Dear Ofure,

Your Uncle’s wife may be experiencing a psychological or mental break down …this pattern is synonymous with people who suffer from bipolar disease or schizophrenia.

In any case,what she needs is prayers,understanding and love. I cannot rule out spiritual influences but that can be resolved if she gives her life to Christ.

Since you know this lady,why not reach out to her,see how you can help her?

z11111:
Good Day Ma,

Happy Weekend to you and all the members of this group.

So last week I visited my mom at Bariga. I met her with a relative in our house. They were happy to see me. After greeting my mom,I went inside to see if there was anything to eat. Alas,the pots in the kitchen were empty AF. I came out angry and asked my mom. Malee,how far now,I came all the way for noting? I have been dreaming of home food from school. I am starving o. My mom apologized and said its not her fault,its the matter they were discussing that made her forget that I was coming,so she didn't cook. I was a bit surprised. What could they be taking about? My mom asked me to go and start the cooking that she would join me. I angrily went to the kitchen and started with the vegetables.

After we finished cooking and eating,I had to ask my mom what the gist that kept her from cooking for her darling daughter was. She laughed and said,amebo o...lol but I insisted. My mom said: Ofure,its your uncle o. The wife he married is an Ogbanje!.... I asked which uncle,what Ogbanje?..It turns out that they were talking about my mom's youngest brother who got married last year July. He got married to an Ibo lady. The family didn't really like the idea of him marrying from the east but Uncle T had made up his mind and the family had no choice than to support him. They got married and they now live in Abuja.

The gist here was that ever since they got married,they had not had any peace cos my Uncle's wife was acting very strange. The report has it that the lady in question is yet to

.....read full story and other stories on the blog

https://livelystones.com.ng/my-uncles-wife-is-an-ogbanje-is-this-why-their-marriage-is-in-trouble/

Well, for now , its still an assumption until there is a proof.

Ebuka2016:
step brother is nothing. Dude is fucking your wife. So they couldnt find any other place to sleep?? And they couldnt sleep with their clothes on? I dont think brothers and sisters can love each other that much to call each other daily. Dude is definitely fucking your wife and probably in the ass too

The relationship looks suspicious but i think he should have real proof before taking action. maybe installing hidden camera in the house.

Lalas247:
nightmare! really smh
that was the best excuse ..

op kick her out ... regardless if they slept together or not their relationship is unhealthy

Yes.
Very annoying ,though sometimes , we may not blame the mum due to her past experience.

Just that she should understand that people are not the same. There are both good and bad people every where.

Its not about tribe.

don4real18:
It's annoying reading news like this. Your parents shouldn't choose who you will spend the rest of your life with. Just seek their blessings for a happy marriage.

Do all it takes to make your mum agree ,but not pregnancy or forget the lady.

Beke2020:

Hi LS,

Well done,you done a very good job with the way you handle issues. I enjoy reading the stories on your blog. Please upload my story on the blog too. I think I want to sample people’s opinion on this matter. I am only son of my mother. She raised me up as a single mother. I know she went through alot with raising me up and for that I will forever be greatful. But I am 34 years old now and I have been looking to settle down but my mother does not seem to like most of the girls I date.

She particularly have a great dislike for the yorubas simply because my father who abandoned her when she had me is Yoruba. She unconsciously put the fear of the yorubas into me while growing up. She would tell me how my father’s people treated her,how they made almost commit suicide etc. So somehow,I avoided dating Yorubas. The only yoruba girl I liked in university,I was so scared of my mom finding out. It didnt even last.

Two years ago,I went through a messy break up with a Delta lady I was dating for over two years and I was really hurt cos I loved her alot. Not too long after that,I met Yinka,my current girlfriend. I didnt plan to date her but we got to know each better and I found out how kind,beautiful and loving......full story@



https://livelystones.com.ng/helpi-love-my-mom-but-she-stands-in-the-way-of-my-happiness/

Good Day Ma,

Happy Weekend to you and all the members of this group.

