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Beke2020:
Dear Jzhane,

My husband is a sweet man. We have been married for six years and we both love each other so much. We have two children. But we have a problem. Maybe me,I have a problem.

You see,my husband is fat around the stomach area and he does not have an exactly good sized manhood. What I mean is,he has round big pot belly. He also has a small manhood. Since I married him,I convinced myself that I love him more than his looks and inefficiencies. But as our marriage gets older,I find out that these two issues are a huge challenge. His tummy always gets in the way of love making and since his thing is small,I dont feel or enjoy intimacy with him anymore.

These days,he hardly even lasts 3 mins in bed and I am seriously frustrated. You see,my husband is a traditional man. Its not easy to talk about this kind of issue with him. One time I tried to bring it up with him and he responded that its when a woman starts seeing other men or when other men start toasting a married woman that she starts to compare her husband to other men or starts saying she is not enjoying sex with her husband. He can say that I am getting spoilt. But I have grown older and I know there is more to marital sex than a woman just lying down for her hubby to deliver sloppy seconds. I am a lady of 33 and young men still....See full story from:



https://livelystones.com.ng/our-sex-life-needs-helphow-do-i-get-my-hubby-to-agree/

MissRaine69:
People grieve in very strange situations but this is not a healthy way to try and make things right.
Your motives look sinister regardless of how you want to explain them. Moving a friend’s widow into your house cost you your relationship and your fiancé was right to be suspicious. This looks like a plan made by someone who secretly liked his friend’s wife and the moment the earth covered his coffin you made your move.

The widow needs to go to her parents or find somewhere to live. Be respectful to both families and see if the passage of time changes anything. Regardless of what your friend said ( was there anyone else who heard that conversation?) this will just cause rifts all around.

Snow87:
Bros free her na. love alone is not enough for marriage, finish your education gather money b4 venturing into marriage sir. gals and marriage pressure no be today, if u rush things without proper planning na u go hear am last last. Na so my ex babe pressured me back then say her people say make she go marry, me as par gentleman wey I be I free am na. she still dey single since that time till now.

TarOrfeek:
Because refreshments will never be enough.

ubunja:
you crossed a line when you got him fired.
the easiest way to deal with blackmail is to come clean to your partner. let him hear it from you.

RSVP:
You're a wild bitshhh but i won't judge you tho.

Beke2020:
Plan with my wife. Sebi na im dey blackmail because he either want something

Beke2020:
pls throw more light

XhosaNostra:
TBH, I think it has nothing to do with "tradition", but more about human emotions in general. It's a big day. A few important people probably passed on before seeing you walk down the aisle etc. I can imagine how emotional it must feel when your favourite aunt etc, is not there to witness your transition from Ms to Mrs. Huge milestones like that sort of bring back memories. You miss dead people.

NairalandCS:
Ladies cry because they can't stand to imagine that they'll be fvcking just one dick for the rest of her life.

And as for guys that cry, they just gay.

QueenSuccubus:


A lot of men are playing tough coz they are shy to show their weakness but they must Remember, even Alexander The Great & even Jesus wept too..

XhosaNostra:
I can't even cry at funerals, I doubt I'd cry or even fake-cry to please people at a wedding.

Tajbol4splend:
Your own better na, what about one girl here, she's in love with father, son and holy spirit

XML33:
If you don't have kids yet, dump the childish woman and concentrate on your financial pursuits till you find someone else.

Women are only useful for sex and having kids. No man should prioritize them over any other thing. If you are in a relationship with a woman who doesn't satisfy your demands and respects your boundaries, leave her and find someone else. There are literally billions of women in the world.

NwaAmaikpe:



You are overreacting.

Your wife just hung out with Frank and they most definitely ended up having sex.
I don't see what the big deal is,
Frank started having sex with your wife before she even met you.

So its not like she jumped to a new man.

Just be more romantic...

BeingFrank:
You Went There To Work For Them, And Get Assisted. Not To Supervise You Aunty's Husband Life. Face Your Work Or Get Throw Back To The Village. Your Aunty Might Be Aware Of Her Husband's Unstable Preek Nature, Even Before You Visited Them.

amakadihot87:
....well........you are right .........an unplaned marriage will find it difficut to stand

Beke2020:
I dont trust pills or injection because of side effect. I use CONDOM and nothing is wrong with me




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Beke2020:
You maybe right. But dam criticism. A blackmailer is worse than arm robber and should be dealt with without mercy

Akissani:
Cut ur pussy and both of dem will loose interest

Beke2020:
I just happened to read a beautiful love story on AkkarBakkar and got tempted to share my own. While it doesn’t fit the ‘fairytale-perfect’ definition, for me, this is my perfect and beautiful ending.

It was the summer of 2008 when one day I was out with my friends. He was there with a mutual friend and I didn’t even know his name, but due to a misunderstanding, we had a major argument.

