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sosospence:
Chiefs of Staff always behave like that Na.

thesicilian:
You know you're seriously broke when your younger brother is made the chairman of the family meeting even when you're present.

arinze198:
Source: https://pmexpressng.com/well-cut-off-your-hands-if-you-dont-keep-money-one-million-boys-writes-lagos-residents/

HeavenlyCherub:
Wow thank you for sharing this with me. It really touched my heart. I did everything for him in my power. Gave him my car and I would walk to work, gave him a place to live, rent free, clothed him, cooked. It wasn't enough. I have been very dismissive to people lately and I pray God can restore my heart so I can fully love and trust again. I'm not perfect but God knows I'm a good woman. I will heed your advice and not change who I am out of bitterness and wait on God. Thank you so much

Ishitinyourlife:
I live in the west, I'm single and in my late thirties, I work independently I have a store/cybercafe/gamehouse where I sell electronics like home sound system, games, pads, phone accessories, mobile phones etc and I also have a cyber cafe and a game house in the same building.

I have about 6 workers that run the place with me cos I can't be everywhere at all time and the shop is a little big. Among my workers is a very beautiful 22 year old undergraduate that works for me when she gets off school and during holidays. I like all my workers and I treat them right but I'm not really a guy that gets personal with people so they know I have boundaries, but this girl is exceptional. She takes her work diligently makes even more sales than me in the shop most of the time cos she is good with people.

This girl is very attractive and she dresses nice too. She doesn't wear revealing clothes. She's modest, all calm. I used to buy food from restaurants to eat in the shop before because I don't really like cooking but she told me I don't need to do that, she can make my food and bring it over to the shop for me. Like she will bring me food in the morning before school and afternoon and she refused to collect a dime from me.

People are starting to feel a certain vibe among us cos she smiles whenever she looks at me and even my workers do call her oga's wife jokingly.

In truth I like the girl but I don't know if asking her out might cause a problem to my business.

Advise me please.

cyprus000:
I've never had a girlfriend nor even found it necessary, and my ggz consider me weird. this is not to say I'm a neophyte in the game; heck, I can't count the plethora of galz I've flowed, only for my interest to douse subsequently cos I don't want to hurt anyone with my stolidity toward romance.

I've got a projection for my future, and I'm yet to achieve it; thus, can't waste effort on triviality on the most abused term called love.
the truth is that; the present mentality of an average Nigerian woman, is pernicious to the progress of one seeking to establish himself(a poisoning discrepancy between them and their European counterparts). I'm not saying it to disparage them, but it's simply the palpable truth.
they present themselves as liability to be serviced by the highest bidder and it's a pitiable situation, an ignominious one at that.

mimilogs:
You are very correct.

The op made lots of mistakes other young men should learn from.

I do read comments from the usernames you mentioned, in as much as their posts do sound harsh and awkward, I will say they have some bitter lessons for young people to learn.


And from the little time I have spent reading posts on Nairaland romance section, I want to advice young people on this forum looking forward to learn more about relationship, dating, marriage and love to always read and follow comments from the below handles:


Martinez39s
ubunja
Toks2008
Franchasmg
Emmaodet
Procillian
Ishilove

And some others I cannot remember.


There are so many truths in their harsh comments on this forum, if you calm down you will learn a lot.





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Tankunland:
When Shola's mom called me her first question was do i know who the father of Samuel is and I replied and said yes of course it's her grand daughters dad and she said to me I'm the real father of Samuel and that her late daughter reiterated it 2 days before she died guys I went crazy again.


Why me, why me, why me was the question I was asking my self. Why is all this thing's happening to me was the question that just kept repeating itself in my head.


I went to see my boy and the connection was instant ooo just carrying him again after 6 months send shivers down my spine and now I'm just waiting for his Grandma to tell the other guy that Samuel is mine.


I have already started sending my kid small small money again for his up keep Lol even tho not much because I don't even have much now but i would do everything within my power to give this Young kid the best of life that me and his late mother my queen his mother planned for him even when I never knew he was mine.


Wow I'm done. My hands ache. Just wanna say thank you to Seun Osewa for this beautiful forum, thank you to Joe Abah for retweeting that tweet even tho it hasn't yield devident yet but thanks and thank you to those beautiful souls that saved my life with that 9k I know you remember me and I say God bless you.


and to those on the verge of suicide I tell you that you can overcome and it's not the end of the world for you and Whatever you are passing through has an end ok and I need you to realize people somewhere is passing through the same or even harder situation than you. Don't give up, don't stop praying even tho I lost my faith a lil but don't lose yours because only the almighty can do all things.


To my young sister's reading this please be contented with what your man gives to you. The course of sholas death was so painful when I heard but please my dear sister dont date a Yahoo boy for any reason or even go out with one.


I tell you Yahoo doesn't work again and what they do now is Yahoo plus and some of this guy's are heartless and don't care about anyone than just to make that fetish money amd they would use you and any other girl they find to keep that money coming.


To my Young King's reading this don't have a girlfriend in your 20s please. Use that time to develop your self. Work hard to make yourself better as getting a girlfriend would really slow you dowm from attaining that top you want to go.

And last Please if you are too weak to move on or too tired to live again and you think suicide is your escape please speak out, yes some would laugh at you and call you names but speak out as there is that one person that would listen to you.