So last week I visited my mom at Bariga. I met her with a relative in our house. They were happy to see me. After greeting my mom,I went inside to see if there was anything to eat. Alas,the pots in the kitchen were empty AF. I came out angry and asked my mom. Malee,how far now,I came all the way for noting? I have been dreaming of home food from school. I am starving o. My mom apologized and said its not her fault,its the matter they were discussing that made her forget that I was coming,so she didn't cook. I was a bit surprised. What could they be taking about? My mom asked me to go and start the cooking that she would join me. I angrily went to the kitchen and started with the vegetables.

After we finished cooking and eating,I had to ask my mom what the gist that kept her from cooking for her darling daughter was. She laughed and said,amebo o...lol but I insisted. My mom said: Ofure,its your uncle o. The wife he married is an Ogbanje!.... I asked which uncle,what Ogbanje?..It turns out that they were talking about my mom's youngest brother who got married last year July. He got married to an Ibo lady. The family didn't really like the idea of him marrying from the east but Uncle T had made up his mind and the family had no choice than to support him. They got married and they now live in Abuja.

The gist here was that ever since they got married,they had not had any peace cos my Uncle's wife was acting very strange. The report has it that the lady in question is yet to

.....read full story and other stories on the blog

https://livelystones.com.ng/my-uncles-wife-is-an-ogbanje-is-this-why-their-marriage-is-in-trouble/

There was a belt China produced for men to reduce child birth , i dont know if its still in vogue.

gloria34:
yep, we only have pills 4 ladies. I'll prefer pills 4 men b made so they will understand how annoying it is. condom all d way joor

While the story teller was narrating his problem to me ,it reminded me of how i lost my cousin during delivery because of similar issue. Imagine when your mum try to stop what seem to be your joy. Its something we really need to deal with in this our generation. Freedom to love anyone.

Hi LS,

Well done,you done a very good job with the way you handle issues. I enjoy reading the stories on your blog. Please upload my story on the blog too. I think I want to sample people’s opinion on this matter. I am only son of my mother. She raised me up as a single mother. I know she went through alot with raising me up and for that I will forever be greatful. But I am 34 years old now and I have been looking to settle down but my mother does not seem to like most of the girls I date.

She particularly have a great dislike for the yorubas simply because my father who abandoned her when she had me is Yoruba. She unconsciously put the fear of the yorubas into me while growing up. She would tell me how my father’s people treated her,how they made almost commit suicide etc. So somehow,I avoided dating Yorubas. The only yoruba girl I liked in university,I was so scared of my mom finding out. It didnt even last.

Two years ago,I went through a messy break up with a Delta lady I was dating for over two years and I was really hurt cos I loved her alot. Not too long after that,I met Yinka,my current girlfriend. I didnt plan to date her but we got to know each better and I found out how kind,beautiful and loving ...

read full and other related stories

https://livelystones.com.ng/helpi-love-my-mom-but-she-stands-in-the-way-of-my-happiness/

Sure ,the wife may not trust him again but he just have to do it.

Beke2020:

Okay nah. Also ,the aunty said men are scarce . What a thought.

Beke2020:
yes oooh all manner of things happening. Truly end time

Well, I think the guy is being sincere. It's better they go separate ways than having issues in marriage .

Beke2020:
He might be scared of blood. I had almost similar experience. But, I did not break any body's heart.thinks he is extreme with his decision

Yes, she it's better she tells her husband who is not man enough to provide for his family .

Beke2020:

It's a matter of Choice .Condom or no condom or even withdrawal .

abercrombie:
but if d pill will b taken by d man, no problem lol dnt tell me u did prefer that rubber use on you in your marriage, but u been going around fvcking different niggas during your youth days..... SMH

Even possible to limit the communication between them

Beke2020:
Nice one if he truly want it over. Rather like someone advise. Simple tell her not to invite him to the house again

@ Gloria, there are pills for the man too? I thought its only the lady that takes pills ?

gloria34:
I really dont see anything wrong in d use of condom between married couples o, I'll even prefer that, who wants to constantly b on pills. but if d pill will b taken by d man, no problem

First of all , you need to seek counsel from a higher person in your church , meaning you will inform your husband . It may not be easy but you have to.
What ever he says , stand.

preciousluv2018:
Hello LS,

I have a story to share. There is this woman that sells fresh fruits salad in my office building. I love to buy fruits from her every morning cos I am working on my diet.Last week,I noticed,she didnt come for a few days. I was so unhappy cos it affected my diet..lol.But then she showed up like three after and she was looking sad and unhappy. I asked her what the problem is and she said she has a big problem. Sensing she probably has money problems,I asked her to see me later during my break time.

