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it depends on a lot of factors to determine who cheats the most, but the truth is when a guy is financially okay, the tendency is greater because not only has he got the money to get the girls, the girls too are looking at the money he's got so he would most likely do it more, but when a guy isnt financially okay, the possibility is there that the girl cheats more because she will be enticed by what she sees another guy having that her boyfriend hasnt got, eventually she may want to sleep with the guy hoping it will be a long lasting relationship and not too long she might be shown the exit door or the boyfriends qualities are still preferable after all.

ndumart:
i can't come to accept that my KID sister has started doing it.

probably we may need to ask at what age we felt like doing it, a kid sister aged 20? i guess the level of exposure we are experiencing and views in our society is having a good and bad side, it was absolutely different during the time of our parents, could it be because the women were given out in marriage quite ealy?

you dont know how to approach her, but her pic is in your possession?

wake up, are you dreaming?

Your kid sister trusted so well by your parents comes to you privately and tells you she is 2months pregnant for a guy that is still in school, if your mum gets to hear of it she will collapse. What will you do?

If an ex-guy or babe invites you to their wedding what would you do?
would you if you guys are still on talking terms, she most likely broke up because then you were not too financially bouyant

sister,

there is something you can do, just give him good sex when you can, BJ's inclusive.

i know some guys that can hardly rarely be satisfied, i once had a bit of that problem and i attribute it to sleeping with too many women, that anyone that passes you want to have a feel of it, minutes after you just had sex.

further try spending more time with him, ask him what he doesnt like about you, pet him, make him feel he is everything to you, it wont stop immediately, but when ever that urge comes he remembers he is fondly loved by a wife and would rather want to sleep with you but you ve got to give it to him really good my sis.

take care, you will overcome.

sort yourself out first, ask yourself what you want in a lady, i guess you dont even know for now, no relationship, even 50years old marriage is bed of roses, people put up with one another, your growing up wasnt smooth completely, was it? when you had problems did you kill yourself that life isnt what it you expected? "it is what you put into a viable project that can yield dividends"
find out what you want from a girl, then play your part, believe it will work, and you will be there.
"as far as you can see is where you will get", you have limited yourself already by believing you cant have a long term relationship, CHANGE YOUR MINDSET BEFORE YOUR MINDSET CHANGES YOU.

hey man,

you sound really funny, you are sleeping with someone's girl and you hope to keep her for real and in you heart of hearts you think another guy wont do same, why do people map out a plan for their problems? she was in the first NEVER your girl, you were sleepimg with somebodys girlfriend and you fell in love with her, YOU ARE IN TROUBLE. you cant even leave her: YOU ARE IN TROUBLE

dear nairalanders,
i really appreciate all your comments, actually girls have started doing that because so many men are shying away from that, but the truth is our ladies will feel more comfortable when the attitude in our society changes.

a girl can see a guy she really likes and determines she will sleep with this guy and he spending the money, at the end of the scenario the guy comes out bragging saying he used the girl, LIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! FAT LIE. if it was the girl that came after the guy and they decide to call it quits in my opinion the guy has been used by her, but we will never see that in this part of the earth because we have been born, bred and made to believe that a man is always a winner.

i have had opportunities of sleeping with some girls but i never did because i will feel used most especially when they initiated the stuff and probably me spending my money.

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YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! money can buy love

what is love? biblically there are certain things said about love

1. it doesnt brag, doesnt get puffed up
2. it doesnt look for its own selfish interest
3. it hopes all things, believes all things. endures all things
4.it doesnt rejoice over unrighteousness.
5. conclusively, it never fails.

if a woman liked a man because of his money, we cannot say his money has bought love yet until those things that attracted her are excluded, so going by that formular if eventually the man losses all of that and the woman still displays all qualities of love and more which i didnt highlight above, in my humble opinion the mans money has not just bought him love but TRUE love.

same applies if a woman is wealthy and a guy comes around.

no, thats not what am saying, the truth is a guy that has feelings for a girl most certainly would try something stupid atleast the first time, but  like you said it seems you guys are now just friends so if the guy was matured enough based on what you have said he should have had more control of himself, you believed him anyway, but my advice is if you must stay in a guys house please subsequently be well protected.

really sorry about everything, unfortunately such things are not regarded in nigeria.

take care

no, thats not what am saying, the truth is a guy that has feelings for a girl most certainly would try something stupid atleast the first time, but  like you said it seems you guys are now just friends so if the guy was matured enough based on what you have said he should have had more control of himself, you believed him anyway, but my advice is if you must stay in a guys house please subsequently be well protected.

really sorry about everything, unfortunately such things are not regarded in nigeria.

take care

@ ZOR,

you hit the nail on the head.

hey amababy,

no assault here, you went to his house, and then you chose to sleep,listen to yourself, what proof on earth have you that this isnt mutual consent, well i do not think there is any organisation a case like this will run to. still searching though.

just keep the guy at LEG length, armslength will be too short.

why go to bed in such a dangerous arena without wearing your PPE( personal protective equipments) example, a very tight JEANS.

hello,

i really do not think anyone telling you to leave means well for you, please thats my feeling.
you have been married for 12years i hope am right, with two kids, common you have endured half of the journey already or do i say 35%, you can do more.

i do not think a divorce will solve the problem.
i need you to consider the following:

1. your daughters: they will go with you? you really have to bring them up nd well at that otherwise some bastards will capitalise on the advantage of the broken home and you will become more miserable.

2. when you end the marriage, do you intend to remarry? leaving the house for a while i guess is the best bet but i will say not for too long so you dont come and meet another pregnant lady.

did you say twice unfaithful husband, thats small, just give him space, he will get tired sooner, but you need to be very enduring and prayerful, still do the nice things you ve been doing, the only thing is that you may have to take up some of his responsibilities in the home.

take care.

hey poster,

you shud nt be talking about this topic, you seem to live in the arid regions, there is alot wrong about.

take care

cheers

poster i would prefer if you had said "some guys", for me you must be sweet, a look at your face shudnt for any reason unnecessarily increase my heartbeat, afterall i wasnt forced.

i see some posts saying things like: beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, YES,because that one is the beholder that is why he is seeing beauty even when 80% of those around him says otherwise.

the bottom line is some people "WORWOR"(UGLY), guys opt for so called ugly girls because they dont believe in themselves and they aint got no game, most of all it wont take them too long to complete the "transaction".

i discoverd in life that beautiful girls for me are the easiest to get because many guys tend to run away from them, that sometimes thay settle for guys that beat your imagination.

please am not taking it up on any poster here ok.

cheers

poster i would prefer if you had said "some guys", for me you must be sweet, a look at your face shudnt for any reason unnecessarily increase my heartbeat, afterall i wasnt forced.

i see some posts saying things like: beauty is in the eyes of the beholder, YES,because that one is the beholder that is why he is seeing beauty even when 80% of those around him says otherwise.

the bottom line is some people "WORWOR"(UGLY), guys opt for so called ugly girls because they dont believe in themselves and they aint got no game, most of all it wont take them too long to complete the "transaction".

i discoverd in life that beautiful girls for me are the easiest to get because many guys tend to run away from them, that sometimes thay settle for guys that beat your imagination.

please am not taking it up on any poster here ok.

cheers

babies shudnt propose to women, you are still an infant, you need to grow fast, what if you had married her already, in my opinion you still do not know what you want.

SHUUUUUU, Na employment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (