

NOW that money is not going to be for one family member every month but randomly given to different ones who you truly know are in a bind- TRUST ME, you will be blessed for doing so

My rule is - stick to that budget (5% for charity and 20% savings) because i know bills and expenses will surely consume 75% of what I earn in the western world) - Now whatever i make from doing business or my side hussle is not and will never be shared with anyone- i do not give even 0.000001% of my business profit to anyone -NEVER, that is just my rule and I can’t explain it- period!!!!

Ordinarily, to even save 20% of your earnings and give out 5% of your earning as charity to folks in Nigeria means you are able to earn something decent here in America and you are not burying yourself in debts acquiring liabilities like paying child supports (that’s another story for another day) and you are not buying a new car that you do not need just to keep up with the trend, just generally living a lifestyle that you cannot afford.


So my advise is - “never ever do more than your pocket can accommodate for anyone in Nigeria regardless of the situation because you are not Jesus”. If there is a month no one ask you money or request then keep your money

whenever someone is genuinely in need (not never ending monthly need) You will be blessed when you give - because when someone thanks you and prays for you - there is a feeling of satisfaction in your soul and God listens! NEVER EVER FORGET THAT - and there is no divine rule that says if someone ask you 100,000 naira and you can only give 10,000 naira that you will not be blessed. it’s what you can give - NEVER DO MORE THAN YOUR BUDGET PERMITS

and if someone is ungrateful or acts like - i didn’t do enough, i simply black list that person and will will never get 1 naira from me again because I owe no one nothing, PERIOD!!!!

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

......

Please I need advice and contributions.

TheBusinessHub:
Create your own business that's a good model and put me to shame. By the way even civil servants earn 30,000 Naira monthly. Pick up your calculator and do some mathematics

TheBusinessHub:
Create your own business that's a good model and put me to shame. By the way even civil servants earn 30,000 Naira monthly. Pick up your calculator and do some mathematics

TheBusinessHub:
Smh. This generation. Create your own job to pay your workforce 5m as salary per annum. Let's see yours

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

Genset:
My ex-boyfriend just me money out of the blues, should i be worried? We broke up since the beginning of the year and haven't spoken since then. All of a sudden he texted me asking for my account number and then sent me money. It's just weird.

Chuky7:
Four months ago before the covid 19 pandemic, a company I was working for (On contract basis) flew me and my team members to our destination of work and back when the work was done.

During this flight I saw this pretty fair skinned Flight Attendant. She was just so astonishing beautiful and diligent, always smiling at everyone (obviously being the nature of her work)

I guess she had a magic touch on because I couldn't get my mind off her. She only had contact with me once, when I requested a change of seat so I could view the sky. I told her she was gorgeous and good at her work. She smiled and asked what I do I told her am into tech. She said she knew nothing about tech but would love to learn a thing or two. That moment she left to attend to other passengers.

We got to our destination. The plane landed and passengers were getting off.

I looked around for her as I stood up but didn't see her. I even asked one of her fellow flight attendant if she knew her but she couldn't recognize who I spoke of. So I left it that way.

She just stuck in my mind until now..
I’ve searched from Google, facebook and instagram and even some dating websites. Nothing.

Of course i sent an email to the Airline to
Praise them for their service and codedly asked for her contact number. Unfortunately they told me the info is Private and they can only share the email to him when she's off duty.

I am hoping on trying all the possible way to find her. I bought some flight tickets of her airline for
traveling.

Am just hoping i can meet her again and get her number myself.

How I hate myself for not being smart and fast enough to ask for her contact details before I alight from the plane. I even forgot her name and I do not know how am I going to locate her.

I love meeting people all around the world and in spontaneous places. Other than the normal. That really gets my blood rushing (I guess that's why I have so much interest in her)

How you suggest I find her?...

Has anyone had similar experience... Maybe in the air or in some crazy location

Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

Mindlog:
Newly registered username, another tale.

Officialgarri:
This Burna is just too arrogant. What is the population of people who attends his live performance to make him even think he is African giant? Oh, because they nominated him for Grammy

We know Adeleke's money helped Davido, but it's obvious the guy kept on building himself. He's hardworking and kept getting his shows sold out. Abi, did he use his father's money to buy fans too?
Music is business and Davido sure knows what that business entails

But the Oga Patapata of them all is Starboy!! Very matured and will never make noise. Sometimes looking shy and sober or like an introvert, but the truth is, that's how to play maturity when you are being pushed to act immature.

Respect to Wizzy eleniyan!