During break,she came to my office.And I asked her what the problem was. She began to cry and says that she needs financial help. I knew it!…I asked her how much and what did she need the money for. She said she needed N15k. She said she cannot tell me what it is for. But she was begging me to loan her the money that she will pay me back in installments. I said,ok but you have to tell me what the money is for. She was crying for a while and said,her life is over. That she borrowed money so that her daughter who had deferred her admissions into higher institution can make it this year.

According to her,she needed like N180k for her daughter to start school. She had worked over the year and saved N70k. She went around looking for who to borrow her. Friends and family were able to borrow her another N30k. The balance N80 she was struggling to come up with as time for late registration was closing in,meaning her daughter would have to defer admission for another year again. She in her desperation,went to meet her landlord whom she suspected was eyeing her,begged him for a loan. The landlord agreed but if ...

https://livelystones.com.ng/desperation-made-me-do-it-can-god-forgive-us-for-the-abortion/

How do you mean ?

The guy in the story said he doesnt want a virgin bcoz of his last experience .

My question now is , is it true that a virgin can bleed to death on her first sexual intercourse ?

ubunja:
damn right Stanboy.... these are the same guys who hate us for wanting virgins when they dont want virgins in the first place

Hello ,

I don't know if we can remember a situation where the man who married a virgin got disappointed thinking it was going to be cool but later regret. The story below is almost same but a bit different. Why do some guys run away from virgins. Drop your comments after reading.
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Good day Admin,

I dont believe what I am even about to say. I know alot of people do not believe in being a virgin these days but I am one and proudly so. I am 28 years old and I have been looking forward to the day I will marry my God given man and gift him with my priceless virginity.

I met Tayo in church a few months ago. Nice guy,we are in choir together. He is a Lawyer with a private firm. When he asked me out ,he said he had been noticing me and has been praying to God for a wife. I was interested. We kicked it off quite well. We have been going on dates and our families and even our church know we are in a relationship.

I told him no sex before marriage and he was cool with it. We kiss and play around but nothing more. One day,we were gisting and he asked me how I like my sex. He wanted us to start asking questions about intimacy. I love Tayo,he is such a cool,attentive guy. I told hm I dont know how I like my sex cos I have never had sex before. He burst out laughing saying that I can be truthful cos he has made up his mind to marry him,so I dont need to pretend. I told him I was not pretending,I have never had sex. He was dumbfounded. He asked: you mean like never …ever? I nodded. He was shocked.

He later sent me a text when I got home that........

https://livelystones.com.ng/guy-loved-much-breaking-cos-virgin/#comment-1770

It's better he tells the wife first that d lady informing her.

Beke2020:
Be the first to inform your wife. It might hurt her, but if your psycho chic do first. You're in pepper soup

@ Zinny25
Nah so we d receive the story always ohhh

After messing up ,they will be asking for solution.

Imagine ,her aunty was giving her pills so that she won't conceive and she finally did and now asking what she will do.

Zinny25:
Mtchhheeew nothing wey person no go read.

Making sense too.

fancy4eve:
U really need 2 calm down nd talk 2 ur wife, make her see reasons why u don't want her step brother in d house again nd if she insist, u make her choose btw u both, her reaction will tell, cus I know she can not pick her step bro ova u nd pls do not install any camera, cus it might lead 2 a broken home. Just talk 2 her nd if possible, wit d step bro.

