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Good Day LS,

I want to remain anonymous. I am furious and sad and disappointed by what happened and the way my family especially my brother is treating the matter. My eldest brother who is like 9 years older than me is engaged to this Edo lady. They have been dating for about three years and they plan to get married this year. The lady is nice to me so I have no cause to dislike her even though I feel like she is a fake girl. She likes all things fake,very materialistic too. I lost my parents when I was two years old so my eldest brother has been like the one taking care of all of us ,i.e,me and my other sister. We lived with him all through and when he told us he wanted to get married,he said he would rent a place close to his house so we can still be close. I dont like the idea but it seems like its his fiance trying to push us aside. Well,me and my sister talked about it and we just wanted what is best for our brother.

Last week,I was in my brother's house. I came back from school feeling quite tired so I went straight to bed. Around 9pm,someone came into my room and it was Toju,my brother's fiancee's brother. He comes around sometimes when he is in town. He is a student at UNN. I attend ESUT here in Enugu. My sister is doing her NYSC in Ondo. He told me he came in and no body has been at home that he is hungry. That was when I noticed that my brother was not back. I said ok and I went to the kitchen to make him food. I finished and served him food. I then called my brother who told me that he was coming back late. I told him I kept food for him in the microwave. I then went to sleep.

Not up to 30mins later,someone came into my room again. It was

....read full story and other stories on the blog :

https://livelystones.com.ng/i-was-violated-in-my-brothers-house-and-he-refused-to-protect-me/

What makes you think the elders will give you a good advice.

rebirthforgoody:
WOW I like making money for myself and family.....seriously I need to consult the elders before advising you.

Is it what it means or the man is trying to prevent future infidelity . You know all these Abuja things .

Divinehealer:
Truth is that many men in Nigeria hate to see their wives progress in life.

For the last seven years,all I have done is sacrifice for my family. This is because,I wanted what was best for them: my husband and my kids. When I got married nine years ago,I had already gotten my MsC. Unfortunately,I lost my good job when I got pregnant the first time. I had a very difficult pregnancy and I couldn’t do well at work. Also,after I had my baby,I couldn’t get the type of job I wanted cos it would require so much of my time. My husband encouraged me to take a job that would enable me close on time and come home early to the children. To that effect,I got a job where I was paid so much less than what I was earning. It was not easy,actually nothing to write home about. But I agreed that it was necessary so that I could take care of my baby. My husband was against the idea of a house maid. It was so tough financially that we had to deny ourselves so many things.

By the second year,we had to move into a smaller apartment because we could not afford to pay the rent of our three bedroom apartment. My husband’s job also pays very little. Within the next five years,I had my three children. I come from a family that is well to do but they were not happy that I had refused to pursue a better career to enhance after they had spent so much money to send me to very good schools and get my masters. Throughout those years,we struggled,things were bad and most times,I used to cry just watching how I couldn’t give my kids the kind of life they deserved.

Now,my oldest is six years old and the youngest almost 3 years. I began to apply for better jobs since January this year. In February,I got invited for an interview from a multinational company. I passed through several assessment stages and eventually,I was offered a job worth millions (when you add all benefits). The offer also comes with a car and an official apartment. I was so excited and I knew this was the beginning of good things for me and my family. When I got home and told my husband about the offer,I was not prepared to hear what he had to say. My husband bluntly......Read full story from the blog and leave inspiring comments on the blog
https://livelystones.com.ng/i-sacrificed-7-years-of-my-life-but-my-husband-is-crushing-my-dreams/

The title is , If she is your wife , will you allow her to go to Abuja ??

UGLEEBOI:
OP... what's the tittle of the movie?

For the last seven years,all I have done is sacrifice for my family. This is because,I wanted what was best for them: my husband and my kids. When I got married nine years ago,I had already gotten my MsC. Unfortunately,I lost my good job when I got pregnant the first time. I had a very difficult pregnancy and I couldn’t do well at work. Also,after I had my baby,I couldn’t get the type of job I wanted cos it would require so much of my time. My husband encouraged me to take a job that would enable me close on time and come home early to the children. To that effect,I got a job where I was paid so much less than what I was earning. It was not easy,actually nothing to write home about. But I agreed that it was necessary so that I could take care of my baby. My husband was against the idea of a house maid. It was so tough financially that we had to deny ourselves so many things.

By the second year,we had to move into a smaller apartment because we could not afford to pay the rent of our three bedroom apartment. My husband’s job also pays very little. Within the next five years,I had my three children. I come from a family that is well to do but they were not happy that I had refused to pursue a better career to enhance after they had spent so much money to send me to very good schools and get my masters. Throughout those years,we struggled,things were bad and most times,I used to cry just watching how  I couldn’t give my kids the kind of life they deserved.