Naija246:
the biggest mistake in my opinion is to even consider marriage

Guys should know that you will enjoy your life far better when you are single than when married.
Being single affords you the luxury of:
-developing new skills
-saving a chunk of what you earn
-it affords you the opportunity to travel more.
-you will age slower(due to less stress)
Etc
The benefits of single life for a man far outweighs the pros of being married.
We men are doing Women a HUGE!! favor by marrying them.

guys, don't let any lady sell you the idea that marriage benefits you.. it's a scam!!
Marriage benefits Women not men!!
Hoard your ring!!

Exc2000:



Stop having unrealistic expectation on a lady you haven't engaged or married, infidelity and cheating is only for married people after saying their vows, or engaged couples who had made there intentions clear..

relationship these days is like shareholders company, its who controls the highest stake in a kpekus that is the main guy while others are side niggars, even as you are getting angry be certain that many fvckers are in her facebook and instagram DM trying their luck to gain the opportunity to slack the pvssy, you shoud also hunt other girls like that

So kindly also toast more girls, go on dates, have fun and have side chicks, option A, option b and Option C in another state or location, this way you can also enjoy your life without too much worries and wouldn't be going to buy pad and cooking cat fish over Vagina that is cheaply available to everyone this days even teenagers, brick layers and agbero

In your 20s you are supposed to explore all your options and browse every available kpekus so that you can settle for the best, your girlfriend already knows the drill, na you still dey slack

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imohchard:
lol

I DISAGREE strongly with 6.

I feel you should act normal with people you intend to be family with.

Reminds me of a friend of mine, was dating a lady from a very religious family.

On their first date, he took her to a spot. He ordered 2 bottles of Beer for himself. Babe was irritated.
She came back home and told her mom. Her mom, being a wise person, told her to marry that guy. Because he would never pretend or hide anything from her.

They've been married for 10 years now.... And the lady is now a brewery herself.

uncleFola:
Oga, u see that your No 6 ehn..... I can try not to finish any food given to me..... but make person come offer me some over chilled Green bottles or Vodka with ice make I come say No..... ah e go hard small o.

creative11:
DON’T KILL YOUR HUSBAND. THIS IS HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU
By Bisi Adewale

It was discovered that a great proportion of women who killed their husbands did so because they suspected or confirmed that their men were sleeping with other women. Technology has made adultery and fornication very common nowadays. It is easier to get connected to people you’ve never met before through social media like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.
Many websites connect both single and married people for sex at a fee. Dating websites aid married people who want to cheat on their spouses to do so secretly. Even married people meet singles just for sex is very common on the internet.

Pornographic websites are said to be more than 75% of all websites on the internet. 35% of all internet downloads are related to porn. 34% of internet users have experienced unwanted pornographic content through ads, pop up ads, misdirected links or emails. It is also easier than before to keep an illicit relationship outside marriage through the use of mobile phones, chatting applications, social media, etc.

Please note that lots of women are also sleeping around, but it is more prevalent among men. However, do not generalise that all men are sleeping around.

A young executive came to me some weeks ago. His problem, a young lady was transferred to his office to work as his secretary. The lady in question was so sexy and daring. She did everything to lure the young man to bed. He wanted to know what to do to avoid sleeping with her and not to cheat on his wife. He said he had been married for 13 years and had never slept with anybody apart from his wife. Many men who are committed to their wedding vows but facing this problem still come to us for counselling. Yours may be one of them. If not, killing him is not the answer to your problem.

If you discover or suspect that your husband is sleeping with someone else apart from you, there are many things you must do quickly.
Read this piece carefully and follow the instructions given to avoid falling into the error of killing your spouse and becoming a murderer in the process:

GET YOUR FACTS RIGHT, DON’T BASE YOUR LIFE ON RUMOURS

A woman was to see a male client in a particular hotel lobby in Ikoyi. She went with one of her staff who had no business in the meeting. The staff was supposed to be on another project at that time.
I asked her, "Why are you taking your staff with you for the meeting?"
She said, "To avoid rumours. If my driver sees me coming to a hotel with a man without anyone with us, he will begin to carry rumours that are not true”

This got me thinking. Lots of women are dying today based on lies, misrepresentation, and rumours about their husbands which may not be true.

So, get your facts right. If you hear rumours, investigate it carefully but give your husband the benefit of doubt.

GET YOUR EVIDENCE RIGHT; DON’T BASE YOUR MARRIAGE ON SUSPICION

A young wife called our office some months ago. She told us that her husband was sleeping around. We invited both of them to our office, only to discover that her grouse was her husband not sucking her breasts ever since they got married. This made her think he was sucking someone else's breasts somewhere.
But her dear husband is a “Holy Man” who believed that sucking breasts is a sin. He asked me, “Sir, why should I suck her breasts when I'm not a baby?” We opened his eyes to Proverbs 5:15-19 and he was very shocked. He returned home to do his job right and the wife called me with great joy the second day. That ended her suspicion of infidelity.

