Ryan03: you see the woman (wife) as manipulative and a liar but the other women (mother and siblings) that you want to bring in to stay permanently are not manipulative and they dont lie? See how you cause problems for yourself
CosmicJames: Do you know the truth of this matter? No lady can successfully separate her in-laws from her home without the help of her husband.
No women can separate you from your own people except you want it to be so.
I don't blame women that stop their in-laws from visiting or staying with her in her husband's house because I know that it is what their husbands want.
But their husbands are smart pretenders who put their wives at the front putting the blame on their wives to escape the wrath of their families.
Free the women! They are not the problem. Their husbands is!!
You underestimate women. They are naturally manipulators, same goes to telling lies. That's how they are made, you need to understand that and flow with them.
I think you really need to study more to understand women.
MhizzV: Rules are meant to be followed not broken...for every rule my husband will impose on ma family,it will be applicable to his...and any rule I impose on his family, will be applicable to mine too...
Say you give am money to start business
Women of this days wants equality they can never get from a real man. Well, there will always be simps out there to fill the vacuum.
Slymonster: Donald Trump is wealthy before he became president. Micheal Bloomberg who is also showing interest contesting is also a billionaire. The problem with nigerians. Even with their riches,they still steal more.
Simply because Nigerians sold the position to them via vote selling.
The cost of winning an election in Nigeria is too high.
Casalinda: Good evening guys.. First would love to say this my first time coming any platform to pour my heart and seek you all kind advices and opinions, please i might not get my English and sentence right!! But please pay attention to message. And be kind enough not to judge or insulting because non of can even survive a mile if you walk on my shoe. I plead you all read carefully with understanding
I’m a 27yrs young lady from ibibio. I am your typical pretty, eloquent, a bit of class, fair and 5ft a graduate and working with an non governmental parastatal here at Abuja. I met this guy who is in his mid 30, we both fell in love. He is from the east. work with a multinational company here in Abuja. He is not your average kind of man, he is above average well educated and speak proficiently well.
First time we both went out on a date @blueCuban here in Abuja it was heavenly words will fail me here as he treated as queen. I have never been this well treated with so much kindness and everything about him was just too perfect.. the very first sight when I walked out of office to meet him where he packed. I was blown away by his height, the way he smell god!!!! He smell goooood I must confess he was just everything I had dream of... dark, tall and you typical heterosexual man full with muscularity, he was just the one and I felt glad and lucky that I have met him and I will not let..
We both fell in love and decided to make it official. I got to meet his friends, family and just anyone close to him. Fast forward months into our relationship. While cleaning up the house I found a RVS drugs inside the walk in closet hidden carefully in the bedroom... I got so afraid even knowing we practice safe sex always and never for once have we get carried away. My whole world came down on me!!! Not a word has he was out with friend I ran to the nearest private hospital requested for a full test and it all came out negative, waited for 3 month did another and still negative. I never mentioned this until the last time did the last test. I confronted him and he open up that he is HIV positive.... I cried that night could not sleep.. here is one person who had genuinely make me happy, someone who I am deeply in love. I cried and cried he kept begging me and telling me he will never put me on harm-way those were his words. A weeks later he gifted me a brand new SUV car but felt he was trying to buy and I told him that I love beyond him being hiv positive and that I would want to spend my life with him..
It was not all perfect as I will not paint a false image here, in 2 occasions he has open up to me on him cheating while he was out of the country on official trip. Truth is I am not the kind of girl who will blow things out of proportion because a man decide to be foolish. I will never bronze a man ego but shaming him when things like this comes up. Also I had my own issues. I’m very dramatic I became very protective of him and started monitoring him which had complain off over and over that my attitude is making him fall out of love with me
He was very faithful to his drugs and on one of the visit to the hospital it was shown that the viral load has been suppressed and it became un-dictated.. we both were happy and a little relieved.
