So,I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (since my year1 in school) and I just found out she was cheating with me with our caretaker.. He(the caretaker) and my girlfriend are of same tribe, I guess they kinda blend. Am older than the guy he is 23 and am 24.
My girlfriend and I are currently roommate in year 3). We moved in together late October last year. She also cheating on me with another dude from her town where she resides. Before our academic break (22 Dec 2019) she frequent our caretakers room too often,I try tell her to stop that am not comfortable with it, of which she shrug off saying she is only being friends with him because the speak same dialet,and we all live in the same compound. She would stay late at his room,I had to tell her(sternly) not to visit his room again and she agreed. But she still visit him.
When we return from our academic break,she started to visit him again. She stayed late again with our caretaker Just outside our room and I asked her nicely to to get inside because it's late and she entered and bid caretaker goodnight. She got the bed after taking her bath,and we got talking I told her not to stay out past 9pm. She got angry saying I simply don't like him that and I hate seeing him with her,she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her. The next day she refused to talk to me before going to class. When we got home later that day,we just found ourselves Talking . A mutual friend (female)of our visited, we were eating and my eyes just got a glimpse of her WhatsApp message telling our caretaker that I almost attack her yesterday because I saw them together. I didn't react then,I had to keep my cool. Later that day I told my friend what I just saw (my girlfriend message to our caretaker) she said I should ignore,but anger got the best of me.i was angry because she told him I nearly attacked her.
When we got home,I asked her for her phone which she gave me reluctantly,I went through her WhatsApp messages with the guy. And I found out she do tell the guy our personal things ( including when I told her not to visit him) she shouldn't tell anyone. She must have told the guy am controlling her because he asked if am still controling her that I have no shame for trying to attack her the previous day. I went further into their chat and I saw where he told the boy that she missed her period and the boy told her they would do pregnancy test.
I know she might have told a very good friend of her about the guy,so I went to their chat. She told her friend about the guy and she told her she lived him and they had sex already.but her friend told her not to destroy her relationship for just a crush or is she willing to leave me for the boy,she said NO.
I had to check if she still cheating on me with others guys. I got to a chat and my suspicion was right. She was telling this guy she was pregnant and this dude was ignoring he messages and chats. She later went on saying is is because she was forcing herself on him.
She had sex with this dude 25 December,had sex with caretaker 27december. After I must have read all chats,I went home and confronted her she denied at first I later told her i read her chats and she started crying saying it was a mistake that it won't happen again ,that she was drunk when the second guy had sex with her and having sex with our caretaker was a mistake. I called her mother and told her what has happened she was disappointed in her but she also begged me to forgive her. I keep wondering where I got it all wrong and asked her but she said i have been nothing but faithful that she can't explain something what came over her. I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me
To cut the story short. I told her I have forgiven her,but deep down,I haven't..
I don't know what to do.. Please help...
NOTE I have Never cheated on her. I believe in equality in relationship. I don't control her. I never Never check her phone all through our relationship. I guess that's why she didn't had to delete her chats.
Kindly ignore my grammatical errors
She's using reverse psychology on you and it's working perfectly because you're a blue pill boy.
In the middle of the night today, I tried to look for duvet to cover up my son on bed. I decided to check my wife wardrobe.
I saw a pack of mycoten in the wardrobe. She already slept this time. So I had to chill till this morning to ask her questions.
So, this morning when I asked her, she said it was her mum that gave her bla bla bla.. I saw a piece of paper prescribing that cream for her in that same bag I found the cream.
I googled the uses of mycoten and I found out it was nothing serious because it is use for yeast infection and vagina odour. My wife dont have vagina odour and I understand yeast infection can be gotten from toilet or could be infection of body skin that spread or so.
I actually know she lied about her mummy giving her. But what baffles me is that I got a whatsapp message from her when she was coming from my son school..
She wrote that I nag a lot. That I should give her space. That u think she can't cope without me. She said she will look for work to take care of our son.She said we have been together for six years and I don't even trust her a bit. She said I think she can't leave without her. She didn't even address the issue of allegation of infidelity I threw against her(i deliberately did that #.I replied her I can't give her space in my own house and if she is fed up, she can pack her bags and go to her parent house. I told her if my son is infected or if I am infected , I am going to kill her and hand over myself to police. Immediately she blocked me on whatsapp and I did same. After an hour, she unblocked me.
Could she have been sleeping around her? Or are there any other uses of mycoten I don't know?
In my mind though, the cream I find is not really something to worry about but the message I got and her reaction is what I don't understand.
Na their way.
Don't fall for this manipulation. Chill, do as if nothing happened and observe things.