Please never accuse your husband wrongly if you don’t have any piece of evidence, it may not be what you think. It can be so hurtful if he is not doing it but he is accused of wrongly. Even, it may make some people go ahead and do it.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTION

No matter what happens, take control of your emotion, even if you get all the pieces of evidence needed and they are watertight. Let your maturity show here. That is why marriage is for matured minds only, not babies in diapers. Cry if you feel like; please cry loudly when alone or with your counsellor. It will help your emotion; it will help you to calm down and think rationally.

REMEMBER THAT KILLING HIM WILL GET YOU INTO DEEP TROUBLE

Remember and have in mind that killing your husband will get you into hot water with the law, disrupt your life forever, put you to shame, hurt your children dearly, make you a widow and make your children fatherless. The cost is much more than having him sleep with another woman.

One woman said, “My husband is a womanizer, but I won’t kill him. At least, they release him to come back home after finishing with him. He needs to come back home to pay house rent and school fees.”

POSITION YOURSELF TO DISCOVER INFIDELITY QUICKLY

Lots of women are clueless. A woman never knew her husband had been unfaithful. She didn't know that her husband had another family outside until a woman brought three children home for her husband.

Lots of women know that their husbands are unfaithful only after his death.
A woman told us how three women came with four children to her husband's funeral. She said she was unaware of her husband's escapades with other women until that day. That is very funny and it shows the lack of knowledge and absence of insensitivity.

If a wife discovers infidelity issues early, the man can be stopped. Some of them need help as they feel trapped but don’t know what to do. You see, no man can be a perfect womanizer beside a very sensitive, Godly and smart wife. There will be clues all around beyond what you are hunting but checking his phones.

There are thirty-seven clues every womanizing man will give out cheaply as they enter into an illicit relationship outside. The infidelity will be boldly written over them no matter how smart they are. But most wives will not be able to read the language in which it is written. So they will live in total darkness despite overwhelming evidence. Everybody around the wife will know but may never tell her because they know she may never believe them.

I will suggest you quickly download my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN. In the book, I revealed the thirty-seven clues, where to get them and what to do with them. I also wrote about how to make your husband never to desire any other woman out there.

DON’T FALL INTO DEPRESSION

Some women do not kill their cheating husbands. Instead, they kill themselves by overthinking negatively, depression, high blood pressure many health challenges or suicide.
Do you want to die to make another woman happy? Don’t give her that joy, not at all. NO IMMORAL MAN IS WORTH DYING FOR. Wake up, girl! Cry if you must. Yes, do cry, it is good for your health. But take care of your thinking, take charge of your mind and don’t allow them to steal your joy. No depression. Sing aloud, dance, shout for joy. NO SORRY, NO SORROW! Don’t die for them to come and make love on your tomb, not at all. Live to fulfil your day, take charge of your emotion.

DON'T TURN IT TO A BATTLE

As a counsellor, I know that not all women who killed their husbands intended to kill them, not at all. The problem is that they allowed their emotions to take the better of them and turn their homes to a battlefield. They used any weapon that came to their mind: knives, pestle, frying pan, bottles, grinding stones and anything that could inflict injury.

They turned the battle against themselves in the process and became murderers. What a heavy burden for a woman to bear.

APPLY WISDOM

Some people may tell you not to ask your husband about your discovery. No. Ask him, confront him, but do so by applying wisdom. It is not something to handle rashly. In my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN, I devoted a whole chapter to discussing how to confront a cheating husband without losing him. It is a very technical issue; you need to know what to do. As I said, you can get the book on Familabooks.com. I will advise you to download the eBook version on your phone so that you can read it discreetly to yourself.
I think every woman needs it especially the chapters that deal with how to protect your husband from other women and how to discover if your husband is cheating on you. Click here to download the book now.

CHECK YOURSELF

Don’t just blame your husband for sleeping around, check yourself. One study shows that 80% of Nigerian married women hate sex. It also showed that sex is what causes the major crisis in Nigerian marriages as lots of wives are frigid.
Statements such as “I'm tired tonight honey” “Not again tonight honey” "But you did one the day before yesterday” “Is it food?” “Don’t you think of any other thing?" pervades many bedrooms, thus making men vulnerable to willing and ready beauty queens out there.
Most married men want sex two or three times a week. However, lots of married women want sex once a month only. One husband told me that he had not been able to sleep with his wife in the last 6 weeks because she complained of being tired.