Fast forward three years, to 2011. I was going through a pretty bad post-break-up phase, when I suddenly received a message on Facebook, a very casual message, along with a friend request. It was the same guy. I had forgotten about the fight, but when I saw the guy’s name, I felt guilty (because I had sort-of known by then that the fight was a set-up for reasons I still don’t know). Anyway, I accepted the request and we had started chatting a bit here and there. We then exchanged numbers and the chatting became more frequent; he was also going through a terrible break-up phase with a girl he was with for about 6 years.



We had started meeting often, and that’s when I realised that he doesn’t fit my definition of a ‘boyfriend’. I despised his thinking, mentality, and his outlook towards life. I always wondered what kind of a girl would fall for him. We were poles apart.

But little did I know that some months down the line, that girl would be me. The more I got to know him closely, the more I fell for him. But I knew I couldn’t give in because he did not show any signs, plus I knew what he was dealing with in his personal life. I just enjoyed his company, and that was more than enough. He helped me deal with my post-break-up phase to an extent that he became the reason why I wanted to give relationships another chance.

So one fine day, while we were out for a drive, he held my hand and that was when I realised that maybe, just maybe, he liked me right back. And the same day he confessed that he did and wanted to be with me.

It went great for a month. And then his ex-girlfriend came back in his life with a plethora of problems. He told me he wanted to help her because she was losing it mentally. I agreed. But I also knew I had put my relation in a soup by allowing him to go back. After a month of him ignoring me and constantly being there for her, I asked him to choose between the two of us. He came back to me. But behind my back, he had continued, what we can call a ‘fling’ with her, and I had got to know about it only when we broke-up after 9 months.

The month leading to our break-up was tough for me. By then I had fallen for him deeply and didn’t want to let go because I knew I wouldn’t be able to cope up this time. But I had to. I had no choice.

He had asked her to marry him and told me that he would not be able to keep me happy. I cried, begged him to stay. But I knew, no matter what I would say, he wouldn’t stay.

I became the same type who he would date in between of his break-ups with her and then go back to her, leaving the other girl in the middle of nowhere. I had a terrible time, though. I had started drinking, smoking; I would be alone in the room, crying to myself all the time. I had distanced myself from everyone, including my family and best friends. Everyone had literally had enough of my depression mode, but I loved him.

Even after his betrayal, I loved him truly, madly and deeply. And I wanted him to be happy, so I never messaged or called him after the break-up. But we did have each other’s numbers and I would constantly check WhatsApp to see if he was online. That was an indication for me that he was doing fine.



It was New Year’s when he messaged me, 6 months after our break-up, wishing for a new beginning for me and apologising for spoiling my previous year. I had heard from his friends how serious he was about marrying her, but his best-friend throughout these 6 months had assured me that his relationship with her wouldn’t work out. She wasn’t the type his family would accept or he would be happy with in the long-run. But he had left me to be with her, so I always believed that that’s where he belonged.

Meanwhile, my parents had found a match for me, and after ignoring it for a very long time, I gave in. I agreed to meet the guy, but I didn’t have the courage to when the day finally arrived.

I stepped back because I couldn’t do this to the man I loved, even though it was one-sided and he was happy with someone else.

Now fast forwarding again by two months, I was out with my colleagues for dinner after work and his best friend called me saying he was coming down to meet me. ‘He’ had come along with him. And seeing him after eight months, I felt good and heart-broken, both at the same time. We didn’t talk. It was me talking to his best friend and ‘he’ talking to him as well. No direct conversations between us.

However, after he left, he had put up a status on his BBM which read ‘The best thing about me will be you.’

The heart-broken and duffer me thought it was for that girl and I immediately put a retaliatory status, two lines of my favourite song by Pink Floyd – ‘I took a heavenly ride through our silence, I knew the moment had arrived… For killing the past and coming back to life!’

He freaked out reading this and immediately messaged me asking what it meant, to which I had replied that I had loved him, all along, and still did. But I needed to move on. Make a career for myself, do things I like and just enjoy life. At Around 12.30 a.m., he called me saying he wanted to get back to me and that he was sorry about everything.

A part of me wanted to believe him, a part of me didn’t. He told me he wanted to get back to me for ‘good’, he wanted to be with me ‘forever’, and he wanted to get ‘married’ to me....Read full from:



https://livelystones.com.ng/thought-lying-said-wanted-marry/

Beke2020:
Both should dump you

Beke2020:
Blackmailer are sometimes myopic

egworlordor:
But wait oh, if your wife is pregnant you can't hit it from the back? Abi must u lie down press her stomach? There are lots of sex styles that won't put d baby @ risk; Just curious... Watin I know sef!

jacyhelen:
this livelystones,u be mumu!!!

JONNYSPUTE:
Op I don't know how to qualify your stupidity walahi. At this age you don't know how to handle this type of issue? Even kids knows about family planning and all that. Pls if you want to cheat on your wife,just go ahead,don't just use your stupidity as an excuse.