There is no cause for alarm unless you see an evidence of infidelity.
I know she probably lied to you which is normal for women to lie.
Hence I am concern you got no solid proof. Relax and enjoy your marriage.
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Martinelli35: Am at a breaking point in my life.i need to find a way to move on,but it seems an unseen force keeps holding me back. It all started almost 8 years ago while I was in my second year in school I met this lady who came seeking admission into my school.she stayed at my place off campus for a while at the behest of a close friend.we got close to the extent that when she got admission and I was in my third year we started dating.Initially there were issues,not between us but from external parties like my friends and family especially my mum to end the relationship.They all thought she was well below standards in many ramifications,but I didn't see what they were seeing.all I saw was a girl who cared for me and I adamantly remained faithful.i graduated a year before and even when we were serving we remained very close and we were still dating.we have had mini breakups and makeups and fights,but we have always pulled through.i loved her so much.And then in 2017 I found out that she cheated on me with someone she met on facebook.i was devastated,never felt pain like that in my life before,I was very tempted to move on but I couldn't,she begged and moved heaven and earth,promising it won't happen again,so I forgave her, choosing to see it as an unwitting mistake,as it wasn't in her character to do such.we got back on good terms,but then it happened a year later,this time under the influence of a close female friend I had warned her seriously about.i was ready to end it,but that unseen force held me back.i felt defeated.she begged and I forgave and we moved on.Fast forward to 2019/2020,i had plans to travel outside the country to further my studies,but my visa application got rejected twice in 2019.so I recently made another application to another country,of which I expect the whole process to take around six months.i had hoped to go over there and settle down and arrange for her to come meet me there.For the mean time I had lost my job and was on the lookout for a new one so I moved to her state where there was more opportunities to sought out one temporarily.initially I was staying in a hotel,but due to paucity of funds,I took her up on her offer to stay at her place till everything settled.i stayed there for two months and it was nothing short of hell,initially she was supportive,no job was forthcoming,and I was getting really low on funds,any funds coming my way was put into my travel plans.she just changed,someone I thought I knew for over seven years started degrading me in any way possible,I even later found out that she was seeing some guys.she denied it .someone who loved seeing slot started giving me the cold shoulder,I couldn't even touch her anymore.it was as if she now hated me because she thinks am broke.This was someone I had stood by,forgiven and supported for over 7 years.a girl I was ready to spend the rest of my life with,raise a family with.she now treats me like scum,like a nobody.Anytime I prepare to leave with my things,she changes back and begs and gives all sort of excuse and promises to change,but alas! just give her two days,it's back to square one.i do not want to continue with her again,but here is where the force holds me back.Am attached to her,I have known no other woman.i don't even know how to start over.i have tried,it doesn't work out.i don't know want to do.i have and want to leave,but don't know how to.what do I do? Nairalanders I need your help sincerely,no insults please.forgive my typographical errors and lack of appropriate punctuation,I typed in a hurry.
marvin905: dude your utterly dumb.. what of me that don't have long finger nails.. even if I had .. if you know where some marks where made and how they where made you will swallow those words
So this particular opinion automatically made me dumb
Wow, what an intelligent homo-sapien you're. Go and carry trophy from Buhari.
anuma1: finally I called to let her be. I don't want to see her again. It seems that the phone exposed her. attached is the message she sent to me. I used Afroknight reply to finish her.
Lol, not the best way to go. When someone think they are smart, make them look f00lish.