Now,my oldest is six years old and the youngest almost 3 years. I began to apply for better jobs since January this year. In February,I got invited for an interview from a multinational company. I passed through several assessment stages and eventually,I was offered a job worth millions (when you add all benefits). The offer also comes with a car and an official apartment. I was so excited and I knew this was the beginning of good things for me and my family. When I got home and told my husband about the offer,I was not prepared to hear what he had to say. My husband bluntly......Read full story from the blog and leave inspiring comments on the blog
https://livelystones.com.ng/i-sacrificed-7-years-of-my-life-but-my-husband-is-crushing-my-dreams/

To end the relationship ??

officialteemi:
the relationship

Which bus stop ?

officialteemi:
oya bus_stop

Is it right for a lady to single handedly sponsor her wedding ?

pointblank247:
Hmmmmm

What if the lady is using it as test to know if the guy truly loves her

IdeyFindWife:
You could go ahead if the agreement is not on having kids but having each other & love for the rest of your days. Adoption should work also.

And, as biogenetics guys are always busy turning up one thing or the other, there should be ways.

But as for me, my babies will be made the old fashioned way, after playing okocha all night long filling her tank with my spunk!

Dear Aunty Jzhane,

Remember the girl I told you that I was toasting and she was proving stubborn. Well,I followed your advice and she agreed,we have been dating for two months now. I like her alot. I see us getting married by next year.  There are issues I think we still need to work on as we progress in our relationship. For example,she still allows guys to call her and I see guys compliment her on Facebook and she cannot stop them by telling them she has a boyfriend. I find that odd but I cam just taking it easy.

She was at my place this weekend and while we were just relaxing,she told me she has a secret to tell me....

Read full story and please make constructive comments on the blog for others to appreciate :


https://livelystones.com.ng/my-girlfriend-just-told-me-that-she-has-no-fallopian-tube/

Dear Aunty Jzhane,

Remember the girl I told you that I was toasting and she was proving stubborn. Well,I followed your advice and she agreed,we have been dating for two months now. I like her alot. I see us getting married by next year.  There are issues I think we still need to work on as we progress in our relationship. For example,she still allows guys to call her and I see guys compliment her on Facebook and she cannot stop them by telling them she has a boyfriend. I find that odd but I cam just taking it easy.

She was at my place this weekend and while we were just relaxing,she told me she has a secret to tell me....

Read full story and please make constructive comments on the blog for others to appreciate :


https://livelystones.com.ng/my-girlfriend-just-told-me-that-she-has-no-fallopian-tube/

Good day Admin,

I am a 42 years old woman. I have a successful career but I didnt have a husband until last last year. It was really tough when I was single especially as I began to approach late 30s. I was scared I was going to be alone for the rest of my life. I didnt know why most men didnt want to marry me. We would date for a couple of months and they end up breaking up with me. So when I met Phillip,an estate agent,I was happy that he took interest in me. The only problem was that his job as a real estate agent didnt pay much. He depended alot on commissions and most times,it was difficult to make sales so he was always without money.

I didnt bother much cos I have my own money. We dated for about six months. I gave him a car. He moved into my apartment. I got pregnant shortly so we quickly organized a court weeding and traditional marriage. My marriage has not been without challenges cos I am basically the bread winner of the house. I would not complain except that,my husband has refused to find something else that would give him good money. It does seem like he is very comfortable with....

Read full story and other stories on the blog. Make constructive comments on the blog too for many to appreciate :

https://livelystones.com.ng/help-my-husband-is-a-parasite-how-do-i-continue-to-live-with-him/

And also to those who lost their virginity at a very tender age.

Lakeside79:
Our hearts go out to all those who lost their loved ones in the recent mass murder in southern Kaduna

I lost my virginity at sixteen.

Up until that point, I told myself and anyone who asked that I would wait until marriage to have sx. But when I dated an older guy in high school, he always talked about the woman he could never quite get over. The one he lost his virginity to. The one with whom he always had mad, passionate sx.

I wanted to erase her memory from his mind. I wanted to be the only one he thought about. So I had s*x with him. Even after months of telling him I didn’t want to because I wasn’t ready.

But, despite what I thought, that didn’t make things with him any better. Even after we started having sx, he still barely talked to me and would withdraw from me constantly. Often it would even be right after we had sx.

I thought I just needed to have more sx with him. But spending any time I had with him having sx didn’t bring us any closer, either. And he rejected me soon after.

This relationship started a subtle, downward cycle in which I used s*x as a way to deal with any feelings of sadness or inadequacy.

I told myself stories to convince myself that this behavior was anything but what it really was: an unhealthy method of coping. I’d tell myself: I am just having sx because I enjoy it. Sx is fun. I can have no-strings attached s*x because I am a cool, laid-back girl.

But really, using sx as an emotional band-aid meant I wasn’t expressing my emotions in a healthy way. It made it almost impossible to form truly intimate connections with anyone. I continued to feel lonely, sad, and inadequate because I could never truly express myself to a guy. Each time, I hoped having sx would fill that void. It was a vicious cycle.

Let me give you an example. Once in college, I was sitting on the couch with someone I was sleeping with. We were just hanging out, watching TV. It should be a perfectly normal thing to do with someone with whom you’re in a relationship. But we weren’t technically in a relationship. I really didn’t know him that well.

I was only accustomed to being around him while we were hanging out with his friends, drinking, or having s*x. I never spent time with him in a setting that would allow us to actually get to know one another. I wasn’t sure what to do, so I climbed on his lap to engage in some pre-intimacy. He actually groaned and pushed me off.

I had started having sx to ...................

https://livelystones.com.ng/why-do-i-end-up-feeling-used-after-a-hookup/

My brother ehhhhh. Who is to blame in this case? He didnt know the young girl did an abortion.

Jadoskii:
The question is WHY NOW?AFTER TWELVE YEARS....you might have triggered an emotion she as tried to no avail to bury....

Please , at what age does someone stops reading fake story ?

Offpoint:
I'm too old to be reading fake stories

The rise of infidelity in marriage these days is something else.

Kumar4india:
Good Morning LS,

I witnessed something not very good last night and I am thinking of the best thing to do. One of of my friend,( lets call her Uzo)….she is in the US with her children. She relocated last year but her husband is in Nigeria and he tries to visit them like once in six months and all. When she traveled,I asked her if she was not worried her husband might be tempted to cheat cos of her absence,she vehemently defended the man saying he can never cheat on her. Even the husband,very religious guy,committed in church and all that. He can boast that he has never looked at any other woman apart from his wife. I used to love their marriage,like wish I would have a marriage like theirs one day.

But last night,I was at the club to chill out after a tough week and the strippers were there doing their thing. I am single so,yes …I still want to have fun.I saw Uzo’s husband, being seriously entertained by two strippers. I was like wow,this guy,is a church boy na…what happened to all that born again talk…lol. Its just barely a year that his wife relocated and he is already doing this?I was quite surprised but even more surprised when he left the club with two strippers. Out of curiosity,I followed them from a safe distance and they went to....Read full story from blog and leave your comments because the sender may not see it here.

https://livelystones.com.ng/marriage-and-temptation-who-is-really-to-be-blamed/

How creative do you want him to be ?

Kumar4india:
Get very creative in your approach. Get her family,friends and all to beg her. Get her pastors,a counselor. You need to win her heart by all means. And my hope is that you have truly changed.

Good Morning LS,

I witnessed something not very good last night and I am thinking of the best thing to do. One of of my friend,( lets call her Uzo)….she is in the US with her children. She relocated last year but her husband is in Nigeria and he tries to visit them like once in six months and all. When she traveled,I asked her if she was not worried her husband might be tempted to cheat cos of her absence,she vehemently defended the man saying he can never cheat on her. Even the husband,very religious guy,committed in church and all that. He can boast that he has never looked at any other woman apart from his wife. I used to love their marriage,like wish I would have a marriage like theirs one day.

But last night,I was at the club to chill out after a tough week and the strippers were there doing their thing. I am single so,yes …I still want to have fun.I saw Uzo’s husband, being seriously entertained by two strippers. I was like wow,this guy,is a church boy na…what happened to all that born again talk…lol. Its just barely a year that his wife relocated and he is already doing this?I was quite surprised but even more surprised when he left the club with two strippers. Out of curiosity,I followed them from a safe distance and they went to....Read full story from blog and leave your comments because the sender may not see it here.

https://livelystones.com.ng/marriage-and-temptation-who-is-really-to-be-blamed/

great!!!

habsydiamond:
She be politician....for this kind change period....thou it's good to give but when it start affecting Ur partner in a relationship it's no longer giving..it's wasting of resources....try reducing the level at which cash is entering the account cos I don't see her changing soon...

Auladimeji:
Dont mess with us again.
Continuation of the torri.