Last Christmas we had a serious fight over something that I believe should not had escalated to him smashing his iPhone 11 and getting all aggressive with me. When it got all serious I left the house and went straight to my own house because I needed him to clam down. But oga got a new phone the following day and block me on all social media platforms and even calling him I was blocked from reaching him as I tried too. I quickly reach out to his closest friend who help talk to him and ask him to clam down so we could talk things out.. he eventually did and we talk and things seem a little normal but not like it normally used to be.. I have apologized over and over and he said it was fine and that he has forgiven me, yet things were not normal it got to point that I questioned his love for me and oga said he doesn’t love me anymore down on this are the message he sent me.. I have beg him over and over telling him how much he means to me telling him I will less my drama but oga is not bending
Here I’m confused, tour apart, I have used everyone he knows both family and friends and they telling me to give him space for now and that “what will be will be” truth non of them know all the sacrifices I have made non of them know how well I have gave my life and even put it at risk for him... I do not want to mention this to any of them because I don’t want to betray him even at these point he is hurting me
I love him and really wants him back please guys I need an honest advice on what to do?? I need my man back.
She wanted to be like her mother in many ways The way she walks, the way she smiles Over and above all The way she brushes her hair back She heard it all being said to her Saw it all happeneing in her life Like every woman She's been trapped in this fairy tale Find a frog, kiss it And hope it would turn into a handsome prince How many frogs had she kissed in her life None of them turned into a handsome prince The little girl made a decision in her life, oh And she promised to keep it
I'm gonna kiss no frog
Everything went the way she wanted Every dream was what she wanted But when it came to finding someone To spend her life with Same old story
Find a frog, kiss it And hope it'll turn into a prince, oh Better to be alone and happy Then being with someone and being unhappy All your life
I'm gonna kiss no frog
Kiss No Frog Song by Lucky Dube
. . All that glitters is not gold. Use your head, you think He's rich because He earns 6 figures, don't get too carried away baby. He works under a boss who takes the big cake. Salary is just peanuts out from the income. So if you're now dating the boss of the company, you will just die on top of his matter
What exactly did you do to him that got him so angry
martins18: It's more like a long distance something. so we where having a chat today and she told me there's a course mate of hers, who always calls her his girlfriend at first she thought he was joking but today he gave her his phone to talk to his brother now she doesn't know how to tell him to stop without hurting his feelings.
I was like tell him you already have a boyfriend nah and she said 'no' that he's funny and fun to be with, she doesn't want to loose a good friend....
Man am done, anything she does is none of my business henceforth. I have really learnt a lot of lessons from stories here.
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She called this morning to end things.
She has been a silent reader on nairaland and i wasn't aware, my moniker gave me away.
She was surprised when i didn't beg and she was like "those guys have poisoned your mind abi".
Good guy gone bad now....Where are those selling the red pill
Gaggi: Women are funny creatures. I was dating a girl some years back. We worked in the same office. One day an elderly man came to the office and he was a wealthy guy. He saw I was close to the girl and wanted her number, he told me he likes the babe. I told him the girl was engaged and I couldn't give him her number.
Later in the day, I was telling my girl about what transpired between the old man and I. To my greatest shock, the girl wasn't happy I didn't give the guy her number. Her excuse was that the man could help her with business connections. I was dumbfounded. Most women nor be am.
DaBullIT: Yes it's government's fault , why are people so daft like this ?
Last time these people were fighting cult war, FG sent soldiers and NSCDC to them, the idiots burnt army patrol vehicles and tried to kill soldiers and that was even their old women, and children not their youths , they kept screaming they didn't want soldiers to get involved and because they were women, soldiers didn't shoot at them
Not every dispute can be solved by FG , that's why there's chiefs, obas, community leaders, local governemt chairmen, councellors all under the umbrella of FG for fuccckkks sake
It is then the duty of the government to punish any chief whose people misbehave.
If the government of CRS can gather all the chiefs in the state. Make them sign an undertaken that if any of their people first spill a blood, they will have a very big issue. Firstly, those who spill the blood will be sentence to death by hanging. Secondly, they the chief will be punished.
Give them tough rules, when they get to their communities they pass the info across to their people.
Never forget, whoever first kill shall be killed by hanging.
Followed with massive education in CRS because they lack it. Peace and conflict should be in the curriculum from primary to university level.