True talk my dear

Beke2020:
Well spoken my friend

Dear Jzhane,

I graduated about four years ago after struggling to put myself through school yet I couldnt find a job. I did all kinds of menial jobs just to get by. I sold food,I sold drinks,I did catering,I taught at a primary school where they paid me N5k every one or two months. It was really tough to get by in Eket. I was really suffering and I almost quit but I reached out to my aunty in lagos and begged her to allow me come and look for a job in Lagos which I believed would be better than my options here in Eket. Initially she refused,she said she is living in a one man bedroom with her lover,she wasnt sure if the man would agree.

Two weeks later,she called me to start coming that the man says they will manage. I got to Lagos last year August with high hopes of finding a job. And it was not easy. I ended up taking a job as a house maid. I couldnt stay long cos the husband of the woman who hired me,started coming after me the first night I slept in their house. I quit the job and the next job I took as a maid,I would be going and coming during the day.

It was not easy sharing one room with my aunty and her man but I didnt have a choice. I slept on the floor,while they slept on the bed. One day,my aunty’s lover started making advances at me. I was shocked and reported him to my aunty. My aunty just shook her head and said: just use condom my dear. I couldn’t believe her. she didnt see anything wrong in this. she said,she dosent have a choice. she suspected it would come to this. He was the one paying for the room. If she refused,he would leave her. I told her to let him go and she said,dont you know man is difficult to find these days.what man does not cheat. That I should relax,she is fine with it. I just couldnt believe it. I thought long and hard about this. My aunty reassured me that she is totally ok with it. That most people in Lagos have to go through things like this to make it.

The next time the man came after me was on Sunday evening,my off day. I resisted a while until I finally agreed. Since then,almost every other day,this man wants to sleep with me. My aunty bought me contraceptives cos he refused to wear condoms. I was sad for my aunty but strangely,I began to relax like she said and it felt like I was in a relationship with the man. He became my lover. I used to look forward to sleeping with him. He also preferred me to my aunty cos I am younger and prettier. This did not go down well with my aunty. She stopped talking to me and started to keep malice with me. But she couldnt do anything for the fear of loosing the man.

The big problem now ..

https://livelystones.com.ng/help-i-mistakenly-fell-in-love-with-my-auntys-lover/

Nah there u go fear step brother nah

But they may not be doing anything ,just that the closeness is too much.

liquidlove2018:
Dear Admin,

My wife of two years has a step brother, Oyin that I am not comfortable with. In fact,I am 80% sure that he is not just a brother to her.

During my meeting and courting of my wife,she made me know that she and Oyin are very close. Infact,they are called twins in their family. This guy is about 29,my wife is 27. They call each other every day. They confide in each other. Most times,when we have an argument,hes the one that my wife confides in.

When we got married,he started to visit us often. Sometimes he stays for the weekend. I was cool with that but I just wished I had the same relationship that my wife has with her step brother. They were really tight. One time,he bought her some very sexy lingerie. I was really jealous but my wife laughed it off.My business makes me travel all the time and I am sometimes grateful that Oyin is around when I am not,we even call him to come so my wife wont be lonely when I am not around. How stupid I was!

A few days ago,I traveled out of town for business. I was supposed to be gone for two days. I got to my business location and things changed hence,I had to leave early morning the next day. As I was about to board my flight,I called my wife but her line was switched off. I called Oyin,his too was switched off. When I landed,I called but their lines were still off. So I took a taxi and went home myself.

I got home and used my key to enter the house. I went to my bedroom and saw my wife and her step brother in bed wrapped in each other's hands!....I was flabbergasted!....They were sound asleep. But in my shock,I said: What da Bleep!..that woke my wife. They both were startled to see me. Before I could ask what was going on,Oyin said : arh,Uncle welcome,aunty had a night mare and I came to help her sleep. He said he didnt know when he too fell asleep. Since they were both dressed although,Oyin had his boxers and singlet on,I was really confused. When I said,both of you were having sex in my bed,my wife burst out laughing. Of course both of them denied having sex. They claimed my wife couldnt sleep,so Oyin came to help her sleep.

Even though I didnt like their explanation,it seemed to check out. My wife was also dressed in her nightie but in my head,what if they finished and dressed up..some people do it...