It is wrong for any man to sleep around, nobody can justify that for any reason. But it is also wrong to deny your husband sex. Up your game, sex is legal in marriage. You said "I DO” on your wedding day, GO AND DO. If they DO it better out there, you will lose your husband to them. Don't be foolish; get Hot and sexy with your husband. Pursue your husband, give him a bed shaking sex at home and let him go to the office battered with a back issue tomorrow. You can't win a man with a hooked bra and padlocked pant. Your body belongs to him. Suffocate him with sex so that when he sees other women, they will look like trees to him.

You will also need to download my book about sex in marriage titled: THE SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE to know how to become an extraordinary bedroom expert to your husband and turn him to a lover boy.

UP YOUR GAME

Up your game in every area of wifehood. Cook right, pray rightly, dress right, talk rightly, behave right and sex him rightly. Deal with him till he forgets his surname, he is your husband. What is he looking for outside that you don’t have? But are you giving him? Check yourself and get back to bed hot and sizzling and stop wearing jeans knickers to bed or tying wrapper around your body like a woman of the 17th century.

CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE

What about your behaviour at home? An immoral man told me that his wife stresses him at home but those girls treat him with care. This can be true about lots of women. They see the ring as the right over their husbands to treat them like trash and have their ways the way they want it. Sorry girl, if you treat your king like trash, you may be enthroning a new queen in your position. (Hope I'm not being too harsh on you)

DON’T BOTTLE IT

Don’t ever bottle your discovery about your husband. No, you need to speak out but speak right. If you bottle it, one day you may burst. You may hurt yourself or husband or kill him.

PRAY ABOUT IT

One of the best solutions is prayer. Talk to God about it. Commit your emotions and the situation to God. Commit your husband to the hands of God before you speak to him.

DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME

Don’t make the mistake of leaving your home because you are angry with your husband. If you do, you will just hand over the keys of your home to these small girls. Don’t be tempted to leave.

REACH OUT TO THE GIRL

You may need to reach out to the girl sleeping with your husband in some cases. It can work if the lady never knew he was married but was deceived. However, if the lady is the “private prostitute” type, this may not work, but you can give it a try.

A young wife called the lady going out with her husband recently and introduced herself as his wife. The girl was so shocked as the guy told her he was not married and promised her marriage. The side chick apologized and broke the relationship. Before you call the girl, investigate her. Check her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Check what she is posting, you will get to know the kind of girl she is in the process.
If you must talk to the girl, please be cautious. Do not fight, do not shout and do not sound beggarly. The lady may be rude and non-cooperative. Don’t bother, just speak to her conscience. Tell her you are her sister, please emphasize the sister point. Let her see reason, talk to her soul. Let her know what you and the children are passing through at home because of her. Let her know how irresponsible your husband has become since dating her. Let her know your labour over your husband and sacrifices since you married him. Let her know that one day she will be married too; ask her how she will feel if such was done to her.

A woman got information that her husband was sleeping around and she investigated to get more details. One day, she knew her husband would likely visit the girl. She paid a bike man to trail his car to wherever he was going. The bike man did as instructed. The wife then decided to visit her husband in the girl's apartment. Lo, it was her husband who answered the door when she knocked. He was shocked but the wife did not fight (you can’t win when you fight a man's mistress. He will use your attitude as a reason for running away from the house). She spoke to the conscience of the girl. She spoke kindly to the girl and told her that the man must have been deceiving her like he has been doing to other girls of the age of his daughters. The girl was too confused to utter a word than just to say she was sorry. She told the wife her husband told her wasn't married because his wife died about three years before they met and promised to marry her.
That was the end of that relationship. The man came back home shamefully and the situation got to him because the wife never fought when he got back home. His food was ready on the table and the wife welcomed him back like a royal. The result, he learned to keep his erection at home.

TALK TO A COUNSELLOR

Before you confront your husband, you will need to see a counsellor, not your family and his family who will complicate the whole matter.
A counsellor will evaluate the whole matter and teach you what to do to get your husband back. So wherever you are, look for a counsellor quickly, don’t die in silence.

If you don’t talk to a counsellor now, you will need to talk to a lawyer later when you are in trouble.
If you want to reach me to talk on the issue of your marriage, let's talk now, don’t die in silence.
Send me a mail or call right now. I will be glad to talk to you.

Follow me on Twitter and Instagram @bisiadewale

Please, share this for all women to see. Let us stop these incessant domestic killings, every life is sacred, every life is important. Don’t take any life.

@Bisi Adewale

emeijeh:
Which kaen yeye actor dey pose to snap picture for inside Diamond Bank?