Dpharisee: The killers from Cross River state are not Igbo, the killed are Igbos from Abia state. You lack comprehension
Some tribes in Cross River are really barbaric, they commit this kind of murder regularly by attacking unarmed communities in Ebonyi, Abia, Benue and Cross River
There is no tribe in CRS that doesn't like fighting.
All of them are barbaric just that education is now making few of them to get sense, yet there are too many uneducated people here. Even some of the educated ones still have this lets fight spirit in them.
They really need massive education. Peace and conflict as a course or subject should be taught from primary to University over here.
Plumville: Cross river is notorious for land grabs and killing of their neighbors all over. Ebonyi people are also being murdered every other day by these invaders.
Even among themselves they kill each other like fowl. They have been doing it for ages.
Odokpani and Akamkpa crisis wasn't a joke. They burnt down lots of houses and killed lots of people.
I don't know why they like fighting too much.
A state that have about 60 different languages. This should be 60 states.
Go to Google and search for cross river state communal crisis
So,I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for over three years now (since my year1 in school) and I just found out she was cheating with me with our caretaker.. He(the caretaker) and my girlfriend are of same tribe, I guess they kinda blend. Am older than the guy he is 23 and am 24.
My girlfriend and I are currently roommate in year 3). We moved in together late October last year. She also cheating on me with another dude from her town where she resides. Before our academic break (22 Dec 2019) she frequent our caretakers room too often,I try tell her to stop that am not comfortable with it, of which she shrug off saying she is only being friends with him because the speak same dialet,and we all live in the same compound. She would stay late at his room,I had to tell her(sternly) not to visit his room again and she agreed. But she still visit him.
When we return from our academic break,she started to visit him again. She stayed late again with our caretaker Just outside our room and I asked her nicely to to get inside because it's late and she entered and bid caretaker goodnight. She got the bed after taking her bath,and we got talking I told her not to stay out past 9pm. She got angry saying I simply don't like him that and I hate seeing him with her,she started crying. I had to apologize. But she said she won't forgive me because I hurt her. The next day she refused to talk to me before going to class. When we got home later that day,we just found ourselves Talking . A mutual friend (female)of our visited, we were eating and my eyes just got a glimpse of her WhatsApp message telling our caretaker that I almost attack her yesterday because I saw them together. I didn't react then,I had to keep my cool. Later that day I told my friend what I just saw (my girlfriend message to our caretaker) she said I should ignore,but anger got the best of me.i was angry because she told him I nearly attacked her.
When we got home,I asked her for her phone which she gave me reluctantly,I went through her WhatsApp messages with the guy. And I found out she do tell the guy our personal things ( including when I told her not to visit him) she shouldn't tell anyone. She must have told the guy am controlling her because he asked if am still controling her that I have no shame for trying to attack her the previous day. I went further into their chat and I saw where he told the boy that she missed her period and the boy told her they would do pregnancy test.
I know she might have told a very good friend of her about the guy,so I went to their chat. She told her friend about the guy and she told her she lived him and they had sex already.but her friend told her not to destroy her relationship for just a crush or is she willing to leave me for the boy,she said NO.
I had to check if she still cheating on me with others guys. I got to a chat and my suspicion was right. She was telling this guy she was pregnant and this dude was ignoring he messages and chats. She later went on saying is is because she was forcing herself on him.
She had sex with this dude 25 December,had sex with caretaker 27december. After I must have read all chats,I went home and confronted her she denied at first I later told her i read her chats and she started crying saying it was a mistake that it won't happen again ,that she was drunk when the second guy had sex with her and having sex with our caretaker was a mistake. I called her mother and told her what has happened she was disappointed in her but she also begged me to forgive her. I keep wondering where I got it all wrong and asked her but she said i have been nothing but faithful that she can't explain something what came over her. I have been good to the caretaker I painted his room for Free. He do call me "BRO" when addressing me
To cut the story short. I told her I have forgiven her,but deep down,I haven't..
I don't know what to do.. Please help...
NOTE I have Never cheated on her. I believe in equality in relationship. I don't control her. I never Never check her phone all through our relationship. I guess that's why she didn't had to delete her chats.
Kindly ignore my grammatical errors
She's using reverse psychology on you and it's working perfectly because you're a blue pill boy.
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