anuma1: Please I need your Candid Advice my fellow Nairalander's. I joined Nairaland on July 03 2014. So nairaland is like my second home. mean while ignore my typo. Error. I met this girl three years ago, she is not that pretty but because of her so called caring and calls I was in love with her, since then any time she comes around ( I stay in awka she stay in owerri). she will be going through my phone as if she is a saint. she don't want see me interact with my female friends even the ones I knew before her. she goes through my whatsapp my Sms etc. The day I tried going through her phone we dragged the phone for about 20 minutes and she started explaining. To cut the story short. Her phone was faulty Eailier this year so she's has been using her mothers phone to make calls. So she told me the she will be travelling to Abuja today (Jan 22 2020) that She will come to my on Monday to take a phone because I deal on phones and Accessories here in Awka, so finally she came on Tuesday that was (21 January 2020) So she came to my shop and I gave her a phone. My annoyance was That Immediately I gave her a phone calls started coming in form different persons. I told her "I know that is because of this phone you came to see me " she smile and I asked her " So you did not tell these people calling to buy phone for you abi" she replied why are mine insulting her and I was like I am insulting you now abi. But the one wey vex me pass was when a line called her "kene was the name" so music was playing in my shop so the person ask her " That place is very noisy where are you and she replied " I went to some where to charge my phone " and I was dumb--- I was like -- Eh my shop, is where you are charging your phone pulse the phone I gave you. I was so heart broken my heart was bleeding I felt like a fool. after the call she started telling me that it was her cousin bla bla bla bla bla. when we got home I treated her to swear with a Bible she started telling me a different story that kene is who she dated before that the guy likes calling her. and she said " You know that she's a girl and she's not married yet so guys admire her. And I replied "So guys admire you and you don't want me to admire others girls. and she knelt down begging and shadding fake tears. and I also threatened her to swaer for me with the bible that since she left my house on December 7 that she has not had sex and she was like I should forget all these and was forming fake tears. so when she bathing I came to the bathroom telling her to tell me the truth and I forcefully turned her face only to find out that she was busy laughing. So morning I took her to the GUO park in Awka here. My face was not smilling and and she asked said this one my face is like this are my missing her and I replied " I don't miss you even a bit " and she said swear and I was like If I miss you make I die. Immediately fake tears started dropping from her eyes. I left her and fine my way home. I don't want again. How do I discharge her. please this is my main account. My brother , my dad and my In-laws are in this forum too but there is no need to create a new account because na my matter. Your Advice please
Martinez39: Well, we can't save everyone. It one thing to love the blue pill because that's how one was brought up and it's another thing to love the blue pill despite being given the red pill. There are simps that will become red pill when they encounter the red pill while some simps can't be saved. I used to think the red-pill messages that guys like me and ubunja were spreading were useless until people started testifying and I rescued a nairalander who contacted me on whatsapp. I am sure there are also others who Ubunja's miseducation helps but they don't talk about it.
We are legion.
That we don't talk doesn't mean we are few. I have shared so many red pill messages in the last few months and my niggas are happy for the awakening.
Vicboy1: Ubunja, martinez39 I swear Americans and other Western countries need this redpill If I get rich I will surely publish the books I will make sure it spread It hurts me whenever I see some men falling for this women tactics
There are waking up. Coach Red Pill is doing a good job.
Sorry to say this, if your wife or wife to be is among this people or have this kind of mentality, you're doomed. They don't know Christ, they only know their Pastor who doesn't know Christ.
The root cause of our problem is RELIGION.
Are you aware that you're forbidden to wear cloth made of more than one material? Are you aware that you're forbidden to plant more than one kind of seed in a field? Read Leviticus 19 vs 19 Are you aware that you're not suppose to eat fat? Read Leviticus 3:17
Do you know that your stubborn and rebellious son should be stone to death? Read Deuteronomy 21:18-21
So upon all the laws in Deuteronomy 22, they only picked out one and sell to you? I don't blame the Pastors that doesn't know Christ, I blame you that doesn't have sense. There are 613 laws, how many do you obey?
Galatians 5 vs 1 It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.
Hebrews 7:18-19 18 The former regulation is set aside because it was weak and useless 19 (for the law made nothing perfect), and a better hope is introduced, by which we draw near to God. .
Hebrews 7:12 For when the priesthood is changed, the law must be changed also. . Hebrew 8 vs 13 "By calling this covenant “new,” he has made the first one obsolete; and what is obsolete and outdated will soon disappear."
Romans 7:6 But now, by dying to what once bound us, we have been released from the law so that we serve in the new way of the Spirit, and not in the old way of the written code.
Galatians 3 vs 10 For all who rely on the works of the law are under a curse, as it is written: “Cursed is everyone who does not continue to do everything written in the Book of the Law.”
Galatians 2:21 I do not set aside the grace of God, for if righteousness could be gained through the law, Christ died for nothing!”
Hebrews 10:9-10 9 Then he said, “Here I am, I have come to do your will.” He sets aside the first to establish the second. 10 And by that will, we have been made holy through the sacrifice of the body of Jesus Christ once for all.
. . He set aside OLD COVENANT found in the old testament to establish the NEW COVENANT found in the new testament.
. 2 Corinthians 3:6 He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life. . * The letter here is the old covenant (laws) while the spirit is the new covenant. Read the whole chapter for better understanding.
God has no religion and Christ didn't preach any religion.
9jayes: First salary should be for the pastor na. He prays for you for the whole year, he deserves your January salary. First seed
Thessalonians 3:7-10 7 For you yourselves know how you ought to follow our example. We were not idle when we were with you, 8 nor did we eat anyone’s food without paying for it. On the contrary, we worked night and day, laboring and toiling so that we would not be a burden to any of you. 9 We did this, not because we do not have the right to such help, but in order to offer ourselves as a model for you to imitate. 10 For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.”
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