Since the incident,I have told my wife I dont want her brother around again. She says I am over reacting considering that I already know how close she is to her step brother. I really dont know if ...

https://livelystones.com.ng/is-my-wife-having-an-affair-with-her-step-brother/

Sometimes ,
Its not easy .

kingkakaone:
I think this matter would have been a small issue if the wife told her husband immediately she came back.
What pains a partner the most is finding out certain things from someone else when we could have easily said it to destroy the dangerous poison embedded in rumours.

My advice bro: JUST GIVE YOUR WIFE THE BENEFIT OF DOUBT AND MAKE SURE TO TELL HER HOW U WERE HURT BY HER NOT LETTING YOU KNOW BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE DID.
Remember this; sometimes, let's not be in a hurry to take decision based on suspicion because more than half the times it leads to disaster and regrets.

After having sex with her ,you are now calling her a psycho.

The truth is ,you need to inform your wife about this .

Oneed to always be careful in what we do to avoid being hunted in the future.

z11111:
Good evening Admin,

I met a lady through a whatsapp group that I belong to. We started first by talking normally until we became flirty and started sex chatting. I chatted with her for almost three months until we both too Hot and started having phone intimacy. We then decided that it was time to meet and I arranged for her to meet me in a hotel in Lekki. She lives in Shagamu. I couldn’t wait to see her that day and when we met,it was the most passionate sex I ever had. We had each other for four rounds. It was like we were both made for each other,she called me her king and I called her my queen. I was in love.

As we both lay down resting in each other’s hands,she told me she had something she wanted to tell me. I asked her to go on. She said,forgive me for not telling you before now,I didnt want to loose my chance of getting to meet you but I am married. I have been married for six years but I am not happy in my marriage. I was shocked and quiet for a few seconds before telling her,its ok. I too was not open enough to you,I am also married. She said she knew. That she had seen pictures of my wife and our children on facebook.

I asked her if she regrets what we did,she said no. I didnt quite regret mine but I was not sure I was not feeling guilty for cheating on my wife. She then said that she has been thinking about leaving her husband. I asked why,she said the man does not care about her. He does not take care of her financially or emotionally. They have a four old son but they hardly have sex except like once in several months. That the man blames her for his misfortune. He has been looking for a job for years,no job and he has refused to do any form of business to support his family. Hence,she is the one taking care of the family. According to her,she purposely refused to give birth to another child cos she feels her marriage is doomed.

She asked me if I love her. I told her yes.(What do you expect me to say,we just had sex). …She then said that if I loved her,I should leave my wife and she will leave her husband!…I was stunned and told her that we should take things slow,lets not make any decisions yet. That these things take time especially since there are children involved. she agreed and when she left,we continued sex chat and phone intimacy. Every day,she wanted to know when next she could come see me again. She asked me to come to shagamu but I always found an excuse not to. The fact that she is married kind of made me want to be extra careful in our affair.

After a month of persuading me without success,she became ............

https://livelystones.com.ng/we-just-having-fun-but-this-psycho-wants-to-destroy-my-marriage/

Good evening Admin,

I met a lady through a whatsapp group that I belong to. We started first by talking normally until we became flirty and started sex chatting. I chatted with her for almost three months until we both too Hot and started having phone intimacy. We then decided that it was time to meet and I arranged for her to meet me in a hotel in Lekki. She lives in Shagamu. I couldn’t wait to see her that day and when we met,it was the most passionate sex I ever had. We had each other for four rounds. It was like we were both made for each other,she called me her king and I called her my queen. I was in love.

As we both lay down resting in each other’s hands,she told me she had something she wanted to tell me. I asked her to go on. She said,forgive me for not telling you before now,I didnt want to loose my chance of getting to meet you but I am married. I have been married for six years but I am not happy in my marriage. I was shocked and quiet for a few seconds before telling her,its ok. I too was not open enough to you,I am also married. She said she knew. That she had seen pictures of my wife and our children on facebook.