I LOVE YOU SHOLA AND REST IN PEACE

Tetrahedron:
Why are the names sounding very funny

Which company dey bear skelewu?, Tom shot bank?

wreckormend:
Since the Corona break has made us all practically useless. Even movies couldn't help the level of boredom I was feeling.

So I thought I should give my girlfriend a little bit high BP. I sent her this prank message. Had to tone it down a little so she doesn't go crazy before the end.

She hasn't read it though, but I can only imagine what her reaction will be when she wakes to this. Happy new month guys.

erico2k2:
to ur 1st question answer yes, I have lived and worked abroad, I cam here very young o utta Uni in 9ja
The minimum wage as it stands is £8.21, this is what you are paid no matter what you do as far as you are above 25 anywhere in the Uk,Ths is the lowest pay even if you live in one Bush. people do an average of 8.5 hours a day some work 12 hours my 9ja people . so most cleaners do 60 hours a week or let me say odd jobs etc.

niyogeol:
Take it easy man. At the bolded above, how can a KP earn almost #800k which is about £1600 a month without labouring beyond normal; especially given that study visa has work restrictions during school term? What is the the minimum wage? How many hours a week does/will the person work? Let us be realistic here and stop painting non existing mosaic.

Again, how do you compare someone having €100 in Europe to someone having #100m in Nigeria? Are you for real? Nigeria is not perfect regarding structure and functionality as a country but don't overreach on your assumptions. #100m is about £200,000! Please note that not everyone on this forum is ignorant or uneducated or perhaps not well travelled.

Youngjohnosas:
it's a misery, women r just too complex to understand.i dated my ex for 3 years and fell so much in love with her because she was so understanding and nice.i messed things up by becoming too nice to her.Each time we had a disagreement she would always play d victim even when it was obvious she was clearly at fault, sometimes she would boastfully say she doesn't know how to say sorry to a guy.

it started degenerating that most times she did something wrong and I yelled at her,she would block my lines for days that I had to resort to asking my friends and siblings to beg her on my behalf because I felt I was a nice guy.it got into her head and she started misbehaving badly and on some few occasions I broke up with her but I couldn't even stay for two hours without hearing her voice, so each time I felt she was using me and broke up she won't even bother to say sorry because she knew I couldn't stay without talking to her.

I stumbled on a post here on nairaland and a particular comment got hold of me,that the only way to earn a woman's respect is to make her feel worthless and undervalued.the following week she did something outrageous and didn't even bother to apologise she was waiting for me to do the needful by calling her,yeah I did call her but to inform her I wasn't interested in the relationship anymore, she laughed and said ok thank you.

that day I was restless and couldn't eat, the urge to call her was very high but I resisted it and held on for 7days, on the 7th she called and was like so u are this heartless,I posted that I was sick on my WhatsApp status and u didn't even bother to check on me ,I just laughed and she angrily ended d call thinking I was going to call her back but I didn't.

two days later she called again and was like are u like this now, I was just laughing and ever since she has been calling over and over again.the day I mistakenly called her number and quickly ended d call she called me back over 10 times pleading that she wasn't with her phone when I called.

last night she opened up and pleaded and pleaded that I should forgive her and I told her I wasn't interested anymore,at some point she would angrily end d call and later call back to start pleading, this morning her elder sister and brother called me trying to show concern although they didn't mention her name, Right now she has dropped a lot of messages on WhatsApp .I am really surprised although I am never going back to her again.thanks nairaland.

anoziechi:
I loved him soo much....then I started thinking all men were the same till I met my fiance....I always think of him every minute of the day thinking he will apologise cos I was ready to forgive him....but he never did....I had to move on with my life

anoziechi:
I went through his phone and laptop....it took me 3years to get over him....but I found someone better....that relationship taught me a lot

isthatso:
A broke good man is only a fallacy to a woman who was never on his level. I.e your theory only applies if the man was never on your level in the 1st place and you could only catch him because he was broke and facing hard times then yes when he overcomes that he likely will leave you but if you are on the same level or you are a higher level than him, he wont leave.

Ajegunle girl dates broke Ikoyi man, broke Ikoyi man sorts himself out and dumps Ajegunle girl because you were never on the same level.

Ikoyi girl dates broke Ajegunle man, he aint going nowhere broke or rich because he can never do better than you and you were there when he was broke!


Most men value women who were there in hard times and dont joke with them so if you stand by a man when he is broke and he leaves you after he makes it, then it is likely because you were never on his level socially and he was only managing you through hard times so take a good look at your levels before you date a broke man. Ask yourself, money aside am I on his level, would this man date me if he wasn't broke?

For many of the women with your mindset, the real problem is they are not attractive to men as life partners except as a pitstop in hard times. Look inwards and resolve the issues in your life/attitude that make you unattractive to men who are doing ok instead of blaming men. harsh but true!!!

Korllami007:
All of them are looking for rich dude to date or marry when out of 100% of men in Nigeria 20% to 30% are rich, whereas 100% of women want to date or marry the 20% or 30% that are rich. If you see a rich dude and you think you are the only one admiring him or hitting on him, you are deceiving yourself. So, the rich dude wey you dey admire has a lot of girls on his neck.

Whenever you're hitting on a rich dude in your area, just see him as a champions league trophy because you are part of the 32 teams that are fighting for him, but one team will eventually win him. The funniest thing is that all the 32 teams may fight for the trophy (rich dude) on his bed, so get prepared by getting your pvssy in training sessions because one team (one girl) out of numerous teams (girls) will win the trophy (rich dude) It's survival of the fittest.