What she didnt tell me was that she actually got pregnant after that day. She had an abortion without my knowledge. All these happened during the time I broke up with her sister for a month. We made up after that and two years later we got married.Everything has been fine until this month,almost 10 years later. Ene,my wife’s younger sister has been married for almost four years now and she has not been able to have a child. This has been causing serious issues in her marriage. After several tests,it was discovered that her Fallopian tube was damaged by a crude abortion done years ago. Ene became hopeless and inconsolable. And in her depression,she felt she needed to confess to her sister so that she would be healed and have a chance to get pregnant.
That confession didn’t go well with her sister,my wife. She of course,blamed me for her sister’s predicament. She is accusing me of taking advantage of her sister when she was a teenager. Her family too is so upset. They say I have ruined the sisters. What no one is considering is that,one,we slept together when her sister and I broke up…how were we to know that we would come back to get married in future? Secondly,I didn’t force the girl,she was willing. She was not a baby,she was 19. Thirdly,this girl didn’t tell me she got pregnant. If I knew,perhaps,I would have done things differently. Maybe we could have kept the baby or if she truly wanted to have an abortion,it would not have been done in a crude way that destroyed her ability to have children now. Why is no one apportioning the same blame to Ene?
I feel bad that my wife feels betrayed by me. But this happened 12 years ago and since then,I have never cheated on my wife. Why cant she forgive me? I dont want to loose my wife,my kids. What do I do? I am ready to do anything,please advice me. (kindly use a fake name when you post this)
Basil (Not real name)
Calabar

blessedvisky:
Funny story. You played yourself man. Get ready

I thought same too

MrBrownJay1:
if your ex was "that" great, you would still be with him today, and not divorced.... so open your mind and stop living in lala land!

making sense.

Marshalxv:
Women and their wahala, you forget that his siblings has been a part of him almost all his life, you came into the picture just last year and you want to disengage them already. You said it yourself that he's like the father of the family now in the absence of his father. The best thing is to make peace with his siblings and discuss the rest with your husband.

True .

But i see it that the lady values her career.

stiffmeister:
As for me... before you conclude whatever talk out things with somtoo. let her know how you feel for the past three years... is no longer the matter of been insensitive now. Let her know how u feel with her works and your relationship. for christsake you're engaged with unless engage meant another thing. don't u think that's how u and somtoo started, the way u have started with your boss? Talk to somtoo First and her know you ain't comfortable with all that again.



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Dear LS,

I am torn in my mind on what to do with my emotional state of mind. This is because,even though I am engaged to someone,I am in love with another lady. Somto and I have been dating for almost five years. She was in final year in school when we started,today she works with an NGO that caters for IDPs.

With the current situation in our country,her job makes her travel quite often. Given,Sombo absolutely loves her job. Her passion to help other people who are in need is outstanding. Initially,when she took the job,I admired her for it. I was proud of her. But three years after,it appears the job is really coming in between us. We hardly see each other. And even when she is in town,she is always busy planning one event or training or something humanitarian. When we got engaged last year,I thought we would be married by the end of the year but she was hardy even arrange to plan a wedding. I didnt want to be seen as insensitive. I wanted to support her and her career and dreams to the fullest. But it appears marriage is not her first priority.

But while all these are going on,I am seriously been neglected. Not helping is the fact single ladies are always around me. My boss in the office is a 36 year old beautiful woman. She is single and I always admire her she carries herself. Also a very dedicated christian. I have been attracted to her for sometime but I didnt want to pursue the idea. I mean,she is my boss for one. When we are not very busy,we talk about our personal lives and how our love lives suck. She has been unfortunate to always fall in love with the wrong guys.She on the other hand,always advised me to be patient with my fiance,Somto.

The entire office worked late one night,we had a deadline and eventually,we had to leave around 10.40pm. Everyone hurriedly left the office after but my boss uber kept delaying. I offered to drop her,she refused but I insisted. We chatted as I drove her to lekki last night. When we arrived at her place,she leaned ,,,,,,,,,

https://livelystones.com.ng/i-am-happy-in-love-but-i-have-to-break-up-with-her/

dasparrow:
LOL

Believe .

Lifeofpolice1:
Should I believe this jagoon

Correct.

Husband should always consider the wife point of view.

jeff1607:
don't t know how men tolerate relatives staying with them, as for me, anything after 3 days you kapput.


wife first anything comes later.


when a home is on fire, a woman can go to her friends place or parents place same as during omugwo but a man must stay to fix his home.

Kumar4india:
You no even see other place to advertise your market ??