I asked her if she regrets what we did,she said no. I didnt quite regret mine but I was not sure I was not feeling guilty for cheating on my wife. She then said that she has been thinking about leaving her husband. I asked why,she said the man does not care about her. He does not take care of her financially or emotionally. They have a four old son but they hardly have sex except like once in several months. That the man blames her for his misfortune. He has been looking for a job for years,no job and he has refused to do any form of business to support his family. Hence,she is the one taking care of the family. According to her,she purposely refused to give birth to another child cos she feels her marriage is doomed.

She asked me if I love her. I told her yes.(What do you expect me to say,we just had sex). …She then said that if I loved her,I should leave my wife and she will leave her husband!…I was stunned and told her that we should take things slow,lets not make any decisions yet. That these things take time especially since there are children involved. she agreed and when she left,we continued sex chat and phone intimacy. Every day,she wanted to know when next she could come see me again. She asked me to come to shagamu but I always found an excuse not to. The fact that she is married kind of made me want to be extra careful in our affair.

After a month of persuading me without success,she became ............

https://livelystones.com.ng/we-just-having-fun-but-this-psycho-wants-to-destroy-my-marriage/

@ Amaka , I dont think so ohhhh.
Lots of persons have entered into it and are regretting it today.
Its also about mind set. If the guy feels he is not ready , he better dont get involved.

amakadihot87:
If you truly love her and want to spend your life with her..........then go ahead and perform atleast her traditional marriage rites......she should be ready to support you no matter how small..........sometimes marriage brings favour.............remember she has become contious of her age

Point of correction !
Men are not born to cheat .
My dear if you can tolerate stay ,if you cant ,waka pass as my dear fellow said.

Beke2020:
The signs are obvious. You don't need a prophet to tell you what to do. Simply waka pass

She is contributing to it nah.

or is it not a woman that decides to get pregnant or not ?

Papanwamaikpe:
Na she dey impregnate herself? Mkpi!

I dont know why women are their own enemies. But as a guy,my advice to women would be,beware of other women. Yes,beware. Especially when it comes to love,I will advise women to be careful of their own women friends.

So I met this chick last year.Lets say her name is Angel. She is a top executive in a Manufacturing firm. I met her in an elevator on my way home from an interview. Here,I was,feeling so down and dejected. I had finished school like three years and still no job. This job interview I came for,the second stage,I was told that was the end of the journey for me as they had better candidates they had chosen. So here I was,in the elevator,lost in my sad thoughts when a lady joined from the next floor. All I noticed was that there was a lovely perfume in the elevator as soon as she came in. It caused me to look up and I smiled. I said: nice perfume. Thank you,she said. As we both stepped out of the elevator,I looked up at her and caught her looking at me still and I smiled again. She then called me over and said,whats with the smile? I told maybe cos I was stunned by her beauty. Indeed,she was a beautiful lady. She asked me what I came to the building to do,I told her interview but I lost the job. She then invited me to see her the next day,gave me her card and that is how I started to date Angel.

When I met her,I didnt have a job ,she helped me get a job with one of her close associates. You see,Angel is a big shot COO in this firm she worked. She was 35,single and very beautiful. Any man would kill to be her man. So she basically hooked me up,tushed me. I am 28 years old but age aint nothing. I liked this chick and she liked me. The only problem was her friends. You know,she had some high class girl friends who didnt like the fact that she was dating someone below her level. They called me gold digger and all sorts. But Angel didnt give up on me. She even helped me with money to get my apartment. I think at some point,I was beginning to fall in love with Angel.

But that feeling turned off when her friends who used to laugh at me or called me names,started taking interest in me. Angel was so naive she didnt even notice when her friends started flirting with me. I mean,we would be hanging out and before you know it,they were flashing their boobs and lady parts when Angel wasnt looking. I didnt plan to be ungrateful to Angel but ........


https://livelystones.com.ng/ladies-beware-protect-your-man-from-so-called-friends/

ohhhhh
Okay.

amakadihot87:
its not a surgical process.........its inserted via the vagina.........like i said condoms are good but sometimes one can run out of condoms ............withdrawal is a no no,it can disapoint you